Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The dismantling of my generation”)

I honestly don’t have a problem with growing older. It is necessary and it sure as heck beats the alternative. However, the one thing that I am noticing is that I am slowly “losing touch with everything that I was brought up with.” In my childhood I was taught to write and do math on paper. People didn’t have computers during my early years. I also remember pay phones, comic books that sold for 12 cents, gas prices that were under a dollar and so much more. I never heard of AIDS, Lyme disease or Ebola back then. So much has changed. I loved the  music that I grew up with, and the style of it touched my soul in many instances. It suddenly feels as though my reality is slowly fading from view. Now when I listen to the radio stations that not long ago played my favorite music I am instead listening to songs with a “younger format.” My radio stations are focusing more on reaching a younger audience while neglecting my age group in the process. I never thought that my generation would ever stop listening to the radio, but the stations seem to be abandoning us. The other day I decided to check out the Gospel station in my home town. I still remember what conventional gospel music sounds like (and even contemporary gospel music). I was surprised to hear Gospel tunes that sounded like the harshest of hip hop music. This station even featured promos with the message “We’re combining the inspiration with the streets.” I am hearing a lot more “rapping” on the Gospel station (One song even featured Kanye West). I realize that evolution is a necessity in life, but I just never thought that my age group would forgotten like that. Jazz stations have given way to “smooth jazz stations” whereby artists like Luther Vandross and Simply Red are now labeled as jazz artists. During my day that was not the case. Since I am a songwriter I am now based with the realization that I may need to change my “own view” of what I consider to be popular music. Gone are the days of Prince, James Brown and Michael Jackson. The music that is popular now sounds nothing like them. Considering the fact that people in my age group are also passing on I am now having difficulty finding my own “reality.” Change is immanent. You can either go with the flow or fall by the wayside. There might still be a market for the values I was brought up with, but it looks as though I will have to be the one to pursue it to see if it still works. Yes, my world is slowly evaporating, but I will need to expand my sight in order to see what’s ahead.  I can’t even find my old typewriter. If you live long enough, one day your world will change as well. Let’s hope that we all will still be able to see “past our own realities.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Can streaming revive the music industry?”)

Kanye West recently announced that he is giving up on making CD’s. Of course, there seems to be a “lot” of things that Kanye has given up on recently, but let’s examine this new revelation closer. The music industry has been trying to sell CD’s for years but it’s efforts have not been very successful. Music giants like Tower Records and Sam Goodies went out of business years ago because people stopped buying from them. Check out the link below to hear Kanye’s story:

http://fortune.com/2016/03/07/kanye-west-tidal-cds/

New stations like Spotify are streaming music. Apple I-tunes offers downloads. Most of the young folk I know of will download the tunes they want online. Will Kanye’s move signify the “end” of the music CD? Needless to say, the internet has imperiled the music industry for quite some time now. When it became apparent that people could share files online, that sparked the decline of CD music sales. It was already doomed when people began to realize that the music labels were selling CD’s with just one good song on them and making the customer pay for all the other “bad material that came along with it.”  With downloading, you can get the “one good song you want” and not have to pay to buy the whole thing in a “package.” However, will the “extinction” of the music CD be enough to revive the industry? None of the artists today sell like the artists of yesterday. Years ago you used to hear of major artists albums going “platinum” while making millions in sales. They would receive an actual “platinum record” to signify this accomplishment. Those days seem to be “long gone now…” When it comes to downloads, I think you can purchase a song for somewhere around $ 2.00. Of course, the artist himself won’t make a lot of money off of that sale because of the high overheard of having to promote your song. They have to pay the DJ’s to play it, they have to pay to market it, they have to give away free samples to promote it, and once all that is done there probably isn’t much left from that $2.00 to sustain a good living. You can actually hear my own music on Spotify (I discovered this recently… I didn’t even know they had me in their system). In the very near future, it will be interesting to see what happens to the industry as we now know it. The music labels still “own” the conventional radio stations so you will still never get to hear the best music (only the best music that money can buy) and they have been struggling as well. Maybe the change is a good thing, or maybe this is just another bad chapter in the “collapse and fall of the music world.” I guess we will just have to stay tuned to see. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Why is it that we always hear from ex’s during the holidays?”)

At first I thought it was just me, but after talking to others I found out that for many people ex girlfriends, ex boyfriends, ex acquaintances, and ex everything else will call up during the holidays. It’s almost as though they actually “use the excuse of the holidays” to “justify” contacting you. Never mind the fact that you probably severed the relationship on bad terms. Never mind the fact that you told them you never wanted to hear from them again. No matter how wrong they were most of them figure they can “wipe the slate clean” by just checking  up on you with a holiday wish. For me personally I don’t have a problem with it, but I just happened to notice that it seems to happen more frequently around this time of year. Then I found that others said they go through the same thing. Does this mean that we can actually “expect to hear from ex’s during this time of year? Relationships are funny sometimes. We often think we have it bad until we move on to someone “who may actually turn out to be worse.” Also a lot of us never learn from the previous relationships, often repeating the same mistakes (just with a new partner).  However, there are also plenty of us who are “very happy” with the person we are now with, and that is a “blessing.” I don’t want to get off track, but I just wondered if hearing from your old acquaintances during the holidays applied to just me or to many others out there? As far as I know there is no law against it, but “should there be?” Well, thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Positivity in music”)

So a young lady comes to me and tells me she is interested in developing a music career. She was in her 20’s and brought her 8 year old son with her. Usually whenever I talk to an aspiring artist I first ask little questions like “What kind of music do you want to perform?” and “What type of image do you want to portray?” She told me that she wanted to maintain a positive image in her music and wanted her music to be inspirational to others. It was refreshing to me to actually hear someone say that, because much of today’s music has no real identity. Artists will sing about anything that might promote bad behavior or is just downright disrespectful. I heard her sing one of her songs and it had a very positive  message to it. I would love to produce the song, but I also had to warn her that the music industry is not what it used to be. Over the years it has become much more “visual” in concept and there has been less of a focus on good singing. Of course, that might also explain why the industry is in danger of “crashing and burning” as well. There should be “nothing wrong” with promoting a positive image in music, so why is it that the industry does so little of it? Truth be told, the answer doesn’t lay with the industry, but rather with “us.” What we buy determines what they offer, and if we continue to support music that promotes degrading women or calling them bad names then who is really to blame? If someone can release a positive image song (and it actually sells) then the rest of the industry might not have any other choice but to “follow the leader.” I love what this woman is trying to do. I just hope that we can be successful “doing it.” Music is “much more powerful” than most of us can imagine. People have been influenced in so many ways just by a song they happened to hear and like. Sometimes a song can make the difference between a good day and a bad one for a lot of people. As long as there is a need for trashy lyrics and crappy music then the industry will continue to “pump it down our throats.” Let’s hope that we can show them that our values  and tastes are much higher than that… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The Day After”)

“The day after’.. I woke up this morning to assess the damage that was “predicted” for my area from the predicted snow storm. I was expecting to “barely” see the top of my car and I was imagining that my front door to my house would have problems opening due to the tall order of snow. Lo and behold, in some areas I could actually see huge patches of the street. The roads looked “very” passable, and at this moment I realized that we “avoided” a major storm. Even though it is “still” snowing outside, at the present time it looks as though we escaped this one. I walked my dog up the street and had absolutely “no problems” doing so. This kind of thing has happened in Philadelphia before on several occasions. The weather forecasters would “prepare us” for a “massive” system only to find out later that we either got just a “coating” or hardly anything at all. I have heard that other areas north of us got a couple feet of snow, and I wish the very best for them in trying to deal with it. I have experienced large snowfalls several times in my life, so I am no stranger to it by any means. It just feels good to know that  at least on “this” day we were spared. This also lets me know that when it comes to forecasting the weather, there is only “one true” meteorologist, and I think we “all” know who that is. Schools are closed, and probably a lot of other places as well. I guess for today I will be closed as well. I just wanted to share my experience with you today, so I hope you don’t mind. As always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer, and please stay safe.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Is he a stalker?)

Mr. Jolly, what constitutes a stalker? There is this man who follows everything I do on Facebook, and every time he sees me with another man he always finds a way to “tell” them that he is either married to me, my boyfriend, or sometimes he will even go as far as to say that he “was” my boyfriend. If he can’t say it to them directly then he will just come close enough and say it loud enough so the man can hear him. When I told him to stop trying to talk to my male friends he says he is only doing it for fun, like a joke. He thinks it is funny but it isn’t. I called him a stalker because he comes to my job to watch me and he can always tell me about everyone I talk to (because he is always monitoring my activity). I am getting tired of him going up to every man that he feels is a threat (even though we are NOT a couple by ANY means). He is not harmful in any way, so I know I am safe. He doesn’t believe he is a stalker at all. Is he right or am I right?

A stalker is someone who tries to follow what you do, where you go, and monitors your activity.  If this man is coming to your job to see you, and if this man wants to know everyplace you go, and then monitors all your activity on Facebook, then he “is” a stalker. This particular man obviously doesn’t want you to have a relationship with any male other than him, and that could be a problem down the road. You have the option of going to police and getting a restraining order against him.  Some people cannot handle rejection well and usually those are the ones who “become” stalkers. As for your new male friends there shouldn’t be much of a problem, because even though he may try to convince them he is your man, they should know the truth by the fact that you are talking to “them” and not “him.” The question is not whether or not he is a stalker (because obviously he “is” one) but how  you can get him to stop interfering in your interactions with others. If you don’t feel like getting the restraining order then you can “always” get some man to “pretend” to be your “new” boyfriend and have him step to him. Once the concept of “boyfriend” has been established in his mind then hopefully he will start to turn his aggressions in another direction. You might want to consider “blocking” him on Facebook as well. Some people govern their “whole lives” according to Facebook, and what they don’t seem to realize is that you can find out a “lot” about a person just from his or her Facebook page. If a stalker has your personal information then that makes it a lot easier for him to “stalk.” Block him and alert your job so that they can have security throw this man out whenever he comes around. Right now he might not be much of a problem, but if he is meddling in your social life then that is never a good thiing.  Try one of the options I just mentioned. No woman (nor any man) needs to be stalked. Address this problem “now” before it “starts” to get worse. Good luck to you, and have a great day.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Friends”)

I am in this relationship that confuses me at times. I have a man that I love and I think he loves me back. We have been together for 7 months. The problem that I have is that he continues to label us as “friends.” What does that mean? Am I being naive in thinking that we are something else?

I have found that in relationships the term “friends” can have quite a few “different” definitions. It could mean something strictly platonic, it could mean that you are seeing different people or it could mean that you only get together for sexual gratification. However, when it comes to the term “friends,” about “ten out of ten” times it “usually” means “no commitment.” If you think you are in a “committed” relationship then you may need to check with him to see if he is on the same page as you. Most couples who are committed to each other would never use the term “friends.” The fact that he is referring to your situation as a “friendship” could mean that he sees things completely different than you do. If you plan on  having a future with this man, it would be best to ask him to “clarify” what he means. You may need to prepare yourself for his answer, though. If he can refer to you as his friend openly then I am sure he won’t have a problem letting you know where you stand with him. The good news is that you are early in your relationship (7 months is not too long), so if this doesn’t seem right to you then you won’t lose much by cutting the strings now. It is important for you to know what you want out of a relationship. If this man feels that you will always be content being his “friend” then there will be “no” incentive to go to a “next” level. A woman has a right to know. Good luck to you and here is your “great” friend, the Phantom Poet:

In my relationship, I don’t know where the term “lovers” begins and where “friendship ends”
But it gets even more confusing  when my man only refers to us as “friends”
There are several different definitions of friends, according to at least one study
I could be his pal, a swinger, or basically his f— buddy
Have I been tricked or is it even possible that I have just been misled?
He had better define this right before I swing this baseball bat to his head
I asked him and he said, “You are only my friend so what else did you expect?”
I said, “Then let’s shake on that pal…No, not your hand….but rather your neck”
For him to say that to me puts him in the same category as most nitwits
He forgot that he lent me his credit card, so now he’s a “friend with benefits”
I am about to go “empty” his bank account, and I surely won’t be defeated
I will use up “all” the money he has until his money stash is “depleted”
I thought about leaving him at least 5 dollars, but then I ended up taking that too
Then I told him “If you use unto others, then expect others to use unto you”
I told him I took all his money and none of it should he ever expect me to replace
Then I said, “Friend, let me slap you five… right across your face”
The moral of this story is that if you use a woman, then you had best be warned
Because Hell hath no fury like that of a “woman friend…” who has been scorned

“Now we can become good boxing buddies”… The Phantom Poet

 

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