Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Making the most of life’s adversities”)

“Taking tragedy and adverse circumstances and re-channeling that energy.” I got a call from a woman who a couple of years back lost her son to violence. He was killed and the sad part about that was the fact that he was a good looking young kid who never got into trouble. He just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. I know of another woman whose daughter recently committed suicide because she felt she was a huge burden on her family and she suffered from depression. When things like this happen, no words can every alleviate the pain that a parent (or loved one) goes through on a continual basis. To even think that you can make the memory go away is unrealistic. However, the woman who lost her son just called me and told me that in honor of her son she is now thinking of starting a new magazine. She explained the details of what she wanted to have in it and the special sections she wanted to feature. She said that the loss of her son hit her hard and she ultimately felt the need to “do something with her life.” I told her that was a great decision, because when you sit alone by yourself and do nothing else but reflect on your losses it only “compounds your pain.” This concept applies to “just about any sadness” you  may experience in life. It could be for an ex lover, a lost job or a failed friendship. Many of us get so caught up with trying to “mentally fix things in our heads knowing fully well that what transpired is irreversible.” We have difficulty accepting the fact that “what’s done is done.” I am a firm believer in “re-channeled energy.” When tragedy hits you, you could spend a lot of time focusing on what happened or you could take the energy  from that tragedy and make something good happen. We all have bad moments in our lives that we wish never happened. Trying to “wish those memories away” never works. “Improving your own quality of life is a great way to move on. I applaud this woman for taking the necessary steps needed to channel her life in a new direction. She still misses her son incredibly, but she now uses her memory of him to motivate her to go on. I realize that some things are “easier said than done” and “life is never that simple.” There are a “ton” of excuses we can use to just “wallow in our own depression.” I can’t tell you how to make the hurt go away. No one can… but when you take that hurt and allow it to “motivate you to make positive change” then that loss can bring about a new directive. You don’t have to contribute to your own depression. Pick up the pieces of your life that you have left and “make a dream come true.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.

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A “very bad shot’ but this is Chaka Khan and Brett Jolly onstage

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought ( “The concept of rape between spouses”)

http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/28/politics/donald-trump-adviser-michael-cohen-rape/

Michael Cohen, top aide for Donald Trump, leveled a comment that he has since apologized for. He had originally said that “You cannot rape your spouse.” This all stemmed from an article in which Trump’s former wife claimed that she once felt violated by Trump once while they were married many years ago. Now Ivana Trump says the article is “without merit” and even Trump distanced himself from Cohen’s comments. This should be the end of the story, but for some reason this topic still sticks with me. For those who would like to check the article out for yourselves, you can find the link up top. In the Biblical sense, the woman is supposed to be a man’s property once they are married and the man is supposed to look toward his wife for “all of his sexual needs.” In fact, I talked to one woman (who I know was not submissive in ANY regard) and even she said that a wife is the “property of her husband,” and no wife should be able to tell her spouse “No.” I also talked to another woman who “disagrees with that concept entirely,” because to her “rape is still rape no matter what the circumstances are.” This debate is also compelled by a pastor’s sermon that I once heard a couple of years back, where he claimed that under “NO” circumstances “should a husband and wife ever divorce.” I am a firm believer that a woman should “always” be respected, and NO man should be able to “take his own liberties” with any woman against her will. This case also opens up yet “another can of worms” of other proportions when you think about it in depth. If, in case, a wife doe say “No” to her husband (and he honors her wishes) does that give him the “go-ahead” to actively seek sexual gratification from another woman “outside” the marriage? Since Biblically his wife is supposed to be the “sole” responsibility to his sexual needs does that mean that once the wife breaks that vow that he is now free to venture elsewhere? In this particular case Trump said the right thing and disagreed with his aide’s comments, and the aide  himself has since apologized. Relationships between men and woman are vital for our own survival. While we admire our women for the beauty they posses we have to keep in mind that there is “much more than just good looks there.” Rape should be a crime under “ALL” circumstances against someone’s will. This story with Donald Trump should “technically’ be over and I end to treat it as such, but I am sure that the debate over “woman as property’ will stem on for years to come. I would love to know what “women” have to say about this. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the best of it today:)

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Brett Jolly with Muziq Soul Child at PIR studios

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Video song of my band performing “Slipping into Darkness” by War)

At my Wednesday Night performances, we have so much fun and we like to play just about anything. Here we are doing a song by “War” simply entitled “Slipping into Darkness.” Chris Odom on guitar, Keith Simpson on drums, Benny Barksdale on sax, Stan Brisbon on keys, Cowboy on percussion and me, Brett Jolly on bass and lead vocals. This was recorded recently at the Crab Tavern in Darby, Pa. Hope you enjoy.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The absolute dumbest comment ever made to me in music”)

The other day someone asked me what was the dumbest, craziest, and most asinine statement anyone has ever made to me in my music career. It didn’t take me long at all to come up with this one. A long while ago I actually auditioned for one of those “wedding bands.” I was invited to do so, and the money they were talking about making seemed tempting at the time. However, I just could never get into the wedding band mentality for playing music. They take a simple 4 chord song and make it seem like it is the most major thing in the world to play. Well, for this one group I was at my very first rehearsal and the band wanted to play this classic song by the Jacksons entitled “Shake your body down to the ground.” The song is pretty much the “same groove” for bass “all the way through the song. The only real difference is at the beginning where there is a small bass pattern that counts like this: “One… Two… One, Two, Three, Four…” For those of you who cannot catch it or hear it, this part actually comes in at the 6 second time mark of the song (on the video it comes in at :06). So, just like the “actual record” I played the bass line “exact.” The main guy who was in charge of the band told me “You shouldn’t do that.” Confused with a weird expression on my face, I simply asked him “Why not?” His answer made history with me, and for the rest of my life I will never forget what he said. He simply told me “It might confuse the dancers.” Upon hearing this, I  just stared straight ahead at him (even though for some reason it felt to me like I was just staring straight into space). I could not believe he actually said that to me. Here is the actual tune itself for you to hear. Does this part confuse you in any way? Remember, the part I played comes in at the .06 second mark of this video:

After what felt like a lifetime of silence, I finally spoke to him and said, “You know what? This band is obviously way too sophisticated for me, and I don’t think i am good enough to encompass this type of mentality. All of this is way above my head.” I gathered my guitar and headed for the door. He told me “Rehearsal is not finished yet. You can’t leave.” I told him that a full earthly catastrophe could not keep me in this building another second. I left and his mind still couldn’t comprehend what just happened. The next time rehearsal came, he called me and asked why I wasn’t there. I told him that I couldn’t drive straight and I didn’t want to confuse the police trying to get there.

Truth be told, there were probably crazier things said to me, but for some reason this statement “really stuck out in my mind.” For me, it doesn’t make a difference how much money I am being paid. I have to be happy playing, and crazy logic will set me off at a “moment’s notice.” Thank you for allowing me to share the dumbest statement of my musical career, and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Gary US Bonds (“I danced until a quarter to 3”) and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Red Bass Guitar Photo shoot with Cheryl”)

Cheryl was a waitress who wanted to get her pictures taken with the red bass guitar. She had seen some of the areas I had utilized before and she developed a strong liking to this particular one. She did a great job and i hope you don’t mind me sharing her results with you today. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“One of my favorite slow songs of all time”)

This song is clearly “dated.” It is “old” and it is somewhat of a classic. The message is very simple and straight forward. However, the groove is awesome. The musicianship is extraordinary. The piano riffs are incredible and the whole vibe of the song just touches me. They don’t make tunes like this anymore, and we are the ones who are losing out because of it. I do realize that “one man’s music can be another man’s misery,” so I would understand perfectly if other’s disagree with me on this choice. However, every time I hear this song it brings a smile to my face. You may have heard this tune before or you may not have, but if you are hearing this for the very first time I only hope that you feel what I do whenever it is played. This is one of my favorite slow music pieces of all time. It is by an old group called the Ohio Players,  and “this” is the song:

I hope you enjoy, and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Need a hobby? Play an instrument”)

I love it when people come up to me after one of my shows and compliments me on how well I play. Even though i usually give the regular standard answer (“Thank you, it’s really all about having fun for me.”) it still makes me feel good to know that people have taken notice of my skills. For each song i play I “never” try to play it the “exact same way as before” because then I feel as though I am compromising my creativity when I do. However, I never play songs so recklessly that no one can recognize them anymore either. The fact is that playing music for me is a stress reliever, a relaxer and an escape from reality for me. Yes, for “most” gigs I get paid, but even if I didn’t receive a dime, I still love to play. Whenever news crews with cameras come into the place to film the band, most times they get the bass guitar player, so at first I always ignore them (because they don’t like it when you look straight into the cameras). However, after awhile, I will “gladly’ stick my face into the camera and give off the world’s biggest smile. Onstage i am (and will always be) a “ham.” The bigger the crowd, the more I will “show my behind” onstage. I say this because to be ordinary is “bland” to me. Why be like everyone else when you can be different? Playing an instrument gives me that opportunity, and while I am a musician I still play with responsibility. I don’t do drugs, don’t smoke and definitely don’t get high off of anything but life. Some people have come  up to me and asked just how difficult it is to play an instrument. I always say that “if your heart is truly in it then it is not difficult at all.” I was self taught on piano and bass guitar, and I love the fact that I can say that. If you would like a hobby, I would “strongly suggest learning how to play an instrument.” Even if you don’t make it to a professional level and get paid for gigs, it is still a way to enter another dimension of life when you play. I have taught lessons on bass guitar and piano and it is great to see others learn from what I am teaching. If you automatically think that learning to play an instrument is “too difficult” then you are ALREADY making the task too hard stemming from your own words. Be receptive, be willing, and please remove the word “can’t” from your vocabulary, because you can do anything you want to do if your heart is motivated enough. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Singer Lyfe Jennings and Brett Jolly in studio

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