Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“They are preparing for the Democratic National Convention here in Philadelphia”)

Just this past weekend I witnessed scores of police cars and vans lined up along the main highways here in Philadelphia. They had exits blocked off and security was at a very high level. Also there were helicopters arriving and leaving in packs of 3. My only guess was that this was designed to throw off any possible acts of terrorism. Yes, it is easy to tell that the Democratic Convention is coming to town here in Philadelphia. While I am not expected to be a part of it musically this year it still brings back old memories of the year 2000 when they had the Republican National Convention here in Philadelphia. George Bush was the nominee and for the very first night I had to perform for it with a Gospel group. That night, Brian McKnight, Chaka Khan, the Delfonics, and were the other opening entertainment acts along with us. I caught first hand how the CIA handles business when it comes to being a part of these types of festivities. First they needed our social security numbers. I guess they had to run background checks to see if any of us had a criminal history. Next they had us meet at a random location which was announced that day. This seemed as though it was done just to throw possible terrorists off. We all met at this location and they had a van ready to transport us to the venue. Just before we entered the building, the CIA asked us to get out of the van so that they could put mirrors with long sticks under the bus (to look for things like bombs). They also brought in bomb sniffing dogs. I had my guitar so they had to examine that as well. They do not play when it comes to safety measures. When we finally made it to the stage, I was looking at scores of people and television crews with cameras focused squarely on us. The speaker of the house back then whose name was Trent Lott, said to me, “You are about to be seen on television by 10.5 million people. Are you nervous?” I looked at him with a smile and simply said, “No… are you?” He then joked that he could sing if we needed him. I told him to hold that thought and be on standby. We did our parts and amazingly after that we were featured on national television and magazines for that whole entire week (I guess being an all African American Gospel group performing for the Republicans must have been a big thing). Many people talked about us (some negatively) but for me it was a just a gig, and as long as they paid me for it (which they did) then they were entitled to my services. It was worth going through all that security. If you have ever had to deal with protection people like the CIA then you already know what I am talking about. I can only imagine what it must be like at today’s level. I just wanted to share my own experience with you today. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“A night with New Edition, Whitney Houston and Usher”)

I once played for this function/award show where we were doing a tribute to the 90’s group sensation “New Edition.” They had major hits like “Mr. Telephone Man, Boyz II Men, Count me out” and much more. i believe the event took place in Washington, DC (even though my memory might not be all that accurate). We had to perform medleys of New Edition tunes behind a young group called “the youngzters” featuring an artist that some of you “may have heard of.” That  young artist just “happened” to be “Usher.” Yes, I performed with Usher while he sang a tribute to New Edition. I really had no idea what to expect, but I just handled it like I did for most gigs and just “prepared” for “anything.” When we did the sound check, everything went smoothly. The music sounded great and everyone seemed please. Then I got a tap on my shoulder from behind, and lo and behold, it was Usher. He asked me if I could come into the back green room with him to talk for a moment. He said that there was a certain part of a particular song that he wanted me to create a sound effect for. He then tried to “mouth” the sound and I knew immediately what he wanted. I responded by saying, “You must want a bass slide during that part.” He looked at me, smiled and said “Yeah, that’s it! A bass slide. Can you hook me up?” I just simply said “i got you covered” and went on my way. When it came time to perform  the show, i noticed the group New Edition sitting together in the front row, but I noticed that Bobby Brown was at the other end of the row with a female who looked “very” familiar. He was sitting with Whitney Houston, his arms embraced around her knee. The funny part was that even though he had his arms all around Whitney, he kept looking down the aisles at the sexy legs of the other women on the row. Whitney looked “thin” and while we were playing I saw her head bob to the music. Then I had a revelation. Whitney’s hair “tilted” to an angle. I saw her take her two hands to the side of her face and “straighten” her hair up. That was when it dawned on me that “Whitney wore a wig.” Okay, maybe I am saying too much now (smile). Anyway, the evening went great and during intermission i got the chance to meet Bobby Brown and Johnny Gil.  Bobby had a drink in his hand and said, “Man, you are awesome. If i can get a few more brews in me then I will be coming onstage to jam with you.” We just laughed, and I managed to take a picture with him and Johnny. All in all it was a special night, and one worth remembering. My only regret for this evening was that I never got the opportunity to take a picture with Usher. After the show he thanked me for hitting that special effect for him. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my stories with you and I thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today. As always, i wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.

Johnny Gil, Brett Jolly, and Bobby Brown

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: My personal favorites)

Hi Mr. Jolly. I had heard some really good things about you and I wanted to look you up. I noticed on your web site that you have pictures with some very heavy musical entertainers that you performed with onstage. If it is okay I would like to ask you a few questions. First, which artist that you have played for was your favorite? Can you describe the funniest show you ever had to perform? Which artist that you performed with didn’t seem to be as talented as you thought they were? Which artist was the nicest and which one had the worst attitude? Out of the female performers, which one did you think was the prettiest? I hope you don’t mind all these questions, and if you have to, you can break them up for different days. Thank you and congratulations on your career.

“Thank you.” Let’s see, your very first question was “Which artist that I played for was my favorite?” Well, of course, I played with Teddy Pendergrass the longest, and we had “so” much fun on his show. Even while in a wheelchair, the women still went crazy over him, and we encountered just how crazy they could get. Teddy considered his band to be his friends (because he said that he considered himself to be a loner without many friends). When we performed, I was usually on a riser by myself. I would jump up and down, spin around and show off a lot while playing. The funniest show? I think the winner in this category was a show I did with McFadden and Whitehead. They had the big hit “Ain’t no Stopping us now.” We were in New York and the announcer first said McFadden’s name and that was when McFadden came out. He then announced Whitehead’s name, but John never showed. It seemed as though they were both mad at each other and John decided not to do this gig, so McFadden had to do the entire show alone. I was cracking up laughing onstage and the people in the audience were looking confused. As for the artist whose talent wasn’t as great as I anticipated, I would have to say Norman Connors. His song claim to fame is “You are my Starship.” Norman didn’t sing on the song, Norman didn’t write the song, and Norman didn’t do much except get “other” people to come into the studio and do the work for him. He couldn’t even tell us how to “play” his song (we figured it out on our own). Norman’s claim is that he “finds” the best talent and that is where he excels. The nicest artist I ever played for was Bonnie Raitt. She was real genuine and sincere. One year she even sent me a birthday card. As for the artists with the “worst” attitudes, there are several in this category. Most of the guys in the group “New Edition” (except for Johnny Gil and Bobby Brown) seemed to have a little standoff attitude. They were not as friendly as Johnny and Bobby. Also, Cisqo, the lead singer for the group Dru Hill, seemed to have somewhat of a diva like attitude. He was complaining about dropping the keys of the songs and just about everything else. Morris Day of the time has a real cool like demeanor. and even though he wasn’t as bad his band mate Jerome, who seemed to have a “strong” attitude. All I ever saw him do was bring a mirror out on stage. If you can feel cocky just by doing that then it says a lot. Now, let’s talk about the prettiest female performer. I was in the same room with Beyonce, Ciara and Janet Jackson, but to “me” the prettiest woman that evening was Natalie Cole. Natalie’s eyes are incredible, and you would have to see them live to understand. She didn’t need thousand dollar weaves to look great. It came naturally for her, and in my mind I thought she looked better than the other two. It was  an honor to play for her. I guess that is it for now, but I thank you for asking these questions. This was different for me today. I hope I answered them to your satisfaction:) Have a great day:)

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: The difference between feeling “cursed” or “blessed”)

Sometimes the difference between feeling “cursed” and feeling “blessed” depends heavily on your “own” perceptions. Many people will focus on the negative side of an event without even realizing just how fortunate they might be. Case in point: Last night I had to take my daughter back to college. It was a long ride and I was extremely exhausted from all my musical activity for the weekend. I managed to get her there safely, and that was the main objective for me. After that I decided to attempt to head towards home and get as close as I could without having any type of “incident.” Well, at one point on the highway I noticed the smell of something “burning.” I wasn’t sure of what it was, but I originally thought it might have been the cars ahead of me. There was a “huge” truck beside me and I never like to ride side by side with those things (because they have been known to topple over and have accidents). Well, the very next thing I knew something went wrong with my car. I heard a big noise and struggled to regain control of it. I almost hit the median, and then I almost hit the truck. The truck driver to the side of me actually “sensed or knew” that something was wrong, because he slowed down immediately and flashed his “high beams” for me to alert me that I could pull over to the side if I needed to. If he had not done so, I could have easily crashed into him. After that my car was not riding steady at all. I wasn’t sure of what to do, but I knew that I had to pull off the road for emergency service no matter what. Fortunately I came up to yet “another” car that was stranded and pulled over on the highway. I pulled “in front” of that car (because the chances of me getting hit from behind were much slimmer as long as I was in front). I was parked on a “thin” emergency side of the road and I got out to check my vehicle. Lo and behold, my back tire had completely shredded.  I was practically stranded out in the middle of “nowhere.” Immediately I walked back to the car that was stranded behind me and I asked the two women “Did your tire blow just like mine did?” They responded that yes, they had the same ordeal and just as they said that the emergency truck pulled up behind them to fix it. I called AAA road service and they told me that there was already an operator in the area, and that all I needed to do was talk to him and he would help me fix my car once he finished with them. Evidently what happened was that there had already been an accident on the highway, and there was still a lot of debris left and both our cars had hit it, thus causing our tires to blow. The women told me that I was very fortunate that an operator was even there, because they had put in a call for one “over an hour ago.” The man fixed my vehicle and eventually I was able to get  home, extremely fatigued. Since I am known to be a thinker, I had a lot to ponder on my journey back. Considering the turn of events, I had several options on how I could have viewed this. The choices were I should feel either  “blessed” or “cursed.” I will provide samples for each thought. “Cursed”-It was a bad stroke of luck that I even managed to hit the debris in the first place. “Blessed”-After hitting the debris, I still managed to maintain control of my car, because I could have hit the wall or the truck easily. “Cursed”-In the middle of the night, I had to rely on calling road service to help me get home. “Blessed” Due to the other car’s situation, road side service was “already there.” “Cursed”- The operator had to change my tire to the spare one, and I had to drive on a “doughnut” all the way back home. “Blessed”-At least I “had” a spare. “Cursed”-My tire was ruined completely, and now that means that I will have to spend money on a new tire. “Blessed”-I am alive. I felt it was important to feature this story for my Daily Thought today, because sometimes we have a tendency to take things in life for granted. There can actually be a “blessing” in the bad things that transpire in our lives, but it is up to “us” to recognize them. Truthfully, there was a “great” chance that I might not have even been around this morning to “write” this Daily Thought, so naturally when presented with the choice of feeling “cursed or blessed” I think I will choose the “latter.” I have to get my car fixed today, and I am thankful that this is ALL I have to get fixed. Thank you, God, for yet “another” day… I hope your realize your blessings today, no matter what form they may come in. Thank you and hope your day is “awesome.”

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Is this man using me?)

Mr. Jolly, I have an interesting situation and I would love to know how you would view this from a man’s perspective. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for about 4 months. He has 7 other kids from 5 different baby mommas and he works at a fast food establishment. I am at the age where all my kids have left home so for me I am by no means trying to start over. He has brought his kids over to spend time with me even when he was not there. However, during the time the kids are over he doesn’t offer me any money to get them food or anything else. As for  him, he comes over to spend the night about 3 days a week, mostly on weekends. Currently he lives with his parents and he keeps hinting to me that we wants to leave his parents place. I have my own home, my own car, and I am self dependent. The problem that I am having is that this man seems to bring “nothing” to the table. He offers no money for anything. He is lazy and doesn’t want to fix anything around the house. He asks me to pay for his kids and him whenever the kids come over. His ex baby mommas all say that he ruined them financially and then left them. Do you think I should take the chance on letting this man move in with me?

I see quite a few red flags with this one, and I think it is important that you pay attention to them. First, when you have 7 other kids from 5 different women, chances are that as a father you have to help “support” those kids. It may not involve much, but either through child support or just his responsibility as a parent he has to dish out money for them. Now unless he has a “killer” job that makes a LOT of money, then the reality of this is that “most” of his money is going towards the care of his kids. If this man has actually “left” 5 women with his kids then to me that means that he does not handle responsibility in relationships well. If you take him in, then in essence you are taking his “baggage” with him, which means that at some point he AND his kids could be your responsibility. If he can get away with not  contributing anything to you now then what makes you think it will get any better AFTER he moves in with you? Even if he has no money (which is what it seems to me) then he could at least offer to fix something or cook dinner for you or “ANYTHING.” When he comes to spend the evenings with you he is getting free room and board, free assistance and free “something else” that you provide. If you love him well enough to support him and his family then by all means let him move in with you. However, if you don’t want to feel used or taken advantage of, I strongly suggest that you reassess your situation “thoroughly” and determine for yourself whether or not you want to accept the “baggage” that comes with him. Also, I think it is important to pay attention to what his ex wives (or girlfriends) are saying about him. If they ALL are saying that he left them financially broken then that should be a serious red flag as well. From a man’s perspective, I think he should show that he is a valuable asset to you somewhere. If all he is doing is using up your food, your money and your body then he is only doing what “you” allow him to get away with. Make sure you “think” about this one before you give in to his wishes. It is a LOT easier to take him in than it is to “put him OUT.” This is NOT the time to think “from your heart.” Good luck to you and please enjoy this special presentation from the Phantom Poet:

This man keeps hinting that he wants to move in with me
But for some reason this man isn’t offering any money
When I need financial help from him he never offers any bids
In fact, he often asks me for dough to pay for his own kids
I have no problem giving up a dollar, dime or a penny
But how can I do this when he seems to have so many?
He doesn’t fix anything either and he just seems to lay around
When anything needs fixing all the tools lay there on the ground
I think most women like to see some sort of value in their men
When it comes to wanting sex, then he has “plenty” of energy THEN
He offers nothing in return, but yet with me he is always wanting some
He must think that I am just deaf, blind AND dumb
It’s not as though I expect him to have a whole lot of wealth
but it’s a fact that I can surely “do bad” all by myself
I worked hard for my things, and I enjoy them because I can
So the last thing I need is to take care of some broke azz man
I don’t want that type of lifestyle and I don’t need that type of drama
So if you need a place to stay, then by all means go “back” to your baby’s momma

“Ouch”… from the Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: DUI and no license)

I’m a single male. I’ve never had any real problems with dating women until now. I was convicted of a DUI, and I’ve lost my license for seven months. Is there a way to keep women interested after you tell them that you don’t have a license? Or should I just give up on dating? I’m not within walking distance of any good bars or restaurants. What can I do?
 
You can try something that I think most women would genuinely appreciate. You can tell the truth to the woman you are interested in and admit you made a mistake in your life. You can tell her that you did something wrong and that you have learned from your experience (provided, of course, you have truly learned from your experience). You can try being humble about it, and you know what? Some woman is going to LOVE you for it! If you think that being able to date a woman is only based on you having a car then you are not giving yourself much credit. If a woman appreciates your sincerity enough, she might just drive and come pick YOU up for a date. What happened to you is nowhere near as important as what you have learned from your experience. If this situation has made you a better man then I guarantee there is a good woman out there who will appreciate you more because of it. Do you still drink? Are you an alcoholic? Sometimes people don’t recognize the blessings they have in life. Would you prefer to still have your license and then chance some woman dying in an accident with you as a result of your inebriation? If something like that did happen, you would probably be begging for a second chance. Well, I have news for you. Today IS your second chance… You may not have a license, but you don’t have a murder rap on you either. Be thankful that ALL you lost is your license. “Man” makes the car… The car should NOT make the man… You should not have to give up on dating, but you might want to consider giving up on “drinking”. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and check out this Phantom Poet moment:
 
 
 
They took my license because I decided to drink and drive
But without my car, how can my dating life thrive?
What woman would want to go out with a man who has no car?
And how can I find a way to travel to the local bar?
I may have to face the reality that no more women will I get
Unless, of course, I do like everyone else, and search the internet
Here’s one particular woman who likes to drink, too
But she crashed and lost her license back in 2002
Here’s another woman who not only drinks, but she’ll actually guzzle
The only problem is that her face looks like it needs a muzzle
But still, this can work, and this woman could possibly be mine
Because after more than enough drinks, she’ll start to look just “fine”
But the morning after will be tough, because that’s when reality sinks
She will probably still look ugly, but that will be cause for “more” drinks
Look! I need a date, and if she can put up with my drinking
Then she’ll always look great to me drunk (or at least that’s what I’m thinking)
I may no longer have a license, but all is not as bad as it appears
I got this ugly varmint woman, and I’ve still got a few beers
I really cannot look at her sober. I just wouldn’t dare
Because she looks like she REALLY needs some affordable health care
But without a car, I’m stuck, and she’s about the best that I can do
But instead of her looking better, now I drank enough where I see “two”
Now I’ve had it, and I really need to change my life today
I’m going to throw this critter out, and go join “AA”
So here is my message that I want to convey to each and every one of y’all
It is better to live without a license, than not to live… at all…
 
I need another beer, because I can still see what she looks like… The Phantom Poet

 

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Singers Johnny Gil and Bobby Brown (Whitney Houston’s ex- husband) with Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Alienated Children)

Subject: Alienated children
 
I’ve been divorced for 5 years. My ex-wife has alienated my family to the point where they want nothing to do with her. I only deal with my ex-wife as necessary. The problem is that my family has left my children out in the cold. They don’t include my kids because they don’t want to deal with her. I moved closer to my children to be more a part of their lives.  My family is livid because they don’t want my ex to be part of my family gatherings we may have to my new place. They think if the kids are over my house she might try to include herself.
 
Your family needs to stop “acting” like “children”. It is unfair to alienate the children just because of their mother’s “issues.” These children are a part of your blood family, and should be accepted as such. I do have a question, though. If your ex-wife has alienated your family then why would they even EXPECT her to show up at ANY family functions over your house? Last time I checked “alienate” meant “to separate from”.  Does your ex-wife still show up for your family functions? If so, then you need to let her know that you can’t HAVE your cake and eat it, too (especially if you are serving cake at these functions… I like the little yellow cake with chocolate icing) (smile). You have EVERY right to want to be with your kids, and the rest of your family needs to know that you and your children are inseparable. In other words, if they don’t want to include your children, then they shouldn’t expect to include you as well… Most times children become innocent victims when it comes to adult matters, and your situation is a prime example. YOU are going to have to take a stand on this; otherwise your children could end up suffering as a result. You need to assure your family that the ex-wife is indeed in fact the “EX” wife, and that she will NOT be a participant in your family functions. If at that point they still insist on alienating your children, then I suggest you consider yourself “alienated” from them as well. It’s a shame, but you owe a responsibility to your kids to be there for them, even when no one else wants to… Here is an “ex” –citing publication form the Phantom Poet:
 
 
5 years ago, my marriage hit the “skids”
My wife is now gone but I still have my kids
During family functions when I prepare turkey and stuffing
I’ll ask for support from my family, and usually get nothing
They want nothing at all to do with my former wife
So they prefer not to get involved my child’s life
So now I am “through” with my family, and that is my motto
Especially now that I hit the million dollar lotto
So for the relatives, I want you to know that I am now one rich gent
And as for any of my money, you will not get one red cent
You disrespected my kids, just because of their mom
Now we got money, and we’re about to drop the bomb
Always remember that blood is thicker than water
And “change” is thicker than dollar bills when it comes to my son and daughter
So if you exclude my kids, then you are excluding me too
And in my will, all the money goes to my children, and none to you
Even though I am not one to rub things in, or even provoke
When the kids ask me about you, I’ll tell them you snubbed them, and you’re broke
So now don’t expect to come by or even call
Because things have a way or working themselves out… after all…
 
                                               From the “powerballs” of the Phantom Poet

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