Brett Jolly”s Daily Thought (Topic: “Is hatred necessary?”)

Every once in awhile I find a topic that I just can’t ignore. It doesn’t have to be something really grand, but if it peaks my interest then I am game for it. Recently I saw a list of the
“Most hated people in America.” This was truly intriguing to me so I just had to check it out for myself. When looking this up, I actually found that there are “several” lists by different people and companies, so naturally these lists will vary depending on which ones you read.  Names like “John Edwards” surprised me, because I had pretty much forgotten about him. Tiger Woods was listed, even though I thought that what he did wasn’t so bad (especially when compared to ALL the other high profile celebrities that did the same things as he did). OJ Simpson didn’t surprise  me at all. OJ worked really hard to become a hated man and he should have left well enough alone when he had the chance, but he just HAD to make his situation even worse. Bernard Madoff was no shocker. The newcomer was Donald Sterling, whose recent racist rants made him “extremely” repulsed by a lot of those who might have previously supported him. Kim Kardashian’s name surprised me. Justin Bieber was one that I never considered as well. However, there was one name that I didn’t see listed on “any” of the lists, and I was shocked  at its omission. “George Zimmerman” did not make any of those lists (at least from what I saw). Hatred is “energy.” It is emotion directed at someone that is derived from a “personal” feeling you may have against  him or her. I often find that too many people put way too much energy into “hatred.’ Granted, some people work “hard” to be hated, and while they may deserve to be the subject of someone’s ire, that doesn’t mean that we need to devote our energies towards them. The Black Panther movements “hated,” the KKK hates, The Taliban hates and terrorists hate. These are people who will actually “thrive” from “your” hatred of them. I would not like for anyone to have so much control over me that they can “push” my buttons and ignite my anger like that. For me, there are so many more positive things in the world to focus on, and while you often have to be on the defensive when it comes to haters, your thoughts of them should  not be the main focus of your day. These people who committed the hateful acts are always “anticipating” our hatred of them, so your anger won’t change them at all. However, they would not be expecting your forgiveness and your love. I am not telling you that you have to forgive anyone who has done wrong, but I am telling you that your life has much more value to it, so you don’t have to waste so much of your life focusing on “negativity.”Hatred can be “very” contagious… If you try to make sure you are not subjected to it, then  the better your chances are of becoming “hatred-free.” Peace and love, and have a blessed day, everyone.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Maya Angelou”)

Maya Angelou… “Gone but not forgotten”…. Yesterday the world lost a valued treasure. Legendary writer and poet Maya Angelou passed away at the age of 86. Her works were known all over the world, and she received high acclaim for basically “telling the truth.” She never went to college and yet she received over 30  honorary degrees. She received a monumental award from President Barack Obama and she was good friends with Martin Luther King and Oprah Winphrey. I was blessed one year to actually hear her  speak at  my church. She was the guest speaker and her words still resonate in my mind to this day. She said that most of her works were about oppression, and the reason she did that was because “that was what she knew.” There are people out here who cannot bear to hear the truth, but her magic was in the “way” she told it. She was abandoned by her parents at a very young age,  and she was raped by  her mother’s boyfriend. She became a teen mother. Considering all this, it is quite amazing to note  how she “still” rose to greatness. You see, “great people” are only “ordinary people” who have the heart to attempt and accomplish “great things.” Her story is one that “everyone” who feels no hope should read. Her life example exemplifies the fact that you “don’t” have to let your circumstances dictate who and what you are going to be. If  anything, you can utilize your negative situation to motivate your to even greater accomplishments. I don’t have to convey her story to you here. You can read up about her all over the internet. However, I will tell you that she “created” the value of her life by standing up for what she believed in, and telling her story in a way that people just couldn’t ignore. It was  an honor for me to be in attendance when this great lady spoke, and while her voice has been silenced it doesn’t mean that she still cannot be “heard.” If you read up on her, you just might be able to “define your OWN greatness” to the world. Rest in Peace, Maya Angelou… “Your story may now be over, but their effects will linger on  “forever.”

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Trust”)

I recently had a talk with a friend of mine who is  “happily” married and plans on “keeping it that way.” However, he did mention to me that he “knows” his wife will go through his pockets and “anything” personal he has periodically just to satisfy any suspicions she may have about him. He said that she has “found absolutely nothing” because he has “done absolutely nothing wrong.” He feels his wife has “NO” reason to mistrust him, but yet he still knows that she will violate his privacy anyway. He then asked me if it is a “woman’s right” to go through all her husband’s belongings, and even spy on  him to make sure he stays “committed” to her. I told  him that if you can’t trust someone, then you should not “marry” that someone. Now, if he had already “done” something wrong “previously” that made his spouse mistrust him then those actions are perfectly “understandable.” However, if a husband or wife goes through all this just because of their own insecurities then that that can be a recipe for disaster. The truth is that if someone wants to cheat bad enough then there probably isn’t much you can do to stop it from happening. Sometimes having “too much” of a suspicious nature can actually “drive” your lover to cheat. For instance, you lover  might say something like “She’s going to accuse me of cheating anyway, so I might as well do it.” As ridiculous as that sounds, I have heard people use that logic before. Marriage is not just physical… It should be the “mental and spiritual” bonding of two people. How can you bond with someone if you continually lose faith in him or her? Granted, we all are human, and we all are subject to mistakes, temptation and deviation, but that doesn’t mean that every individual alive “gives in” to those demons. If you have  no reason to “mistrust” your mate, then by all means “give the benefit of the doubt” to him or her until “proven otherwise.” When you go through your lovers pockets and belongings it looks and feels bad, plus it also “cheapens your own value.” You are worth a lot more than that, and you should “never” have to monitor, supervise, control, dominate or give ultimatums to the one you love. Of course, some of us have been hurt by past relationships where their partners cheated, and that is understandable. However, in order to love someone new, you have to release the bad memories and feelings of someone old. “NO ONE” should have to pay the price for a previously bad lover. I told my friend that if his wife is set in her ways, just accept it for now. One day she will get tired of trying to find dirt on him and then recognize that she actually has a great husband. At some point the truth always comes out, even if we are not ready to “face” it.  “Love and trust” need to go together, and if it can’t, then it is no longer “love.” I also told him that there are things “he” can do as well to help win that trust from her. However, if he is indeed being faithful, then that is the number “one” way to prove it. Love is never perfect, but it is still love. Hope your world is awesome today, and please have a great one.

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Singer Ashanti and Brett  Jolly onstage

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Arresting 6 people in Iran for singing “Happy”)

I recently heard a story where 6 people from Iran were actually “arrested” for posting a video tribute to the song “Happy” by Pharrell. For those who have actually “heard” this song, there is “absolutely nothing” degrading, insulting, pornographic or antagonistic in this song/video.” This is just a good tune. It “had” been noted that none of the women in the video were fully covered up, which is “Iranian” law. However, the men in the video were arrested as well. In Iran, there is a “lot” of censuring going on. The internet is monitored and their programming is also controlled.  Women are “expected” to wear “loose fitting clothing” that covers  up  just about “all” body parts.  I am SOOOOOO glad we don’t have that tradition here (smile). Just yesterday I saw a “ton” of women on the streets  that would probably have been “beheaded” in Iran for what they wore. I do understand that  no matter where you are, the law is the law, but I can’t  help but feel  that the rules and regulations in Iran are “overly extreme.” In a world where there are “plenty” of tunes that feature vulgar lyrics, subliminally corrupted messages and disrespectful content it is a “breath of fresh air” to actually hear a tune that features “none” of those characteristics. I have never really been a big fan of Pharrell, but even I have to give him his props on this song and what it promotes. How DARE anyone actually “be” happy in Iran. I guess that must be considered blasphemous or something. Either way,  while we have no choice but to respect the laws of that area I do hope that “all” participants in the video are released. I have heard that they were already let go, but I don’t know if the charges against them have been dropped. The world is changing. People are entitled to more rights, and that included minorities, gays and women. I only hope that places like Iran can eventually “catch up” to the rest of the world one day. I may be wrong, but I think I also heard that if a woman is raped there, she has to have no less than “four” witnesses to the violation or else she will be imprisoned. There is something “majorly” wrong” if’ that is the case. This world needs all the “positive promotion” it can get, so I only hope that “everyone” can benefit from the message in  this song. Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts today and I hope that your day is truly blessed. Have a great one.

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Stevie Wonder and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “The re-emergence of the electric chair in Tennessee”)

“Here we go…” The state of Tennessee has decided to “bring back” the “‘electric chair” to execute criminals on death row. They didn’t confer with the inmates at all and just decided “on their own initiative” to use the old barbaric method for ending life. For what I have heard their decision to go this route was based on the possibility that they might not any longer be able to obtain the drugs needed for lethal injection. Last month in Oklahoma Clayton Lockett was put to death with a lethal dosage what went “horribly wrong.” The procedure was botched so badly that they had to halt the execution, only to have the inmate die later from a heart attack that resulted from the tortuous treatment he received. If the objective is to execute the inmate as “humanely as possible” then “why” is the electric chair even being “considered?” The electric chair basically “cooks” someone and the details that often happen from its usage are “way too barbaric” to mention here. It’s “no secret” that I have never been a supporter of the “death penalty.” I just can’t grasp the notion that in order to show people that “killing is wrong” we “murder”  them. Granted, most of the crimes they committed were gruesome, and even though the death penalty might be “fitting” for them, to apply it says more about “us” than it does “them.” If “anyone” out there feels that the electric chair should be used to execute someone, I invite you to Google “electric chair executions” and just “watch” the videos. If there are no videos listed there, then that should show you that these executions were  so gruesome that they were “censored.” What’s so ironic about this is that many of the states that support capital punishment are also the same ones against abortions. These people will tell you that they are on the side of “life.” Ask them how that principle applies to those on death row and  notice how  their answers contrast each other. People make mistakes in life, and some mistakes are more grave than others. If an inmate killed someone many years ago but has changed his ways, then  who are we to judge him or her over God? When states like Tennessee decided to bring back the electric chair to kill people, where is the “humanity” in this logic? If they don’t care about humanity, then God will eventually deal with “them.” If “killing” is “wrong,” then ALL killing is wrong. While we can’t stop the states from administering death sentences, we can implore them to at least show “some” compassion when it comes to “torturing” people to death. “Two wrongs have NEVER made a right.” As always, I invite any and all opinions on this matter, and I wish you all a most pleasant  and safe weekend.

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The Stylistics and Brett Jolly in concert

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