Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Are we really as smart as we think we are?”)

After thinking about it for a minute, I actually pondered this question, “Just how smart are we… really?” When you think about it, our society has systematically been geared for people to go to school, get good grades, graduate and make a decent living. Yet how many “big named entertainment artists” have actually “followed” this formula to success? Did Jay-Z or Beyonce ever graduate from college? I honestly don’t know the answer to that question, but I do know that they are multi-millionaires whether they attended school or not. What about some of the others like Kanye or Rihanna? Brittney Spears? Will Smith? How many pro athletes only did “one year” of college only to leave early and become instant millionaires (and then never even go back to get their degrees)? LeBron James became a millionaire straight out of high school. We are charged astronomical fees to attend college just so that we can “start off broke” after we graduate and then try to find some way to pay off the “huge” student loan we took (just so we could graduate to make more money in the first place). How much sense does that really make? When it comes to capital punishment, we sentence murderers to “death” just to show them that killing is “wrong.” Yeah, THAT surely shows a high level of intelligence. On the other side, many of us are “Pro Life” when it comes to the sensitive subject of “abortion and killing unborn babies”, and yet those same people “rarely” intervene when it comes to those who are on death row (and about to be executed). I guess that must mean that we are only pro life when it comes to “certain lives.” And what about the babies that “do” actually make it into this world born to parents that are not properly equipped to raise them? Many of these kids grow up in a violent world only to comment violence against someone else whose parents raised him or her properly. The money that we could invest into better training and education seems to be spent more on “prisons.” The disease Ebola kills thousands of people in Africa but we wait until it strikes here in the United States before we actually find a way to “cure it.” On the social side, women will wear makeup, false hair, short tight skirts, push up bras with low cleavage, form fitting dresses, heels and sexy attire and then say later on they want a man to love them “for their minds.” Most men will take a woman out on a date, pay the bill and make sure that he “lets her know frequently how much the bill was” so that he can impress her with his money instead of his “great gentlemanly personality.” When a man frequents a lot of women he is often known as a “stud.” When a woman frequents a lot of men she if often known as a “ho.” Many of us get “married for life” just so we can divorce after 5 years or so. We claim to be more “civilized” than other animals on the planet and yet we kill off more of each other than they do. We go to war to kill people we don’t even know and never met before just because our government doesn’t like their government. In the United States, Republicans and Democrats claim they want the same things for the American Public, but yet none of them can ever agree “on anything.” How smart is that? Many of us actually hate the police… at least until we need them in an emergency. We don’t want people to speed in cars and yet we keep making them capable of doing speeds up to 120 miles per hour. Don’t get me wrong, we managed to receive radio waves and video signals over the air, construct automobiles and planes and even invented the internet. Those are great accomplishments, but in the process we are “killing” our climate with global warming (among other environmental disaster issues). We declare ourselves to be the superior form on life on this planet. Then why are we killing ourselves in this way? Yes, I would love to believe that our “intellect” places us above all other species on this planet. I I just can’t help but ponder that we might not be as intelligent as we think we are sometimes. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Someone said that ALL men cheat… Is that true?”)

An interesting topic for today: I had heard through a third party that someone actually made a rather “bold” statement, and that statement was “ALL men cheat.” Now the thing that proved to be the most intriguing about this particular statement is the fact that it was actually made “by a man.” While he has a right to his own opinion, does that mean that he should have the right to be considered “correct?” I am sure that there are others who feel this way (and I already know that there are some women out there who support this claim) but are these words being spoken from “personal” experience or just “generalization?” When I examine this statement, my “first” thought would be “Do you actually KNOW all men?” You see, in order to make that statement so inclusive then you would need to at least know the circumstances of all men AND all couples. Next you would have to know the “mentality” of all these men who are currently in relationships. That would seem like a very large and difficult task for anyone to take on. Next, what experience did he have to even “prompt” him to “come up” with this theory? Did he base this on the principle of others or just what HE has personally gone through? Finally, does what he just said reflect more on “others” or just “him?” You see, when you examine his statement carefully, that actually means that “HE” cheats in “his” relationships. After all, if he is indeed a man then  shouldn’t he include “himself” in his own category? I would also love to know his personal “definition” of cheating… Is he talking about physically or emotionally or just with passing thoughts? Anyone can see  another person and find that person attractive, but does that thought constitute cheating emotionally? If I had the opportunity to question this guy there is a “LOT” that I would have asked him. I like to get “in depth” with people who say things like that, and I am sorry that I didn’t have the opportunity to confront this man. For the record, sometimes our thoughts and theories say more about “us” than they do about “others.” While I will not be one to judge this man for what he feels, I can say that your words can work for you just as easily as they can work “against” you. The moral of this story is plain and simple: “Think about what you are going to say BEFORE  you actually say it.” If you don’t know then don’t “pretend” as though you do. As for those people out there who fully support his opinion, I only hope that you take the time to find a couple that will prove you wrong. There are good men out there, but until you get to the point where you can “recognize” them then you will continue to think the way you do. There is a big difference between viewing something with an “open mind” and viewing something with a “hole in your head.” For the sake of being fair to others, let’s try to opt for the former… and a lot “less” of the latter… Thank you for reading my Daily Thought, and as always, I wish the very best for you that life has to offer. 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Can there ever be a day of world peace?)

Mr. Jolly, do you ever think the world will one day be completely at peace, with no wars, no killing and no hatred towards each other? Is it even possible for that to happen, and if so, what would it take to make it happen?

That is a VERY good question. In a world where we have to depend on each other to survive we are often our own worst enemies. We kill for different reasons, different views and different perceptions of each other. The heads of nations will initiate wars with other nations for reasons only they really know and send out the children of mothers and fathers to die for a cause that only they believe in. Many nations will initiate war to show their strengths,  when in reality it only shows their weaknesses. As wonderful as the concept of peace sounds, we have to accept the fact that fighting is just in our nature. We claim to be superior to the other animals on  this planet when many of us are even “more” barbaric and savage. If the world did in fact have one complete day of peace we probably would no longer recognize each other. Here in the states we just recently had an execution that went  horribly  wrong. The inmate who was being put to death was administered drugs to induce sleep first, but during the procedure he grimaced, tried to hold his head up and experienced grueling pain. They finally had to abort the procedure because it was too inhumane but the victim finally died from an apparent heart attack. For us, in order to teach people that they  should not kill, we “kill” them. I don’t know about you, but I find a LOT of fault in that sentiment. I think  the only way the entire world would unite is if we had to face some “other” obstacle or foe that would involve our attention. That is about the best scenario  that I can imagine. Until then, we have to accept the fact that on this  world “fighting is inevitable.” We invade other areas because of “weapons of mass destruction” that were never found and we use force to  annex areas involuntarily for our own personal agendas. The world may never be totally right, but life must go on.  Maybe one day this dream will come true, but until then reality will always be our “slap in the face.” I strongly believe in peace, and I sincerely hope that I will live long enough to actually “see it one day.” Thank you for your topic, and I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Weather Conditions)

“Snow”….snow, and even more snow…. I remember over the past couple of years notable leaders were preaching about the perils that come along with “global warming.” Remember that? From what I heard, the winters would be warmer and our ecological balance would be offset (resulting in all kinds of troubles for the world). From what I had heard there was an issue with the polar ice caps melting and throwing off world climate. Well, I can only say that here in Philadelphia, we are getting hit with the “winter of winters.” We have had so much snow and cold temperatures that we have to be heading close to setting some kind of record. Now even though I was born in March, I am “still” a summer man. I absolutely “love” the warm and even the hot temperatures. I realize that we have to take the bad with the good, and even though the snow has had an economic effect on me as well (whenever gigs get cancelled,  I don’t get paid) I have come to accept the fact that we need the full balance of whatever mother nature provides. That being said, this winter I would just like to say “Help!” We are being hit with so much snow and cold that I wonder if it is “ever” going to stop. The deep part is that this is only the beginning of February and we have already gotten hit “hard.” I can complain about the weather, but the truth of the matter is that I need to accept the fact that life is based on different extremes. We grow hair so that we can eventually cut it. We raise farm animals so that eventually they can be slaughtered. We make as much money as we can so that we can “spend” as much money as we can. To me, that’s “balance.” Yeah, I may not like the snow and the cold, but as long as I am alive to experience it then who am I to complain? We all would love favorable circumstances, but we can never fully appreciate favorable circumstances until we have overcome the strongest of unfavorable challenges. For instance, the number one Football team in the world has every right to feel great about their accomplishments, but how great would that victory feel if their opponents were a bunch of elementary school kids? Life for us all should be the same way. People will tell us that we can’t do this and we can’t do that, but if we prove them wrong then it says more about us than it does them. Whatever life throws your way, be it rain, snow, tornadoes, tsunamis or earthquakes, as long as you are able to survie it then just chalk it up to being blessed. There are many things that can take us out of here in an instant, but yet life goes on. No, I will not pretend to like snow. However, I will accept the fact that this winter has been a monstrous one so far, and from what I have heard more is yet to come. Wherever you are, I wish you favorable conditions and the absolute best that life has to offer. If that is not the case, then I sincerely hope you make the most of whatever you have left… That, should be good enough for us all. Have a great day.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Why men misrepresent themselves on dates)

Why is it that men always send their representatives when it comes to dating? They try hard to be perfect gentlemen, but it isn’t until later on in the relationship that we find out what kind of man he really is. Why can’t men just be real from the start? I always wait for the real person to come out, and that usually happens after a few dates. Why can’t men just be themselves from the start and save us the trouble of finding out the truth about them later?

Now, I do hear you on this one, and I do agree that most men will try to impress to the point where they might not even be themselves. However, when it comes to being “real,” I  have “also” noticed that “some” women on dates will wear different color eye contact lenses, weaves, wigs, girdles, padded bras, push up bras, foundation, mousse (AND squirrel) and a whole “assortment” of things to either conceal flaws or enhance themselves. In other words, most times BOTH parties send their “representatives” when it comes to dating. A lot of women will take HOURS sprucing themselves up for a date, and since men are usually visual creatures, it helps to make a good impression. When men act the way they do, it is also designed to impress you, but more from the “character” aspect of a relationship. Yes, men will hold the door for you, take you to dinner, wine and dine and the whole nine yards, but when it comes to dating it may take a few times before the “real” persona comes out. When it comes to the “art” of dating it can sometimes amount to a cat and mouse game. Men try to figure out if you really look as “good” as you do and woman generally wait for the man’s character flaws to eventually show through. In time ALL is revealed… So in essence you are right when it comes to the “misrepresentations” that often occur with dating, however, we shouldn’t exclude the women when it comes to this category. EVERYONE likes to make a great “first impression,” even if that impression may NOT be who we truly are. The best thing to do is have “patience.” No one can hide their flaws forever… Thank you for submitting your topic and let’s all welcome that illustrious deceiver, the Phantom Poet:

When going out on a date,  I think that most women already know the deal
So why is it that when a man displays his character at first he just can’t be real?
Usually a man is on his best behavior whenever he first starts to call me
And for a couple of dates he will be the equivalent of Sir Walter Raleigh
Once the novelty wears off, the horns come out when a man tries to figure her
And sometimes it gets “REALLY” bad when it comes to “one” horn “in particular”
I am a young woman who is looking for a good man and while still in my prime
I’d like to know the “real” you so that I won’t end up wasting most of my time
When it comes to women we ALL are genuine, and this you can believe
Ain’t “nothing” fake on me, so please excuse me while I adjust my weave
Us women go to ALL extremes to look good and we conquer every hurdle
Now I am headed to the ladies room for a second to unfasten this girdle
When it comes to men and their phony-ness I have just about had it
But I am glad that they can’t tell that my bra is pushed up… AND padded
I ALWAYS represent myself truthfully and on me “nothing” is vague
But I have to position myself correct so he won’t notice my wooden leg
Hey, when it comes to looking good, we women will use whatever it will take
To look “real” for the men, even if all of it is “fake”
Because a woman has the RIGHT to enhance herself with anything she’s got
So that you men can see the “real” us, even if it’s truly “not”

“Baby, are you in there somewhere?” The Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “He tries to deter me from my business aspirations”)

I don’t have a love relationship question, but I do have something that I hope you can help me out with. I am currently in a relationship with a very nice man, and he has a very good job. However, I am interested in starting up my own business and he keeps trying to persuade me to give up on my dream. He cites the economy and other factors that make me feel like it isn’t worth the effort. Should I give in to what he says or follow my dream?
 
For some reason or other this sounds like a love relationship question to me. The ideal concept of life is to “follow your dreams.” Some of the greatest accomplishments in history started as a small “light bulb” in someone’s mind. If you have something that you truly believe in, then you owe it to yourself to follow your own destiny.  Don’t allow your inspirations to be controlled by others, including those you are in relationships with. Can you imagine how it would have been if Oprah had never followed her vision? Women are playing much bigger roles in the development of our economy and if you give up on your own ideas you may NEVER realize or reach your fullest potential. When it comes to your man, I cannot tell you exactly why he is against your dreams, but I can pretty much speculate. He may be one of those men that have a problem with having a woman who is more successful than he is, and that might be a threat to his own insecurity. You have a right to be successful just like he does, and the worse thing a woman can do is let a man dictate her dreams, inspirations and desires for her… NO ONE should have that kind of control over you. A normal man who cares would support you. If your man keeps downplaying your inspirations, then just stop talking about it to him and just follow through with your plans without his knowledge. If it works and you become successful and wealthy, then you can tell him to quit “HIS” job. If for some reason in the unforeseeable future the both of you break up, then you will be sorry that you allowed him to stop you from fulfilling your dreams. Dare to imagine and take the steps necessary to  reach your goals in life, and if this man is considered “excess weight” when trying to reach the top, there is nothing wrong with letting go of “unnecessary baggage.”   Here is the Phantom Poet with his introduction statement:
 
When your man tries to persuade you to not go into business
Be successful with it anyway, and later on he’ll beg for your forgiveness
Of course he’ll tell you now that your chances of making it are slim
That’s because in reality he doesn’t want you to be more successful than HIM
The things he says to you are only meant as some motivational detractor
When in reality you should use his words as an inspirational factor
You should understand that you being successful probably wouldn’t fill “his” need
And there are plenty of men out there who can’t stand to see their woman succeed
For some reason when it comes to this scenario some men can’t comprehend it
Because it weakens their egos if a woman is deemed “independent”
You are entitled to your dreams as well, and your man should really stop stressing
Because in order for you to make it big, you really DON’T need his blessing
So if he tells you that in your relationship your hopes and dreams are not required
Do it anyway, make millions, buy his company and have HIM fired
Because women are becoming entrepreneurs too, and now businesswomen are living LARGE
And your man is just afraid that one day you will become the “Head B____ in charge.”
So when people ask about your love life, make sure you’re not at a loss
Just tell them “HE wears the pants, but I’M STILL the boss.”
“He doesn’t own nor control me, and I can do ALL that is desired”
“And if he doesn’t like that, then guess what? HE… is fired….”
 
“And you won’t get a raise from here anymore either”
                                                       ” The Phantom Poet”

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Neglected Family)

Subject: Neglected family
 
My little cousin had a boyfriend that left her and married a girl that he got pregnant. Well when he left her he had no Idea that she was pregnant also. She told him later but he denied the baby and wanted a DNA test. Now her son is almost 8 months old she gave him the paternity test to prove to him it was his child and since he got the test back 99.99% he has had the child for the weekend once and also has come to see him and introduced him to his mom. But he hides the child from the wife and other child. Well both the guy and his wife are my friends and I chat with them everyday. She is so sure that her marriage is the best it has ever been but now I am frustrated because he is not providing for my little cousin and she has even allowed him all this time without telling his new wife or taking out child support so she would not mess things up for him and have him charged by the service for adultery. She also is struggling living in another state without family while serving her country. I help her when I can but it is just too much for her to do alone. He doesn’t even bother to see the child anymore. I want to tell my friend the wife that my cousin’s new son is her child’s brother. She already has mentioned that they look so much alike. Is this a good Idea because he won’t do anything and it falls on us to make sure she has enough for the child. In the meantime I see his other son being wined and dined and dressed to the nines when she is struggling with her son and talking to the wife all the time and keeping it a secret as if the child were a dirty secret really bothers me! What do you think I should do? I was in this situation before with an ex-boyfriend and this is the same friend that told me he had a child when I didn’t know.
 
It is perfectly understandable to want to help, but this is strictly a matter between your cousin and him. If you take matters into your own hands it could eventually make you look unfavorable in EVERYONE’S eyes. The wife might hate you for waiting so long to tell her and blame you for subsequently breaking up her “great” marriage. The husband might hate you for meddling in his affairs, and the cousin might not want you to take her matters into your own hands (especially when she has the option to do so herself). As for her child, she can get all the help she needs through family services court. All she has to do is go there and file. The court will take care of all the rest. If she chooses not to do so then it isn’t your responsibility to support her… It is his… She “CAN” make him pay… “one-way or another”… The best way to get him to support his other child may not necessarily be to take him to court, but to at least THREATEN to take him to court. I am sure he knows what the circumstances could be if he is brought in front of a legal representative and if he is smart he should choose to avoid that situation at “all” costs… Right now the only reason he is doing nothing is because he knows he can get away with it. He is taking advantage of your cousin’s weakness and taking it for granted that she won’t pursue any legal remedies against him. Up to now he has been “right.” The best way to help your cousin is to talk to “her” and convince her to confront him about what she needs for her child. The child should NOT have to suffer, especially when it HAS a father who CAN support it. If your cousin refuses to ask for money from the father then for him it will be the same concept as “Out of sight, out of mind”. As long as he doesn’t see the child, then in his mind this child will not “exist”. The child is real… and so is his responsibility… Helping your cousin support her child will not give her the encouragement she needs to confront the father about help. It will only make her more dependent on YOU. As long as she knows she can get money from you, then there is no need for her to address him. As painful as it might feel, stop doing for this child, and help her get the strength she needs to step up to this man and MAKE him responsible… Once his paycheck starts diminishing for child support, the wife will ultimately find out something (Wives have a way of knowing when their man’s money starts to run short). If she is like most inquisitive wives, she will eventually snoop around and find out about this other child on her own. It will happen in time… Right now, it might be wise to check out this “happening” sermon from the Phantom Poet:
 
My cousin’s boyfriend left her, and found another woman to pursue
He got this new woman pregnant along with my cousin too
We took a DNA test, and the results were as expected
He takes care of one baby, but leaves the other one neglected
He lives with his new family, and got his woman a ring
But when it comes to his other child, he doesn’t give anything
We want him to take care of this child too, and if he doesn’t handle this with caution
He is going to come home one day, and find his car put up for auction
This action might be considered drastic, and some may consider it to be “steep”
We’ll place the baby on top with a sign that says, “Take my daddy’s car… CHEAP”
And if that doesn’t work, then other remedies are to be had
We can put his picture on a highway billboard with the caption “Deadbeat Dad”
And if that doesn’t work, there are other things we can also do
We can list his address and phone number on that billboard, too
Some may think that we are taking this too far, and getting way too hyper
But I think we should mail his other family boxes… of his child’s “poopy” diapers
Maybe then he will get an idea of how his other family is so poor
Those “poopy” diapers are sure to smell like a “nuclear war”
These pampers represent everything that he has not given his child
On top of that, we’ll STILL take him to court (Now ain’t that wild?)
So if you’re a man with a child and you have not paid one red cent
Then you’d better step up to the plate, and start to represent
Don’t think you can just ignore it, and expect it to go away
Because you too can get mailed your child’s poopy diapers… “each and every” day…
 
                                  “Aw man! Special delivery?” The Phantom Poet

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