Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Should Steve Harvey be vilified for meeting with Donald Trump?”)

The one thing I do know about the next “transition of power” here in the United States is that there seems to be a lot of animosity over it. I actually hate to do stories on politics because so many people have so many diverse opinions on the matter. From what I have already read, the approval ratings for this President elect are currently at an all time low. Accusations about a “stolen election” and about people that have been victimized, discriminated against and insulted have already “tainted” a lot of people’s views in regards to our next president. Obviously Donald Trump has a lot of people to win over. If he wants to bolster his position in the minority community then now would be an opportune time. This brings me to today’s Daily Thought topic. Trump reached out to comedian/talkshow host/radio personality Steve Harvey. Harvey is one of the most popular minority representatives currently in existence today. The problem is that after meeting with Trump Harvey received a “sea of backlash” from people who disapproved. Here is the actual story:

http://thehill.com/blogs/in-the-know/314551-steve-harvey-defends-meeting-with-trump

Personally, I cannot say that I am a devout Steve Harvey fan. When he talks about how people should handle relationships I keep thinking about the 3 marriages he had and the accusations of extra affairs. Yes, I do know that no one is perfect, and I am not trying to promote nor denounce him. I cannot vilify him for meeting up with Trump, because in order to make things better some form on communication is needed somewhere. If Trump reached out to him then that means that Trump is “at least interested” in mending fences with the Black community. Should Harvey have received the treatment he got? In my opinion… “No.” Was he the right choice for Trump to reach out to? Time will tell on that development. However, I do believe it would have brought about a whole different demeanor from people if he had chosen to reach out to Oprah instead. That is just my opinion. Trump has not even taken office yet and things already appear to be in a state of turmoil (at least on the surface). The one thing that will not help any of us is to “attack each other.” People have a right to disagree with Harvey’s visit. People don’t have the right to judge the intentions of his heart behind the visit. Whether we like it or not, we are going to have to give our next president the chance to make good. I would rather judge him on the things he does as opposed to the things “we think he is going to do.” In order for that to happen he has to “at least take office first.” As for Mr. Harvey, I will not condemn his visit (at least until the results of that meeting come to fruition). “If” it brings about significant positive change, then “we all should applaud it.” We have no choice but to “wait and see.”  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“How to overcome some obstacles in relationships”)

I was talking to someone recently who admitted she was in a good relationship. She loved her man but she admitted that she checks up on him a lot to monitor his activity. She also said that her man told her that this was bothering him, but that has not stopped her yet. She will call him and if he doesn’t answer or return her calls in a timely matter she will continue to repeat call. She will “time” most of his events and if he is late she will ask him why. She said that she felt a man should simply want to divulge everything he is doing, otherwise he must be hiding something. I told her that in relationships that you should at least give the benefit of the doubt to your partner (unless you have already actually caught your partner doing something wrong in the relationship). Most men….no, let’s make that “most people” do not like to be controlled, stalked or monitored like that. It is one thing to want to divulge your information. It is another when you are “expected” to do so. From what this woman said she is in a good relationship, but they are having troubles getting past certain hurdles. According to her, he feels she is trying to make him “henpecked.” She, on the other hand, has trust issues each time she cannot reach him. How can they resolve this? The first thing  is to realize that “people are who and what they are.” If that sounds confusing (and it probably does) I am saying that it is always best to “recognize people for who they are” instead of trying to make them into “what you want them to be.” Some people just can’t be changed and if you know you are doing something that your partner doesn’t like, then you are only feeding negativity into your relationship every time you continue to do it. When you feel that your partner doesn’t trust you no matter what then the relationship is robbed of the closeness it needs to grow. No one is perfect. Most couples will encounter arguments (or disagreements if that is what you wish to call them). The main thing when it comes to handling disagreements is “timing.” If one (or both) of you is tired, frustrated, hungry or having a tough day, then that would “NOT” be the ideal time to engage in a long negative conversations concerning disagreements. When you try to force that issue it may never seem to get resolved. Also, there is nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree, meaning that it is okay to have differences, as long as you don’t let it have an effect on your love for each other. Finally, there is no need to keep a “short leash” on your partner. When you expect accountability for everything it can actually push you further away rather than bring you closer together. I told this woman that she needed to give her man a little leeway with more trust and faith if he hasn’t done anything wrong to her. Recognizing that people are who they are, she probably didn’t listen (and probably won’t). If I could talk to her man, I would tell him that his woman feels that way for some reason, and if he hasn’t done anything wrong then he needs to find out what that reason really is.  It could be from past experiences she has had in relationships. Couple usually know what the problems are, and even though it may be meaningless to try to “change the unchangeable” you still need to come up with a resolution for your issues. Learning each other better is a great start. As long as you know what you have to deal with, then it should be an easier task. Also, remember that “tomorrow is a new day” so you don’t have to bring the baggage from yesterday into the present. We all need “second chances.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Beyonces’ “Lemonade…” Real life story?)

The stories have been put out there for all to check out. Now it appears as though the saga is now displayed the the music and video of Beyonce’s newest musical project simply entitled “Lemonade.” Here is a video update on her new release:

I have always said that “Music is expression.” As great as a certain beat might be sometimes it’s the “message in the music” that makes the song the biggest hit. From the video of Beyonce’s sister fighting her husband Jay-Z in an elevator to the published reports of his infidelity speculation has run rampant over what people think “really” happened between Jay and another woman. Now it is quite interesting that Beyonce appears to be telling the world through her music her thoughts and feelings. In that regard I “admire” this, because true artists will “paint a story” through their crafts. However, part of me is sincerely skeptical about it, because we all know how this industry can be. If Beyonce is indeed portraying her true life story of infidelity in this project, the “only thing in my mind that cheapens the strength of this episode is the fact that she is “still with him.” Even if there are divorce papers out there, who does she come home to after each show? Who is she still seen in public with? Is it quite possible that Beyonce is only telling this story in order to get people to buy her material? Consider the fact that her husband now wants to tell his side of the story and respond with his new musical project. If you really want the public to know, then just “hold a press conference and talk.” If you prefer to sell your music and make money off of it, then “come up with a story that you want your public to hear and have them believe that this is your truth.” Games sell, and that formula applies to the music industry as well. I can’t tell you for sure if “Lemonade” is “fact or fiction.” I can, however, advise people to “listen with your minds instead of just your ear.” Even though I have not heard “any” cuts from her new project yet, the whole purpose of putting your project out there is to “sell it.” As long as Beyonce accomplishes that, then this project will be a success. Hopefully at some point I can actually get to hear her tunes and then come back with my own assessment. Until then, I hope you follow your heart and your mind when it comes to anything you wish to purchase. There is always “another story beyond the surface.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Is it right for ex spouses to get so much of a star’s money?”)

There was a hit television series out entitled “Empire,” and I have to admit that I am probably one of the “very few” who have not been able to watch an episode yet (I am usually playing on those nights). However, I have heard from people who practically “live and die” by the show. Since I don’t know a whole lot about it, I can at least talk about an article that I recently read in regards to it. My understanding is that the actor Terrance Howard is the star of the show. My other understanding is that his ex wife Michelle Howard, was awarded 21% of his earnings over 62 grand beyond her regular $5,800 she is due from  him each month. For those of you who would like the particulars, just check out this story link:

http://www.tmz.com/2015/03/30/terrence-howard-ex-wife-empire-salary-divorce-money-spousal-support/

The question that might be on some minds today is, “Should it be right for her to take such a huge chunk of his money like that?” Well, legally, the answer to that question is “yes.” The court saw fit to examine his wages and made the appropriate adjustments to his movie career income. Actors, like musicians, usually have income that varies from gig to gig. Some gigs (or shows) may be bigger than others, and therefore the amount of income earned may be higher as well. I have no idea of the details that Terrence Howard went through with his divorce, but if a judge saw in his wife’s favor to grant her a significant portion of his earnings, then he needs to be happy with whatever money he is “allowed” to retain. A LOT of prominent  people have to give up huge portions of their salaries to ex wives. I think i remember a situation where Paul McCartney had to fork over “hefty sums” to his ex wife with their divorce settlement. Is there a moral to this? Unfortunately, that might be “several” morals to these types of situations. The first one is an old classic song by the late great Johnny Taylor. The song is simply entitled “It’s cheaper to keep her.” Google it! The next moral is to just “do right” by your lover. Usually a judge will award higher amounts in situations of impropriety. Finally, if you are going to “tie the knot” then make sure you “know that knot well” before you do. There are people (men and women) who will have the intentions of “using you” if they feel they can get away with it. In other words, their sole intention is to “get your money.” Just because you love someone tremendously doesn’t mean that they will love you back the same way. Before going to that next level I think it is advisable to just “make sure.” By the way, I am not saying that this is the situation with this case. I am sure Terrence Howard is happy to be getting major roles and getting paid for them. I am sure he would be happier if he got to “keep more of the money he makes.” In the end “something is always better than nothing.” As long as Mr. Howard’s popularity lasts, then he “and his ex wife” should be “getting paid.” I just hope that when his career (and his money) goes on the decline that the same percentages will be properly allocated for his sake.  Either way, I wish the best for the show, and thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today. As always, i wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make it a great one.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The killing of 2 NY policemen… How tragic was this?”)

This is a truly sad story to hear, but for those of you who don’t know this story yet, 2 New York police officers were ambushed and shot by a crazed vigilante “allegedly” over the deaths of unarmed Black men. The officers, who had families, were picked “at random” and targeted because of the “They got us, so let’s get them” mentality. Now police departments all over are on alert because they don’t know when the “next crazed individual” may want to confront and massacre them. If you are unfamiliar with the full story,  you are more than welcome to check it out at the link below:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/22/police-departments-on-high-alert_n_6364524.html

Now the police are going to want to know if this man had been “provoked” into committing this action from some protest or “call to arms.” I can understand that logic to a certain extent but I think it would be more beneficial to focus on the overall picture here. First, this man “obviously” had some mental issues. There are reports that he shot his own girl friend and had attempted to take his own life before. How is it that an “individual as sick as this” was able to even “obtain” a gun? I have said several times before there needs to be stronger gun laws and background checks and we need to ensure that guns are not so easily obtainable (we also need to hold people accountable for the guns they purchase). While it is true that many people can “lie about their circumstances,” rarely will you find that a mentally troubled individual will be able to “easily” hide his or her misguided intentions. Crazy people will often say and do crazy things. This guy actually posted on social media pages and even got 200 likes… Also, I hope that people will not derive the wrong message from this. Others may feel inspired to “imitate” this man’s legacy, but that will not solve anything. There should be “no hatred” for police… Yes, some of them do need better training, but that should “not” be a reflection on “all” policemen and we need to realize that. Finally, we should not allow our anger to overshadow our “common sense.” The LAST thing we need now is a more “stressed out” police department. We also don’t need a more stressed out public in “fear” of being targeted either. At this point, it is no longer “their problem… It is OUR problem…” I hope that the public can make changes through “non violent” means. I’m also hoping that authorities can find a better way to apprehend unarmed Black people without having to “shoot and kill them.”  I realize that some people will take offense to this statement but hopefully the truth will set us “all” free… I believe it is time for a “new awareness” to take place, and if we can manage to check our emotions we all might be able to make significant strides for the betterment of “all.” We REALLY need to change the “gun laws…” How many more incidents like this can we bear without taking action? Malls, schools and the public in general are no longer safe for any of us. If someone posts something “troubling” on the internet, then the last thing we need to do is “ignore it.” By reporting it you may end up saving the lives of people very close to you. I thank you for reading my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make it a great one.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “What most aspiring singers should know”)

A little while ago, I played for a singer who performed a rather popular song. That is usually no big news, because  many singers love to sing songs that the public already knows, but what should you do when a singer is “literally off key?” This particular singer was an accomplished vocalist, but she couldn’t find the pitch of the song and was  no where  close to being in tune. During my career, I have encountered “many” performers who were “way off” the key of the song. For those who have not had a lot of experience in singing, they often “blame the band” for changing their key or for playing it wrong. The truth of the matter is that even the greatest of singers can have difficulty hearing themselves if the sound is not adequate. Most professional concerts will have “monitors” onstage so that the artists can hear themselves singing. A monitor is usually a little wooden box looking thing that transmits the sound back to the performers onstage. They are used “only” for the performers to hear themselves. Depending on the professionalism of the sound man (and the quality of your sound check) that problem “should” be rectified if all went well. However, “things happen” and there is no guarantee that you will be able to hear yourself when performing a show. So if a singer is off key, how should he or she handle it? You may have seen this a couple of times at professional concerts, but when a vocalist wants to hear their vocals a certain way, they will look out towards the sound man (or to the monitor technician) and ask for more volume or more reverb (or anything related to how they hear). A sound man is “extremely” important because he controls what the audience “actually hears.” You could be the most awesome performer on the planet, but if your sound man is not on top of his game then your entire show could be ruined. EVERY professional artist should have a good relationship with his or her sound man. Singer Anita Baker used to fire sound men left and right, because she would have bigger expectations for what she felt they were supposed to provide. Her reputation for dealing with sound men has not been very good. The sound men cannot make magic, and  they can’t make you a better singer. However, if your relationship with your sound man is a great one then it will help to enhance your show. The voice is a delicate instrument. It can go out on you if you scream and holler too much. Vocal training can help you “learn” the strengths and weaknesses of your voice, and help you to give strong performances without going hoarse in the process. When someone sings off key it is important to let him or her know (in a nice way, please) that the singing was a little off pitch. If the singer thinks that he or she is singing the song great then the next audience may not be as “lenient.”  Most times when  you are singing a song, if your notes don’t “feel” right to you then chances are they’re “NOT” right. Small things such as your closeness to the microphone, the softness of your tone and other things can be adjusted to give you better control over your singing. Criticism can be  helpful as long as you are not too sensitive to it. We ALL have to learn as we grow. If you are a vocalist, then I hope you find this information  helpful.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and I wish the absolute best to you and yours.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Double standards in relationships)

Mr. Jolly, I would love to know why there is such a double standard when it comes to relationships. If a man has been with many women, he is often admired as being some kind of king stud, whereas if a woman has had a lot of male partners, she is often called that “h” word that has a lot of “o’s” in the middle. Why should a woman save her virginity for the right  man in her life when chances are that man  will cheat on  her with other women  anyway? Us women are  damned if we do and damned if we don’t. Men are liars  and cheaters, and no matter what we do it  won’t stop them from playing the field anyway. If it sounds like I am angry it is because I am. I will wait to see how you respond to this.

I can feel the frustration in your words, and I do understand where you are coming from. It sounds as though you have had some really bad experiences that seem to have tainted your feelings towards men. While your pain is probably  justified, it is still unfair to label ALL men based on your experiences with only  a few. The ones you were involved with  may have done you wrong, but their actions should  not speak for ALL men. I can pretty much assure you that there is some man out there right now  who wishes he could find a woman that will accept him as a good  man, because there are many women who will turn a man down because of his lack of height, his occupation or his money situation. You cannot change the past, but you can surely “learn” from it. Maybe you need to handle things differently. Maybe you need to learn more about the men you are dating before you get intimate with them. I am not saying that you are promiscuous at all, but your words make it sound as though you gave up “something” to a man you believed in only to get “hurt” in the process. Yes, women are often unfairly tagged, and a man will label based on what you “do” and what you “don’t do.” You should not worry about what a man thinks of you. You should concentrate more on what you “think of yourself.” As long as you feel you are doing what is best for your “own” integrity then who cares what some man thinks? I do believe you need to take some time out to ease your anger, because your anger has you seeing things in a “one sided” way.  It will be tough to develop feelings for another man when you still carry around the baggage, hurt and pain from your past relationships. What’s done is done. Let it go and find happiness within yourself. Your life is not over and you have everything in the world to feel blessed about. This is not an ending, but rather a new beginning for you. As long as you respect yourself, then men will have no other choice but to respect you as well. Sever  the past from your thoughts and learn from your experiences, and I guarantee that will help you to find that right man in your life. He “is” out there, but it is up to “you” to recognize him. Don’t let your hatred blind you to the “truth.” Good luck to you, and I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

 

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