Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Are women more scrutinized than men in the media?)

If a man is promiscuous is he viewed the same as a woman of the same nature? Is there a double standard when it comes to the sexes? What about a woman whose sexual history is scandalous? Does that mean that she “can’t” be a victim due to her activity? I came across an “interesting” interview video with Amanda Knox (who spent 4 years in a Italian prison) and was released. Here is the actual interview:

When a man “boasts” about treating women as inanimate sex objects “he can become President.” What about a woman who does the same thing? Women like Monica Lewinsky and Stormi Daniels have been vilified in the media simply because of sexual history. Does this mean that we should think they are incapable of telling the truth? Recently the “Me too” movement has resulted in some vindication for women who have become victim to male predators. Bill Cosby was recently found guilty of inappropriate sexual behavior and now Harvey Weinstein is facing charges. Powerful men have taken advantage of women for their own gratifications for a long time and essentially “gotten away with it.” Now that it the atmosphere seems to be changing what will this do for the image of women? Can they now be viewed as more than just sex objects for visual display? I have found that there are “very intelligent women out there who just PLAY THE ROLE of being inferior” just so they can be viewed more positively by the male species. Is it wrong for a woman to be superior mentally? What do you think? James Brown once had a song out entitled “This is a man’s world” but the subtitle simply stated “but it would be nothing without a woman or a girl.” Obviously the entire race could not exist without women. Should women be more valued than what they are? Our own perceptions are based upon what we have been taught. Everyone can be viewed equally if we stop supporting those negative views. Equality doesn’t have to only involve “men.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Musical segment taken from last week at my Wednesday night event)

Yes, at my Wednesday night event we have a “LOT” of fun. We play songs for some great local talent, and we also take requests. Sometimes we play requests for the very first time, and considering the fact that we do so without rehearsal they usually come out fairly well. People don’t care if there are any minor glitches. They just love the fact that we actually tried to play the songs “on the spot.” This is another fun tune that we tried last week, and I wanted to share with you today. If you are ever in Philadelphia on a Wednesday night I hope you can make it out to see us at the Crab Tavern (201 North Macdade Blvd in Darby, Pa from 8:00 to 12 midnight). I am singing lead and this is a great tune from Stevie Wonder. I hope you enjoy the clip, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (When people continually make the wrong assessment about you)

“When people show you who they are (whether good or bad) you should believe them.” Someone once said this, and this is very true. You can try to go by what they say but ¬†when their actions continually contradict their words then that reveals the real story. When people accuse you of things that aren’t true you could spend most of your existence trying to prove them wrong or you can just come to the realization that it won’t matter. You will be damned if you do and damned if you don’t. They don’t have the faith (and in a lot of instances will never have the faith). You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink it. If you have to continually convince someone that their thoughts about you are wrong then you will always be fighting a battle you can never win. No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. I think that if God can forgive us of our sins then we should be able to forgive others. I will just about always forgive (but it doesn’t mean that I will forget). Life is way too precious to always have to defend yourself against false accusations. When you wait long enough, people will show their true colors. Whenever that happens, remember them. Thanks for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Nathan Watts (Bass player for Stevie Wonder) and Brett Jolly


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (A tribute to veterans on this Memorial Day)

In a tribute to all veterans, today I would like to post this video of a song I wrote years back. For all the veteran’s who participated in helping to keep us safe we could never be thankful enough. Our world would be vastly different today if it had not been for them. If you are able to live any type of peaceful existence today, then the first person you need to thank should be “God.” The second person you need to thank is a veteran. Happy Memorial Day everyone. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Red Bass Guitar Photo Shoot with Chrystal)

Every women should have a photo shoot, because whether you are older, younger, small or large you are still beautiful. A perfect case in point is Chrystal. She just turned 50 years old, she is considered large for regular model size, and yet she still looks great. I have worked with her before and she loves ALL of her pictures. On this particular day we had to shoot very quickly. It might even have been my shortest ever because I had another commitment that I had to rush off to. She still handled herself greatly and did an excellent job. I hope you enjoy her pictures. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Should we agree with Wynton Marsalis on the state of rap music?)

Recently I read an article about Wynton Marsalis, the famed trumpeter who is a historic jazz icon. In the article he referenced rap music and said that it was more damaging to society in general than the statue of Robert E. Lee. He said that the mention of ho’s, pimps and drug dealers created a negative stereotype that seemed to push negativity of the Black image. Some people took exception to what he said, but was he correct? From what I know, “some” rap music does in fact exploit negative concepts. It is part of the culture that some rap often exhibits. While some of rap has gone in this direction it should be fair to note that “not ALL” of rap music should be assessed the same way. By the way, for those who would like to check out his response to the criticisms directed his way here is the article:

I have found that there are a LOT of things in the media that harbor negative thinking. When you see a black person play a drug dealer or a pimp in a movie these are images that also promote negativity. For example, many years ago the movie “The color Purple” was released on the public. At first everyone loved the movie and it starred a mostly Black cast (including Oprah Winfrey). Once it was exposed to the public that the movie promoted incest within the Black family the popularity of the movie faded quickly. Our views are largely impacted by what we experience. While some rap music has downgraded our views it is no different than other things that do the same. George Washington owned slaves (so did Thomas Jefferson, who even had kids from his slaves). While we cannot change history but we can surely learn from it. The recent movie entitled “The Black Panther” was excellent in many ways. It didn’t promote any of the negativity of the Black Stereotype that is often associated with movies and it was extremely successful. We need to continue to accentuate the positive images of us. Hate is often based on what is taught. If we don’t stand up for us, then how can we expect others to do the same? Wynton Marsalis may not be correct when it comes to ALL rap music, but his point had a LOT of validity to some of it. We should never be blind to the elephant in the room. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly, Wynton Marsalis and keyboardist Stan Brisbon

Wynton Marsalis

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Believe it or not, Facebook wants your naked photos)

At first I couldn’t believe I was reading this. In fact, I had to look it over a couple of times to make sure I wasn’t being delusional. In an effort to avert revenge porn, Facebook now says that it would like for you to send your naked photos to them. I think the concept works something like this: If they “already have” your naked photos, then no one else will be able to upload them on the site. Now please keep in mind that this is the very “same” Facebook that went under scrutiny for having your private information revealed and used by manipulating sources. If you want to check out the article for yourself, here it goes:

Revenge porn is an ugly thing. This is usually done by immature people. However, can this idea of Facebook actually work? They guarantee that “only a handful of people working at Facebook will see the pictures.” So what happens if the perpetrator happens to slightly “augment or change” the picture? Well then, the picture will upload anyway. I applaud Facebook for at least trying to look for ways to avert revenge porn. However considering all that has happened recently with them, I don’t think my faith in them is very strong at this stage. What about if Facebook could actually be “sued” each and every time an explicit photo or a live video of a murder gets uploaded to the site? Do you think they would find a way to curb this type of activity then? I bet they would… Some people are prone to do bad things, and often these people would love to have an audience when it comes to their unlawful activity. Facebook can reach many with it’s live broadcasts and many viewers. Facebook created this problem, and maybe Facebook should figure out a way to solve it. In the meantime, don’t take uncompromising photos with anyone you don’t trust. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Aretha Franklin and Brett Jolly