Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Should we really care about what other people think?”)

I realize that there are people who are genuine in their desires to help. I also realize there are people out there with ulterior motives when it comes to events in “your” life. When certain people make it a point to involve themselves and take over in your business then it may be time to make a proper assessment. There are some questions you may need to ask yourself. First, what is their real purpose for putting themselves so heavily into your life? Are they doing so because they sincerely care or are they simply trying to control and manipulate you? Some people are unhappy and only want others to be unhappy with them. You need to know if your “friend” is truly your “friend.” Next, are they really that knowledgeable about your situation that they are considered “experts” on all you do? These kinds of people are usually listed as “know-it-alls” and it is often amazing how accurate they are when it comes to them being “inaccurate.” Next, since they consider themselves to be such great experts, are their own lives so great that you would consider them the perfect role models to emulate? I often find that the people who try to govern your life the most are the ones who usually have “terrible circumstances of their own.” I do understand that most people love to engage in human judgment. They will quickly judge your situation without even knowing one third of your story. They will fill you with doubt and confusion whenever they can, simply because they can. The trick comes in “recognizing” these people for who and what they are. When you ask yourself these questions you may come up with a better assessment as to what they are really about. Don’t get me wrong… there are people who are genuine in their concerns for the welfare of others. Those people we all may need to listen to. However, for the ones who interject themselves into your business simply for the sake of “pushing your buttons” you may need to separate yourself from them. When you start to worry so much about what other people think you are only adding more to your stress levels. When certain people “leave your life” it can be  more of a blessing than a curse. Rid yourself of a lot of negativity and “don’t look back.” No matter what you do people are going to talk about you. Stop worrying about the things you cannot control and start smiling again. You deserve better, but only if you believe it for yourself… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Jean Carn in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

Jean Carne

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The way the industry tries to manipulate you”)

Kanye West has always reveled in being controversial. The rapper (and auto tune singer) has done and said several things that have shocked a lot of people. Actually, several people in the industry have done weird things that seemed out of control. A couple of years ago Taylor Swift won a prestigious honor at one of those award shows. Kanye came out onstage and promptly dissed her by saying that the award should have gone to Beyonce. That seemed like a start to a “music feud” that many thought was genuine and real. Now when we cut to the current times we find out more of the truth about their relationship. Kanye recently put out a song entitled “Famous” where in one of his lyrics he claimed that he “made that bitch famous.” He was referring to Taylor Swift. Apparently Swift came out publicly in disapproval of the song and the mention of her name in the song. She claimed that Kanye did not ask for approval. On the other hand, Kanye claimed that he “did in fact have approval from her.” Well, the one who got exposed in this story was Swift, because Kanye’s wife, Kim Kardashian, posted a number of videos on Snapshot showing her husband actually having the conversation with Taylor. Here is the story:

Read the Transcript of Kanye West’s Phone Call With Taylor Swift

Kanye has been maligned in much of the press (even though some, if not all, of his antics may have been staged too). It’s good to know that at least this one time his reputation came out on the positive end of things (while Taylor’s rep took a big hit). However, it still doesn’t change the fact that a “LOT” of what you may hear in the entertainment industry can be fabrications or “staged incidents.” Promotion is big in this business and gossip sells. There are people that are “hired” to put out gossip so that people can think that they have a link into a star’s private life. If Kanye and Swift can call each other and have a friendly talk to plant a story, then what about all the other stories that have been put out there? It’s all designed to make money. Whether you want to believe the concept about Beyonce’s displeasure with Jay-Z over his infidelities is up to you (however, at last check, I believe they are both still together). The moral of this story is that you should never believe “everything you hear” in the entertainment industry. When the main objective is for them to make money, drama helps them sell. When you support their lies, then they come out with more stories. When the next story comes out, I hope you ask yourself “Does this seem too wild to be true?” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Singer Jean Carn and Brett Jolly in concert

Jean Carne

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Charlie Sheen, HIV and the entertainment demons”)

Charlie Sheen has just been diagnosed as HIV positive. For those who do not know him, he was the lead actor in the television series “Two and a half men.” His story is quite an interesting one, but you can check out all the details in the link below:

http://www.cnn.com/2015/11/17/health/charlie-sheen-health/index.html

In the entertainment business your chances of coming across someone who is a drug addict or sexually promiscuous is high. Those who are popular are usually “highly favored” by fans and susceptible to the demons that come with that fame. When I first went on tour with a celebrity artist, I was all excited about meeting big stars and hanging out with them. I was unprepared for how to deal with the stress of getting back to my hotel room at 2:00 or 3:00 each morning and then having to wake up at 5:00 or 6:00 just so I could catch a plane to the next city to perform. After 4 days I remember being in Cincinnati, Ohio, opening up for the legendary guitarist George Benson at some outside amphitheater (I was performing with Jean Carne). I remember playing the show and virtually “falling asleep standing up” onstage while playing. My head kept on jerking because it is unnatural for anyone to sleep in that position. I couldn’t wait for the show to end just so I could get some rest. At that point I understood perfectly why many entertainers turned to drugs just to cope with the rigorous schedule. For the record, I do not use drugs at all. In fact, I don’t smoke or drink. However, I learned my lesson after that moment. Once when I was in London, this beautiful model came up to me after our show and asked me if I would take her upstairs to my dressing room so we could “cuddle” together. he didn’t even ask me my name. Even though this woman was amazingly beautiful, there was “no way” I was going to entertain this situation. I politely declined her offer, and no sooner than I did she went to the “other” band members to request the same thing. For the record, we ALL declined her. Charlie Sheen has admitted to engaging prostitutes. He has also admitted to doing drugs. He claims he doesn’t know how he contacted the HIV. To me it’s pretty simple. If you are in the entertainment business, you need to realize that “all that shines is NOT gold.” It is a blessing to be able to entertain people. However, it is alsto important to make sure you don’t become a “victim to what you love.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concertJean Carne

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Overcoming severe depression”)

Very recently I lost a good high school friend. Her name was Millie, and she was a really good woman with a really good heart. We would talk from time to time and I remember her telling me about how distraught she was over her own family members dying all around her. It just seemed that it was never ending for her and she often sounded “so” depressed over it. I remember telling her that life is “never guaranteed” and while “losses hurt” we can’t let them stop us from living out our own lives. Years ago I played for her wedding, only to find out that a couple years after that her own husband passed away. Since then I got calls from her expressing grief over other family members who were suffering from bad health issues or dying around her. Naturally, she didn’t seem happy. I understand fully that it is extremely difficult to try to force yourself to be happy during times of tragedy. I also fully realize the impact that a tragedy can have on someone’s life. However, once you grieve over it, it is imperative to get it “out of your system and move on with your own life.” Our health is not just affected by our physical status, but our mental status as well. People can actually become “so depressed” that they often “will themselves to die.” The one good thing about this particular situation was that when her son called me, he said that she just died “peacefully in her sleep.” That was comforting to know that she didn’t suffer, but it is still a tragic loss. If we live long enough, we all will encounter tragic losses in our lives. No one can tell you how to grieve over them, but whatever you do it is important to at some point “move on.” Sitting around moping will not bring back the dead. I told Millie this several times and now she is gone. Her son said that it is believed that she had a stroke in her sleep. Could severe depression cause that to happen? Studies have show that it “can.” The only thing worse than a tragedy is “two” tragedies. When you suffer a loss of that magnitude, please find anything else to focus on so that your mind and heart doesn’t overly reflect and then kill you later on. “Your” life has value to someone too… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concert

Jean Carne

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“How artists and musicians should prepare for touring”)

I remember being young and coming into my own as a musician. A performing artist by the name of Jean Carne asked me if I would go on tour with her. I was so excited about it. I kept thinking that I was going to hang out with “all the stars” and enjoy a great time doing what I loved to do. I had no idea about the “work and preparation” needed when it came to touring. I soon “found out…” We had a segment of gigs that we had to do in just a “couple of days.” I would love to tell you the very first city we went to but I “honestly can’t remember.” However, I “do” remember doing up to two shows a night, getting into my hotel room around 2:00 or 3:00 each night, only to have to wake up around 5:00 or 6:00 each morning just to catch the next plane to the next city. I was working on “fumes” but trying my best to ignore it. On day 5 of this tour I remember playing at the Riverbend outside venue in Cincinnati, Ohio. We were “opening up for the great jazz guitarist George Benson (who was one of the nicest celebrities i ever met). When it came time for us to perform, I couldn’t believe what I was experiencing. I was “so exhausted” that I was actually “falling asleep while playing… standing up.” My head would go down (and then jerk back up) while playing and as much as I tried to smile and look happy, I was anything but. As for “‘all those stars” that I was expecting to hang with, unless they were on the same show with us I never got to hang with any of them. Then when it came to meeting interesting people I would come up empty on that end as well. Once the concert is over, everyone “leaves.” i was backstage waiting for the limo to come get us (which on many occasions wasn’t even ready to take us back after we were finished). I was getting a real “crash course” on how to “properly prepare for touring.” I also learned that you can’t “take a lot of items with you” because everything that you take you also have to “carry.” I had packed stuff that i didn’t even need, and with that I learned to “travel lightly.” I think the worst fatigue trip I had was when we went to London. We left from  the Newark airport at 10:00 PM. I remember at 1:00 AM my time seeing “extremely bright sunshine” through the airplane windows. I didn’t sleep the entire trip and once we got there they were 5 hours ahead of us time-wise. Needless to say, I was ‘jacked up.” I was really tired and didn’t know when to sleep or even wake up. I learned a great lesson from this trip. It is easy to see how a performer could turn to drugs just to cope with a hectic touring schedule. I had no intentions of going that route, but I had to find a better way to get my rest in between destinations. I hardly tour now. The economy is not the same anymore and while some still do tour it is not like it once used to be for most performers. I just wanted to share this for any “future performers or musicians” who are “hyped” about the prospect of touring. Please make sure to make the proper preparations so that you can survive the ordeal. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always i wish the very best to you that life has to offer today.

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Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concert

Jean Carne

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“A life of turmoil, and a second chance”)

Yesterday I went to see my barber (Don’t laugh, I still go to one, okay?). I have known my barber guy for many years, or at least I “thought” I did until he revealed something to me that  was extremely personal and difficult for him. He told me that back in 1995 he was driving 2 of his friends around in his car. They were just riding around as young guys do from time to time. Well, this particular time he decided to pass a vehicle in front of  him so he drove into the other lane of imposing traffic. He collided head on with another oncoming car, and managed to kill the two people in that vehicle. He also managed to kill one of  his friends riding in his car. He nearly had his leg amputated from the accident and to this day he has moments of pain as a result. However, he confided in me that the physical pain is “absolutely nothing” compared to the “psychological anguish” he endures frequently. He admits that he was wrong, and he  showed me the newspaper article that mentioned the names of the victims and himself. He was in a coma for two months and his life has never been the same ever since. When it came time for him to face a judge in court, he just dropped down to his knees in the courtroom and cried. He didn’t cry for himself, but rather for the families of those he killed… He told me the story as he kept wiping tears from his eyes, and I began to realize that this was not the same man that I have joked with so much with over the past years. Today he was someone much different… When someone admits a shocking revelation like that, it is not easy to figure out what to say. He told me that the image of it all will never leave his mind and he will forever be haunted by it. I simply told him that he can’t change the past no matter how much he looks over his shoulder at it. I told him that everyone makes mistakes, and some can be more costly than others. I told him that the true measure of life is not derived from where he came, but rather from where he is headed… I asked him how he managed to be here cutting hair. He should have gotten a mandatory 10 years for each life he took. He just said that the judge took mercy on him and only sent him away for 6 and a half months. After he finally got out, he found out that his woman had cheated on him while he was incarcerated. He lost it again with her and found himself back in prison for even more time. Finally, he got out, and he met up with a woman who wanted to know his story. He didn’t lie to her at all. He poured out his heart to her and told her the whole negative truth about what happened. He never thought for an instant that being truthful to her was important. She actually  grew to love him because of that and they eventually married. He told me that he should have died in that accident and I simply said “What makes you think you didn’t die?” I told him to imagine that he had perished and went to meet his maker. I then told him to imagine that he asked God for another chance to make something good out of the rest of his life. Well, if God granted him that wish, then the day he awoke from that coma was “that day.” I told him that he should never try to suppress the memory of what happened. We are “ALL” products of our environment, upbringing and past. The good things along with the bad things we experienced make us who we are today. If anything, I told him to take that painful memory and channel that energy into “giving back” to other peoples lives. He will never be able to fully  atone for what he caused, but that should not be his purpose. There are others who can benefit from  his story and how his life has changed since that fateful day. He touched me deeply with what he said, and I told him that one mistake doesn’t make him a bad man… It only makes him human… I let him know that he is “here for a reason.” It is up to him to fulfill that reason… I hope I didn’t depress anyone with my Daily Thought today, but I felt that Mark Brody’s story should be told… The worst that could happen is that “no one” cares… but it needed to be told anyway… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer…

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Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concert

Jean Carne

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: The lifestyle of being a musician)

Mr. Jolly, I would like to know about the other side of a successful music career. There was a movie out that said that “all musicians are  whores.” They say that musicians live the wild life and are totally reckless. I don’t know if this is you or not, but can  you tell us what it is like from the social side to be a successful musician?  How do women treat you and how do  musicians treat them? Is it also a drug filled world? Please  give us the juicy details. Thank you.

I am not sure of what you would consider “juicy” details, but I will say that with just about “any” profession there are usually stereotypes. When the trash workers come down my street to collect sanitation hardly anyone ever acknowledges them. The sad part is that they are so used to it. I always like to say hello whenever  I see them, and sometimes that seems to shock them. I even  had a discussion with them one day to let them know that they are no different than I am and they let me know that they really appreciated me saying that. Everyone needs a hustle to make it in this world and for many people our “hustle” seems to “define” us. I am saying this to state that we “all” have stereotypes about “something.” That doesn’t meant that those stereotypes are always “true.” Yes, I am a professional musician. Yes, I  have been around drugs, crazy folk and women. However, just because my profession often places me in this atmosphere doesn’t mean that I am a byproduct of it. I remember years ago I was performing in London (with Jean Carne) and after the show this “beautiful” woman came up to me, didn’t even ask  my name, but wanted to know if she could spend time with me in the dressing room. She looked great, but something just didn’t feel right about her. I politely declined her offer, and was glad that I did. Right after I rejected her, she immediately went to the “other” members of the band to request the same thing. In my personal career I can  honestly say that I have been “groped, grabbed and flashed” on “many” occasions.  I have had strange women knock on my hotel door in the middle of the night. I can even say that I have had women that I didn’t even know actually “fight” over me before I could even formally meet them. For the record, I do not drink at all, and I have never done drugs. A lot of my musician friends have done so, but they are “not” me… The situation here is that whenever I perform onstage, there is a big difference between “what I represent to some people” and “who I really am.” Sometimes women think that I actually  want to go to wild parties, drink and get high. For me, that is “far” from the truth. When I toured, I often declined to go to any “after parties” and instead went to my hotel room to actually sleep for the night after the gig was over. I have no desire to “conquer anyone.” I hope that this will “enlighten” people that to the fact that “what works for one doesn’t necessarily work for EVERY one” and also that you should just a book by the “cover alone.” If anyone wants to know about me, I have no problem with him or her just asking. Making assumptions that I am defined by my career is unfair to me, because to judge me  without getting to know me only “defines you.” The musician lifestyle might pertain to many others, but that doesn’t mean that it fits me… Thank you all for checking out my Daily Thought, and I hope you have a wonderful day today.

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Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concert

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