Brett Jolly”s Daily Thought (Topic: “Is hatred necessary?”)

Brett Jolly”s Daily Thought (Topic: “Is hatred necessary?”).

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Brett Jolly”s Daily Thought (Topic: “Is hatred necessary?”)

Every once in awhile I find a topic that I just can’t ignore. It doesn’t have to be something really grand, but if it peaks my interest then I am game for it. Recently I saw a list of the
“Most hated people in America.” This was truly intriguing to me so I just had to check it out for myself. When looking this up, I actually found that there are “several” lists by different people and companies, so naturally these lists will vary depending on which ones you read.  Names like “John Edwards” surprised me, because I had pretty much forgotten about him. Tiger Woods was listed, even though I thought that what he did wasn’t so bad (especially when compared to ALL the other high profile celebrities that did the same things as he did). OJ Simpson didn’t surprise  me at all. OJ worked really hard to become a hated man and he should have left well enough alone when he had the chance, but he just HAD to make his situation even worse. Bernard Madoff was no shocker. The newcomer was Donald Sterling, whose recent racist rants made him “extremely” repulsed by a lot of those who might have previously supported him. Kim Kardashian’s name surprised me. Justin Bieber was one that I never considered as well. However, there was one name that I didn’t see listed on “any” of the lists, and I was shocked  at its omission. “George Zimmerman” did not make any of those lists (at least from what I saw). Hatred is “energy.” It is emotion directed at someone that is derived from a “personal” feeling you may have against  him or her. I often find that too many people put way too much energy into “hatred.’ Granted, some people work “hard” to be hated, and while they may deserve to be the subject of someone’s ire, that doesn’t mean that we need to devote our energies towards them. The Black Panther movements “hated,” the KKK hates, The Taliban hates and terrorists hate. These are people who will actually “thrive” from “your” hatred of them. I would not like for anyone to have so much control over me that they can “push” my buttons and ignite my anger like that. For me, there are so many more positive things in the world to focus on, and while you often have to be on the defensive when it comes to haters, your thoughts of them should  not be the main focus of your day. These people who committed the hateful acts are always “anticipating” our hatred of them, so your anger won’t change them at all. However, they would not be expecting your forgiveness and your love. I am not telling you that you have to forgive anyone who has done wrong, but I am telling you that your life has much more value to it, so you don’t have to waste so much of your life focusing on “negativity.”Hatred can be “very” contagious… If you try to make sure you are not subjected to it, then  the better your chances are of becoming “hatred-free.” Peace and love, and have a blessed day, everyone.

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Freddie Jackson and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Maya Angelou”)

Maya Angelou… “Gone but not forgotten”…. Yesterday the world lost a valued treasure. Legendary writer and poet Maya Angelou passed away at the age of 86. Her works were known all over the world, and she received high acclaim for basically “telling the truth.” She never went to college and yet she received over 30  honorary degrees. She received a monumental award from President Barack Obama and she was good friends with Martin Luther King and Oprah Winphrey. I was blessed one year to actually hear her  speak at  my church. She was the guest speaker and her words still resonate in my mind to this day. She said that most of her works were about oppression, and the reason she did that was because “that was what she knew.” There are people out here who cannot bear to hear the truth, but her magic was in the “way” she told it. She was abandoned by her parents at a very young age,  and she was raped by  her mother’s boyfriend. She became a teen mother. Considering all this, it is quite amazing to note  how she “still” rose to greatness. You see, “great people” are only “ordinary people” who have the heart to attempt and accomplish “great things.” Her story is one that “everyone” who feels no hope should read. Her life example exemplifies the fact that you “don’t” have to let your circumstances dictate who and what you are going to be. If  anything, you can utilize your negative situation to motivate your to even greater accomplishments. I don’t have to convey her story to you here. You can read up about her all over the internet. However, I will tell you that she “created” the value of her life by standing up for what she believed in, and telling her story in a way that people just couldn’t ignore. It was  an honor for me to be in attendance when this great lady spoke, and while her voice has been silenced it doesn’t mean that she still cannot be “heard.” If you read up on her, you just might be able to “define your OWN greatness” to the world. Rest in Peace, Maya Angelou… “Your story may now be over, but their effects will linger on  “forever.”

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Robin Roberts and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Trust”)

I recently had a talk with a friend of mine who is  “happily” married and plans on “keeping it that way.” However, he did mention to me that he “knows” his wife will go through his pockets and “anything” personal he has periodically just to satisfy any suspicions she may have about him. He said that she has “found absolutely nothing” because he has “done absolutely nothing wrong.” He feels his wife has “NO” reason to mistrust him, but yet he still knows that she will violate his privacy anyway. He then asked me if it is a “woman’s right” to go through all her husband’s belongings, and even spy on  him to make sure he stays “committed” to her. I told  him that if you can’t trust someone, then you should not “marry” that someone. Now, if he had already “done” something wrong “previously” that made his spouse mistrust him then those actions are perfectly “understandable.” However, if a husband or wife goes through all this just because of their own insecurities then that that can be a recipe for disaster. The truth is that if someone wants to cheat bad enough then there probably isn’t much you can do to stop it from happening. Sometimes having “too much” of a suspicious nature can actually “drive” your lover to cheat. For instance, you lover  might say something like “She’s going to accuse me of cheating anyway, so I might as well do it.” As ridiculous as that sounds, I have heard people use that logic before. Marriage is not just physical… It should be the “mental and spiritual” bonding of two people. How can you bond with someone if you continually lose faith in him or her? Granted, we all are human, and we all are subject to mistakes, temptation and deviation, but that doesn’t mean that every individual alive “gives in” to those demons. If you have  no reason to “mistrust” your mate, then by all means “give the benefit of the doubt” to him or her until “proven otherwise.” When you go through your lovers pockets and belongings it looks and feels bad, plus it also “cheapens your own value.” You are worth a lot more than that, and you should “never” have to monitor, supervise, control, dominate or give ultimatums to the one you love. Of course, some of us have been hurt by past relationships where their partners cheated, and that is understandable. However, in order to love someone new, you have to release the bad memories and feelings of someone old. “NO ONE” should have to pay the price for a previously bad lover. I told my friend that if his wife is set in her ways, just accept it for now. One day she will get tired of trying to find dirt on him and then recognize that she actually has a great husband. At some point the truth always comes out, even if we are not ready to “face” it.  “Love and trust” need to go together, and if it can’t, then it is no longer “love.” I also told him that there are things “he” can do as well to help win that trust from her. However, if he is indeed being faithful, then that is the number “one” way to prove it. Love is never perfect, but it is still love. Hope your world is awesome today, and please have a great one.

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Singer Ashanti and Brett  Jolly onstage

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