Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The trial of Bill Cosby”)

During my lifetime I have seen a lot of positive role models brought down. The one that I always thought would never be touched was Bill Cosby. Technically at one point he was “America’s Dad.” He actually starred in a television series where he portrayed a “positive Black image” and was actually very successful with it. Everyone respected Bill Cosby. Now he is battling allegations of sexual misconduct in a courtroom less than a half hour from where I live, and if you haven’t heard the recent news, here is the link:

https://www.aol.com/article/entertainment/2017/06/06/bill-cosby-trial-day-2-andrea-constand-testifies/22129462/

People have asked me my feelings on this. I honestly have mixed emotions on it. On one hand, I really hate to see “the last remaining positive Black image from that era” be brought down like this. It is a sad state of affairs that he is even at this stage. I really “want him to be found innocent of these charges.” However, if it had been my daughter he was accused of molesting then I would want him prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. Bill Cosby is rich, powerful and old. The potential for abusing power is strong for anyone who might have been in his situation. Do I believe that he did it? In all honesty, yes I do… Do I believe he will be found guilty? No I don’t… From what I have read so far, his lawyers have managed to poke holes in the testimonies of those women telling their stories. If they can’t remember all the significant details then that only benefits Mr. Cosby. Also, if they felt they were violated in any way and yet “still went back to visit him afterwards” then that could be damaging to their credibility as well. If you stick your hand in the lion’s den and he bites it, then would it make sense to repeat that action again? Please don’t get me wrong. I do not “by any means condone rape.” If he is found guilty then he “should” get jail time. However, there is a big difference between being found innocent and not being proven guilty. I’m sure Cosby hired the best lawyers imaginable to defend him, and in many court cases it isn’t about the truth but rather who has the best legal counsel. He is blind, he is 79 and truthfully I don’t think it would benefit any judge to put a man as feeble as he is right now in prison. The fact that he is even at this stage is damaging enough, and his reputation may never be able to recover even if he is found innocent. Let’s see how the wheels of justice turn on this one. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (“You got the best of my love”) in concert with Brett Jolly on bass

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Remembering an experience with Aretha Franklin and the Emotions”)

I have been in experiences with Aretha Franklin on several occasions. She is “truly” a diva, but she is someone who has accomplished a lot in the industry. She has been through good moments and bad, but she has still managed to “remain the queen of soul.” One year my group had been asked to play for her Christmas party. She had them in Detroit and she tries to throw them each year. This particular year we were asked to play for the group “The Emotions.” They had hit songs like “You got the best of my love” and they also sang on “Boogie Wonderland.” Their voices and harmonies were great, and their vocal ranges were extraordinary. It was a pleasure to perform with them. This particular year there was a big snow storm in Detroit. We were supposed to fly out the day before but they had 24 inches of snow so our flights got cancelled. Well, we had to scramble to get out there so the next day (the day of the actual gig) the airlines had to find a way to make room for us to catch a flight. We had a big band (with horns) going out there and there was barely enough room for about 5 of us. The rhythm section went first while the others waited for the next plane. We made it to the destination, but our luggage “didn’t.” It was a great thing that I was allowed to place my bass guitar in the carry on section, otherwise I would never have had it in time. The show was that evening and I got there “just in time for sound check.” They were getting ready to start just as soon as I came in.  This thing looked like it was going to be a disaster. However, the next plane of musicians finally made it in (barely right before the time to start) and we managed to pull off the show. The Emotions were really happy and they loved us. Aretha was happy too and  I still don’t know how we managed to do this gig. We had a great time. My luggage finally got there sometime after the gig was over. Of course, the next day was not as stressful, because then we were headed back home. More snow had fallen and of course, our flight was canceled again. It was that kind of day. Finally, we made it home, but of course, my luggage “didn’t… again!” At least not when I got there. This gig could have easily been a catastrophe but through the grace of God we managed to make it happen.I just wanted to share this memory with you today and hope you don’t mind. Sometimes people get to see the actual show but never get to see the “complications” that usually happen before (and sometimes during)  the show. The main thing is that we made it there, played, got paid and made it back home. In that regard, it was a “great gig.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions in concert in Detroit with Brett Jolly on bass

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Would you be able to recognize yourself the way others see you?”)

One thing I have noticed is that many people are quick to point out the flaws in others while failing to detect “their own” imperfections. While it is important to see others for who (and what) they are can we have the same unbiased views when looking at that person in the mirror? I am not talking about “physically” because I’m sure we all know what we look like (well, at least most people), but can we admit our own faults? If someone described you with their own words (without letting you know that they are talking about you) would you be able to recognize yourself? In our endeavors to grow we need to know what we are growing “from.” In other words,  how can you improve if you don’t know the areas where you are deficient? There is a simple test that one can do to determine your own self awareness. Just take a piece of paper and divide it into 2 columns. On one side jot down all the positive values you “think” you have and on the other side list all the “negatives.” Make sure to review your answers once you are finished, and then give the paper to someone else who knows you well enough to see if they “agree” with what you have written (and allow him or her to make any changes). The most important part of this is to be “truthful no matter how much it hurts.” If you have a paper with only a positive column then “obviously you don’t know yourself very well.” It is also important to remain calm and not express any anger in case someone disagrees with your choices (of course, those who think they are perfect will struggle mightily with this one). The objective here is to increase your own awareness of how others see you. If you cannot take the heat of criticism then that is another fault you should have listed in the negative column. If you can do this with all your friends (without a fight getting started) then you might have the means to enhance your own self improvement. I have some friends who are arrogant (but at least they KNOW and admit they are arrogant). I have other friends who think they are way better than what they are (in their own eyes, but not in everyone else’s). The trick here is to increase your own awareness of who and what you think you are. Once you can see what others see in you, then maybe you can attempt to make any changes you feel are needed. You might be amazed at just how much you “really don’t know yourself.” If you get angry at the end results then maybe you really “don’t” know yourself as well as you thought you did.  Find out without cutting someone… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (You got the best of my love and Boogie Wonderland) with Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“After paying your debt to society”)

Yesterday I was in church playing for my normal Sunday services. During the break between services a man came up to me to tell me how much he loved the way I played. He said his name was George and that he was celebrating a second opportunity in life. He said that just recently he had been released after being incarcerated in jail for “22 years.” This intrigued me, so naturally I inquired about his circumstances. He said that he had been in prison for committing a homicide. I think a lot of people would have felt uneasy at that point talking to someone who could be considered so dangerous but for some reason I felt perfectly comfortable talking to this man. He told me that he also had “stage 4” cancer but now he is “cancer free.” I informed him that he is indeed celebrating a “second chance” in life. He said that a lot of people don’t want to trust him now and that trying to make a living for himself wasn’t going easy. I told him that if God spared his life and brought this man through such a turbulent point then obviously He has some purpose in mind for him. I told him that he was starting off the right way by coming to church. I also alerted him to the fact that there are “plenty of young men out there” who “need” to hear his story, so I hope he can find a way to tell it. I also told him that if he can manage to change the direction of at least “one life” then he has fulfilled his obligation. You see, no one is perfect… At some point in our lives we all make mistakes that we wish we could go back in time to erase. Some mistakes just happen to have bigger costs than others. When we make mistakes, just about everyone “wants” to be forgiven. While the Lord above forgives us for our sins, we as a people are not always as generous. I told this man that he may have a rough road ahead of him, but if he has survived  22 years of jail and cancer then he can surely deal with what’s ahead of him now. I told him that is is not how you start, but how you finish that determines the true success of life. His final judgment won’t come from anyone on “this realm.” He informed me that there were “so many greatly talented men in prison” with hopes of one day getting back to the outside world. One of them was an old childhood friend of mine. In the end, I gave him this final thought: Just imagine if he had died from cancer, and had to meet his maker for a final judgment day. If indeed he had the chance to speak to the Almighty and asked for a second chance to turn his life around, then today would actually “be” his second chance… What happens here will depend solely on him. He smiled and said that he really appreciated talking to me. I told him that the pleasure was “likewise.” We both uplifted “each other.” If you are going through a rough time in your life, I only hope that you can find the resolve to “see the finish line.” You may not be the first one to make it there and win the race, but you only need to complete this race in order to feel accomplishment. George can now see it, and I can see it for him, and I wished him good luck… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (“You got the best of my love” and “Boogie Wonderland”) and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Did you survive?”)

I guess it is still “officially the holidays.” I can tell because lots of people are going to the malls now to get late presents (which are now “on sale” and cheaper). I can’t argue with that at all. We all still have bills to pay, and if you know that you are not going to see someone until after Christmas then why pay the higher price for it when you can just wait an extra day or so? I always say that the best way to make sure you don’t go over your budget is to simply make sure you pay “all” your bills for the month “first.” You KNOW you are going to forget about getting  a present for somebody, but as long as your bills are already paid you can get something without fear of your electricity going off (smile). You also need to make sure you will have enough money left to pay for your “upcoming bills” at the start of the new year. If you got this far and still have a smile on your face then I think you are “safe.” A LOT of people stress out because they went out and bought things that they “know” they couldn’t afford. That is when it is always advisable to “budget and plan first.” If you get paid every week, then by all means take that into account. Know the dates that your bills are due, and “never” let your accounts go to a “zero balance.” If you plan smart, you can survive and be happy. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (“You got the best of my love” and “Boogie Wonderland” and Brett Jolly in concert.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Yesterday was Father’s day”)

Yesterday was Father’s Day here in the states. Normally this a tradition where people honor and pay homage to fathers. My kids wanted to celebrate the day with me, and I wouldn’t “dare” say “no.” I wasn’t sure of what they had planned, but it ended up with me having to drive them an hour and 15 minute to the Atlantic City beach. Even though I really wasn’t feeling up to doing a lot of walking (I am still hurting from a badly sprained back) I gave into their wishes and we drove down. The very first thing we did was have dinner at Hooters. Yes, my kids wanted to patronize some establishment where the women dress as sex objects. Don’t get me wrong, the chicken there is great, and that was all that mattered to me (I can see your expressions of disbelief, but really, I was “only” interested in eating… stop that!). After that, we decided to walk the boardwalk. My kids knew that my back was hurting me, so they did something really nice. We came across one of those massage places and the kids told me they would pay for me to get my back done. Now I have to let you know that I am “really” not used to strange people putting their hands all over me. I was very reluctant and hesitant to even try this, but my kids insisted. Well, I must admit that it was a truly unique and different experience for me, but my back did manage to feel better afterwards. In fact, my whole head felt light and airy. I wondered if they slipped in some kind of drug or something because I surely didn’t feel like myself afterwards. Needless to say, the walk felt better after the massage and even though my back is not one hundred percent cured now, it still feels “much better” than it did. I would publicly like to thank my kids for treating their dad on Father’s day (even if i STILL had to pay for the majority of the trip). Just to spend time with all my kids together was priceless to me. I felt blessed, and I hope we can plan another event this summer. If you are a father, I hope you are taking a big interest in being part of your child’s life. Being a sperm donor doesn’t make you a father. Loving your kids and being involved in their lives does. You don’t even have to be biologically related to be a great dad. That is the real joy of fatherhood. Please make sure you matter to the kids who see you as a father figure. It could make the biggest difference in their lives if you returned that love. Thank you for letting me share my experience with you today, and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (“You got the best of my love”) and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Honoring those who lost their lives in battle today”)

For today here in the United States, many of us are celebrating Memorial Day, a day where we pay tribute to all those who are veterans of war and gave their lives to make our world safer. While I have  never liked the concept of war I fully appreciate those who sacrificed for the sake of my family and our well being. Hopefully a miracle can happen and one day ALL wars will be over, and peace will reign throughout the entire world as it should. However, until that miraculous day comes, we will continue to be people that believe that the answers to all our problems lies in killing other people. Even if a time should ever arrive for peace, we cannot forget about those veterans who helped pave the way for us. If you have “any” relative who died in battle, you have my deepest sympathies and condolences. If you don’t celebrate Memorial Day where you live then I hope you find some “other way” to pay tribute to those who fought and lost for you. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Emotions (“You got the best of my love” and “Boogie Wonderland”) and Brett Jolly in concert

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