After church yesterday I went into a fast food place. While in line I witnessed this young mother come in with 3 boys that seemed to lack “any sense of control.” If they acted up, she would simply say (rather lightly) “Stop.” It had “absolutely NO effect” on the kids whatsoever. She was talking to a friend of hers and saying things like, “These kids are really bad” and “I hope somebody takes them.” The kids seemed to be so used to her statements that they didn’t even flinch at the comments. It was easy to tell that the boys could have done practically anything they wanted and the mother was powerless to stop or reprimand them. I could foresee the possible future of these boys just based on what I saw yesterday. First, a child who is not punished or reprimanded for undesirable conduct is a child who is “not ready for the world.” If you don’t get into the habit of “checking behavior early in life” then it will be much more difficult to do so later on… Also, she kept referring to her kids as being “bad.” When you give your kids that kind of identity then children will often “live up to the label that you give them.” This lady told her friend that she was about to leave and she would let her kids find their own way home. I guess that was supposed to be some type of punishment for the kids. However, the way I saw it was that the parent was basically giving the kids a free pass to “walk the streets” and cause any type of mischief they can. The responsibility of a parent is more than just “having kids and feeding them.” A child depends on the structure and guidance a parent should be able to provide. I guess it is unfair of me to judge the future of these kids based solely on what I witnessed yesterday, but unless some other type of intervention comes in to rescue them I just can’t see a positive outcome out of this. The real problem is that kids who are raised unsupervised will probably have a greater chance of committing crimes later on against someone whose parents raised them properly. That would be an unfair burden on us, especially if we took the time and effort needed to nurture a child the right way. I am saying that as a parent your failure to raise your kids right could one day have an undesirable effect on the livelihood of all of us. In this situation I wanted to personally take my belt off and give these kids “a valid reason to hate (but yet respect) me,” but I know that if I had I would probably have been arrested for assault of a child. However, they may as well keep that jail cell warm, because at some point I believe these kids will eventually be there. Parenting is a full time occupation with “very” little benefits. If you can’t dedicate your life to it then don’t don’t bring kids into a world you cannot prepare them for… If you raise your children right, then your kids will thank you for it later. Thanks for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Tina is a “great” drummer. While she excels at playing drums, we talked for a while about the possibility of her doing a photo shoot. Finally we made it happen, and she wanted it to be different, so we decided on having a backdrop of the Ben Franklin Bridge overlooking the river. Needless to say, the photo shoot turned out excellent. It was a beautiful day to shoot. We HAD to feature at least “a picture or two” with her and her snare, but she wanted to take some pics with the guitar as well. We hope you enjoy her pics and I thank you for checking out my Daily Thought. As always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
I was asked to post this. This was a television interview I did on the Ruth Weisberg show. I always love to do interviews and I always have fun doing them. This was no exception. I hope you enjoy it. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
When I think about it, there are events that transpired in my past that I would “love to fix.” There are things in my life that were embarrassing, hurtful, demeaning and challenging to me that I wish I just could “erase or eliminate” from my memory banks. Some of you may feel the say way. It might have been past relationships that didn’t pan out right, bad business decisions, painful losses or anything else that you considered to be traumatic in your life. However, if you “did” manage to find a way to “delete” your bad past, would it make you any better? Whether we want to admit it or not, we are a product of our environment and our past. Everything that we encountered in life helped to make us what (and who) we are today. People who were brought up in a rich environment usually have no clue what it’s like to struggle financially. Those who were brought up in violent surroundings only know about that way of life. Those who are devotedly religious were “taught” to be that way. While many of us wish we could change our past life experiences would it really help or hurt us? If you love yourself the way you are, then all the good AND the bad things that you encountered in your life helped to make you this way. No human is perfect even though we all tend to strive for perfection. While many of us wish we could eradicate the mistakes we made in life the “best” we can do is take steps to improve our present and our future. When you think about it, you can’t truly appreciate success until you know what it’s like to fail. The greatest of satisfactions usually come from conquering the greatest of obstacles. You don’t have to be “proud” of the things you have done. However, if you can manage to let your past inspire or motivate you to improve your situation then you are maximizing your potential to aspire to a higher plane. Yes, there will be roadblocks in life. There will be detours and blockages that will impede your progress. As long as you still live you still have hope. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. What you do with it just might determine what direction you are headed. Stop focusing on the past (especially when it can no longer help you) and take the steps needed to ensure your future. In the end you just might be glad you did… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
This past weekend was a good one for me in Chicago. It was great to get away (but it is “always” great to get back home as well). On the way to the hotel from the airport in Chicago I had a conversation with a lady cab driver by the name of Erica. She was a middle aged African American woman and at first we talked about music (and my career). As the conversation went on, she revealed things about her that made my career appear “secondary.” She had said that her son had been brutally murdered at the age of 22. She said that her husband lost his job around that same time and while she supported him he decided to have an extra marital affair on her. Also around that same time some of her closest family members passed away suddenly. During that time she actually thought she had been cursed. She thought that bad things like this should never happen to people who try to be good. I thought I was going to have to reach into my “philosophy cabinet” and pull out the heavy “stay positive” speech on her but I found there was “no need” for it. She was upbeat and very positive, because she had decided to take the negative energy from her circumstances and direct it towards a positive result. She went into business and made a website that promotes positivity through logos on clothing and other forms. Her caption is “Positively Expressing Yourself” and you can check her out at WWW.facebook.com/positivelyforyou. Her email account is email@example.com. Her name is Erica Hodge and I invite you to contact her. If you have experienced (or are experiencing” tragedy in your life you may want to reach out to her. I told her that I have “always” believed in “re-channeling negative energy” and it was a pleasure to come across someone who thought the same way. Instead of focusing on her son’s death, she decided to celebrate his life and refocus now on his kids (her grandkids). I told her that it would be my honor to put out a plug and promote her concept. The ironic part of our exchange was that when it came to leaving to go back to the airport she was not available to take me. Instead she called one of her co-workers to come get me and on the ride back he told me “his” life story. He had 6 kids (He had some kind of Arabic name that I could not remember). However, his world came crumbling down when his wife divorced him. He had been doing drugs and he had been a well paid engineer in his country. Once he arrived here he found that his degree “didn’t mean anything” so he had no other choice but to drive cabs to make money. I listened to him and I told him that it’s not where he comes from that determines the true value of his life but rather where he is headed. I told him the best way he can make an impression on his ex-wife and his kids is to show them that he has changed. I asked him if he had any goals left at this stage in life and he admitted them to me. I then informed him that each venture in life starts with the “very first step.” You can take the negative energy that you had been experiencing and use it to motivate and inspire you to accomplish great things. I informed him that as long as you live you can continue to grow and alter your life for the better. As the conversation went on I could actually “see” his face glow. He “knew” he needed to hear this and he was taking it ALL in… I think he even drove slower” just so that we could talk more. I informed him that a great life depends heavily on what you invest into it. You can accomplish anything as long as you rid yourself of the word “can’t.” He thanked me a LOT when we arrived at the airport and he said that I was his “greatest client ever.” He said that he would stay in contact with me and that his life has now changed from the moment I became his customer. That made me feel very special as well. We are all on a planet where we need each other to sustain our lives. While things may seem traumatic at times it doesn’t mean that it has to “stay” that way. As long as you can re-channel negative energy you can salvage and redirect your life direction. Erica Hodge told me something that eventually helped her own co-worker. Just these events alone made this a “great trip” for me… Hopefully you will get the message as well… “When you can’t erase tragedies you can re-direct them.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very “best” that life has to offer.
I have had some “interesting” gigs in my life. If I decided to talk about them all I would have “unlimited material” for my Daily Thought. However, for today I would like to mention my gig “this past weekend” in the Chicago/Elgin Illinois area. For most of my gigs I never know the full details until I actually “reach” the destination and this event was no different. Chicago is “not” a very warm place. It is off the Great Lakes which makes the wind there tough to deal with. I “never” expected to perform a show near the end of October… at night… outside… in Chicago. Yet “this” is exactly what happened. The fun part about the event was that it was called “A nightmare on Chicago Street” and the best feature of it was that “everyone” was expected to dress up like “zombies.” There were great effects and props there and several different stages for different groups to perform. I even saw a small train in the mall that said “Jolly Express.” I tried to get compensation for the use of my name but they wouldn’t give it to me (smile). This event felt weird to me, but I got acclimated to it quickly. For the record, all the other guys in the band “drove there” from the Philadelphia area (which took them about 12 to 14 hours to do). The management made sure that I had a “plane flight” to get there (and I am so glad they did). The members who drove didn’t even make it there until 5:00 am. I was sincerely sound asleep by then since my plane ride only took an hour and a half. The gig went well (with some small boo boos, but nothing real noticeable). I enjoyed myself and took some pictures of the event which I will share with you now. Tomorrow I will talk about my experience with the cab drivers for this event. Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer:
This Saturday I will be performing in Elgin, Illinois (25 miles from Chicago) for something called the “Jimi Hendrix re-experince.” This event will be held at :
Terror on Streets of Chicago
96 S Grove street Elgin, IL 60120 847-931-5905
To my understanding, the show starts at 8:00 and if there is anyone from the Chicago area who would like to attend the cost of tickets are $12. I will be playing the part of Billy Cox, famed bass player who played for Jimi during his “Band of Gypsies” era. They dress me up in old 60’s style clothing, give me a different bass guitar to play and make me wear a hat (which I hate). For those who loved the music of Hendrix, this show should make for a great event. The man who plays the part of Hendrix is named Jimmy Blue, and several other musicians are on the bill. Hope to see you there. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Years ago I performed at a special event labeled as the IAAA awards (International Association of African American music) and just recently I discovered that someone had actually videoed this occasion. Truth be told, I can’t tell you the names of “all” the people in this lineup but I can at least say a few. “Jazz” from the group Dru Hill, bassist Gerald Veasely, Eve, Angie Stone, Carol Riddick, Queen Latifah, Da Brat, Music Soulchild, and Gerald Levert were just some of the names of stars for this event. In this clip at first I am playing the red bass guitar, but for the last tribute I switched to play the bass synthesizer keyboard while Gerald Veasely played bass (the man singing with the scarf on is Music Soulchild). I hope you enjoy the clip and as always I would like to thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and wish you the very best that life has to offer.
It is invigorating to see new jazz artists who stay true to their music. I like this lady because she sings jazz and she plays it, and she does both exceptionally well. Being a bass player myself (who also sings) I realize how difficult that can be. This lady is young and established. If you are a jazz lover and you have not heard of her then I invite you to Google her name. This particular video clip is 29 minutes long, but if you have the time I hope you can check it out. Great jazz music should never become extinct. Also, it should never be re-labeled. They may want to take some old tunes and change the genres to “smooth jazz” but that doesn’t mean that you can’t still find the authentic “real thing.” This lady is authentic and it is a pleasure to see her in the music spotlight. Today I would love to present to you Esperanza Spalding.
There is one thing that this Presidential debate has brought out that needs to be addressed, and that is the issue of “sexual assault.” For both candidates there appear to be accusations thrown that (if proven to be true) can be damaging. The problem is “How can you prove it?” Without any real evidence to back them up what can be done to verify the validity of any charges? All accusers against Bill Clinton and Donald Trump say their experiences happened many years ago. While there is no reason to disbelieve them there is nothing there to help substantiate their claims either. In both of these situations the “alleged offenders” were “men of power.” It is more difficult to prosecute men of power without having “more solid concrete evidence.” When this is combined with the fact that the women waited a long time before coming forward it only makes their claims “less” believable. I saw an interview recently with Ben Carson, the Republican candidate for President who dropped out of the race during the primaries. He said that these issues should not be allowed as part of the political process but rather should be brought up in a court of law. Do you agree? Both Donald Trump and Bill Clinton discredit the charges of their accusers and claimed that these charges were “politically rigged” to alter the election. Considering the fact that the charges happened so long ago but are being brought up now during this election has me a little “suspicious.” I am not saying that the women are being untruthful at all (in fact, I believe all of them to be credible) but the timing of it just appears to be more “politically motivated” to me. What can be done for women who feel they have been sexually assaulted? The first thing is to “gather proof.” Men of power are usually followed around by video. In fact, there are video cameras just about everywhere these days. Witnesses would help as well. If these assaults happened in a public atmosphere, changes are that many people were around to witness it. Don’t wait until you get home to determine if you have been wronged or not. That lapse of time can (and probably will) be used against you should you decide to bring up charges later. Also, your own past can be brought up in a court of law as well. If you allowed someone else to grope, grab or kiss you without your consent and it can be proven, then it automatically sheds doubt on your current charges of assault. Sexual assault is a serious issue for both women and men, but you need to know that it takes more than just “accusations” to make any charges stick. Until any of these charges can be substantiated, I feel we ought to leave them “out” of the political arena (and yes, that goes for “BOTH” candidates). Let’s allow the candidates to speak on their platforms and let’s make our determinations based on what they have to offer instead of what they have been accused of. I am Brett Jolly, and I endorse this message. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Brett Jolly with Robin Roberts, (“Good morning America” television host)