Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Walking”)

Recently I had a talk with a friend of mine who was feeling really stressed out. He was having problems in his relationship and every time he came home he wanted to leave right back out again. He worked hard for a living but his woman was having a problem that was affecting their relationship. He was tired of having arguments with her and he was reaching his “emotional peak.” He said he wanted to relax but he just couldn’t do it at home. Every time he entered the house a new argument ensued. He felt as though he was at his boiling point and wanted to know what he should do about it. I simply told him to “Take a walk.” Taking a walk will NOT solve his problems at home and it will NOT change his woman’s outlook on their relationship. However, taking a walk will help you to “let off steam” and “re-focus.” You see, when things are going bad, sometimes people are “too close to the screen” in order to “see the overall picture.” Walking will give you a “momentary break” to contemplate and re-evaluate your situation.  While it is great for the body, walking also helps to clear the mind. When walking, you can play your scenario over in your head and try to view it through a “better” perspective.  Whenever I feel the “slightest” bit of tension I immediately opt to stroll around the block (or through the neighborhood). My problems NEVER go away after walking, but my disposition often changes so that I can better handle them. Some people feel that walking does NOTHING for you, and for them that might be right. If you already refuse to believe in something then the activity is “tainted” from the start. EVERYONE should have some form of “outlet.” If you don’t want to walk, then do something else that allows you to “let out frustration.” When frustration gets “pent up” inside then at “some point” it will come out on it’s own, and chances are it may cause actions that could be “regrettable.” There is nothing wrong with “letting off steam” somewhere, and for many people, walking is the best answer. My friend said that he will do it, and I sincerely hope that he does. We ALL need a fresh perspective on things, and if walking helps, then by all means “keep on trucking.” Hope your day is without stress and please welcome a side distraction from the Phantom Poet:

When you are having problems that can’t be solved when you talk
Just “take a break” from reality, and find time to take a walk
It won’t solve your problems and it won’t even make them diminished
Until you feel better in mind and spirit, keep walking until you are finished
You can take a stroll to deal with all these issues you are knowing
And if you still feel frustrated, then by all means keep going
You can re-evaluate  your situation and how your story relates
“Oh my goodness. I walked so far I think I just covered three states”
Walking was great for me, but I got so involved that my thinking went off track
I walked so far that now I can’t even figure out the way for me to get back
I guess I will just find a hotel room to help me forget about this day
Hey, it wasn’t like I wanted to go back home to her anyway
My woman and I kept on fighting so some time apart was in store
But I just found out that my woman walked too, and now has the room next door
Now SHE and I BOTH feel better after walking, and we no longer need to fight
So we made up with each other and stayed in the same room for the night
So we found out just what we needed to help fix our domestic situation
We found that we both needed to walk, AND we BOTH needed a vacation
So the moral of this story is that before your relationship becomes badly “defective”
Take a walk, let off some steam and come back with a “new perspective”

” Hey baby….My hotel room or yours?” The Phantom Poet

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Stress Relief)

Dear Brett.

 

 

 

 

Subject: Stress relief

 

 

 

 

I was making myself sick and I even didn’t realize it. I was pumping myself full of poisons. Each night before going to bed, I was absorbing all the worst from the news. When my body was settling down for the night, my brain remained active, mulling over casualties in various parts of the world, flooding, unemployment, murders. Other nights I worried about bills, child care, family issues, and marital problems. My dreams were disjointed and violent. I was waking up miserable and still tired. 

So I changed. I began walking my dog at night and looking at the sky. While walking, I pondered some of the pleasant things that had happened to me during the day. I began to view things with an increasingly grateful heart: for example, I was grateful for a starry night, a cool, gentle breeze, my family, my dog, my job, the changing of the seasons, kids getting out of school. I just let my brain go. Then, as I turned into bed, my thoughts continued in the same vein. As I closed my eyes, I was grateful for the crisp sheets, for the roof over my head, for the chance to help someone during the day, for an unexpected phone call from a dear friend, for having a decent life. Needless to say, my dreams were much more soothing. I have been waking up in the morning in a positive frame of mind, feeling centered and recharged. I can be calm and even-tempered when I listen to others complain. I am not suggesting that everybody has to meditate or do yoga or that we should close our eyes to the events going on in our world. But since we know that stress is the basis of most of our diseases and ailments, when are we going to take better control of our lives by not stressing out?

 

 

 

 

This is a VERY important topic, because even though we all have responsibilities to deal with, it is how we handle those responsibilities that determine our healthy mental (and physical) state. My definition of stress is “That which we allow others to put upon us”. In other words, we can be inundated with many multiple tasks from others, but it is how we handle those tasks that determine our true stress levels. When I was in high school (oh, maybe about 2 years ago or so… Wow! That lightning bolt ALMOST hit me) I was so stressed out. I wanted so badly to play basketball but I tore my ACL (Anterior cruciate ligament) in the pre-season and was out for the year (I was devastated). I had to wear a cast up the upper portion of my leg and the girl I really liked during that time found another date to take to the prom. I was heartbroken, depressed and downright miserable (and on crutches). During my senior year, I was a stressed out mess. Then came graduation time, and it wasn’t until then that I realized that my life wasn’t over, but only just beginning. Once the commencement was over I immediately erased everything about my senior year from my mind (including the girl) and decided that I was going to ease my way of thinking. My responsibilities didn’t lessen over the years, but the way I handled them helped me lessen the strain in my life. Today most people who know me will probably say that I am laid back in a lot of ways and easy (like Sunday morning… a Lionel Richie tune). Don’t get me wrong, there will always be times when the stress level rises extremely high and your reactions may not be helped, but if you can find a way to minimize the effects it can make your life much more pleasurable. I suggest that everyone take a look at their own existence and figure out ways to “de-stress” your life. It really shouldn’t be that difficult to do. First thing is to remember that those things we cannot control will more than likely happen anyway, so getting stressed over them won’t change the outcome. Second, the worst thing you can do is become stressed out over the POSSIBILITY that something is about to happen. If it hasn’t happened yet, then don’t make yourself sick worrying about the “possibility” of it. Third, remember that when the building is on fire and everyone is becoming hysterical, thinking rationally will give you an edge over everyone else and help you come up with a better plan for dealing with the circumstances at hand. Last, remember that there is always someone worse off than you (This makes sense, because as long as you are still alive, then you still have hope). Each day you wake up is a new start for you. Treat it as such… Here comes the Phantom Poet to shed some valuable “insight” on the subject:

 

 

 

 

We all need to find ways to deal with our stress

 

A lot of people have it, and some have excess

 

Please don’t feel bad, worried or crappy

 

I always say, “Don’t worry… Be Happy”

 

There are plenty of pleasant things to think about… That’s how life goes

 

Why don’t you try sitting down in a very dark room, and take off your clothes?

 

After awhile you soon may start to feel yourself become even less stressed

 

ESPECIALLY if there is member of the opposite sex there with you… undressed

 

Don’t laugh! Sex is a GREAT way to help you feel more relieved

 

That’s why Marvin sang “sexual Healing” (Yeah, that’s what we all believed)

 

So if you feel over stressed, then have sex…that is what you should do

 

If you REALLY feel stressed out, then have sex for a day or two

 

In fact, just keep on going until you run out of “rounds”

 

Or until your weight becomes oh, about 98 pounds

 

Sex here, sex there, in the suburbs and in the ghetto

 

But whatever you do, don’t mess with those sheep in the meadow

 

Just keep on having sex until the feeling goes “numb”

 

But unless you want NEW stress, better wear a condom

 

Find the right sexual partner, but don’t rush, and don’t hurry

 

Having the right partner will help relieve all your worry

 

So when you are over stressed, stop pulling out all of your hairs

 

Just have sex, look relaxed and say to yourself, “Who really cares?”

 

 

 

 

Just wait until you hear my solution for ending war tensions… The Phantom Poet

 

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