I hope you can help me with this situation. There is this guy who is trying hard to hit on me. He tells me he really likes me and he seems to be very interested in taking me out on a date. The only problem with this is that he is a musician. My friends tell me that all musicians are whores. All they do is go to wild parties, get high and drunk and try to conquer all the women they can. I think it was once mentioned in some movie or something. I don’t want to by anyone’s game piece. He seems nice though, so I figured I would contact you to find out if I should listen to my heart or my friends. Should I just leave him alone?
“Stereotypes” can “sometimes” be so misleading. I don’t know this individual you are talking about, but I DO happen to know other musicians, and while that stereotype might fit a LOT of them it doesn’t necessarily mean that it applies to ALL of them. I know of several musicians, including myself, who do not drink or get high at all (and also do not like wild parties). I also know of a few musicians who are truly committed to the partners they already have (or at least that is what they have told me). One of the things that you need to understand is that “everyone” is different. You could start a relationship with an “accountant” who might end up being far worse than any musician you could ever encounter. I think that most times musicians get this stigma from the numbers of women who often come up to them. Even you have to admit that it can be a fairly glamorous profession. However, to judge all musicians by the actions of a few would not be totally fair. Your friends have a right to be concerned, but your friends don’t have the exclusive right to always be “correct.” For this particular musician you are going to need to do your homework (as you would have to do for “anyone” you would like to start a relationship with). There is nothing wrong with going out on a date. As long as you are in a public place there should be very little chance of being taken advantage of. It would be up to you to get to know this man, and I think you can do so without having to compromise anything. ANYONE can have an “opinion.” Just note that not ALL opinions are “correct.” I know from experience that his profession is one where he can receive LOTS of attention from admirers, but it is not his profession that determines what he is, but rather how he “HANDLES” that profession. Don’t let the stereotype stop you from finding out if he is a good man or not. Give him the chance to at least “prove” your friends wrong first. To me, I believe that would be fair to him “and” you. Thank you for submitting this topic and please keep us updated if you can. Have a great day.
Brett Jolly and actress Gabrielle Union