Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (A song video taken from this past Wednesday)

Adrienne is a really nice artist. She comes to sing periodically at my Wednesday night event (The Grand Slam Jam on Wednesday nights at the Crab Tavern in Darby, Pa, from 8  to 12 midnight). If you are ever in the area on a Wednesday night I think you would really love this event. If you get there early enough, you just might find a seat. People love what we are doing and it is so awesome seeing people out to support live music. There is no cover charge, the food is really good and the live band is “excellent.” The bass guitar player might be a little suspect, though (smile). Hope to see you come through one night, and thank you for checking out my Daily Thought. As always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The other side: Why do some women cheat?)

As I said yesterday. All men do not cheat. On that same topic, all women do not cheat as well. Each person is different, so their reasoning is also different. I have also talked to some women who I know cheat. Most have said they feel they have the right to cheat, but yet they will still get angry at any man who cheats on them. Some of them have said they will get with whoever they want as long as they can get some “money” out of the deal. Please note that this does not respond to all women. Some of the women have claimed that money is not the sole reason for cheating, but does play an important factor. The other factor is in pleasure. If a woman feels that a man is not properly pleasing her then it is quite possible that she will cheat. It doesn’t have to be physical pleasure. It could be emotional or something else. I have found that the biggest difference here is that most men don’t mind talking (or even bragging about it) while most women tend to be more private about what they do. When it comes to cheating both men and women realize that what they are doing is wrong. It isn’t fair but it still happens. I once talked to a gay gathering of women and asked them how they became the way there are, and most of them said that they “started out” in faithful relationships with men, but realized that these relationships were not satisfying them, so they went to other women. I found this very interesting to hear. Women have a right to love just like men do. I believe a lot of women try to stick it out when it comes to relationships (even if they know their men have cheated). Some of them think that if they remain faithful then their men will do the same. I have found that that is not always the case. If you can cheat once, then you have the capability to cheat more than once (and that is whether you are a man or a woman). Hopefully this will shed some insight. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

The stylistics in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (An anonymous opinion for why some men cheat)

I was asked this question, and to be honest, I don’t have a direct answer to it, so I simply asked some men about it. No, this has absolutely “nothing” to do with me, so please get that thought out of your mind before I even start (smile). A woman actually asked me why men cheat. I didn’t know the woman that well, but I told her that I really do not believe that ALL men cheat. There are cheaters out there in the world, and there are the faithful out there too. I also don’t think that all cheating is only done by men. In my view, there are women cheaters out there also. So, to get an idea on this situation, I actually asked a man who I “know” has cheated. I will not reveal his name (and no, it is NOT me, so please get that thought out of your mind) (smile). This man put it in an interesting perspective. He said that he would try to explain it from the “woman’s” point of view. He said that most women like shoes. They could remain faithful to one pair that would work for probably every outfit, but most women prefer to have many different styles and brands of shoes. He said,, “Why can’t women remain faithful to just one pair of shoes?” He also noted that as most women get older, they actually “do” trust in one pair of shoes more than the others. He said that is because women love the “variety” of having different shoes. He also stated that this was the same logic he had for having different women. He mentioned that he could remain faithful to one woman, but he loved the variety of having many. I asked him if he thought at some point he could ever remain faithful to just one woman and he said “absolutely.” He said that when he finds the right woman he will be the best man ever. PLEASE keep in mind that this is NOT my response, so don’t send me any hate mail. I personally think that each person is different, and everyone has their own reasons for their behavior. In my mind, “people cheat,” and I will not say that it is only done by men. I do NOT approve of it, nor do I live that type of lifestyle. In other words, do NOT associate cheating with me. Thank you… Maybe tomorrow I will try to put out something on why “some” women cheat. In the meantime, I thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Blue Magic with Brett Jolly

Blue Magic and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Should flags have been at half mast for the death of John McCain?)

There are times when people hold grudges. I understand that. There are times when people disagree. I can understand that as well. Should anyone still carry a grudge after the person dies? This one I have issues with. Flags were flown at half mast yesterday in honor of Senator John McCain, who recently died from brain cancer. To my understanding the White House originally agreed to fly their flag at half mast for John McCain, and then wavered on that policy. Now I have heard that they will continue to honor him until his interment.  I am glad that they are doing that, but should we still hold grudges on people after they expire? McCain was a big adversary against Trump. McCain was a champion for the people and he had no problem going against his party if he didn’t believe in the cause. I respected John McCain heavily for that. I wish that some of the other political figures had the strength to be the same way. For those who are not familiar with the story, here is the article:

https://www.aol.com/article/news/2018/08/27/white-house-wobbles-on-us-flag-after-mccain-death/23510553/

In death, there should be some form of respect. Naturally, if someone was inhumane or broke the law then it is natural for respect to be lacking. In McCain’s circumstance, I believe he deserved respect. McCain was a prisoner of war and he believed in the betterment of our country. We were better off with him in our corner. Time will tell whether we get better or worse without him, but his time on this earth should always be remembered and honored. Hopefully that will happen. In the meantime I express deepest condolences to his family. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Anthony Hamilton, Bill Withers and his daughter in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (an answer for mold?)

I honestly don’t know a lot about this subject. However, during heavy rainstorms I have experienced “some flooding” in my house. I would not recognize mold at all if I saw it. I don’t even know what it looks like. However, I just saw something that seems interesting. There are articles out there that emphasize that “vodka” is supposed to kill mold instantly. I can’t imagine how that is supposed to work, but if I truly do have mold anywhere in my house then I guess it couldn’t hurt to at least look into it. The first step would be in trying to figure out where any mold is. Once I determine that (if I can determine that), then I guess I would need to go buy some vodka. Please keep in mind that I don’t drink. I don’t smoke either. I have “never” bought wine (or vodka) before. I would feel weird looking around in the wine store. People would probably recognize me there (seriously, I get recognized a lot now) and would probably think that I am some kind of drunk. However, if this can work, then I guess I may as well try it. For those of you who are not familiar, here is the article:

https://www.ehow.com/how_6466507_kill-mold-vodka.html?utm_source=aol.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=how_6466507_kill-mold-vodka&utm_campaign=AOL-Campaigns

Yes, this could be one of those old wive’s tales that might not be true at all, but what do you have to lose? If this proves to  be false, then maybe I could end up selling the wine to someone. I don’t know. I am out of my element on this one. Time will tell if this is even appropriate. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly at sound check with Estelle (“American Boy”). She is in the background with hat and glasses on.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Think you need a record label deal?)

The other day I came across someone who wanted to start his own record label. I applauded him for his aspirations, but I just couldn’t seem to understand the rationale behind it (for several reasons). People don’t buy records anymore. People don’t really buy CD’s either.  People can either purchase the material online or they can “stream” the music. Streaming has become very popular lately, but it doesn’t offer much monetarily to the owner of the song. Most of the record labels from the past have evaporated now. There used to be a lot of them but now they have dwindled down to just a few. The internet has made it so that people can often obtain musical material for free and even share it with others. If this is the case, then what is the purpose in wanting to get a record label deal? If you are even “able” to get a record label deal you won’t necessarily make a lot of money. You will make good money if you sell a whole lot of units for your label though. Back during the day, an artist was lucky to make 17 cents off of each dollar worth or merchandise. When you think about it, when was the last time you bought someone’s music? If you can remember it, where did you actually purchase it from? A lot of people will now go to Apple iTunes to get the music, and there you can buy songs cheaply. Even when the song is bought, a very small percentage of it will go to the artist. A couple of weeks ago I had a good discussion about this with Paul Jackson Jr. (famed guitarist who played on recordings of many big name artists). He told me that artists can still make money off their music, but mostly they have to do so through ownership and touring. He said that streaming songs lessen the earnings of the artist. He gave the example of Ed Sheeran. He said that ED made thousands off the sale of his music, but if it had not been for streaming, he could have made millions.  He said that if an artist owns his own material then he stands a chance of making money, and he also said that touring will also enable the artist to get paid. That made sense, because people will buy your CD after you perform it at a show. Many years ago Prince used to give a free CD out to the people in his audience. A lot of people appreciated Prince for doing so. However, what people didn’t realize was that the tickets for his shows were extremely high, so people “actually paid” for that CD without even realizing it. This made Prince a great businessman. He sold his CD’s without having to pay the radio stations to play his music. That was awesome. If you are going to get involved with the radio business you will need to do your homework. Things are not the same as they were many years ago. Once you understand the changes you can modify your business concept so that you can actually make some money. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life  has to offer.

Brother Bill Jolly, Paul Jackson Jr., Brett Jolly and Kevin Outterbridge in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought ( A musical segment taken from last night at my Wednesday night event)

Sometimes people bring up original songs that we don’t know (and have never heard before).  They have these songs recorded somewhere but want us to play them on the spot. This particular song “was completely unknown to us” but this guy wanted us to play it last night. He mouthed out the parts to us and we simply played the tune. This guy was not  singer. He was a rapper simply known as “Farmer Boy.” We enjoy putting together music for people and we don’t mind learning a tune “on the spot.”This is part of the fun environment we have at the Crab Tavern on Wednesday nights (201 North Macdade Blvd in darby PA from 8:00 to 12 midnight). Hopefully one Wednesday night you can come join us. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.