Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (A song video taken from this past Wednesday)

Adrienne is a really nice artist. She comes to sing periodically at my Wednesday night event (The Grand Slam Jam on Wednesday nights at the Crab Tavern in Darby, Pa, from 8  to 12 midnight). If you are ever in the area on a Wednesday night I think you would really love this event. If you get there early enough, you just might find a seat. People love what we are doing and it is so awesome seeing people out to support live music. There is no cover charge, the food is really good and the live band is “excellent.” The bass guitar player might be a little suspect, though (smile). Hope to see you come through one night, and thank you for checking out my Daily Thought. As always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The other side: Why do some women cheat?)

As I said yesterday. All men do not cheat. On that same topic, all women do not cheat as well. Each person is different, so their reasoning is also different. I have also talked to some women who I know cheat. Most have said they feel they have the right to cheat, but yet they will still get angry at any man who cheats on them. Some of them have said they will get with whoever they want as long as they can get some “money” out of the deal. Please note that this does not respond to all women. Some of the women have claimed that money is not the sole reason for cheating, but does play an important factor. The other factor is in pleasure. If a woman feels that a man is not properly pleasing her then it is quite possible that she will cheat. It doesn’t have to be physical pleasure. It could be emotional or something else. I have found that the biggest difference here is that most men don’t mind talking (or even bragging about it) while most women tend to be more private about what they do. When it comes to cheating both men and women realize that what they are doing is wrong. It isn’t fair but it still happens. I once talked to a gay gathering of women and asked them how they became the way there are, and most of them said that they “started out” in faithful relationships with men, but realized that these relationships were not satisfying them, so they went to other women. I found this very interesting to hear. Women have a right to love just like men do. I believe a lot of women try to stick it out when it comes to relationships (even if they know their men have cheated). Some of them think that if they remain faithful then their men will do the same. I have found that that is not always the case. If you can cheat once, then you have the capability to cheat more than once (and that is whether you are a man or a woman). Hopefully this will shed some insight. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

The stylistics in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (An anonymous opinion for why some men cheat)

I was asked this question, and to be honest, I don’t have a direct answer to it, so I simply asked some men about it. No, this has absolutely “nothing” to do with me, so please get that thought out of your mind before I even start (smile). A woman actually asked me why men cheat. I didn’t know the woman that well, but I told her that I really do not believe that ALL men cheat. There are cheaters out there in the world, and there are the faithful out there too. I also don’t think that all cheating is only done by men. In my view, there are women cheaters out there also. So, to get an idea on this situation, I actually asked a man who I “know” has cheated. I will not reveal his name (and no, it is NOT me, so please get that thought out of your mind) (smile). This man put it in an interesting perspective. He said that he would try to explain it from the “woman’s” point of view. He said that most women like shoes. They could remain faithful to one pair that would work for probably every outfit, but most women prefer to have many different styles and brands of shoes. He said,, “Why can’t women remain faithful to just one pair of shoes?” He also noted that as most women get older, they actually “do” trust in one pair of shoes more than the others. He said that is because women love the “variety” of having different shoes. He also stated that this was the same logic he had for having different women. He mentioned that he could remain faithful to one woman, but he loved the variety of having many. I asked him if he thought at some point he could ever remain faithful to just one woman and he said “absolutely.” He said that when he finds the right woman he will be the best man ever. PLEASE keep in mind that this is NOT my response, so don’t send me any hate mail. I personally think that each person is different, and everyone has their own reasons for their behavior. In my mind, “people cheat,” and I will not say that it is only done by men. I do NOT approve of it, nor do I live that type of lifestyle. In other words, do NOT associate cheating with me. Thank you… Maybe tomorrow I will try to put out something on why “some” women cheat. In the meantime, I thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Blue Magic with Brett Jolly

Blue Magic and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Should flags have been at half mast for the death of John McCain?)

There are times when people hold grudges. I understand that. There are times when people disagree. I can understand that as well. Should anyone still carry a grudge after the person dies? This one I have issues with. Flags were flown at half mast yesterday in honor of Senator John McCain, who recently died from brain cancer. To my understanding the White House originally agreed to fly their flag at half mast for John McCain, and then wavered on that policy. Now I have heard that they will continue to honor him until his interment.  I am glad that they are doing that, but should we still hold grudges on people after they expire? McCain was a big adversary against Trump. McCain was a champion for the people and he had no problem going against his party if he didn’t believe in the cause. I respected John McCain heavily for that. I wish that some of the other political figures had the strength to be the same way. For those who are not familiar with the story, here is the article:

https://www.aol.com/article/news/2018/08/27/white-house-wobbles-on-us-flag-after-mccain-death/23510553/

In death, there should be some form of respect. Naturally, if someone was inhumane or broke the law then it is natural for respect to be lacking. In McCain’s circumstance, I believe he deserved respect. McCain was a prisoner of war and he believed in the betterment of our country. We were better off with him in our corner. Time will tell whether we get better or worse without him, but his time on this earth should always be remembered and honored. Hopefully that will happen. In the meantime I express deepest condolences to his family. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Anthony Hamilton, Bill Withers and his daughter in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (an answer for mold?)

I honestly don’t know a lot about this subject. However, during heavy rainstorms I have experienced “some flooding” in my house. I would not recognize mold at all if I saw it. I don’t even know what it looks like. However, I just saw something that seems interesting. There are articles out there that emphasize that “vodka” is supposed to kill mold instantly. I can’t imagine how that is supposed to work, but if I truly do have mold anywhere in my house then I guess it couldn’t hurt to at least look into it. The first step would be in trying to figure out where any mold is. Once I determine that (if I can determine that), then I guess I would need to go buy some vodka. Please keep in mind that I don’t drink. I don’t smoke either. I have “never” bought wine (or vodka) before. I would feel weird looking around in the wine store. People would probably recognize me there (seriously, I get recognized a lot now) and would probably think that I am some kind of drunk. However, if this can work, then I guess I may as well try it. For those of you who are not familiar, here is the article:

https://www.ehow.com/how_6466507_kill-mold-vodka.html?utm_source=aol.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=how_6466507_kill-mold-vodka&utm_campaign=AOL-Campaigns

Yes, this could be one of those old wive’s tales that might not be true at all, but what do you have to lose? If this proves to  be false, then maybe I could end up selling the wine to someone. I don’t know. I am out of my element on this one. Time will tell if this is even appropriate. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly at sound check with Estelle (“American Boy”). She is in the background with hat and glasses on.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Think you need a record label deal?)

The other day I came across someone who wanted to start his own record label. I applauded him for his aspirations, but I just couldn’t seem to understand the rationale behind it (for several reasons). People don’t buy records anymore. People don’t really buy CD’s either.  People can either purchase the material online or they can “stream” the music. Streaming has become very popular lately, but it doesn’t offer much monetarily to the owner of the song. Most of the record labels from the past have evaporated now. There used to be a lot of them but now they have dwindled down to just a few. The internet has made it so that people can often obtain musical material for free and even share it with others. If this is the case, then what is the purpose in wanting to get a record label deal? If you are even “able” to get a record label deal you won’t necessarily make a lot of money. You will make good money if you sell a whole lot of units for your label though. Back during the day, an artist was lucky to make 17 cents off of each dollar worth or merchandise. When you think about it, when was the last time you bought someone’s music? If you can remember it, where did you actually purchase it from? A lot of people will now go to Apple iTunes to get the music, and there you can buy songs cheaply. Even when the song is bought, a very small percentage of it will go to the artist. A couple of weeks ago I had a good discussion about this with Paul Jackson Jr. (famed guitarist who played on recordings of many big name artists). He told me that artists can still make money off their music, but mostly they have to do so through ownership and touring. He said that streaming songs lessen the earnings of the artist. He gave the example of Ed Sheeran. He said that ED made thousands off the sale of his music, but if it had not been for streaming, he could have made millions.  He said that if an artist owns his own material then he stands a chance of making money, and he also said that touring will also enable the artist to get paid. That made sense, because people will buy your CD after you perform it at a show. Many years ago Prince used to give a free CD out to the people in his audience. A lot of people appreciated Prince for doing so. However, what people didn’t realize was that the tickets for his shows were extremely high, so people “actually paid” for that CD without even realizing it. This made Prince a great businessman. He sold his CD’s without having to pay the radio stations to play his music. That was awesome. If you are going to get involved with the radio business you will need to do your homework. Things are not the same as they were many years ago. Once you understand the changes you can modify your business concept so that you can actually make some money. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life  has to offer.

Brother Bill Jolly, Paul Jackson Jr., Brett Jolly and Kevin Outterbridge in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought ( A musical segment taken from last night at my Wednesday night event)

Sometimes people bring up original songs that we don’t know (and have never heard before).  They have these songs recorded somewhere but want us to play them on the spot. This particular song “was completely unknown to us” but this guy wanted us to play it last night. He mouthed out the parts to us and we simply played the tune. This guy was not  singer. He was a rapper simply known as “Farmer Boy.” We enjoy putting together music for people and we don’t mind learning a tune “on the spot.”This is part of the fun environment we have at the Crab Tavern on Wednesday nights (201 North Macdade Blvd in darby PA from 8:00 to 12 midnight). Hopefully one Wednesday night you can come join us. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Being on the lookout in your neighborhood)

You never know when someone wants to target your neighborhood. The best way to make sure you are protected is to do your own assessment of your property. Thieves look for easy access into your home. They will look for trees they can climb to get to open windows you may have. They will look for dark unlit areas that they can take advantage of. The best way to figure out how a burglar thinks is to “simply think like a burglar.” If you have ever listened to inmates who went to jail for robbery, a lot of them have claimed that they never worried about a burglar alarm system. Most of them are smart enough to know how to get around those systems. In a lot of interviews I have seen, the one thing they can’t get around is a dog. Most dogs will bark whenever someone gets close to the house. Burglars don’t want to contend with that at all. Also you need to make sure all your windows are secure. A window that is easy to open would probably be a prime target for a burglar when it comes to entry. Thieves will study your property first. If you notice anyone hanging around your property with no practical purpose then you need to take note of them. Write down the license plate number of any vehicle that you consider “suspicious.” The more that a thief knows about your home the better his chances are for breaking into it. Some thieves will try to get to know you in some way so that they can find out more about your property before they strike. Be aware of anyone you don’t know trying to become your friend. Walk around your property from time to time and see if there are ways that you can find to break in. If you can find a way, so can a burglar. If you can avoid it, don’t become a victim. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

The Emotions (“You got the best of my love” and “Boogie Wonderland”) in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The point of being happy or even just content)

There are a lot of things in life that can bring you down spiritually if you allow them. If you focus on these things you can become extremely negative and even depressed. Sometimes we “create” our own energy. If you wake up each day thinking about all the bad things that can happen then you can practically “create” your own dark cloud. I’m not saying that every day is going to be a great day if you think that way, but how you approach the day can make a big difference in how it turns out. I remember playing in a casino one day, and during the break I saw many unhappy patrons losing money in the slot machines. I didn’t play anything, but I went over to the roulette wheel and witnessed something remarkable. One gentleman (who was up there in age) walked up to the wheel with “two” women (one on each arm). He was “cleanly dressed” with a white outfit and a derby on his head. You could look at him and tell that he “already had tons of money.” This guy walked up to the wheel and put huge amount of chips on the “long shot.” Based on the amount he put up, he would have been rich if he won. After the wheel finished spinning, his “long shot WON.” The crowd was amazed as his gathered his winnings and “he left.” Now this is either the result of extreme positive thinking or this guy knew that the machines were “rigged.” Either way, he ended up with a very positive result from playing. Having a great day depends on how much you know as well as how you feel. You don’t have to gamble in order to feel good. You just need to have a positive outlook on life. Also, you need to remember that having a lot of money does not guarantee you a great day. There are many millionaires all over the world who are having a bad day, even though they have all the money in the world. If you can’t be happy, then at least try for being “content.” Be satisfied with what you have and appreciate the blessing you have in being alive… It beats the alternative…. I hope you feel good today, and I hope you realize the blessing you have… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Comedian Kris Tucker, brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (How to handle your kids as they grow up)

I understand that parents will always feel the way they do when it comes to protecting their children. A lot of parents still  want to remain in control and dictate to their kids how they should behave. The problem is that most parents never revert back to when they were younger and their parents tried to dictate to them. Your kids do not want to have their lives controlled by parents. They want (and some deserve) the right to be able to make the same mistakes. What most parents fail to consider is the fact that as kids get older they “need” the ability to make some decisions on their own in order to be prepared for the world. Parents need to become more of an advisor to their kids rather than a controller. I fully understand that some kids still “need” you to control their lives, but “most” kids will revolt against you at some point when you try to control them too much. You can gain the love and respect of your kids by simply stating what you feel instead of directly telling them what to do. I call it the “open gate” theory. When  child is in the back yard and the gate is locked a parent can tell that child to never go beyond that gate. At some point the child’s intuition and curiosity will peak and that child will “want” to see what is beyond that gate. However, when you leave that gate open and just tell the child that evil things can happen once you go outside that gate, the child will be more apt to stay put. Control can work for you and against you under different circumstances. I would like for my kids to be able to come talk to me about anything, and for the most part they know they can. I have a great relationship with my children and that is because I no longer try to control everything they do. For most parents the key is knowing “when” to make this transition. If you can make this change as a parent then your kids will appreciate and respect you more. My parents did it with me, and I feel as though I am a better person because of it. Hopefully you will feel that way too. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly and Robin Roberts from Good Morning America

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