Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Subject: Bodybuilding for love)

I am an attractive woman, and I believe in staying in great shape. I lift weights at the gym and I have a bodybuilder shape. I have muscular arms and legs. Men have told me that no man wants a woman who is  a bodybuilder. Is that true and if so, why not?

Personally I think there’s something kinda sexy about a woman with little veins popping out of her neck and forehead… uh… okay…. well, maybe not… but there is someone out there for EVERYONE. I can guarantee you that there are men out there that would LOVE for you to flex “any” and “every” thing you got at them. Do you think you can do your ears? (ohhhhh…BABY!) I do have a question for you. Are you working out so much to appease yourself or the opposite sex? If you are working out just to make yourself feel healthy then it doesn’t matter what other people say. However, if you are working out with weights to appeal to men then it might be wise to re-consider. Think about it. Do most women like men whose chests are more developed than theirs? From what I have gathered, a lot of women think it is too much for a man to be extremely “buff”. If this can be the case for women, then you can only imagine what most men would think about women whose arms are bigger than theirs. Plus it has been commonly known that the ideal woman for “most” men is one who at least “appears” somewhat “delicate” (even though there is something about that little “vein” thing that just turns me on…).  Men like to lead and be looked to for their “strengths”. A man might feel awkward if he has to turn to his woman for strength. Being “buff” does has it’s advantages, though. If your man gets out of line you can beat the living CRAP out of him (and he’ll probably LOVE it when you do). Both of you can have little contests to see who can actually sound more like Barry White. Okay, all joking aside, your first responsibility is to YOURSELF, and keeping healthy should be a priority for everyone. However, if you want to be appealing, then make sure you have an understanding as to what constitutes “appeal”… and don’t you start flexing that vein at me like that. You know I’m at a weak time in my life. Phantom Poet? PLEASE help me out here….

I like to lift weights and I like to show off my stuff

Why bother being sexy when it’s easier to be buff?

You can say what you want, I know I look great

and for those men who disagree, I’ll knock them out… straight!

There are a LOT of women out there that wish they could look like me

I’ve developed arms, abs and an Adam’s apple, you see

It works for my man, and he loves it just fine

and if he don’t, then I will kick and whip his behind

There are certain advantages to a woman  having muscle

because I always win whenever you and I tussle

Having strength gives me the leeway to see this struggle through

because when I win, you can bet you win too

So accept the fact that I’m in charge and assume the position

because I aim to whup you into a submissive condition

You will do what I say, and go to any length

and you will tell me you love it, because I’m a woman… with strength…

Yet ANOTHER STRONG vision from the Phantom Poet

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Above and beyond the call of duty)

Subject: Above and beyond the call of duty

I can’t believe this. My man just came to me with a peculiar request. He wanted to know if I would have a threesome with him. He said that it had always been his fantasy to have one, and he wanted to know if I would grant him this favor. I was upset that he could even ask me to do that. I consider myself to be all one man could possibly need. Was I wrong to not even consider his wishes?

You may have been wrong not to consider bashing him upside his head for asking you! Just about everyone has different needs sexually but if he was that kind of “free spirit” then he shouldn’t be in a committed relationship with you. While he may have the right to ask you this favor he doesn’t have the right to expect anything like this of you. If he thinks you are NOT enough “woman” for him, then now might be the time to re-assess (and reconsider) your relationship with him. There are people out there who are into some really ODD sexual behaviors, and as bad as this one may seem I’m sure there are others out there who can probably “top” him (and probably “bottom” him too…). I always say that every request deserves at least some “consideration” but not necessarily “acceptance”. You can think about what he is asking for, but you should not compromise your own “morals” just to accommodate him… If you wanted to be malicious about it, you could certainly tell him “yes” as long as YOU are the one to choose the “other” partner. Then at that point you should choose another “male” friend, and see if his interest is still the same after that (smile). Everyone has their own “comfort zone” and if you feel that his request is outside of your boundary lines then you need to let him know that this is bothering you. If a “menage a trois…. uh,  manageable a try….uh…. THREESOME is what he wants, then he doesn’t need to be in a single “committed” relationship with you (and you most certainly you don’t need to be in one with him). NEVER feel bad about not wanting to compromise your own values. Once you compromise all that you believe in then you open yourself up to be controlled by anyone. Think about that “before” you cross the line… and while you are at it, think about this special word from the Phantom Poet:

Whenever my man adds one plus one, he keeps coming up with “three”

How in the Hell some other woman gets caught up in this mix is beyond me

He keeps asking me to grant him this one sexual favor

But he keeps requesting for me to engage in “abnormal” behavior

He says that if I truly love him, then I should have no problem accepting that

I said “Great, then will you kindly allow me to violate you with this here baseball bat?”

If we engage in a threesome, then I’d like to experiment this with you

That way you can get yours, and I can get “mine” too

If you want me to go outside of my comfort zone, then you should as well

And if this baseball bat should happen to hurt… hey, what the hell!

This is all for the sake of love, so please don’t scream too loud

One bat might seem like company, and two may be a “crowd”

This threesome idea of yours may not be such a bad plan

especially if I should chose our “other” partner to be another “man”

So be careful what you might ask for, for you may surely get it

As long as this all works out for me, then I guess I won’t “sweat it”

And if you get a very “uncomfortable sensation, please don’t holler or scream

Just let it “sink in” and enjoy this while you “take one for the team”

Yet ANOTHER fantastic masterpiece from the Phantom Poet


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Dear Brett,

Even though I have been in the dating scene for quite a while now, it still confuses  me. What do men look for when meeting a woman for the first time? What  would you consider to be the best way for a woman to make herself presentable? Are there certain things that turn men off that we should know of?

Absolutely! Just like women can get turned off by men, us men can get turned off by women. Each person is different, so it is difficult to say if each particular thing will work for everyone, but here are some of the stories that I have heard from other men (Yes, we talk too). First, if you are going to wear a weave, please do yourself a favor and make it LOOK like it actually “belongs” to your head. I have heard many stories from guys who said the actual weave ponytail was a DIFFERENT shade of color than her actual hair. How real is THAT? Also, if you are going to do the weave thing, at LEAST do a good job of “covering up the tracks” in your hair. Every time I go to McDonald’s and the young girls put their heads down to put money in the register I would see “tracks for days” along with spots that seem to resemble “glue.” Also, there is nothing wrong with wearing makeup, but PLEASE make it so that a man can see your face in there “SOMEWHERE”… I have seen women who look like PACMAN from having so much makeup on. Most women  have their own “natural” beauty. At least let “some” of it come through so that the man can recognize you the very next time he sees you. As for the way you dress, well, you should be able to figure this one out. If you are a voluptuous woman but want a man to get to know your mind, then by all means dress appropriately. There is NO WAY in Hades that a man is going to think about your mind when your cleavage drops all the way down to your “navel”. Men are very “visual” and if you are exposed in that manner then you shouldn’t blame him for staring “down” all night. There are proper ways to accent your body without having to look “hootchy”.  A man’s first impressions are just like yours, and if all he sees are your “girls” hanging out, then that is the vision he is going to take back home with him (He might not even remember your name by the time you are finished). If you want classy dialog from him, then by all means dress “classy”. Also, if you are someone who talks a lot, then make sure that you “listen” as well. NO man wants to be with a woman who talks so much about herself that he can’t get a word in. You’ll know you are talking too much when the man gives  you that “Please shut up, beautiful woman” look. Above all, remember that some of the same things you might be looking for in a man might be the same things he is looking for in “you.” Once you start to think of things from that perspective, then it should be a lot easier for you to make yourself “presentable”. Smile, be yourself, and remember these famous words of the Phantom Poet:

I am going out on a date, but what in the world should I wear?

How about those low hanging jeans, which leaves the crack of my behind bare?

That way every time I bend over, I know he is going to “inspect”

and that way he should learn more about my uh…..”intellect”(?)

My face is packed with powder, lipstick and mousse to show no wrinkle

But he is now saying that the moose I look like is “Bullwinkle”

I want him to know me mentally, so I have no intentions to flirt

He says” Say that again?” while trying to glimpse up my “extremely” short skirt

I can’t believe  he is being so disrespectful. I “do” have a mind

“Baby, from what I see you also have a nice thong on  your behind”

I am a very intelligent woman with class, and I want men to know them

“Then when it comes to those other assets, I shouldn’t have to show them”

First impressions are important….It tells who you really are

Whether you look like you belong in a fancy restaurant… or in a trashy bar

So if you want to make a good impression, then “dress to impress”

Otherwise, what he may be thinking might be “anyone’s” guess

Yet ANTHER startling revelation from the Phantom Poet


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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: 30 year old virgin)

I want to know if being a virgin over the age of 30 is too old. Also, what’s your opinion of someone who’s over 30 and never had a girlfriend? I just couldn’t ever get a girl to stay interested in me.

A virgin after age 30? You should be a “human battering ram” by now. I can only feel sorry for the first woman you finally do get with, for you just might kill her! I don’t necessarily think you are too old, but I do think you are EXTREMELY rare.  Most people would probably have a lot of negative things to say about you, but I think it is very admirable and honorable to still be a virgin at your stage of life. As for never having a girlfriend, that doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing either (just think of all the money you should have saved up by now). However, there “is” a problem if you can’t ever get a girl to stay “interested” in  you. In the real social world this means that you “might” have “issues”. If you are to ever court a woman you might want to look into how you can change or alter your circumstances and outlook. Of course, the biggest problem is being able to “recognize” what those “issues” are. As tough as this may sound, I would suggest contacting some of the women that you have had brief associations with in your life and ask them what they honestly thought of you. Since they were never interested in you in that way, they should have no reason to sugarcoat anything they say. If you can get “honest” feedback from them then it could possibly help you in the long run (providing you can actually invoke change). For the record, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin (hey, I was one once, but I got tired of “holding my own”…). However, if you want to truly end your “hitless” streak then some changes may be needed. In baseball, sometimes the hitter has to alter his stance. Also, the hitter may benefit from changing to a better “swing”… I don’t want to embarrass you about the issue of getting yourself a “bigger bat”… Above all, have confidence in yourself and don’t even contemplate the idea of “striking out”…. If you are unsure of yourself, then rest assured that other women will feel unsure about you as well. Be “comfortable” with who you are and how you want others to perceive you… Trust me when I say that there are some women out there who will love a man who has saved himself for the right woman (whether intentionally or not). Just do yourself a favor and dust off any cobwebs first (smile) and make sure to tell her to get hers “QUICK!” By the way, here is a quick and heart felt  response from the Phantom Poet:

I’m over 30 and yet I’m still a virgin
What can I do to help relieve this urgin”?
Most women I date never stay interested in me
and getting sex is an exercise in futility
Is it my breath or could I have BO?
Why these women don’t want me, I really don’t know
I think I dress nice, and I even starch all of my collars
Would it would help if I hit the lotto for a million dollars?
Whenever I’m with a woman, she always seems to frown
My luck is so bad that even prostitutes turn me down
When it comes to my love success, this much I have surmised
When I tell women I’m a virgin, they say “I’m not surprised”.
I need to spice my image up so I can make some advancement
I know! I think I’ll go and get some “male enhancement”
The surgeon says that he thinks he can more than double my size
“But Doc, that only amounts to 6 inches, still not  much of a prize
The doctor said he wants to do what he can, but this is kinda drastic
“I want to increase you, but I just don’t have enough plastic”
I guess I’ll just stay a virgin, and be doomed forever
Some professor just proclaimed my virginity to be a historical national treasure
He said “Your virginity is so old, that its now a monumental relic”
Your status will go down as the longest in history, the way I’ll tell it
So don’t feel too bad, for you are about to get seriously paid
Unfortunately, it STILL won’t help in getting you seriously “laid”

I guess it’s time for the “five fingered date” again…. The Phantom Poet

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Sharing obligations now)

I’ve been in love for nearly four years. And although I am no longer biologically fertile, I want to share my life with my man now. He keeps putting me off. He says he has other obligations. Well, I say rubbish…life will always be complicated with obligations. So, let’s just get on with it and share those obligations together…Isn’t that how Bob Marley would see it–One Love!


That was a great song. Life may always be complicated with obligations, but that doesn’t mean that you should get married “before” you both are “ready” for it Yes, four years is a good amount of time, and at this point the both of you should at least be “contemplating” the possibility of marriage together, but it is always important to make sure that as a couple you are absolutely “prepared” for it at the same time (not just when “you” are ready for it). In fact, it might be to your best interest to ensure that the conditions are at least suitable for you “and” him. As long as we all are human no conditions will be perfectly “ideal” but that doesn’t mean that you should ignore what he has to deal with either. A lot depends on the actual “excuses” he is giving you. If his obligations are ones that he just “cannot get around” then you need to pay attention, for his obligations will surely impact you (and your marriage) after your wedding. However, if his reasons are weak and shaky then it is possible that he is not being serious with you. A lot of people jump into marriages “before” they are fully ready and then suffer the consequences in the future. It is like jumping from one cliff to another. You want to make sure the “other” cliff is at least “there” and on firm ground “before” you make your leap. The same principle should apply to marriage. If you are going to contemplate a life of matrimony then don’t ignore the responsibilities that may make your marriage “difficult or impossible.” Continue to keep talking and working on it until you both feel more secure. I am not sure how Bob Marley would see it, but I do know that he’s dead now… Sharing obligations sounds great in principle, but that does not always “guarantee” an easy solution. Work it out between you both so that when those conditions get better you are more prepared to take that “next step”… “together”… Here is that lyrical reggae “mon” of poetry, the Phantom Poet:


I want to marry my man right now but it seems as though there is one hurdle

I want to share my life with him, although I am no longer biologically fertile

He keeps putting me off because of his other obligations

I want to get married now so we can share in those situations

We may not be fully prepared for it, but I want us to live as one

I am fully prepared to “jump the broom” as well as “jump the gun”

And if he doesn’t want to give in to my marriage whim

Then I am fully prepared to point that gun straight at “him”

I want us to be eternally happy together in matrimonial pleasure

I strongly suggest you give this consideration if your life you treasure

I am tired of sitting around the house alone dealing with boredom

And if you sign the pre-nup then once I shoot you can still marry me post mortem

Marriage is the musical accompaniment of life and right now I am the tuner

Please agree or “Until Death do we part” might come a little sooner

I know we both love each other and for us wedded bliss beckons

So I will give you plenty of time to think about it… “one minute, 20 seconds”

When it comes to having love in your life no one should ever be bereft

By the way, dear, you now have about one minute and 5 seconds left

Bob Marley sang “One Luv” and although I never had the chance to meet him

In about 50 more seconds you should have the opportunity to greet him

You just made the wise choice to marry me so we can now get our wedding vows on track

Oh, and the pastor is already here, because I had him tied up in the back

He now is VERY elated to perform the wedding ceremony between you and me

And at the risk of his own life he even offered to donate his services for FREE

Oh joy, we’re getting married. I can feel the love, the spirit and the laughter

And as long as I still own this gun, I can guarantee that we’ll live happily ever after….


“He loves me (POW!)… He loves me not (POW!)… The Phantom Poet


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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Child Support)

Dear Brett,

Recently the actress Halle Berry  was ordered to pay child support of $20,000 a month to her ex-husband Gabriel Aubry. She is the mother of her child so do you think it is right for a mother to pay child support?


I am NOT a big fan of child support for most people and I will tell you why. The court system is set up so that the parent who has to pay for the child has to give the money to the “other” parent. That would work out great if the other parent utilized that money correctly and “directly” towards the welfare of the child. Too many times the money goes to buying other things that have absolutely “nothing” to do with the child. For instance, many mothers take their “baby daddy” to child support for the sheer principle of “revenge.” Their main concern isn’t so much about the welfare of the baby, but rather making sure they “inflict as much damage as possible to” the other parent financially. It feels as though the same can be said for this case involving Halle and Gabriel. Yes, Halle made more money than him, but the child doesn’t need the money as much as she needs the love of BOTH parents. I wish the courts could ORDER both parents to act amicably towards each other (or if they can’t do that, then at least provide for the child’s expenses through a mediator). Even if parents can no longer get along they should never take out their personal issues on the child. I realize that divorces usually generate anger and resentment between both parties and most times it is difficult to put emotions aside. I have no idea if Mr. Aubry is employed or not, but I do know that their separation got ugly and he was the one who filed legal documents asking a judge to force Ms. Berry to give him $15,000 to $20,000 a month. What I would LOVE to see happen is for a court to “decide” exactly what expenses the child needs, and then appoint an overseer to make sure that the money taken from the other parent goes “directly” towards those expenses. Does anyone really “believe” that this baby uses up $20,000 dollars worth of baby items a month? I don’t… Once the other parent gets the money then they will use a small portion of it for the child and use the remainder for his or her own personal items. If the court wishes that the child (whose name in this case is Nahlia) to keep living in the surroundings to which she has become accustomed then the judge may as well order the couple to stay with each other in the house. That way the baby can hear all the screams and yells from the parents each night that she is accustomed to hearing.  I realize that in most cases child support IS needed (because one parent can’t do it alone and it takes two to make a child). I have no problems with the issuance of child support. However, rather than focus on a straight monetary monthly figure I would rather see money go “specifically” to pay for the items that the child “really” needs. That amount will vary as the child grows but it won’t be set on one “standard” figure. When it comes to the love of a child, there should be NO animosity. If feuding parents can actually put their issues aside, then they shouldn’t even NEED to go to court. Here is the Phantom Poet to take us off into the weekend. Have a great one:


When it comes to being parents for our child, you are and I am

But to take my child and make me pay $20,000 a month? Damn!

The court has ways to make people pay and the will of the court is strong

I just wish the court can find a way to force both parents to just “get along”

When divorce happens that usually means that the couple’s emotions have “boiled”

But 20 grand a month won’t guarantee a parent’s love, plus the child gets spoiled

It would be great for two supposedly mature adults to work out an agreement of sort

But too often both parents act like “little children” in court

Some monetary decisions are too much and excessive by far

You can tell because  the next day you might find the the other parent with a “new car”

A child will remember the days when Mommy stayed with Daddy and would always kiss him

But NONE of this comes into play when it comes to the child support system

They are only concerned with who is going to receive money and who has to give it

As far as anything else goes, what’s love got to do with it?

It would be great for parents to act civilly and NOT let their resentments show

But we all know that this isn’t really about the child, so off to child support court we go…


“I wish the baby could tell the parents to stop acting like children”… The Phantom Poet


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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Ignored at home)

Dear Brett,


Subject: Ignored at home 


My wife’s unmarried sister lives nearby and comes over a lot for dinner or just to hang out and watch TV. I like her, but feel like every time she and my wife get together they turn into teenagers giggling at inside jokes and watching reality television and generally ignoring me. How do I tell my wife that this hurts my feelings without sounding like a huge baby?


Make sure to put some “bass” in your voice whenever you speak… Most babies are born “tenors”, and cannot match the low tones of grown adults (Hey, you said you didn’t want to sound like a baby, right?)… Okay, let’s look at this… They get together, have a good time and you feel they are ignoring you. That may be so, but they are sisters and have obviously been that way most of their lives. Since your wife married you, she has already given you the ultimate form of attention by doing so. Personally, I can’t see anything wrong with them having a few laughs together and looking at television. If your wife’s sister stayed with you ALL the time (even through the nights) and your wife refused to sleep with you then you might have a grand case for feeling neglected, but I really don’t think you should take their actions so personally. You can always invite some of your male friends over one day to watch the game with you and subsequently ignore them in return, but otherwise you shouldn’t let their actions get to you.  Everyone needs a little space at times, so unless it presents a real problem to you I think you should just “let it go” (my old boss Teddy Pendergrass had a song with those lyrics in it…. remember “Love TKO”?). Of course, you are more than entitled to “private time” with your wife, and if her sister is constantly infringing on “that” then it may be time for some drastic steps. I think this Phantom Poet can put things in the proper perspective for you:




My wife and her sister always get together and ignore me


They laugh and joke with each other but have nothing for me


My wife’s sister is unmarried, so she has nothing better to do


I need to padlock my door, so her behind can’t come through


And then let my wife know that her sister can again return to this helm


Right after “icicles ornament Satan’s fiery realm”


Because this is MY house, and I want everyone to know


That when you are under my roof, I AM the main show


So in order to fix this, I’ll create my own way of prevention


I’ll walk in on their conversations nude… (Now THAT should get some attention)


And if you think you can ignore that, then expect much more from me


I’ll have sex with my wife on the couch, for her “shocked” sister to see


Maybe THEN you’ll get the hint, and formulate your own plan


“Stop hanging with my wife” and find yourself a man…


She became my possession at our wedding right after I kissed her


I never once heard the preacher say I was also marrying her sister


So please heed the advice of this here Phantom poem


When I want time with my wife, take your bored butt home…


My wife is NOT your private playmate, and I am NOR your door man


And I don’t need to have a “threesome”, because I only got “one” organ


Because our love is for two, and that’s what marriage is all about


So don’t let the doorknob hit you in the rear on the way out…




        Two is company, and three is a bother… The Phantom Poet


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