Brett Jolly’s Daily Though (What men need to understand about women)

First and foremost: A woman “cares.” She wants to see the best in her man (even if the man cannot see it in himself). In most cases you cannot fault a woman for her loyalty and genuine demeanor. She loves to have a man that she is proud of. If a woman jumps on your case, it is probably because “you deserve it.” When a man does proud, he does her woman proud as well. Men need to stop treating women as though they don’t know what is going on. In most cases, women will know more than the men do. Men also need to understand that it is important to “spend time” with your woman. It doesn’t mean that you have to spend “each and every free moment with her” but at least allocate some special moments with her. It is one thing to “get” your woman. It is another to “keep” her. Whatever you did in the beginning of your relationship you need to continue to do throughout. Women love compliments. Tell your woman periodically how special she is to you. If a man is successful, then women already know that he will approached by many other women. The best way to keep a man is to keep him satisfied. “A tired man” won’t wander off on you. Men need to think more when it comes to “temptation.” With the “METOO movement” it is making more sense to stick with the woman you already love. When a man tries for someone new it only takes “one slip-up” for the man to be in hot water. Usually with your own mate you can be comfortable just “being yourself.” It is also important for men to see “beyond the surface.” Learn the inner portions of a woman, because chances are good that her “cute figure” won’t last forever. When the beauty fades you will be left with her personality. As long as you recognize that your chances of having a great relationship will enhance. When it comes to arguments (and this WILL happen) keep  several things in mind. NEVER let a woman’s anger cause you to become violent towards her. If she makes you angry, she should never be able to “outrun” you. Take off and sprint if you have to, for her sake as well as yours. Also, never argue with her when either you or she is tired or exhausted. It is difficult to listen when people are screaming at each other. Finally, recognize the “new day” clause. No matter what you went through the night before, today is a “new day.” Start the new day fresh without making reference to all the negative things you debated the night before. Finally, let your woman know the things she does that tick you off. Encourage her by letting her know about the things she does that make you happy as well. If you can do “most” of these things you should have a good healthy relationship. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Far away shot of Chaka Khan in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar






Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (What women don’t understand about men)

Being a man, I had to think “carefully” about what I am about to write. I don’t want to appear pompous or arrogant, but there are a couple of things that might be beneficial for women to know about men. Tomorrow I will do a Daily Thought on what men don’t understand about women, so please withhold your hatred and judgment for now, thank you. Men love attention, and men love it when women give them attention. However, that does not mean that men like to be controlled or interrogated about “everything.” Sometimes men need a little “me” time, which means that solitude  will help a lot of men collect their thoughts. Men may not always be right, but we tend to find ourselves more when we have “some time alone to think about it.” If a man desires to be alone for a small amount of time, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or that he is being disrespectful. He just needs some space. There are women out there who occasionally need “space” from their men as well. As long as it is handled properly, then there should be no misunderstandings. Also, a lot of men hate to be “misjudged.” If a woman has a problem with a man, then there is nothing wrong with that, provided she “find out the details FIRST before formulating an opinion.” A woman may not even know a man’s circumstances (but she THINKS she does) when she “assumes him guilty of something.” Then men have to try to put out a fire that never should have been lit in the first place. The benefit of the doubt is extremely important to men. If they can at least get that, then things shouldn’t fall apart. Please avoid being “pushy” with a man. When you try to force yourself into every aspect of his life then it may feel like “too much.” Most men need a good woman to help them be the best they can be, but men don’t want to feel as though their entire lives are being “dominated” by the women they love. It is important to know when to back off with a man. Finally, try to avoid listening to your friends all the time when it comes to your man. EVERYONE is entitled to his or her opinions, but yet those people have their “own” problems and therefore need to focus on their own issues. When it gets to the point where a man has to address another person’s issues about your situation, then it is no longer about just you and him.  Some people love misery, and they hope to see you miserable as well. This is dangerous. Please keep in mind that the most fragile thing about a man is his “ego.” When a man feels his ego is being threatened then that is when he is subjected to the worst kind of hurt. A good woman can make a man feel better again. However, if she attacks his ego she may cause more damage. Every person is different, so this may not apply to all men. However if a woman can keep these things in mind then it might make a huge difference in their relationship. It is important to know when to “pull back.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly and Stephanie Mills before a concert

Stephanie Mills and Brett Jolly

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (What ever happened to cloning?)

I remember years ago there was a big uproar over cloning. From what I remember there was an issue over some sheep that had actually “been cloned” and it was named “Dolly.” Since then I have not heard much about cloning. I don’t know if scientists have given up on it or if they have become more “secretive” with it. I decided to Google it and came up with several different scenarios. Here is one article:

When I think about the possibilities of cloning I am amazed at the “possibilities” of what can happen. If what I think is possible then it could mean the end of food shortage. It could also make parts for people in need (like a spine or other body part for those who are crippled). With something that could have such an impact why would it suddenly disappear? I do realize that “human cloning” is a dangerous area to fall into, but there could be some great positives resulting from that as well. Do we abandon cloning just based on the morals factor of it? There are people in great need  of things that can possibly be helped out by cloning. Is it possible that the process is still going on but underground? Considering the startling revelation of it when it was first publicized I find it difficult to believe that the process of cloning has been abandoned totally. Somewhere I believe it is still going on, but we just may not know of it. If that is the case, then somewhere in the near future it will come back out again (hopefully with more improvements). Time will tell, and we shall see. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly with actress Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly



Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Song from last night)

Yet another fun time at our Wednesday Night Event. We enjoy ourselves so much. We had a “ton” of requests (and we played them ALL). Some of them we knew but most of them we didn’t. We didn’t care. This is what “live” music is all about. In order to grasp the full ambience of it you just need to be there. The Crab Tavern on Wednesday nights, 201 North Macdade Blvd in Darby, Pennsylvania, from 8:00 pm to 12 midnight. This is a classic Van Morrison tune that was requested, and I hope you enjoy it. Thank you again for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Houses being built by robots now?)

While technology is deemed by many to signify improvement, it does seem to come with some “costs.” I just recently read that a great house was built in only 7 days by “robots.” While this may “marvel many” there are still other things to consider. First, how many people lost jobs when these robots were constructing this house? Since the house was built in only 7 days, how many “more” workers will lose jobs in the near future? For those of you who do not know the story, here is the article:

How long will it be before technology makes us all “obsolete?” A long time ago a car was invented that could actually get a thousand miles on one tank of gas. Why wasn’t this car inducted into society? Think of all the gas station attendants that would be put out of work if this happened. Years back post offices were the main means of sending communications to people. Once the internet was discovered the post office has lost a lot of its business. Technology once again became prevalent. Some workers must either change to accommodate new technology or find themselves unemployed by it. Recently technology produced a car that actually “drove itself.” This car was being hailed as the “new way” for future cars. People were raving over this car. However, one woman who actually had one of these types of cars was devastated when her “self driving car” ran over and killed a pedestrian woman. Technology was faulty and it cost someone a life. That is why I withhold judgment on this house for now. Technology was crafted by people, and people are not perfect, so mistakes can be made. You can make your own determination as to whether this house was great news or not. There are pluses and minuses of both sides. However, usually if technology can save money then it usually “wins.” We will see with this one… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

The Emotions in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar



Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (This country song entitled “Old Town Road”)

My daughter told me about some country song that had been number one for quite awhile. In fact, it had been number one so long that it prohibited most notable country stars from being number one. What is so particular about this one song? It is done by a Black man. For those of you who don’t know, it is very rare for any Black person to receive notoriety doing country music. Country has long been considered a genre for mostly white artists. I don’t know a whole lot about country music, but the only Black artists I can recall are Ray Charles (who did “some” country music), Charlie Pride and (possibly) Lionel Richie. Some of Richie’s songs just happened to cross over into country as well. There might have been more but right now I just don’t recall any. For those of you who are not familiar with this song, here is the video:

At first glance, I notice that this video also features Chris Rock and Billy Ray Cyrus. I am guessing that was purposefully done to help Lil Nas become more acceptable to the Country crowd. The video is a little confusing to me. I may have to look at it “several times” in order to fully understand it. As for the song itself, basically I am hearing the same 4 music chords played over and over again. The melody line is very catchy and easy to remember. In fact, once you get it in your head you may have a tough time tying to erase it from your memory. From what I know, it seems like the young kids know (and like) the song, so I guess the marketing of it must have been successful. How much more this artist is going to accomplish in country music remains to be seen. He could have a long career or he could do exactly what Billy Ray Cyrus did (have one big hit record and then disappear somewhat). Time will tell on this one. Congratulations to Lil Nas on his song, and let’s see what happens after this. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (What is the problem with casting on the “Little Mermaid?”)

Here we go!!! Disney is producing a new take on the one time cartoon movie “The Little Mermaid.” While this should be something great for everyone it has sparked tension in a lot of people. The reason? Disney has casted a “Black female” to play the lead part of Ariel. People have gone to Twitter to voice their displeasures over this. Here are some of the postings:

The one thing I can say about movies is that I love the way they can be “modernized.” In Superman Clark Kent no longer has to go into  a telephone both to change into his Superman costume. There aren’t many phone booths left to change into today. By the time Clark finally finds one the crime will have been perfectly perpetrated. I, too, grew up with a White Ariel with red hair, but I am more than welcome to seeing a change happen. Those people who are upset over the color of the new Ariel’s skin are obviously narrow minded in their thinking. There are “no set racial characteristics of a mermaid” because in reality mermaids allegedly “don’t exist.” Ariel can be green from being in the water so long for all I care. To me it doesn’t make a difference as long as they can justify all of it by making it seem “real.” When the movie Aqua man came out the actor looked “nothing” like the cartoon portrayal. That might have helped the movie. Times change. People change. If you are stuck on the racial ethnicity of a fictional character then your mind is stuck in the past.  Ariel can be black. Charlie Brown can be black. Captain America can be black (Wait a minute, I think he “is” Black now). Whatever it is, just try to accept it and try to grow from it. I look forward to seeing the new “Little Mermaid” coming out and if it has a Black female playing the lead then God bless her. As for the rest of those people who have racial issues with this, I hope you take a DNA test and find out that part of your own ancestry has a minority in it of some kind. Hopefully THAT will set your mind straight. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Dionne Warwick and the O’Jays in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar