Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Diversity and your God given gifts”)

What is truly awesome about the human race are our many”differences.” Everyone is “unique.” People are born into different circumstances, different cultures, different desires with abilities.  I recently talked to someone about a man in a relationship who was a musician. It had been reported that the man was making ” only a moderate amount of money” doing what he loved to do, and that was making music. His wife asked him to get serious about life and get a regular job that could possibly pay him more money. His response was that he had a “God given ability” to play and entertain others and that made him happy. For the sake of his woman (or family) should he have given up his desire to play? I can relate to this situation because I myself play music for a living and on several occasions I actually had a 9 to 5 job that I tried to sustain. I was not happy at all, and  while the overall pay was a little better I had to work longer hours just to make that amount. I was an apartment manager and I had to deal with many different issues from people. Others were getting laid off due to the economic state of the company and their duties were being assigned to me. At one point I actually “wished” that I would get fired. The job was having an effect on my health and mental state and each day I regretted entering the building. Finally, the day came when I was “officially terminated” from the job. The company was struggling and I knew it was just a matter of time. However, when they alerted me I was probably the “happiest fired man ever.” Of course, I could have looked for another job in the same line of work, but I didn’t want to go through that same struggles and adversity. I realized that playing music made me happy, and while there are a LOT of struggling musicians out there wishing they made more money, I just came to the realization that I needed to “hustle a LOT more” to be financially comfortable. I now play just about every day each week but I am doing what I love to do and in most situations I can sleep later than most folks working a regular job. Money is “not” the cure for a better living. If you are stressed out and not happy then what good is your money? Do what you love to do, but make sure you do it with the dedication of “making it work.” You will spend a lot less time on doctor visits (smile) and maybe even live longer. I actually look forward to working (even though I find myself getting tired more). Someone asked me when I will stop playing. My response was “When they close the lid.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Patti Labelle (in white) in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

Patti Labelle and Brett

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Friend Requests”)

By now most people are already familiarized with Facebook and all the attributes of it. I have been on it for years and right now I am on my “second” Facebook page (the first one filled up with the 5,000 friend limit, so I had to create another one). When it comes to friend requests I have found that a lot of people won’t accept just anyone. They will take a look at “their” friends list first, or check out their profiles to determine why they would want to be friends. I have to be honest and just say that a lot of the friends that I accepted I just don’t know. I don’t have time to research each one thoroughly so in most instances I just accept anyone. However, recently I have learned that if the person is a provocatively dressed female wearing much of nothing with no friends of mine listed then I will often “hesitate or refrain” from accepting that person without checking the profile first. I do not tolerate pornography on my page, and after only one “bad posting”  you will be banished to the “land of the deleted.” The funny thing is that I will often have people come up to me at my gigs and they swear that I should know who they are just because they are friends of mine on Facebook. I always go along with it and fake the funk until they ask me if I know what their names are. Then I am busted (smile). However I still accept people for the most part. My biggest problem is that I cannot keep up with the list of friend requests that I often get, and if one day I do manage to accept them all I may seriously have to start “yet another Facebook page.” This is not a bad thing, because at least it lets me know that I have some popularity. My daughter was really impressed when the actor Will Smith actually “sent me” a friend request (He used to live around my way back in the day and would often watch me perform for block parties). I have had people second guess me because of the amount of friends I have. I am not sure if I understand that one. Having a lot of Facebook friends shouldn’t have any reflection on your character, but some people view it that way. For the most part I don’t take Facebook too seriously. I know of people who “live” by it and can’t go without it. To me life is way too precious to get caught up in “Facebook drama.” Above all, I am happy that people love to check out my page. There is usually a lot of activity on it (and most of it will come from other people’s postings, not mine). I don’t mind. Everyone who has a Facebook page has his or her own rules for how to govern their page. As long as my page causes me “no stress” then all is well with me. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Patti Labelle (with Brett Jolly on bass) singing “You are my friend” in concert

Patti Labelle and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Support the arts”)

Museums, symphonies, comedy shows and all other sorts of personal entertainment reflect our artistry. Our creative side is a result of our imaginations taken to the highest of levels. What good is a comedian if no one comes out to see him or her? What good is an orchestra without an audience? I am a musician who loves what he does. As much as I love to play, my real enjoyment comes from watching the reactions of others who are in attendance to watch me play. If you have ever watched a television show then you are supporting the creative side of someone who had enough resolve to put that show together. That’s why it is so important to check out a concert. That’s why it is so important to check out an art gallery. Sometimes artistry will give way to technology (as in concerts where there is no band but rather taped musical accompaniment). “Art is something that is created with imagination and skill and that is beautiful or that expresses important ideas or feelings.” If you take away our artistry you take away our progress. As long as we exercise our creative thinking then we will always have art. That is why it is so important to support the arts. Whether you love music, paintings or sculptures, fashion shows, dance performances or music concerts, there is a world of creativity out there waiting to be “appreciated.” I only hope that at their next performances they will see you “smiling in the audience.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Patti Labelle and Brett Jolly in concert

 

Patti Labelle and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My experiences with Patti Labelle”)

Pattie Labelle is a Philadelphia icon. She is a truly awesome singer who has been well known to have ties to Philly. She has had many hits, but her biggest one is a monster track called “Lady Marmalade.” I have had the honor to perform with her on “several” occasions. I remember on one evening we were trying to get ready to play for an event entitled Teddy 25 where Patti didn’t really have time to rehearse. The gig was scheduled to be at the Kimmel Center here in Philadelphia, so Patti decided to hear us play the music “over the phone” while she sang to it. We thought it was hilarious, but hey, it “worked.” On the day of the show, we “rocked” it. On another occasion, we did a major outdoor concert with her at the Art Museum on the parkway here in Philly (same place where they had the Live Aid concert years before). For this event as well, we had no rehearsal with her at all, and didn’t even get to communicate with Patti beforehand. At this stage she trusted us and she already knew the gig would be in great hands. On the evening of the show I was beginning to wonder if she would even show up for her own gig. Just a few minutes before showtime, a white limo pulls up to the stage, and after a few minutes out stepped “Patti.” She waved a friendly “hello” to us as she came onstage and started doing her show as though we all had rehearsed for decades. It was a great moment, and of course I got great enjoyment out of seeing her “kick off her shoes onstage, lay down on her back and sing.” Of course, she had her “hot flash” moments onstage, but that never stops her from giving her all during her performances. Patti is over 70 in age now, but she can still “out-sing” many of these younger upcoming stars. If you like to see “real singing at it’s best” then you need to check out Patti Labelle. I will cherish the moments I have had onstage with her, and I hope you don’t mind me sharing with you today. As always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.

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Patti Labelle and Brett Jolly in concert

Patti Labelle and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Please be careful, the scam artists have already started”)

While this year should have a very festive atmosphere about it, I hope that everyone stays alert for those people with “ulterior  motives.” Yesterday I traveled to pick my daughter up from school, and at one point I turned left down a road. Well, after turning, I happened to notice a figure running out towards my car kind of fast. I wasn’t sure what was on his  mind, but then I heard a “bang” noise, much like someone “punching” my car. This was done towards the “back end” of my vehicle, and I was immediately “livid.” I stopped the car “in the middle of the street” and got out to confront this man. He was a younger guy, but dressed rather raggedy, as though he might actually have been homeless… He was leaning against the wall of the building holding his stomach, and my very first words to him were “Just WHAT is your problem?”  He responded by saying, “You hit  me, you hit me.” Before he could even get fully into his dialogue, I interrupted him to say, “Nice try, but in order to hit you, the impact to my car would have had to been near the “front” and NOT the back… “You will  not sucker me into getting any money, but I  AM about to hit you FOR REAL…” I pointed my finger in his face and said, “You have  about 5 seconds to get out of here and if I still see you then you will see a side of me that my kids never knew existed.” He got scared quickly, and started apologizing a lot. He then realized that the longer he stayed there the angrier I got, so he started running while still shouting out apologies. For a man who “supposedly” got hit by a car he seemed to be able to run “rather fast.” I am not mentioning this story to get any kudos or a pat on the back. The truth of the matter is that what I did was actually “very foolish.” This guy could have had a gun or he could have had friends waiting around the corner for me. I was “extremely” mad and upset, and I didn’t think before acting. I  just have a problem with people trying to run a scam game on me and thinking they can just get away with it. The bad part about this was that I was actually mad enough to literally punch the fool out of him, and I should never have gotten to that level. I apologized to my kids and I took time to think about the situation later. I am mentioning this today because during this time of year there will be many “scam artists” out there trying to get your money through devious methods. It is important every time someone tells you that you “won a great prize” and then ask you for your credit card number to think about it before proceeding. It is important whenever you are in a mall and someone bumps into you to make sure you check your wallets and purses, because that is a prime example of how pickpockets work. It is important to note that whenever someone is selling you a great necklace or watch on the street that those goods just “might” be stolen from someone or someplace. ‘Tis the season to “be careful” and I would hate to see anything bad happen to good people. Yesterday I was tired from a long trip, and I was vulnerable. I did not make the right decision and I got lucky this time. I have to do better next time. I hope that you are all careful with whatever you do this holiday season. They are out there “waiting” for us… We need to be prepared… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer….

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Patti Labelle and Brett Jolly in concert

Patti Labelle and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: My “gig” from last night)

When I do gigs, I often never know what they are about or even the details often associated with them. I play a lot and for me the two most important things to know are “where the gig is” and “how much do I get paid.” This past weekend I had a LOT of playing to do, and yesterday (Sunday) I actually had 3 affairs to play for. The last one proved to be the most intriguing. I did know that it was a birthday party for some guy who had turned 50 years old. That’s hardly a surprise at all, because I have done many birthday parties, including Donald Trumps (seriously). Everything seemed normal at first to me, and I didn’t take much notice of anything. There were only a few people there at the beginning (not more than about 8). As the crowd began to enter, I noticed that some of the women there didn’t seem all that attractive to me for some reason (not that I am calling anyone ugly…Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder). Maybe I should just say that to me the women didn’t seem to have much of an appeal by “my” standards. However, as the evening progressed, I noticed that there were more and more men in attendance and they seemed to greatly outnumber the women. Well, there turned out to be a reason for that… The party was designed for “gay man and transgender women.” Now please note that I am NOT one to judge anyone, and I mean that. Even though I had done gigs like this before these kind of events are usually rare. Throughout the night the men danced, did impersonations of Patti Labelle and others and they had themselves a GREAT time. We did what we normally do and that was provide great music for the event. I remember someone had asked me how it felt to play for a gay function and to compare it with my regular functions. To be honest, the gay clientele has “much” more fun at their events. They are not ashamed by any means to be who they are and they don’t have to be loved, but they want to at least be “accepted” for who and what they are. I can understand that fully, We ALL are different in some way, but that doesn’t mean that we have to provide a false facade when letting people know who we are. No, I am not gay by “ANY” means, but I do respect their rights to live in society the same way as everyone else. For them, being gay is not a crime…  It is what they are… As tired as I was, I had to admit that the affair was a great one. Of course, after the gig was over I got paid immediately and I took my exhausted behind home. I mentioned this topic today because “many” of us are “quick” to judge that which we don’t know. Many of us assume that being “different” is “not normal” and in doing so we only “feed” that negative stereotype. For those that have any problems with the gay lifestyle, I only wish  they could have been there last night to this function. No matter what, people will still cling to their stereotypes and discriminating thoughts, but until you take the time to get to know them you will never fully understand them. No one is perfect, and your values don’t necessarily  make you any better than anyone else. Thank you for reading my Daily Thought today, and I wish you the absolute best that life has to offer today.

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Patti LaBelle and Brett Jolly in concert

Patti Labelle and Brett

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Your body)

Just how important is your health? Well, if a basketball player put on just “5” extra pounds during the season it could have an adverse impact on his “entire” performance. When you jump you are carrying the weight of your body up in the air with you, so naturally if you add 5 more pounds to it then it would take “more” energy and strength to do so. Even if you are “not” a professional athlete your weight, strength, endurance and conditioning can have a “major” effect on your every day activities as well.  Just being the slightest bit off of your desired weight and frame can often make you irritable, frustrated, grouchy and even sick. If you can’t feel comfortable within your own body then it will show in how you address others, your attitude towards life in general and how people “perceive you.” Heavier people have been known to stress out more. Your body is your temple. Everything you do depends on how well it functions for you. The better the condition of your body, the better your quality of life is. It makes sense to assess your own  health situation, and in the process improve your quality of life. A friend of mine has recently gotten overweight. While he packed on more pounds his demeanor also changed dramatically. Where he used to be a funny guy all the time now he spends more time complaining just about everything. I am not the only one who has noticed the change within him. He seems like an “extremely high” candidate for high blood pressure and while I have mentioned it before I can see that I need to sit him down and talk more in depth with  him. 2 years ago I lost a good friend hours after I was with him, and during that time his stomach looked to be larger than normal. I remember taking notice of it and wanting to say something to him about it. I never got that chance as he died just hours later… Our bodies are the most valuable assets we have right now, and the best way to enjoy a better life is to take better care of the temple we use to navigate through it. It is not necessarily about how you “look” but more about how you “feel.” Take a moment to make your “own assessment” of yourself. Try walking around the block, doing a few exercises and then look at yourself in a full length mirror. If there is “anything” that you don’t like about yourself, then by all means do whatever you can do to “change it.” You have the power, and don’t you think you deserve the best quality of life? It starts with you. Today I am going to take a walk (or 2) around the neighborhood. I have absolutely no problems “practicing what I preach.” Hopefully you feel the same way. Please have a great weekend, and I wish the very best to you and that life has to offer.

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Patti Labelle and Brett Jolly in concert

Patti Labelle and Brett