Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My new song entitled Hearts and Flowers”)

I love to write music. It is my escape from all the pressures of life. It takes me to another dimension where I often hide in my own creativity. This is a song I wrote entitled “Hearts and Flowers.” I performed EVERY aspect of the song, including all arrangements, all musical instruments and vocals. I apologize because I wanted to  have the actual video ready (but first I need to find an actress to star in it as well as set up the scenes that I want to film). Hopefully the video for this song will be coming soon. If you happen to like the tune, email me at Brettjolly@aol.com and you can purchase it (and I will email the song back to you). Thank you so much for checking out my song and Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Love from 2 different worlds)

Dear Phantom Poet. I was recently in France and I met the love of my life there. She is tremendously pretty and we hit it off instantly.  I love her with all my heart and I want to bring her back here to the United States to live with me. I was there for about 3 weeks and really enjoyed meeting and spending time with her. The problem is that we can’t understand each other very well verbally. She speaks French while I speak English. She also is about 20 years younger than me. My friends here are telling me that I am foolish to try to share my life with someone that I can barely communicate with. I would like to know what you think. Is it possible for two people from entirely different worlds to make a love connection?

As crazy as it sounds, the answer is “yes.” Love isn’t based on where you currently stand, but rather on where the both of you are “headed together.” While right now you may be experiencing difficulty talking to each other it doesn’t mean that the both of you can’t “communicate.” When you think about it, animals don’t have the gift of language but yet they can still communicate with each other (and there are definitely love connections going on there). I do, however, believe that love should be based on “more” than just “looks and lust.” If you are willing to learn more French (or if she is willing to learn English) then this could possibly work. I do have a question for you, though. After only spending about 3 weeks with her (and the fact that she doesn’t speak English well) do you think you know her well enough? While you were in France it probably seemed like a vacation-like atmosphere. However, life at home with her could be remarkably different. There are a LOT of couples who have “major differences” with each other who have “great” relationships. Love is not always based on perfect “compatibility.” Like with any relationship, the both of you need to “learn each other.” As long as you both realize that, then it can possibly work. There are obstacles in just about every relationship. It is how you tackle those issues that determines the strength of your love. Give it a shot… The worse thing that can happen would be that it “fails.” The same applies to the difference in “age.” While a difference of 20 years is a “big stretch” to me, that doesn’t necessarily mean that this cannot be successful. I do fully understand why your friends have “apprehensions.” It will be up to the both of you to “prove them wrong.” Good luck to you both, and I wish you the very best, and so does this gentleman, the Phantom Poet:

When it comes to a new relationship and matters of lust and love
When you can’t understand each other, then what do you talk of?
When you find a young woman who is fine and looks really great
You need to understand something about her in order to relate
When speaking a different language you don’t know what she is talking about
She could be smiling in your face and secretly cussing you out
You both will need to learn each other to formulate some kind of trust
Just remember that there is a BIG difference between “love” and “lust”
As if the breakdown in communication doesn’t add to your fears
There is also the age difference of oh, about 20 years (?)
On the surface this doesn’t fit, and this relationship may not last long
So it is up to the both of you to work hard to prove your friends wrong
If in the future you think you have plans to live with her and wed
Then you need to learn to communicate someplace other than your bed
Because in one instance the two of you could be the greatest of love birds
And in the next you both could yell at each other with foreign cuss words
It can still work out because you’ll have a relationship like none other
The cuss words won’t even matter if you both can’t understand each other
I’m sure your love is truly special and for you I hope that it will linger
but EVERYONE  understands the universal language of the “middle finger”
So do the best  you can to make this work, and please try not to self destruct
And in the famous words of Astro and Scooby Doo… “Rot’sa Ruck!”

Applause, please, for the Phantom Poet…

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Brothers competing over the same woman)

Hello Phantom Poet. My brother and I have this little problem. You see we both like the same woman. She is beautiful and we both like her a lot. We are not physically fighting each other over her, but there is definitely competition. I am 2 years older then he is and she is closer to my age. He thinks that he can treat her better than I can. Both of us cannot have her but both of us surely want her. How can we settle this between us?

You make it sound as though the choice is “yours.” In actuality, the choice is “hers.” A woman “knows” what she likes and what she doesn’t like, and your best bet is be good enough for her to want you over your brother. I am glad that you and your brother are at least handling this civilly  and are not violent towards each other, because blood is supposed to be thicker than water. However, you both need to realize that women are “smart enough” to realize who (and what) they want. It is even quite possible that she may not want a relationship with either one of you. If you want to engage in a “friendly” competition then there is nothing wrong with that, as long as there are “no hard feelings” for the loser, but the choice should still be “hers.” It may also be beneficial to be truthful to her. If you let her know that both brothers want her then she can make her own assessment. Please remember, women are “not” objects. They can think and rationalize just like men do (Uh, actually in many cases women do it BETTER). The best you can do is to “present your BEST game” and let the chips fall where they may with her. They say that most women can tell within minutes who they like. She may “already” have her mind set.  Just “be you” and let her make the final decision, and good luck to you both. Since you asked for him, here he is. Please welcome the Phantom Poet:

My brother is my family, and we believe in each other when all is said and done
However, when it comes to women, he and I are both interested in the same one
Only one of us can have her, and I am sure that the winner will clearly rejoice
But we need to realize that the winner of this battle will have to be HER choice
We both are perfect gentlemen, in great shape, fit and trim
but I am smarter, so she needs to choose ME over him
So my brother and I decided to compete for her, winner take all
We went out back to engage in a fierce game of basketball
It was a very physical game, and we both ended up tired and sweaty
But by the time we finished, she had left with the guy down the street already
She said that she considered us both, but she had a change of heart after the chance to think
She said, “You brothers are really nice, but after a game of basketball you both STINK”
She said, “Let this be a lesson to you both, because you both need to realize
I am NOT some inanimate object that you can win as a prize
I already know what I want, and I intend to choose by design
Because in the end, the ultimate choice will “always” be mine

“Hey, but at least I won the game”… The Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Attention”)

Everyone should fully understand the need for attention. Most people need it in their lives. If someone close to you desires it, then by all means it would help to be “attentive.” However, sometimes when it comes to attention, it is “how” we go after it that often makes the biggest difference. People may sometimes go to extraordinary means in order to “get” the “slightest” bit of attention, and sometimes that can have an adverse effect on a relationship. It is important to note that “getting” attention is NOT the same as “getting BAD attention.” When you get bad attention, it usually has a negative outcome, and the results are often “not” the results you seek. Being confrontational, emotional or accusatory will usually get you “bad” attention. “Forcing the issue” will probably get you the same result. When someone feels that he or she is not getting enough attention, then he or she may result to seeking it from “others.” This could be in the form of companionship or advice. The problem with companionship is that once you start a relationship with someone else, then that “new” relationship could have a major impact on your “already established” relationship (by the way, this relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be an “intimate” one… It could just be friendship). When you go to a third party for advice or comment, then in essence you may be allowing that person to have an involvement in your relationship that realistically “shouldn’t” be there. “Everyone” has an opinion (including “me”) but when you get to the point where you are hearing “negative things” from someone who “really doesn’t know your situation” and then giving that person “credibility” then it may not be beneficial. Some people “love” to get into your personal business, and they love the control that comes with it.  As long as they know that you are “listening” to them they will tell you all sorts of things that “may or may NOT” apply to your situation. They can only get inside of your head if you “allow” them to. A relationship between two consenting adults shouldn’t need the input of a “third” party who is NOT close enough to you to “know.” The “more” people you involve in your relationship the better the chance that someone is going to try to push you in a “negative” direction. The best way to get attention is the “old fashioned way.” Be direct, be truthful and just “TALK” to your lover. Make sure that you wait for the “PROPER” time to do so. If your lover has a lot on his or her plate, or is physically exhausted, hungry or mentally “worn out” then chances are this would “NOT” be the best time to start this type of  conversation. For the record, there is “nothing” wrong with wanting attention. None of us are perfect, and sometimes responsibilities can have a strong bearing on your life. It is important when seeking attention that you view things from the perspective of your lover as well and NOT just from your “own” perspective. ALL things can be worked out if you only “give it a chance.”  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and I hope your day is “awesome.” Here is an “attentive” piece from the Phantom Poet:

I need to be noticed, and to this cause I must speak
Yes, it IS your attention that I currently “seek”
I refuse to be ignored, so this I feel the need to mention
I don’t care how busy you are, but I want your attention
Is now the best time? I guess I would say “probably NOT”
But there won’t be any problem as long as your attention I “got”
As far as I am concerned you can be as busy as you can be
But right now nothing else matters, so pay attention to me
As long as you focus solely on me, then that is my desire
Are you trying to tell me that my house is on fire?
I don’t know what you are saying, but my thoughts will not be diminished
So whatever you got to say can surely wait until I am “finished”
I will NOT be interrupted, so my anger you should not provoke
I really need to finish my sentence, but somehow I’m smelling “smoke”
“Why didn’t you say something? We’re in a house that is not burning”
If we ever make it out alive, then I guess there is a lesson I’ll be learning
I don’t need attention THAT badly anymore, and now I am willing to listen
If I hadn’t been so stubborn, then my house would not now be missin’
The moral of this story is that my need for attention shouldn’t be so blatant
Because I could have saved my house if I had only been more ‘patient”

“Applause, please, for the Phantom Poet”

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Views on life in Texas)

Today I wanted to talk about the state of Texas. I believe as a musician I have performed there only about 4 times in my life, but I viewed it as a beautiful place to visit. Texas has come up in the news recently because their House or Representatives voted to limit “access to abortion” after 20 weeks for women. While the debate over this issue is still going strong (One woman has devoted a 13 hour debate to this bill) you get the “impression” that Texas is “strong” when it comes to the “preservation of life.” That is admirable and honorable in my eyes to at least know that they “think” this way. One of the most “famous” Texans was former President George W. Bush, who once said that if you are going to err, then make sure to err on the side of life. NOW comes the “other” side of the Texas legacy. Texas accounts for roughly 40 % of the nation’s “executions.” On average an inmate is put to death every 3 weeks. A 52 year old woman named Kimberly McCarthy is scheduled for lethal injection today (barring a last minute reprieve) for a crime she committed in 1997. McCarthy bludgeoned her 71 year old neighbor and stabbed her with a butcher knife, while severing her finger so she could get her wedding ring. As “savage and heinous” as this crime was, their still seems to be a “conflict of ideals” in Texas. While most of the residents appear to be “pro life” that belief appears to contrast itself when it comes to inmates on “death row.” Governor Rick Perry has stated that with improved DNA testing and mandatory requirements for legal representation they have “improved” the system, and he believes that the system is fair. Maybe if Kimberly McCarthy’s mother had been allowed to have an abortion during her pregnancy then this wouldn’t have been an issue today. To me, “Pro life” is “Pro life…” If you are going to err on the side of life, then why not err on “ALL” sides of life? No one should be disputing the severity of the crimes committed, and I am not saying that those condemned don’t at least “deserve” the death penalty. I just find it “troubling” that in order to prove to people that it is “wrong to kill” we have to “kill them.” If in fact one day an inmate who has been executed is later found to somehow have been “innocent,” does that mean that the governing body who ordered the execution should be placed on trial for murder? If they erred on their decision to execute, what would make the lawmakers “any different” than the people they condemned? This is not an article to bash Texas. It is a beautiful place with the second largest population in the United States. When it comes to “principle” I would just like to see it “applied” a little less “selectively.” If you are going strong to promote life, then at least be strong enough to support ALL life. As always, I welcome and any all responses. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and please welcome a bit of levity from the Phantom Poet:

In the state of Texas, they believe in life, family and planned parenthood
These ideals are honorable, admirable and designed for the greater good
When it comes to the debates over life, there has been a lot of absorption
The House of Representatives recently passed a controversial bill on abortion
They strongly believe in the preservation and right to live for people in this state
However, that belief “strongly” wavers when it comes to a “death row inmate”
Pro lifers want to ban abortions with laws that won’t suffer rejection
But what about the people whose lives are governed by lethal injection?
Kimberly McCarthy is scheduled to be executed for a debt to society she must pay
Maybe if her parents had been allowed to abort, then this wouldn’t be happening today
In Texas this issue hasn’t really been much of a debater
Does it make a difference if you “kill them now or kill them later?”
Death is death, and executions are considered to be the “final word”
To think that abortion and execution are two different things is completely”absurd”
She awaits word from Governor Rick Perry in a form of some reprieve letter
If he allows her to die for murder, then in essence is he any better?
I guess when it comes to life in Texas, only one statement seems to ring true
In Texas, you can “murder unto others as you would have them murder unto you”
I guess it is time to end this conversation, so let me add my final point to this song
Whether it’s abortion or execution, when it comes to death, it’s all wrong

“Hope your day today is FULL of life” The Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (How to handle boys that want to date your daughters)

Had an interesting topic on Facebook the other day. My daughter had posted a picture of someone wearing one of those “promotional” t-shirts that had a caption on it. This particular shirt was titled “Rules for dating my daughter” and of course, it featured some funny tidbits like “get a job” and “I hate you” and “I will hurt you.”  My daughter than asked me and her mother “What size shirt do you want?” One young man decided to chime in and respond to it by saying that he doesn’t appreciate fathers who try to intimidate dates. He said that it will never work against him and he implied that he would have no problems at all standing up to the parent if this situation should ever arise. His exact words were “Let them try.” He also said that if the parents had “properly trained” their daughter well enough then she would know not to bring home someone who is disrespectful. Now, normally I leave certain comments alone on Facebook. I realize that everyone has a right  to say whatever he or she wants and most times it is not worth the effort to engage someone, however, in this instance I felt as though his comments were a direct reflection on me. I responded by letting him know that no human being is perfect, so everyone is prone to make mistakes. A young man could be VERY courteous and respectful during the beginning and his “inner demon” could easily surface later on in the relationship. Ted Bundy was a perfect gentlemen to ALL the women he dated until he killed them all. No amount of training can make anyone “perfect” enough to be able to determine the actions of others. I also had to let him know that I was a very proud parent of my kids, and if “ANYONE” abuses or disrespects them, then it will NOT be their “fear nor intimidation” that I seek… It will be their “complete and utter annihilation.” Proper training should not just be on the parents of the girl, but rather on the boy as well. I also let him know that even though I liked the shirt it was NOT reflective of me. I have no desire to intimidate any young man who wants to see my daughter and I only saw the message on the shirt as a moment of levity for me. The young man responded that he just had a problem with the message on the t-shirt because it automatically assumed that all young men are disrespectful when it comes to dating the daughters of parents. I told him that there are a LOT of t-shirts with “tainted messages posted” that promote messages of that nature. Manufacturers have the right to promote any message they want, but that doesn’t mean that their messages have to have an effect on us. If you “do right” then you “are right.” The best way to get respect is to just “be respectful.” One day he may become a parent to a girl and then be faced with the same issues. When that day arrives I hope he has the fortitude to realize that ANY proud parent is going to be there for his or her child. For me, that will ALWAYS be the case until the day I leave this realm. Needless to say, the conversation ended with him posting a “like” on my final comment. Hey, during my years I had to meet many parents of girls I wanted to date, and I was respectful to them ALL (and the date as well). If you are mentally prepared for confrontation, then that is when confrontation usually happens.  I already know that there is “no way in Hell” this young boy will ever date my daughter. She didn’t like his message to start with, but hopefully I planted something in his mind to help him with any “other” date he may have. We ALL can learn from our experiences, and isn’t that what life should be about? I hope you don’t mind me posting this today, and please have a great one. Come on in, Phantom Poet:

When it comes to your children dating, it is proper to give consideration
Even though some young men have issues with intimidation
They come in with the perspective that they are prepared to fight
When all they need to really do is just respect and “act right”
So that you don’t end up getting yourself into a whole lot of hot water
Remember to treat your date the way you would if she were your own daughter
Because some young boys don’t want to be perceived as passive or weak
But if you mess up with my daughter, it won’t be your “fear” that I seek
No, for me there is a whole new perspective to this equation
Because I will seek nothing less than your “complete and utter annihilation”
If you abuse or disrespect her, then there is no longer a reason to debate
I may be older, but that means my aim for “shooting” is GREAT!
Men should ALWAYS be respectful to a lady whenever a date calls
And those men who abuse or disrespect should be hung by their “ballistics”
And for the parents, we only want to alleviate any worry or doubt
As long as you act right, then there should be nothing to worry about
So in closing this poem, there is one last little message that I “got”
“Do unto others as you would have them to unto you… or get SHOT!”

“Said lovingly by the Phantom Poet”

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Too early for marriage talk?)

Mr. Jolly, I recently met this man a few weeks ago, and while he  seems nice he keeps telling me that he is looking for a wife. While there is nothing wrong with feeling that way I think it is way too soon to even think about marriage. He keeps telling me this as though he is guaranteed to marry me. I still don’t know him that well yet. I have never met his family, been to his place of employment or even seen where he lives yet. Should I be concerned over his repeated statements?

I honesty think you should. I would think that any man who talks about marriage so early in a relationship is only doing so to “entice you.” It is quite possible that he is only telling you “what he thinks you want to hear.” How can anyone even “consider” marrying someone they hardly know? In fact, this is a question that you might want to consider “asking him.” While marriage is a great institution, the fact is that the focus should “not” be on “getting married” but rather on getting married “to the one you love.” If he says he is intent on getting married to “just about anyone” then he should NOT be the one for you. If he says he is intent on marrying you without first getting to know you then that is also alarming. I would “strongly” suggest that you get to know “HIM” WELL before proceeding to ANY kind of “next level” with  him. It is possible that his whole situation could be a ruse. In the meantime, you may not want to take this guy “seriously” until he steps up his game (and I do mean “game”). Let him say whatever he wants. It is what he “does” that will tell the “true” story. Good luck to you, and please welcome this great tribute from the Phantom Poet:

This man keeps telling me that there is an empty space in his life
He keeps reiterating to me that he wants to find a wife
He keeps repeating this message as if he wants to show me
But the truth of the matter is that he really doesn’t know me
I am starting to wonder just what kind of drugs he must be on
Because he doesn’t know that I know his wife from the hair salon
She already told me that their marriage is not on the skids
In fact, at this juncture they actually have two and a half kids
She told me that her and her husband are happy in their situation
I then let her know that I secretly “videotaped” his and my conversation
She said that she thought he was cheating but she just wasn’t sure “how”
She then told me that he REALLY will be “looking for a wife” now
She invited him home to meet “this new friend I found”
After he saw that it was “me” she started “slapping him around”
She hit him so hard that at one point the whole house shook
I never realized that this little woman could have such a devastating “right hook”
He tried to tell her that he didn’t cheat yet, and she screamed out “You’re lying”
She then told him that she was whipping him down because he was “trying”
He was trying his best to explain and say a whole lot more
But if is difficult to say much when you’re unconscious on the floor
She thanked me for letting her know, and then I was on my merry way
And I felt good knowing that I put a cheater in his place, on this great day…

“One down, many more to go”… The Phantom Poet

 

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