Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought “The Power of the NRA”)

The recent shooting in Las Vegas was bad… very bad… The man who committed the shooting had never really been in trouble with the law before. In fact, Stephen Paddock was 64 years of age, and obviously someone (or something) sent him over the edge. As people go through life, changes happen, and some of those changes are not pleasant ones. Those changes we may not be able to see in time, but the problem here was not the changes he went through. The real problem was the ease at which he was able to accumulate his “large” arsenal of weaponry. The NRA (National Rifle Association) is now trying to make it easier for people to purchase silencers for their guns. Out of the 22 thousand people in attendance for that show, can you imagine how many more would have died if the shooter had actually had silencers? The NRA is a large and powerful industry. They have survived many past shootings, and even though there have been countless attempts for stronger background checks the NRA continues to deliver weapons to the wrong hands. Most of them will simply say that stronger background checks won’t make a difference, because people will only lie about what their plans are with the guns. That may very well be true for those with sane intentions, but have you ever talked to a person who is certifiably crazy before? Timothy McVeigh was a terrorist who believed that the government was wrong when it came to the way they handled a situation in Texas. He talked about the government to everyone who would listen and once you heard him you could automatically “tell” that something was wrong. He was one of those people that should not have been able to acquire a gun. The same could be said for just about anyone with those same type of intentions. For those people who want to kill innocents, their message is important. Those are the people that the NRA needs to hold responsible. We can continue to deny that the NRA has any involvement in this situation (but I can tell you that the shooters are getting guns from “somebody”). The NRA has a lot of money and a lot of power. Someone looking for votes from this organization cannot possibly expect to win after confronting them. As long as this organization can sell to everyone we will continue to have more shootings just like this one. The BEST way to start is to toughen the background checks on people. Of course, this has been said before… “many” times… but until we actually get the message in our heads the NRA will eventually have us all “killing each other.” Let’s see if they find out exactly where this gunmen got his “many” guns and then let me know if you think the NRA has anything to do with it. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers in concert with Brett Jolly on bass

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“When you texted him at 8:44 and it’s 8:44 and he still hasn’t responded back to you yet

Someone sent this to me, and as stupid as this may sound on the surface for some people it is “actually reality.” There are several things wrong with this statement, and I only hope that when you check this out you don’t fit into this category. This doesn’t necessarily have to apply only to women reaching out to men. It can also apply to men reaching out to women as well. The sad part about this is that when you get upset over not getting an “immediate” response back then it doesn’t say much about the man, but it says a LOT about you. Self esteem should be important to very individual. If you can’t feel good about yourself then how can you expect others to feel good about you? While this statement is really a gross exaggeration anything even remotely close to it should be deemed unnecessary. The only man who should have freedom to talk to you all day long should be a bum who lives on a park bench, because if a man is available to chat and text with you all day long then he obviously has no job. If you have nothing else to do all day but chat and text with him then that means you need some form of activity as well. Relationships are great, but we should never put ourselves in a position where we are so dependent on them that nothing else matters. It is great to love someone, but it is also great to love yourself. Every relationship should have some form of “space” to it so that you can at least have the chance to “miss” one another from time to time. I am not saying you need to “disappear for long lengths of time” but it is important to have a good balance of “love time” and “you time.” This concept also applies for those who need to explain or divulge everything they do so that their whereabouts are always accounted for. Love should not be about control. If you have faith and trust in someone, then when you text him or her you will “automatically understand” that your partner is “busy at the moment and will get right back to you as soon as he or she is finished.” When you call right back (because you feel he didn’t respond back to you quick enough) then it  gives off an air of insecurity and/or weakness. Unless it is an emergency (correction: a “REAL” emergency) then you should allow some time for your partner to at least finish up and contact you back. When you allow your imagination to get you upset (over what you THINK could be happening) then you are only ruining your health and stress levels in the process and that is not good. Faith can get you through a lot of obstacles, but only if you allow it into your heart. In order for your partner to feel that you are secure, he or she won’t realize if from what you say, but rather from what you do. When you believe in your partner, your partner will believe in you. When you believe in you, your partner will also believe in you. Stop worrying about things you imagine in your head that never happen. Give your partner enough space to respond back to you and watch how much happier you both can be. If you feel you need to know every aspect of everything that your partner does then it is no longer about love, but rather control. Be stronger and smarter than that. You count too. Allow him the opportunity to “check up on you” from time to time.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers in concert with Brett Jolly on bass

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The DNC yesterday”)

It rained so hard yesterday in Philadelphia that my basement actually flooded badly. Thunder and lightning and dark skies made the day seem so eery and mysterious. The Democratic National Convention was held rain or shine in my home town and after I finished mopping up a LOT of water I focused my attention on the convention. I kind of equate these conventions to some churches. Since all the people are there for the same purpose then to me it just kind of feels like the speakers are essentially “preaching to the choir.” They won’t change the mind of anyone there, because all the people in attendance are there to support the same person anyway (and have already decided).  While it is important to cast your vote behind who you want to elect there will be people watching on television who may not have made up their minds yet, so I am guessing these conventions must be aimed at those people. Each side feels as though they offer the best platforms, and unless something crazy happens none of them are ever going to switch over. There are also those who honestly believe that their vote is a waste (due to the electoral process). Are they right in what they say? Picking a leader is important, because your very lifestyle could hinge heavily on the decisions of that leader. The natural thing for me to say is that if you don’t like the direction of the country then “vote to make a change.”While it is important to vote with your heart, it is “imperative” that you also exercise your mind. Many people vote according to their party and while that is understandable should it also be considered proper? If you “knew” that your party representative was not qualified, had a history of making bad decisions with terrible policies would you still vote for him or her just because of party unity? Some people (uh, make that MANY people) would, and that is why the greatest asset this country has is the “intelligent educated voter.” No, I am not saying that certain voters are dumb, but rather I am saying that if you “study and know” your choice and are educated about the candidate”s policies (and make your choice based on what you know as opposed to who you represent) then you are an intelligent educated voter. These people make their choices based on who they feel has the “best qualifications” to run the country. No one is perfect, so no candidate is perfect. However, sometimes you may have to choose between the lessor of 2 evils. These conventions often provide entertainment, but we should not forget that our jobs, our lifestyles and our values are at stake with this election. Today’s Daily Thought is not about trying to sway anyone’s vote, but rather a statement to say to learn all you can about your candidate BEFORE voting him or her into office. Voting intelligently means never having to say “You’re sorry.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish  you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers with Brett Jolly in concert

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“It’s time for Spring maintenance”)

I do realize that different parts of the country experience different seasons and different climates. For me here in Philadelphia, we are just entering our Spring season, which “hopefully” means our winter era will soon give way to warmer temperatures (with new flowers blooming, bugs flying and sunnier days). During this time of year I try to take more walks. Taking walks during the cold is tough to do because the Philadelphia winds will make you cringe and want to do a “quick turn-around.” Keeping the blood circulating in your body makes for a better health situation. For me, walking also helps the mind, because I think about a lot when I take walks. However, it doesn’t stop there for me in the Spring time. I also make my own assessment of “everything” during this time of year. You see, I am firm believer in something I call the 100 % improvement goal. In other words, I will take “any one particular field or activity that I would like to improve on,” and then I will dedicate an entire day (or a couple of days) to “improving myself in that particular field.” The point in this is that chances are excellent that I will never be able to be “perfect” in what I am attempting. The goal or objective is to “reach for perfection” so that you can actually “come as close as possible.” I recommend it for everyone and it could be about anything. You can work to become a “nicer person” to people. You can try to become less sensitive to what others may say about you. You can try to improve your bowling game or your singing skills. It doesn’t matter what you try to improve in as long as you make the attempt to improve. Each year I ask my daughter if I can still wear something like a muscle shirt. I value her opinion because as we get older we won’t necessarily wear our clothes the same way. The moment she tells me that it’s time to put the muscle shirts away then I will move on to the “next chapter.” According to her so far I am “still good.” As for you, I hope you designate your own time to do your own physical and mental maintenance. You don’t have to to neglect your body or stop growing or improving. Your life is what you make it, and the quality of your life depends on what you devote to it.  Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, so I aim to get my nickel’s worth today. Hopefully you feel the same way… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers and Brett Jolly in concert

The Whispers and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Remembering Nicholas Caldwell, from the Whispers”)

Nicolas Caldwell, an original member and part founder of the legendary R&B group the Whispers, passed away recently at the age of 71. While he was never a lead singer, he was part of the background singers with a smile that  many ladies said they loved. The group had maintained itself for over 50 years, and that says a lot for these guys. I remember years ago I used to open up on tour for them. I remembered watching their dressing rooms and seeing scores of women enter and leave. They were all energetic when going in. They were sluggish when leaving though. I had no sure idea of what was going on, and I don’t want to make any bad assumptions here. Years later I had the opportunity to play for them at an hour ceremony. We only did this one song of theirs entitled “Chocolate girl” and at the end of the song the group sings the title together in harmony. Well, at rehearsal the harmony was “way off” and I looked at them and asked “Are you guys all right?” That was when Nicolas looked at me and said “Sorry, we forgot to bring our voice samples with us, so we have to actually sing this harmony part right.” He also complimented me on the small bass passage that comes in right after they sing the part “Chocolate girl.” He said that most other bass players never play that part or get it wrong, but he told me that I was “right on it.” Below is a small story about him:

http://www.theguardian.com/music/2016/jan/07/nicholas-caldwell-of-rb-group-the-whispers-dies-aged-71

It was my pleasure to get to perform onstage with this legendary group, and my deepest condolences go out to his family. For the group itself, the “beat still goes on” and they are still doing it for their fans. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

The Whispers with Brett Jolly in concert (Nicolas is the one to the far left)

The Whispers and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My experience with the Whispers”)

I was playing for some event called “The R&B Awards” a couple years back. On this program there were a LOT of stars that I had to play for, and some of them we had absolutely “no rehearsal with whatsoever.” Jean Knight, the lady who had the classic hit titled “Mr. Big Stuff” actually met us for the first time when it was time to actually perform the song onstage. We didn’t even get the chance to say “hello.” They announced her and then she came out from the right stage entrance and began singing right after we started playing the song. The same thing happened for Dionne Warwick and several others for this program. I remember one group that we actually “did” get the opportunity to rehearse with and the name of that group was “The Whispers.” This group has been around for over 50 years, and I remember years ago being part of their tour when I was with Jean Carne. I remember being backstage and watching women go in and out of their dressing rooms like water. They were full of energy going in, and they were “very lethargic” coming out. At this point I am sure you can imagine what I was thinking at that time. Needless to say, now I actually had my opportunity to play for these guys. We were only doing one song, and that song was a nice classic entitled “Chocolate girl.” Everything went well as we rehearsed the song, until the very last note that they had to sing. The last not was one that the group was to sing in harmony (the last 2 lyrics of the song which actually were the words “chocolate girl.” Well, somehow the harmony didn’t turn out right. I looked around and asked the fellas if they were okay. Nicolas looked back at me and said “We normally have voice samples that hit that harmony for us, but we didn’t bring them.” Well, that told me a lot about their show. Nevertheless, it was a great chance for me to play for them. By the way, they DID manage to get that harmony together for the actual performance of the song. I also had a chance to talk to them in length and of course, I DID ask them about the women that I saw coming in and out of their dressing rooms years ago. Needless to say, I will NOT comment on that today. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my story with you today, and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Whispers and Brett Jolly in concert

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