Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The “Metoo movement…” Is there a way to be fairer to both sides?

This is what I know so far about the “Metoo Movement.”  Several high profile men have so far been “accused” of some form of sexual harassment. The only one that I know of that has actually gone to jail is Bill Cosby. Why the trials for all the others have not taken place yet I do not know.  Are there problems with the movement? Absolutely. It puts “both” men and women in public display with matters that should probably be held confidentially. For instance, when some women air their grievances the notoriety that could come from it may cause more harm than good. When some men hear about the accusations many may abstain from dealing with a particular woman based solely on her claims. That would be unfair to the woman. When a man gets accused (and it is made public) then his career is automatically “blemished” (whether he is guilty or not). Sexual harassment cases are usually difficult to prove, and that can be a big problem as well. Here is an article on it:

https://www.news-mail.com.au/news/the-problem-with-the-metoo-movement-and-airing-sex/3574059/

Is there  a remedy? One suggestion is to make any court accusations “private.” That way, the women and the men can both be protected during the trial. When a matter is held privately then it should lessen that chances of falsely accusing someone to ruin a career (at least until proven guilty). Should men be allowed to get away with sexually harassing women? Of course not, but one of the big problems here is the actual “definition” of harassment. For instance, if a man compliments a woman on the tightness of the jeans she is wearing, it could be considered harassment simply based on the “way” he says it. One woman’s compliment can easily be another woman’s harassment. Many men love to hug women, but what if a woman “does not want” to be hugged? Should that be considered harassment as well? It would help dramatically to “know” the rules and limitations of gender socialization. I honestly don’t think all men do (and the same might be said for women). Until the rules and regulations for gender socialization are determined then there might be “a lot more accusations to come.” It is important for women to be able to trust men (and for men to trust women). Hopefully we can find a way to cross that bridge… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Smokey Robinson and Patti Labelle with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Last Night)

We had a “full” audience last night. Standing room only. We took requests. We played just about everything we could, but the most important part was that we had a “lot” of fun. If you are ever in the Philadelphia, Pennsylvania area on a Wednesday night I hope you come join us at 201 North Macdade Blvd in Darby, PA from 8:00 to 12 midnight.  If you don’t get there early you may not find a seat. This is just one sample of what we did last night. I am singing this classic Stevie Wonder song done by request.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Documentary on Prince)

This documentary is over an hour long, but it is very informative. If you have the time to check it out I sincerely hope you do. The story of the career of Prince needs to be told, and while everything in this documentary may not  necessarily be true and factual, this still gives enough insight into the talents of  Prince to keep you informed. I hope you enjoy. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (How long should you weather the storm in a challenging marriage?)

Yesterday I heard 2 people debate over this subject. It appears that someone posted on Facebook about the troubles they have gone through in their marriage. They had been through breakups, cheating, arguments, disagreements and other stuff, but this happened to be their anniversary. The woman in this situation was saying that through everything their love is even stronger, and it was their anniversary. The other 2 people debating this were basically talking about whether they thought these two should even still be together. One believed that they should break up. The other believed strongly in the concept of marriage and believed that they should continue to work things out. “No one is perfect.” Therefore, no marriage is perfect. There will be trials and tribulations in any marriage. When this happens, it is firmly believed that a couple should try to work things out. However, are there circumstances that fuel separation as the best choice? Think about this for a second. How much cheating should a marriage (or relationship) encounter before deciding to move on? How about abuse? Should a marriage have to deal with abuse (physical or other) before going their separate ways? I once heard a pastor say that “under NO circumstances should a husband and wife ever divorce.” That is a very “strong” statement to make. Some spouses have dealt with torturous situations from their mates and their limits have been sorely tested. Of course, “under the Bible” divorce is a tough issue to consider, but we all are human and some circumstances can’t be simply ignored. I don’t know if there is a simple answer to this. Every person is different. I don’t like to get involved in other people’s drama. I believe that people should do whatever they feel is best. Since I heard this discussion yesterday I felt this was a good topic to post today. What do “you” feel? Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Jill Scott in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Is it still beneficial for anyone to try and make a career out of selling original music?)

This is actually a very good question. If you are an artist and wanted to make music that you want people to buy, then would this question be applicable today? First, let’s consider a few things. If you make a CD of your music, then who buys CD’s anymore? If people “actually do” buy them, where do you get them from? Stores like Sam Goodies or Tower Records are no longer in existence, so if you think you can market your product here you would be sadly mistaken.  Now people are selling their songs on the internet. iTunes, CD baby and other outlets are providing outlets for music, but how much money can you make from them? Keep in mind that once a song is purchased or bought, it can “easily” be  changed to an MP3 form and shared (for practically free) online to everyone. Once this happens, then where is the money for the artist? Prince once had a brilliant marketing idea. His concerts were just about always sold out and I even went to one. The one thing that I noticed was that at his shows he gave away a free copy of his new CD to everyone at the show. A lot of people thought this was very generous of him to do so, What people didn’t realize was that the cost of admission to his shows was very high. His ticket prices were higher than most normal prices. That was because the cost of his new CD was “incorporated with the cost of admission” so that the people didn’t even realize that they had already paid for the cost of the CD as soon as they bought their ticket. While this gimmick worked for Prince, it doesn’t say much for the rest of us. If other artists had the popularity of him then maybe they could do the same thing. Paul Jackson Jr., a great guitar player who played on “many” of the big hits you have heard (including the big Michael Jackson songs) told me that the main way for artists to make money today is in “ownership” and “touring.” He said that the new concept of “streaming music” is killing the profits for artists right now. The industry needs to be studied more and a new concept needs to be discovered.  In the meantime, people are still creating music and hoping for something great to happen. Most of the big record labels responsible for creating the hit songs of the past had died off. The quality of new music being played on the air is “disturbing.” Something needs to change, and hopefully someone can figure that out.  Music is still popular with people, but there is no guaranteed place to find “good quality” music anymore. Time will tell if this can change. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Paul Jackson Jr. with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Fetishes)

A friend of mine called me and told me that her friend had an acquaintance who  had a fetish for “feet.” The man actually paid her money just so he could come by occasionally and suck on her toes. She accepted the money and doesn’t know much about the man beyond that. As perverted as that may sound to some, many of us have different fetishes of our own. A friend of mine once told me one day that she wore a halter top at some exquisite event one night when some strange man decided to lick her exposed back. Needless to say, she chewed him out “royally.” People are different. People’s wants and desires are different. I don’t know if “everybody” has an abnormal fetish (but a lot of people do). If you like to be licked in your ear, that might be considered a fetish to some. If you want your partner to wash up before engaging in sex then that could be considered a fetish as well. The definition of fetish is ” A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” You may have your own fetish and not even realize it. An old friend of mine used to manage one of those videos stores  years back. She said that one of her hottest videos for sale was the “x-rated fat girls” videos. She said that men rented those videos out a lot. If you have a fetish, should it be considered sick or abnormal? That would probably depend. Pedophiles have desires for little kids, and that might be considered an abnormal fetish. However, we all are born the way we are, and as long as you don’t unlawfully violate anyone or break the law then you shouldn’t be in trouble. In other words, “refrain” from engaging in child pornography. Some men are “breast men” while others like thighs, weight or whatever. Some women like tall men, rich men, or men of high status. In other words, each of us has our own likes when it comes to the attributes of others. While it seems like most people don’t feel comfortable discussing fetishes that hasn’t stopped any of us from wanting to “engage” in them.  Be who you are, but don’t break any laws. As bad as your fetish might be, there is still probably someone out there for you. One of my male friends “absolutely loved” looking at women’s feet. He wouldn’t even hold his head up when talking to a woman with open toe shoes.  We are all expected to have control over our sexual desires. That is about the best that can be expected of anyone. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Singer Ashanti onstage with Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought ( Musical scene taken from last night at our Wednesday Night Event)

This man’s name is Jimmy Wells. He is truly energetic and entertaining, and he came out to join us last night at the Crab Tavern at 201 North Macdade Blvd in Darby, Pa. We had a beautiful packed house and it was so much fun. This is the song he chose to perform. If you are ever in Philadelphia on a Wednesday Night I hope you join us. If you like grown mature fun then we have the right event for you.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

 

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Fact checking Trump’s 2020 Campaign speech)

For the record, I am not doing “my own personal fact check” on what President Trump is saying. I don’t want to invoke any personal bias into this story. However, I am simply reporting what someone else is saying about what they consider to be the truth. I have no personal bias against the President. I actually “want” him to do good things and will gladly acknowledge it when he does. Here is a fact check article and you can make your own determination as to what you feel:

https://www.aol.com/article/news/2019/06/19/fact-checked-president-donald-trumps-2020-campaign-launch-speech/23752518/

I am a big advocate of “the truth” when it comes to most things. I am not saying that Trump is lying (but clearly someone is lying in this case). When it comes to elections, people need to know the real facts. Those that are already committed to Trump will not change their vote. I am not trying to alter that at all. However, the real facts are important to me. I hope you get the chance to check out “what someone ELSE is saying regarding President Trump” and make your own determination. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Singer Ledisi and Brett Jolly prior to a concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (How forgiving are you?)

People make mistakes. In fact, “everyone” makes mistakes. Some are far more worse than others. When someone makes a bad mistake involving you, how quick are you to forgive them? Does this person have to “work hard” to “earn” your forgiveness this time or do you grant second chances freely? Some people will never learn. You might be one of them. Would you trust yourself if given another chance? For instance, there are many people currently incarcerated in the prison systems. Many have committed crimes that are too unfathomable for most people, yet as we grow “most of us change.” Would you trust someone who has been to prison before? I always try to read people from the beginning. I don’t always go by what they say. I often go by what they “don’t say, and how they don’t say it.” Sometimes omission tells a bigger picture than admission. There are many con artists, scammers and tricksters out there. Some are on a small scale, but some are on a much larger scale. On this earth, we “all” have to trust somebody at some point in our lives. What is your limit? What makes someone unworthy of trust? I am a big believer in some people. I will give the benefit of the doubt until you do something that raises the “red flag.” Your history tells a lot about you. Your demeanor also says a lot. Your interaction also plays a role. The best way to determine how much trust you have in someone is to “pay close attention.” When people reveal who they truly are, “believe them.”  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Frankie Beverly in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The debate over perfect pitch)

I had a lot of gigs over this past weekend. For one of those gigs, I had to play for a band that had it’s own “original music.” This means that I had to learn songs that no one else outside of them knew. Having perfect pitch helped me out significantly. I had no time to virtually sit down with my instrument and try to decipher each note. I was busy playing this whole entire weekend, so the best I could do was to listen to the CD of the songs in my car while I was driving and learn the songs as I traveled by using my perfect pitch. It “worked.” I played all the songs for the gig and everything turned out well. The guys in the band wanted to talk to me about having perfect pitch, so we addressed it. One of the guys in the band said that perfect pitch is something that most people discover at an early age (He believed it was God given at birth). Another said that he believed people could actually learn to have perfect pitch over time. I simply said that I believed both of those statements could be true. I learned about my perfect pitch when my parents brought a piano home (I was 4 years old at the time) and the very next day I was playing this song “Stand By Me” by Ben. E. King on it. Over the years I was able to do a lot of things with my perfect pitch. “EVERY Sound has some sort of note characteristic to it (some are more pronounced than others). If someone falls and hits his head I can tell you what note that is. Please keep in mind that I believe there are different versions of perfect pitch. Some people have it but in different stages and degrees. I know of several people that actually have it but still can’t play every song for some reason. My focus is to play every song that I have heard. If I have not heard the song before, I will “still” play that song. In other words, I will attempt to “play EVERYTHING.” When I was younger I believed that everyone had perfect pitch. I was surprised to find out that this wasn’t true. Yes, I now know that this is a God given gift. I also feel that people can develop perfect pitch over time (especially if they have relative pitch, which means they can hear one or several notes really well). On average I probably play about 6 to 10 new songs each week that I have never played before (and some I have never heard). At this point my musical ear is “very developed” for picking up music on the spot. This is what perfect pitch does for me. I hope to continue using it to improve my musicianship. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Singers Betty Wright, Vivienne Green, and Jaguar Wright in concert with Brett Jolly on bas guitar

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