“Taking tragedy and adverse circumstances and re-channeling that energy.” I got a call from a woman who a couple of years back lost her son to violence. He was killed and the sad part about that was the fact that he was a good looking young kid who never got into trouble. He just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. I know of another woman whose daughter recently committed suicide because she felt she was a huge burden on her family and she suffered from depression. When things like this happen, no words can every alleviate the pain that a parent (or loved one) goes through on a continual basis. To even think that you can make the memory go away is unrealistic. However, the woman who lost her son just called me and told me that in honor of her son she is now thinking of starting a new magazine. She explained the details of what she wanted to have in it and the special sections she wanted to feature. She said that the loss of her son hit her hard and she ultimately felt the need to “do something with her life.” I told her that was a great decision, because when you sit alone by yourself and do nothing else but reflect on your losses it only “compounds your pain.” This concept applies to “just about any sadness” you may experience in life. It could be for an ex lover, a lost job or a failed friendship. Many of us get so caught up with trying to “mentally fix things in our heads knowing fully well that what transpired is irreversible.” We have difficulty accepting the fact that “what’s done is done.” I am a firm believer in “re-channeled energy.” When tragedy hits you, you could spend a lot of time focusing on what happened or you could take the energy from that tragedy and make something good happen. We all have bad moments in our lives that we wish never happened. Trying to “wish those memories away” never works. “Improving your own quality of life is a great way to move on. I applaud this woman for taking the necessary steps needed to channel her life in a new direction. She still misses her son incredibly, but she now uses her memory of him to motivate her to go on. I realize that some things are “easier said than done” and “life is never that simple.” There are a “ton” of excuses we can use to just “wallow in our own depression.” I can’t tell you how to make the hurt go away. No one can… but when you take that hurt and allow it to “motivate you to make positive change” then that loss can bring about a new directive. You don’t have to contribute to your own depression. Pick up the pieces of your life that you have left and “make a dream come true.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.
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A “very bad shot’ but this is Chaka Khan and Brett Jolly onstage
