Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“When you texted him at 8:44 and it’s 8:44 and he still hasn’t responded back to you yet

Someone sent this to me, and as stupid as this may sound on the surface for some people it is “actually reality.” There are several things wrong with this statement, and I only hope tha…

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“When you texted him at 8:44 and it’s 8:44 and he still hasn’t responded back to you yet

Someone sent this to me, and as stupid as this may sound on the surface for some people it is “actually reality.” There are several things wrong with this statement, and I only hope that when you check this out you don’t fit into this category. This doesn’t necessarily have to apply only to women reaching out to men. It can also apply to men reaching out to women as well. The sad part about this is that when you get upset over not getting an “immediate” response back then it doesn’t say much about the man, but it says a LOT about you. Self esteem should be important to very individual. If you can’t feel good about yourself then how can you expect others to feel good about you? While this statement is really a gross exaggeration anything even remotely close to it should be deemed unnecessary. The only man who should have freedom to talk to you all day long should be a bum who lives on a park bench, because if a man is available to chat and text with you all day long then he obviously has no job. If you have nothing else to do all day but chat and text with him then that means you need some form of activity as well. Relationships are great, but we should never put ourselves in a position where we are so dependent on them that nothing else matters. It is great to love someone, but it is also great to love yourself. Every relationship should have some form of “space” to it so that you can at least have the chance to “miss” one another from time to time. I am not saying you need to “disappear for long lengths of time” but it is important to have a good balance of “love time” and “you time.” This concept also applies for those who need to explain or divulge everything they do so that their whereabouts are always accounted for. Love should not be about control. If you have faith and trust in someone, then when you text him or her you will “automatically understand” that your partner is “busy at the moment and will get right back to you as soon as he or she is finished.” When you call right back (because you feel he didn’t respond back to you quick enough) then it  gives off an air of insecurity and/or weakness. Unless it is an emergency (correction: a “REAL” emergency) then you should allow some time for your partner to at least finish up and contact you back. When you allow your imagination to get you upset (over what you THINK could be happening) then you are only ruining your health and stress levels in the process and that is not good. Faith can get you through a lot of obstacles, but only if you allow it into your heart. In order for your partner to feel that you are secure, he or she won’t realize if from what you say, but rather from what you do. When you believe in your partner, your partner will believe in you. When you believe in you, your partner will also believe in you. Stop worrying about things you imagine in your head that never happen. Give your partner enough space to respond back to you and watch how much happier you both can be. If you feel you need to know every aspect of everything that your partner does then it is no longer about love, but rather control. Be stronger and smarter than that. You count too. Allow him the opportunity to “check up on you” from time to time.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers in concert with Brett Jolly on bass

The Whispers and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My long music weekend”)

People will often ask me what it’s like to be a well working musician. Many think it is all fun and hardly any work involved. Well, this past weekend will hopefully give some better insight as to what I have to deal with on a regular. First off, Friday I actually did manage to get “some” rest. It was by far the easiest day of the weekend for me. However, Saturday I had to play in Long Island, New York (which was about a 3 hour drive from where I live). I was performing for some type of high level “Tina Turner tribute.” I was not their regular bass player but I normally sub for anyone who needs a fill in player and can’t do a whole lot of rehearsal. The interesting part of this was that I had to learn all the arrangement to about 20 tunes (which is a lot). I had to be at the original location by 12 noon and then travel to Long Island, do sound check, get the game plan and then do the show. This took up most of the day until the time for the show. When everything was finally over, I managed to do the show and got back home around 2:30 to 3:00 am. I am very thankful that the show ended “early enough” or I might have gotten back much later than that. On Sundays I have to play 2 services at church, starting at 7:30 am. This means I really need to get up by 5: 30 am (even though I will often let the alarm go off and try to continually hit the “sleep” button. Yesterday morning I felt like I was carrying bags of rocks as I tried to get out of bed. People told me my eyes were really red and I looked like a zombie who was trying to get life back in my body. Church services go on and usually never finish until about 2:00 pm. On MANY occasions I will actually fall asleep periodically in church, hoping that no one ever sees me do it. Then finally, after church was over I had yet “another” gig to do. After leaving church at 2:00 I had to be at sound check by 4:00. The gig was supposed to start at 6:00 but didn’t start until around 6:30. Needless to say I don’t think I got back home until after 10:00 pm. I was “drained” both physically and mentally. During this process I had to learn and retain the contents and arrangements of over well over 70 songs just for this weekend. If I didn’t have perfect pitch I probably would never have been able to do it. Who those of you who ask, “yes” I will have weekends like this from time to time… I do love what I do, but this is still a job for me, and it can be draining at times. Sometimes the most difficult thing to do is smile through it all. For the record, I am happy playing music and making a living off of it. For those of you who would like to get in this field just keep in mind that it is “not” all fun. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Comedian Chris Tucker, brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly in concert

Chris Tucker

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Red Bass guitar photo shoot with Cat”)

Cat sings, and she actually sings well. She said that she only viewed herself as a background singer, but many of us thought she was talented enough to lead her own show. After confronting her about modeling she was “very receptive” and that is how we managed to get these pictures. Due to time constraints we could not take many pictures on this particular day, but the ones we managed turned out well. I hope you enjoy her session. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the absolute best that life has to offer.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“What to make of Richard Spencer getting punched”)

Neo Nazi activist Richard Spencer is someone who overtly promotes hate. He is someone whose philosophies  should be rejected by all decent members of the human race (in my opinion).  Recently he showed up at the Trump Inauguration and while being interviewed someone came up to him and actually decked him with a resounding right hand. People are having a “field day” with this  clip and several have put it together in music videos (there are several of them out there, and I think more may be coming). Many people are celebrating this clip by saying “He got what he deserved.” The problem with him right now is that he may be getting too much attention and that may only make him stronger. People who did not know him before are more aware of his platforms now. Does this negative attention make him more ridiculed or more popular than ever? For those who need more information just check out the link below:

http://www.theverge.com/2017/1/23/14356306/richard-spencer-punch-internet-memes-alt-right

I have to admit that I did find this clip funny. While I do not promote violence there was something about this video that just made me smile. However, in the long run what does this really do for Richard Spencer? We need to keep in mind that Donald Trump “also received an avalanche of negative promotion prior to his election and still managed to win it all.” Can this principle cause some sort of backlash and work in favor of Richard Spencer as well?  Time will tell. The real issue is that the more attention he gets the more he can use it to his advantage. “Hate is real” and while the majority of people are beautiful in mind and spirit there will always be an element out there who is in need or prayer. For the record, I do not wish him any harm. To be that way would only bring me down to his level. I would, however, love it if the very next time he wants a public platform for him to have a grand audience of “zero.” I’m sorry, maybe he should have a few pigeons there to listen to him. Please let’s be aware of what this man really needs for him to grow. He already knows that people are against him. He already knows that more people want to punch him as well. He welcomes all that attention. In the long run, he is “only as strong as we make him.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Olivia Newton John, Brett Jolly and musical director Amy Skyy

Olivia Newton John and Brett Jolly

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“If Trump came to you for advice, what would you tell him?”)

I realize this is a loaded question but I wanted to ask it anyway. Everyone who has been following the recent span of politics here in the United States already knows the stormy climate surrounding our new President. Recent Polls support the theory that Donald Trump is already riding the “lowest wave of popularity for ANY incoming President. He recently reached out to Steve Harvey for advice on handling the minority community. I would like to know what YOU would say to him if he came to you for advice (and this would be on “anything”). Would you express anger towards him or would you just tell him that he is already doing a great job and congratulate him? Many people have already voiced their concerns through protests, tweets,  and public opinion. Some have said they would refuse to even talk to him. I would definitely talk to him, and I would have no problem telling him my own opinions. The first thing I would mention is that it would be very unwise to ignore the public. The anger is real and I would let him know that from this point on it is not what he says that will win the public over but rather what he “does.” I would also advise him to stop responding back to those who say negative things about him. He is quick to single out “anyone” who says anything bad about him and gets coverage from the press. He should have more important matters to focus on, and he needs to realize that no matter what he does he will never be able to please everybody. I would also advise him to “delete” his Twitter account. That seems to be the one thing that has gotten him in more trouble than anything. If he doesn’t want to delete it then at least get a representative to handle it for him. My BIGGEST thing that I think he should do is address the public with a “cleansed soul.” In other words, I think he should go public and just “ACKNOWLEDGE” any past negative behavior by simply saying that he knows he has not been perfect, but is willing to change for the betterment of the people he now serves. To me, THAT would be HUGE…. The more ego and arrogance he shows the more people will respond to him negatively. No one is perfect and there is nothing wrong with admitting that. Sometimes even Presidents need advice.  That is why they hire cabinets and advisors. Trump may need to rely more heavily on his people if he isn’t sure of the possible consequences of his actions. Right now he is under the public “microscope.” Anything he does runs the risk of being scrutinized before he even completes it. If I had the chance to talk to Mr. Trump, I would not do so with any anger, animosity or hatred in my soul. I would be honest and genuine. I would not want to revisit the past because no matter how much we look over our shoulder at it that scene “never changes.” We can only control the present and try to make a positive impact on the future, and that is where the focus should now lay.  Would you say that same to him if you had the chance or would you say something else? Everyone has an opinion on something. That is what democracy is all about… Maybe one day, you will get the chance to tell him. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly with Good Morning America host Robin Roberts

Robin Roberts and Brett Jolly