Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Online dating)

I just came out of a bad relationship. I am currently looking for someone new. My friends are telling me that I should get into those dating web sites to find the right man for me. I have heard horror stories. What do you think about dating sites, and should I even look into them?

Unfortunately horror stories can happen under a lot of different circumstances, not just on dating sites. While there are some really bad stories from online dating there are also plenty of success stories as well. One of the great things about online dating is that during the process of getting to know someone you are “protected” by your computer screen and your “block/delete” button. When someone appears to be getting “out of hand” you can just hit that button and be “done with him.” Also, one of the advantages of online dating is that you get to know and learn the “inner person” first before getting to see the “physical presence.” If you met someone off the street, the first thing you would encounter is the “physical” image, and sometimes that image can “taint” your perspective on what that person is like “on the inside.” With online dating it can be the exact opposite. One of the big problems with online dating is that a “lot” of people “misrepresent” themselves. Some will put false information in their profiles to make themselves look more attractive. Others will put up pictures of themselves from “20” years ago or just put up a picture that isn’t even really them. When checking out profiles, you will need to look for “little things” that give away the details of what this person is really like. If he claims to be a world famous writer and yet all of his words are “capitalized and misspelled” then chances are he is “lying.” If he claims to be an doctor, lawyer AND and astronaut then the chances of him being truthful are “slim.” The good thing is that you can just about “Google” anyone online to find out details about someone. If he is “legit” then there should be “something” about him that you can find out online. I believe that just about one out of five relationships are being discovered online, so it should be acceptable for you to step up to the “new age.” Good luck to you and please welcome that world famous online lyricist, the Phantom Poet:

I found this man on a dating site and his picture is just as fine as it could be
but why is there a little date in the left hand corner that happens to say 1973?
He told me that it is a recent pic of him and that there is really no oversight
But the condition of the picture is all wrinkly and it is also in “black and white”
In his profile he says he is a world class scholar and he is intellectually compelled
The only problem with this is that every other third word is badly misspelled
He said he can’t mention his job because he discretely works for the FBI
Well, I know someone at that organization and he never heard of the guy
He claims that he is single and has never been out with any ladies
But I Googled his name and found that he is “married with 3 babies”
He told me he only drinks socially and never once has he gotten plastered
My friend knows him and said he is in the bars every day, the lying bastard
That is why when you do your homework well, you never know what you might find
when you search for a person’s information and find it all online
Usually you can find out the information you want without fail
And that can come in handy, especially if you discover he is already in jail
So don’t be afraid to look for love online, because nowadays that is what people do
Because if he acts up and gets rude, no one can reach through your screen to get you
And if he gets totally ridiculous, then this is how you make this separation “complete”
Just go to that little button on your computer and press it… the one that says “delete”

“From the hard drive” of the Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Views on Online Dating)

Mr. Jolly

Subject: Online Dating

Hi, Brett. My friend has decided it’s time to try something new. I suggested online dating. Do you have an opinion on online dating? If so, what are your views? What do you consider to be the  pros and cons? And would you, or would you not, recommend online dating?

There are pros and cons to just about ALL types of dating, but it seems like online dating is the new age thing that a lot of people are into. The good things about online dating is that in most cases you get to know the “inner” person first before meeting the “surface” person. When doing conventional dating it is usually the other way around. Also, you can look over the profile/status first and automatically reject a potential candidate without the person even knowing he or she has been rejected.  You can also compare his or her interests with yours to see if there is any type of compatibility there before saying “Hello.” Finally, online dating broadens the field of potential candidates for you to choose from. You may live in a small town where you know everyone, but online dating can bring you possible candidates from other areas that are beyond your scope. The cons of online dating are somewhat similar to regular dating. You don’t know if what they have posted on their profile pages are the truth or not. I can even take it further than that. A lot of times the pictures you may see on the page are not even representing the current image of what he or she may look like.  In fact, if the person is in his or her 30’s or 40’s there’s is a chance that the picture will be one that was taken while they were in their 20’s. Even  with all this happening, you can still send a message to the desired recipient and interact in discussion. No matter how bad the situation may get, you will always be protected by your computer screen (and your “delete” button). You may want to take note of things when chatting with people. First, take note of how they type their profile page and see if there are any similarities when chatting with you. For instance, the profile page might be typed nice and proper, but when they engage in conversation with you they might do so in “all” capital letters.  That means that there is automatically a difference between the person who made the profile page and the one you are chatting with now. Also, you need to have set questions that you would like to ask, and you need to pay particular attention to how he or she answers. It is not “what” they say that you should take note of, but rather what they “don’t say and “how” they don’t say it. If you ask someone if he or she is “married” and the person kind of dances around the answer, then that is a red flag that you need to pay attention to.  Overall, I am highly in favor of “online dating” because it offers you the chance to get to know someone “internally” first while giving you the power to “shut this down” should the person get out of hand. I would definitely recommend it to everyone. I don’t know the actual figures, but somewhere you can “Google” the statistics of succeeded relationships that began online, but I do believe the ratio is a good one. “Your friend” (yeah, I have heard THAT before) has nothing to lose by trying it, and it just might turn out to the best thing for her or  him. Thank you for your topic submission and thank you for allowing to start your week off with the Phantom Poet:

If you are in need and searching for that “proper” mate
Then it may be the right time for you to “online” date
Some people falsify profiles and they don’t want to get caught
Beware of anyone who claims to be a lawyer, doctor AND astronaut
He may state that he owns a mansion when it is some small rented out joint
And he may state that he earns “six figures (“but only when you include the “decimal point”)
And when it comes to his pictures his image might look awesome and “just right”
but you need to beware if his the quality of the picture is worn and in black and white
You also need to take note of all the jobs he says he once held
And you need to pay particular attention if all his words appear “misspelled”
Take note of any and ALL abnormalities because in case anything is missed
You could find yourself going out with someone on the FBI’s “most wanted list”
So make sure to do your research on this person, because that’s what you need to do
Oh yeah, and by the way, you don’t need to make things worse by lying on your profile too
Because if “he lies” and then “you lie” when trying to find that “perfect” lover
Then the both of you might as well get together, because you’re now “made for each other”

Yet “another” exhilarating performance from the lyrical jihad, the Phantom Poet

Remember Wonder Woman? This is Brett Jolly and Linda Carter (who now sings country music)

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