Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Killing of Gorilla to save boy”)

Recently at a Cincinnati zoo a little 4 year old boy managed to get into the gorilla’s den. What followed next was subject to interpretation. The 400 pound gorilla was viewed as a threat to the boy and was subsequently shot and killed. However, after viewing the video many think that the ape was only trying to “protect” the boy from the other gorillas and that the boy was in no real harm. In one scene, you can see the ape drag the boy through the water rather forcefully. Other than that, it appeared as though the ape (whose name was Harambe) was merely trying to protect the boy from the other gorillas. If you would like to see the video and hear more of the story you can click (or copy and paste into your browser) the link below:

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/astonishing-new-footage-shows-gorilla-8082168

The question that seems to take front stage is “Was it justifiable and necessary to kill the animal?” That would be a difficult question to answer. I will say this much: The animal had been used to a mostly human habitat because it came in contact with humans ever day (whether through the zoo officials or just seeing humans watching them). Because of this, there was less of a chance of the gorilla feeling threatened by a human in his presence. However, having less of a chance doesn’t mean that the opportunity for danger was no longer present. Since the 400 pound gorilla didn’t know the fragile nature of the child there was the possibility that the child could have been killed while the gorilla exhibited “playful” behavior. Gorillas may realize the strength of their own young, but that doesn’t mean they can treat a human child in the same manner. Does anyone remember the movie story of King Kong? In that classic, Kong was taken out of his element and placed in captivity. The end result of that movie was that Kong had to be shot dead to protect others. In this case the gorilla had no more sense of being wrong than the child had for going into the den in the first place. I will say, however, that I think it would have been extremely important for zoo officials to have secured that area so well that even young toddlers would not have been able to gain entry. 4 year olds are not expected to know better. The parents also deserve blame because they should have realized that the child could have entered the gorilla’s den and they should have kept on eye on their kid. The only one here who was really without blame was the “biggest victim,” and that was Harambe the gorilla. Should the animal have been shot? If there was “any” potential danger to the boy, then all precautions needed to be taken to ensure that child’s safety. As unfortunate as the shooting was, if that child had gotten hurt or killed then zoo officials would been blamed for not taking the proper precautions. Unfortunately nothing can bring the gorilla back, but I only hope that a lesson can be learned from this. Exhibits at places like the zoo need to be designed to “keep the animals in” but also “keep the humans out.” I think that is the “best” way to ensure that something like this never happens again. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My own experience with singer Stephanie Mills”)

First, let me say that as many singers get older, they lose a little bit of their vocal abilities. No one is immune from the effects of age, but if there ever was a singer that I thought could exceptionally defy it, it would have to be Stephanie Mills. At the age of 55 (or somewhere around there) the woman can still sing incredibly. I don’t know if that is from her exercise routine or from the fact that she still has a very “kid-like developed” body (Stephanie is not very tall at all…In fact, she doesn’t even reach 5 feet in height). She was a star in the musical “The Wiz” and she is one of the few who actually “dated” the “King of Pop Michael Jackson” at one point. I recently read an article that said she “refuses” to be featured on a television segment series entitled “Unsung.” This program talks about the careers on one time great artists and where they are now. I have been on the show myself (the one that features Teddy Pendergrass) and I can say that the show usually tries to portray the positives in most artists. I know for a “fact” that they could have “really beat down” on the  brothers from the Delfonics. They were kind and gentle with that episode, even though I know personally that there is a lot of war going on with them. Anyway, if you have not seen the article on Stephanie Mills, here is the link:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/29/stephanie-mills-rb-unsung_n_1552828.html

I have worked with Stephanie on several occasions, and there is a lot that I can say in regards to her. I will not put her on blast, but I will say that I have “personally witnessed her get upset and combative on several occasions. If there was a true definition of someone who seems to have “short person’s complex” I would have to say that in “my opinion” it would be her. From what I saw, it doesn’t take much to “set her off” and I have literally seen her try to fight people that were several feet taller than her (men and women). One time she opened up a program for us (We were doing the show with Teddy Pendergrass) and she just seemed to have this “major attitude” before the show. I asked Teddy if there was an some kind of problem with her, and he simply responded by saying “I don’t know what her f—–g problem is.” There are a lot of stories out there about her performing with her back to the audience, fighting over money and just being difficult to work with. I only know that I never had a problem with her. She personally told me that when she broke into stardom her road was a tough one. She said that the people who gave her a chance were rough on her all through her rise up. She believes in being the same way when it comes to her dealings with others. I think it is unfortunate that she doesn’t allow herself to be featured on “Unsung,” but she has every right to decline that show if she wants to. I can only say that it was a pleasure to work for her, and I sincerely hope she continues to bless all with her great vocal ability. I thank you for reading my Daily Thought and as always I wish the absolute best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Autism and the world of my son”)

I realize that I have not said a whole lot about my own private life, but today I wanted to share something “rather personal.” My son has a “slight” degree of “autism.” Autism is a form of retardation. He is a good boy, and often others will pick on him without even realizing his condition. The fact that he is only “slightly” autistic makes his situation even more rare and different to deal with. When growing up his school would put him in “special needs” classes with other kids of the same label. The problem was that while most of those kids were fully autistic my son was not. He can read, he can drive, he is great on the computer and on the surface most people won’t even be able to tell his condition. However, when he was in those classes with other autistic kids, my son “knew” that they were different from him, and he “knew” in his mind that he “didn’t belong there.” He always wanted to be in a normal class setting with “regular” kids. This proved to be quite a dilemma, because while socially he could function in that environment, intellectually he “struggled.” Since he was in between “functional and non functional” there was no “real category” for him… My son is grown now, and he is working part time at a market store. He wants a lot more out of life, and rightfully so. I want the best for him as well. He wonders why women his age keep going after all the guys who take advantage of them when they could have a man like him who will love them with all he has. I had to let him know that life is not always fair, but there is someone out there for “everyone.” He needs to keep on “being the good man that he is and be patient.” I also told him that he needs a better paying job as well. Above all I treated my son as though he was just as normal as the everyone else growing up. I jumped in his case whenever I had to and I showed him encouragement for everything positive that he attempted to do. Now I am hoping that I can get him to pass his driver’s license test. He actually “passed” the written part, but he has failed the driving portion twice and only has one more time to do so or else he will have to start all over again. This would be “major.” Because of his condition, he will often “panic” when confronted with a real serious situation. I will do my best to ensure that he is relaxed and focused. I wanted to share this with you today because I know there are others out there who can relate to my experience. This topic is not meant to enlist sympathy or pity. My son is fine, and I will do everything in my power to make sure of that. I am just hoping that maybe my story today will uplift someone going through a similar struggle. Hey, life is not always fair, but we need to make the most of what we have.Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer today.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Son out of control”)

Mr. Jolly, I really liked your article yesterday on the person who still suffers from the death of his or her mother. I have an issue with my son. I have tried to raise him right, but I am a single mother, and the boys he hangs with in school have taught him some really bad manners. He mouths off to me constantly, he comes home whenever he feels like it and he is not doing well in school at all. He is 14 but much bigger than me and too much for me to handle. I don’t want to lose my son to the streets and there are times when he has me afraid. Is there anything I can do to save my son and get him back?

A boy needs a man in his life to really know what life is about. Unfortunately, your son is learning from other boys who also don’t know any better. This is a crucial stage in his life because even though he is still not close to manhood, he is “feeling” like he is. The truth of the matter is that he is “nowhere close” to being ready for this world. I realize that as a single mother you are doing the best you can, but this appears to be a moment where you need a “dominant male figure” to address your boy. If you don’t have a male friend then I suggest calling your local police department and explaining the situation to them. While it is not the job of policemen to raise your child they just might take a vested interest in “rattling” his world a little bit to give him some better insight. For instance, they might be able to take him on a tour of the “city prison” to “show” him what they do with the incorrigible men who break the law. They can also send a man to “get in his face” and frighten him into seeing that his ways are wrong. A lot of people think that a child should never be beaten, but I am afraid I would have to disagree. If a child is getting out of hand, then “some” type of physical action may be required just to “save” the child (or at least the “threat” of it). I think it is better for a child to encounter physical action “before” being arrested as opposed to “during.” When a child grows up, that child is bound to “test” the limits of authority to learn what he or she can “get away” with. Your child has not yet met the proper “resistance” yet, and that is where a strong male figure can come in. In most areas, police would be happy to have a “heart to heart” conversion with your child, because the police know how to deal with deviant behavior. It couldn’t hurt to ask them. I have a police officer friend who said that he is always willing to address a young child who needs intervention in his life. I am sure there are plenty others who are willing to do the same. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to ask for help with your son. He needs to be saved “now BEFORE” it is too late. “One” strong encounter just might make a world of difference. Good luck to you and I wish you the very best.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Bullying”)

I have been asked to comment on the issue of bullying in football (or anyplace else, for that matter). This recent story had Miami player Jonathan Martin “leaving” the team allegedly as a result of being bullied by teammate Richie Incognito. Somehow evidence was collected that showed Incognito threatened to kill his family and called him the N—– word (Incognito is White and Martin is Black). In his first interview since this incident was publicized, Incognito downplayed any allegation of bullying and said it was basically “team culture” to engage in that kind of behavior. Team Quarterback Ryan Tannehill basically sided with Incognito and also didn’t think this incident was a bad as reported. Let’s examine this and for “now” let’s give Incognito the “benefit of the doubt.” If in case, Martin was NOT bullied, then exactly WHAT prompted him to leave the team? Next question I have is that “if this incident was NOT about bullying then HOW did this get leaked to the media as such and who LABELED this as a bullying incident?” The media preys off how a story is told, and SOMEONE had to alert them to the circumstances and conditions. If, in fact, the news was leaked by Martin himself, then “obviously” he felt “bullied.” FINALLY, how did the information about the “threatening texts” get delivered to the media? Under most circumstances, texts are “private” messages sent from one individual to another. If Martin received these vulgar texts, then how could the media get a hold of them unless Martin himself alerted them or personally sent them to the media? I have played sports, and I do know of “locker room culture.” Yes, things do get said there that “shouldn’t” be said, but that is often the climate of locker rooms. However, I consider bullying to be under the same category as “harassment.” If a man comments on how a woman looks in tight jeans, some may take it as a compliment while others may take it as harassment (That’s just a fact). In bullying, the same principle applies. There is a “toughness” that is needed to play football, and I have seen “many” coaches yell, shout and even insult players to get them “spiritually and mentally” ready. That type of atmosphere is ESPECIALLY dominant in Football, for in this realm only the strong survive. There seems to be a lot “missing” from this story, and I feel the main answers should come from Martin himself (IF he is willing to be interviewed). It IS quite possible that Martin “overreacted” to Incognito (or it IS quite possible that Incognito is every bit the bully he has been portrayed to be). The one thing that I hope DOESN’T get “brought to life” is the “race” card. So far, I have not seen the issue hyped, and I sincerely hope it stays that way. “Race” sells, and it may be only a matter of time before someone takes this story “way out of proportion.” THAT… we “don’t need… Bullying should not be tolerated anywhere, but first we have to recognize that bullying is even “taking place.” Any strange or deviant behavior needs to be noted  and even “reported.” We can be our own “eyes” and “ears.” Bullying usually starts at an early stage “in school.” If we can find a way to address it at that stage then maybe we can prevent it from from happening later in life. From what we know about this particular story, I do believe that Jonathan Martin FELT bullied. If that is the case, then Incognito’s suspension is warranted, for it would be his behavior that caused Martin to feel that way. I will wait for time to tell more, but for now let’s just hope that this incident will serve as a “warning sign” to others who feel the need to abuse anyone physically or verbally. It should NEVER be tolerated… at ANY profession… Thank you and have a great day.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: She owes me money)

Mr. Jolly. I am writing this because someone owes me money. She borrowed it from me over a month ago and she said that she would pay me back within a couple of days. Well, now she keeps telling me that she is going to mail the money to me and sends me texts all the time giving various excuses, but still nothing comes in the mail. I told her that I would come pick it up from her. She lives close by but she insists that she will mail it. I don’t want to become an ogre but I want my money. She is not a bad person. Can you tell me how I should handle this without making it seem like I am terrorizing her?

I think just about “everyone” knows someone who is just plain “awful” with money. These people have the best of intentions but they lack the ability to handle finances correctly, which is probably why she needed the money from you in the first place. People like this are not mean spirited, but they are just unable to budget anything. They tend to spend money on things they “want” first and after the money has dwindled “THEN” they realize it’s time to pay for the necessities they “need.” There have actually been studies done on these type of people. Some spend out of habit. Some spend to help with depression. This lady here has inconvenienced you, and in a nice way you need to let her know that. You don’t want to come across angry or threatening with her, but you should at least let her know how disappointed you are in her. Chances are she “mishandled” your money and is now in hot water with someone else she owes money to. That should not be your problem at all, but until she can get her game together it will continue to affect you. Let this also be a learned lesson for you. When people want to borrow money, there is usually a reason behind it. If you know the circumstances, then you can better determine whether or not you want to take the risk of “lending it.” When she tells you that she wants to mail the money to you, that is her way of saying that she needs more time to get it. If she lives close by, then why not let you just come get it? The answer is “because she DOESN’T HAVE it… If you want your money, you will need to continue to ask for it. People like her will think that if you stop asking for it then you probably no longer need it anymore. Make sure to let her know that this is NOT the case. Once you finally get your money (IF you get it) then never loan anything to her again. I hate to say that, but if you do so next time and you don’t get paid then it will be YOUR fault (because you already know she is bad with money). I hope everything works out and I wish you luck. Have a great day.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: theories of life origins)

Hello. I have an interesting topic that my friends and I wanted to pose to you. My friends and I were having a disagreement about the actual beginning of human life. One friend is more scientific in nature and believes in the concept of evolution. He says there is proof that we descended from apes. I told him that God created us in his own image, and therefore the theory of evolution is not sufficient. I would love to know your opinion as to how human life “actually” came to be. Thank you.

I consider myself to be religious (or saved, if that is how you prefer to view it). I actually DO believe in a supreme being (God, Allah, or whatever name others use refer to) that is the ruler and maker of this earth. Now if you go by scientific study and look at old bones that show man evolving from a lessor form of life then you are entitled to think that way, but I think it would be important to consider “this:” How did that lessor form of life even “get” here in the first place? What got the ball rolling for “ANY” life to form on this planet? As amazing as it is, newer species of life are still being discovered, but yet no one actually gets to “witness” HOW a new species develops. Here is something else for you to ponder. As babies, humans are totally dependent on adults for upbringing, safety and guidance. In other words, if human life started out in “baby” form then how could it secure it’s own food, raise itself and protect itself? SOME higher form of life had to intervene to help pave the way. Finally, if the theory of evolution is one where we actually “changed” through a historic time then why are we NOT “still” evolving? For example, one of the least needed body parts is the “little toe.” It doesn’t really do anything and there is no real purpose for it. Yet through the years of time, that little toe has not worn away due to evolution at all. I would think that if evolution plays a part in our current state then why doesn’t it “continue” to happen? There are scientists who will claim that things like Noah’s ark didn’t happen, or that there are no such things as aliens or ghosts. I say that if “we” exist then just about “anything else” can possibly exist, and that “includes” a “supreme” being. Scientists can only formulate through their own knowledge, but what if that knowledge is somehow “incomplete?” Do we in fact know “everything” that we need to know to “justify” our existence? I would never be one to refute science, but I also know that not “ALL” things are “explainable.” Evolution may incorporate the concept of “change” but it still doesn’t explain how we got here. Until it does, I am sticking with “God.” Hopefully, you will too… Thank you for posing this topic, and please welcome someone who needs no introduction, the Phantom Poet:

When discussing the very origins of life, my friends and I were seeking a solution
I believe in the ways of the Bible, while they are more in tune with evolution
I will stick with my religion, and if this seems like I am in defiance
I just have faith, and that should not be any knock on science
My friends said we descended from apes, and this I just cannot see
Even if science proves that, it still doesn’t explain how we came to be
The scientists theories are based on old skeletons that they had found
But if we descended from apes, then why are monkeys “still around?”
Scientists “believe” they have the theory on the development of the human race
but their logic still doesn’t explain just how we even got here in the first place
And how do they explain other forms like snakes, lizards, moose and piranha?
I think we need to tell that scientist to sit down and “have a banana”
Because if a scientist asks my opinion, I will surely turn and give him the “nod”
As far as I am concerned, the only reason we are here is because of God
There are “many” theories and explanations, but if you really want to know the reason why?
I think you can find all the answers you seek, but confronting a source much higher… than you or I…

“Have a blessed day today”… the Phantom Poet

 

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