I got a call from a friend of mine who I worked with. He told me that he had cancer and that the doctors had actually given him 10 months. I was shocked and saddened, and I usually have an encouraging word for everyone. I just couldn’t figure out what to say to him. He told me that he was coughing up blood and he sounded horrible. It was sad to hear. I then realized that life can end at any moment for any one. You can wait for something great to happen or you can just seize the moment while you can, for tomorrow is never promised to anybody. My friend is still alive, and while he is alive there is still hope, but his situation did not sound good. I would not want to tell anyone how to live their own life, but what you get out of it depends largely on what you are willing to invest into it. If you are dealing with rejection when it comes to things you want to accomplish then you need to look for ways to surpass that rejection. Make your life count and don’t take “no” for an answer. For instance, take a look at your own life. Are you happy with everything you have wanted to do? If the answer is “no,” then you have work to do. No matter what stage of life you are in, you can keep setting up goals for yourself (and keep on accomplishing them) until you finally resolve all world hunger. As crazy as that sounds, it is possible if you only “believe.” My friend is courageous and I believe in him. “Fight” until the battle is over. “That…” is what the “true” quality of life is all about… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Lalah Hathaway (Daughter of Donnie Hathaway) and Kim Burrell with sound check along with Brett Jolly
Money, and the lack of it has been used to legitimize failure on many occasions. The lack of money has broken up relationships, caused people to change jobs and made many people unhappy. When you say you are poor, chances are you really mean it, but are you really? If you have a roof over your head, a place to wash up and if you are able to get food, then chances are great that there are people much poorer than you. When you compare your circumstances with the people who “have nothing” then you might find that they would “gladly change places with you.” Some people have equated the lack of money as reason to be depressed. Money does not guarantee happiness. There are many rich people out there who have just as many problems (and maybe even more) than you do. If you had a lot of money you could buy anything you wanted, but how boring and unfulfilling would that be after a while? You would have to spend “more money” just to protect the money you have and your life would become much more complicated. If money is not the answer then what is? “Respect, love, and self worth…” No amount of money can make you feel like a million. It comes from within… Yes, you may not have as much as you want to have, but you are doing well considering the circumstances, right? If you started your own business, and dedicated yourself to it, and it became successful that should make you feel better, because you “earned” the money you achieved. The end destination is nowhere near as exciting as the steps you took to get there. Make yourself proud of what you have accomplished, and use what you have done to propel yourself even further. You may never become a millionaire, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t still feel like one. If you depend on money you may never be happy. Enjoy what you have, and strive to make it better. You might be surprised at what you can accomplish… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Aretha Franklin and Brett Jolly
Stormy Daniels is a porn star. Stormy Daniels is also basking in a lot of current publicity because of her “alleged affair” with the President of the United States. Stormy Daniels is way more popular now than she ever has been. Stormy wants to tell her story so that she become even more famous. Until her story can be told she really isn’t saying much, but yet a lot of people still want to interview her anyway. How should this be taken? For me, Presidential affairs seem very common. Whether it is Marilyn Monroe or Monica Lewinsky these things surface from time to time. I believe there have been many other coverups that a lot of people don’t know about. If I were Donald Trump, I would allow this woman to just tell her story. At some point it is going to get told anyway. The more he tries to deny and conceal it the more attention it is getting and the bigger it is becoming. If she does in fact “tell her story” then I don’t think too many people will really care. Trump was a millionaire playboy. I don’t think anyone can refute that. He is already President, so this can no longer hurt his election chances. If she is lying then all that is really needed is to simply say “prove it.” Anyone can say anything they like, but until they have proof it is simply talk. I believe most people think he was involved with her already. I played for Trump’s birthday party many years ago and I personally saw him talking with topless models (and I do mean topless). I already know what everyone else pretty much knows. This story will not go away, so why even bother trying to hide it anymore? If he never met the woman (like he claims) then there was no need for any type of agreement between them (thus there was no need for her to be paid anything). If he did meet the woman and had a sexual relationship with her then who cares? When things seem inevitable then why sweat it? It will disappear quicker if you stop trying to make it go away. Time will tell the rest of the story on this one. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Estelle (“American Boy”) at sound check with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
This was a small instrumental piece we performed last night at my open mic event. It is so much fun and even though it was a cold night here in Philadelphia we still had a great crowd. Norman Connors (“You are my starship”) came out to join us last night and we played a little bit of everything (and even took requests). If you are ever in the Philadelphia area on a Wednesday night you should join us between 8:00 pm and midnight at the Crab Tavern (201 North Macdade Blvd in Darby, PA). You can sing, play, or you can just listen. Either way, you should have a great time. I am the one standing with the two tone bass guitar. Thank you and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
I was disheartened to hear talk about Bruno Mars not being true to his own culture due to the ingredients of his music. I have nothing but love for what he is doing, and I consider him to be the only “true” musical leader left in a sagging entertainment field. When I heard people talk about his ethnicity and how he only borrows from other Black entertainers I was shocked. The Beatles openly admitted they benefitted from the styles of other artists such as Chuck Berry. According to Quincy Jones, Michael Jackson stole from other artists. How many lead guitarists have tried to “emulate” Jimi Hendrix? In entertainment was there a big fuss when Bo Derek started wearing hair braids and making it popular (something the Black community had done for years before her)? How about when John Travolta started using dance moves in “Saturday Night Fever” that Blacks had been doing for “so many years” on Soul Train? Music is a learned trait. You don’t learn how to play without at least hearing how others have done it before you. Bruno Mars has taken Black music and continued to make it popular, while other artists have gravitated into this crazy style that not many people like. I am a big fan of Bruno Mars and I hope he doesn’t try to change his music just to appease those small amounts of people who want to make his music “political.” We ALL have to borrow from somebody or else we will never learn…. and never grow…. Instead of attacking him we all should be supporting him for keeping great music alive. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
The Whispers in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
I had heard that an old interview on OJ Simpson was recently released to the pubic, in which he “hypothetically” discusses the details of the murder of his wife Nicole and Ron Goldman. Many years ago OJ was “acquitted” of this crime and it was labeled as the “trial of the century.” This article today is not about whether or not he actually committed the crime or not. That was many years ago and OJ ended up in jail anyway for another crime. So why bring it back again now? OJ’s life has already been ruined and he knows he needs to keep a low profile or else he could possibly end up back in jail (or worse). He is hated and scorned for his deeds by many. For some reason this interview was stifled years ago, and now it has been released for the public to hear. If the public needed to hear it, then it should have been released back then. OJ most certainly didn’t ask for this to be released now. I think “finally” OJ has gotten to the point where he knows he needs to keep a “very low existence” while he can. For those who would like to check out public reaction to the new interview you can find it in this article:
This issue needs to be laid to rest. Did OJ commit this crime? In my mind, probably so. Did he get away with it? In my mind, he did, but got punished in other ways (He went to jail for 9 years for another crime). Do we need to let this go? Yes, OJ is old now and this news benefits no one at this stage of life. There are “many” people who served a lot of years in prison for crimes they didn’t commit that have been recently released with new technology that proved their innocence. In this circumstance the justice system probably did the exact opposite. If there is anything that needs fixing, it should be the justice system. If we are going to fix it, we need to make sure it is fixed for “all” people, not just the ones “we” choose. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Jill Scott in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
Everyone should have limitations. What are yours? If you are in a relationship and realize your partner can be “dangerous” at times, how long should you stay with him (or her?) People have lost their lives supporting people who made bad decisions. A friend of mine was terrible when it came to driving while tired. His wife stuck with him through thick and thin until they both lost their lives one night crashing the car on the Atlantic City expressway from fatigue. I know of one lady who was the girlfriend of a well known drug dealer. He drove around in a fancy red car and I said that his life was about to be over. The very next day people caught up with him (and his girlfriend) and killed them both. I also knew a sound engineer who had a great career but couldn’t control his drinking until one night he crashed his car and ended his life. Right now I know of a lady who has a great man, but when he gets drunk bad things happen. He will say and do things in public that will not only embarrass her but could very possibly hurt her. They both live together, but should she stay with him? When he is sober he is the nicest guy in the world. Many years ago my mother became an alcoholic. On many occasions she came very close to having an accident with my brother and me in the car. One day we came home to find out that she shot herself during her drunken stage. We were young and had no choice but to stay with her, and we are fortunate to still be alive. She was put into alcoholics anonymous and she stayed sober until she died from ovarian cancer in 2004. When she had a problem with alcohol her symptoms were the same as everyone else. She said that she really didn’t have a problem. She also said that she could quit anytime she wanted to. I know the signs for alcoholism. When people say that they really don’t have a problem then that is a strong sign for concern. Should you stay with someone like that? I say that you should “test” their love for you in that circumstance. You should ask them to go to Alcoholics Anonymous just to see if they would do it for you. If they choose the alcohol over you then it may be time to rethink your situation. I would never tell anyone to break up with somebody, but if your health and safety are at serious risk then you need to think about your options. Too many people have lost their lives making bad decisions or putting their faith into someone else. Alcohol addiction is a bad disease that can endanger everyone. Love is important, but love should never blind you to the real possibilities. Your mate’s actions could seriously impact your life. How much control over you should he or she be allowed to have? Think about it, because the decision you make could alter your own existence. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Comedian Chris Tucker, brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly in concert