Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The woman behind the Kevin Hart Scandal”)

I just happened to go over this story only a couple of times or so, but something just doesn’t seem right here. Let’s go from what we know for sure to be true first. Kevin Hart (the rich and famous comedian) had a 3 day affair with some lady by the name of Montia Sabbag and through all of that a sex video emerged. According to Kevin, someone was trying to extort money out of him for the video (This I can believe for several reasons… first, the video exists, so therefore it had to be made… If the video was made, the only purpose I can see for it would be to secure money). Now comes the part where things seem a little shaky. To be honest, I do NOT trust the sincerity of the woman involved in the scandal, Montia Sabbag.  Here is a sample of her interview:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4917654/Montia-Sabbag-sex-Kevin-Hart-3-times-room.html

Just HOW did they manage to even “set up” video in Hart’s room for them to shoot in the first place? It was Kevin’s “private” room. If it happened during the “2nd” day of sex (Like she allegedly claims) then someone had to let this person (or people) in. I can’t imagine that Kevin (who had every reason in the world to keep this secret) would do it. The only person left who could have let strangers into his private room was Montia herself. Also, whoever set up the video had to know “in what room” to set up the cameras. They had to know this couple sexually. Who else would have known better than her? She also claims in the interview that Kevin was hugging, kissing and tugging on her and that made her believe that he wasn’t married. Do you believe that? I sure don’t… Any married man who wants some will be more than willing to hug, kiss and tug without telling you a thing. She also claims that if she had known he was married then their sexual escapade would never have happened. Well, she DID know it. Even though as she claims, it was only around the second time they had sex. The problem here is that she continued to have sex with him for a second AND a third time… This lady has also denied being a stripper, and yet there is proof of her being on a pole. The main thing that I think happened here is that Kevin was set up (and this lady was involved with this in some capacity). He was set up and caught by people wanting to get money from him. Now that he has told his story, the woman still can make money based on her telling her story (which is why she did this interview). For me, this is very simple to see. This should be an example for any “high profile” man. There are many people out there who would “love” to catch you in a weak moment and expose your weakness to the world for profit. Hart did not know this woman and he trusted her. It was a big mistake on his part. The best way to avoid this was to refrain from doing it. For a lot of men, this is easier said than done. The real question is “Has he learned from this experience?” Maybe so, but what about the next man who rises to fame, and the next, and the next? With fame comes responsibility. Use it wisely, or else you too will become your own victim… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly and actress Gabrielle Union

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Yesterday was Valentine’s Day”)

Some of you probably had a great day yesterday, while for others it might have been more of a challenge. What is it about Valentine’s day that can cause such a wide display of emotions? I think most of it can probably be put into one word… “expectations.” Love is what you give, but also love is what you get in return. It should be reciprocal but the real question is whether or not it is “equally given.” While 2 people could love each other, the “amount” of love might be distributed in different percentages. For instance, one person might only be giving 70% of what he or she feels, while the other person could be giving 100%. Why do relationships sometimes work that way? Part of it could be because love is “part what you feel and also part what you know.” On the surface you could be totally attracted to someone. However, what you know about that person could impair you from giving ALL of your love. For instance, if you know that your partner drank heavily (and you are a non drinker) then that could stop you from giving your all to that person. Also, if you feel that the person is careless or reckless that could have an impact as well. When that happens, how do you get around it? The first thing you need to do is recognize the fact that “no one” is perfect. We all have flaws, so if you are expecting the perfect person you are in for a big letdown. Also, you need to realize the fact that you are not perfect either. None of us are. You need to know what “your own flaws are.” With that being said, the best love is when you work on your flaws together. You may not accomplish the change you seek, but as long as you are putting effort into it then it “should” make a difference. When you have disagreements (we won’t call them arguments) there is a time factor that should be involved. Having confrontations when you are tired, hungry or frustrated should always be postponed until a better time. I do realize that some people have to vent “right there and then” but it is difficult for most people to hear what is being said when they are “emotionally distraught.” During this time the most important thing you can do is just “agree to disagree” and don’t read more into it than what is there. When cooler heads prevail you can actually get more accomplished. Love may be great, but no one said that it is easy. I hope your Valentines Day was great yesterday, and if not, then I hope your day after was a great recovery from a bad Valentines Day. Truth be told, love should be celebrated more than just once a year anyway (smile). Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life (and love) has to offer.

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Actress Gabrielle Union with Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Moving on”)

A female vocalist friend of mine has been so distraught over the past few weeks. The man she was involved with not only dumped her (without even letting her know) but he also brought his new younger girlfriend to our show and and sat intimately with her right in front of the singer’s face. My singer friend was so upset about it that she decided to confront the younger girl and spill out all sorts of details in anger. The guy didn’t really show much emotion and didn’t seem to care about her feelings at all. Please keep in mind that I know there are 2 sides to every drama related issue and all participants in this scene were actually friends of mine. I don’t know his side and I had no intentions of asking him about it. Needless to say, the singer friend of mine was really devastated by this and she has been trying to cope with it ever since. Recently she told me that the guy and the girl went to a fancy hotel together and put up pictures on Facebook. I asked her why she was even checking out the pictures and she said “Because they obviously wanted me to see them.” At that point I had to sit her down and talk reality to her. I told her that the way things happened didn’t seem right and that things possibly could have been done in a more respectable way, but some people just don’t have those humane traits in them. I also told her that if he was the type to do this to you now, then you should be glad that you found out about him sooner rather than later. I also let her know that he actually did her a favor by showing his true colors now rather than down the road. Then I let her know that when he did what he did, he had hurt her, but now by checking over his page she was only hurting herself. She needed to block them both, and when I asked her why she didn’t do so she couldn’t give me a good answer. Sometimes you can learn more from what people “don’t say and how they don’t say it.” I said that the more you focus on them the more you will contribute to your own unhappiness. You will never be able to see any of the good things ahead of you if you keep looking over your shoulders at the past. The very FIRST step in moving on with your life involves doing a very simple thing. She asked me what that thing was. I said, “You need to forgive them both.” Then I told her what she needed to do next was to block the both of them on Facebook (so she wouldn’t have to see any of their activities) and lastly she needed to “change something” about herself. NEVER stay the same person after you break up with someone. When your ex sees later on that you have improved yourself it will have far more of an effect than if you stay the same. Obviously she was distraught over what happened, but at this point she really needed to just “let it go.” I can tell that for her it is “easier said than done” but the first journey in life always starts with the first step. She thanked me for saying what I said and she told me that I was right. I told her it’s not about right or wrong, but about what you feel inside. Once she forgives them she can begin to heal. Let’s hope for the best. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly with actress Gabrielle Union

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The look”)

I love being a part of the entertainment industry. i can honestly say that most times it is so much fun for me.When you can get paid for something that you wouldn’t mind doing “for free” then that means you have a job that you adore. However, I don’t enjoy “every aspect’ of what I do. Too many times I have encountered situations where certain bands had to have a “certain look to get hired.” By that I mean that if someone is extremely talented in a lot of circumstances it won’t matter. For instance, a good friend of mine who was a  promoter once told me “If I had a great female singer with awesome talent who was homely and overweight I would not be able to sell one ticket. However, if I had a female singer with marginal abilities but looked great in a short skirt then I would sell out every venue.” It goes beyond that. Many times if there is a great band with all minority performers then often that band will “be asked” to integrate it’s color scheme (in other words, bring in some acceptable people of color) in order to get the gig. That is because no matter how good you are some people will not want to see an “all minority band.” I am not making this up. This has happened on “several” occasions. This also doesn’t just apply  to the music industry. Have you ever noticed how great a lot of your news anchors look on television? That’s because the look of an anchor can make the difference in the “TV ratings.” When you think about it, who wants to turn on the news and witness someone ugly delivering it? There are some really great and talented individuals who will never get past a certain level. That is because the industry will not let them. I wish I could tell artists that their ability alone will take them to the top. I remember years ago performing behind one of the greatest singers I ever heard, and that man’s name was Phil Perry. He could hit notes that Pattie Labelle could hit and his voice was just incredible. I told him that it was an honor to perform for someone as gifted as him. However, while he does have fame, he did not have “that look.” He wasn’t in great shape then and he looked a little “too mature for this business.” Also I once played behind a lady named “Vesta Williams.” At once point she was heavy (but still sexy in my eyes). She was an “incredible” vocalist whose voice  would actually “rattle” the monitors onstage. She was on the same label as Janet Jackson and she once told me that “She could out sing Janet easily but she knew they wanted her to lose weight.” She told me that she was going to lose it so she could get some of that “slim girl money.” Eventually she did lose the weight, but she couldn’t dethrone Janet because of her “already famous last name.” Vesta was eventually dropped from her record label. The point that I am trying to make here is that it is great to be talented, but don’t just depend on your abilities to get you to that next level.  The entertainment industry has its flaws and if you are not aware then you will become a victim to it. Whatever you need to do to get “the look” you had better start working on it now. The gig you save “just might be your own…” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Actress Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Starting your day with a smile”)

I realize that on the surface this may sound somewhat corny, but I honesty do believe that we can “draw certain energies” from out of the atmosphere. For instance, if you constantly feel like you are in a depressed mood then normally your day will seem quite depressing… I’m not trying to say that you can control all your circumstances but you can surely  “alter how you handle your circumstances.” The one thing you shouldn’t do is “look for bad things to happen in your life.” When you do, you will often “find” those bad things. I always have this theory that I like to embrace… No matter how bad the day before was, if I woke up today then for me “today is a new day.” In other words, I don’t have to bring all those negative energies along with me because today just might be a better day for me. If you start the day “looking for positives” then your chances of obtaining them should be much greater. I have been told before that I have a positive spirit, and that’s only because I love to “smile.” Don’t get me wrong, you “can’t” smile through everything because there will always be the chance of something traumatic happening in your life. I just think that the true quality of your life comes from what you “devote to it.” Here in Philadelphia, I see people frown “all the time.” I don’t need to be like them, and I won’t. It is a blessing just to wake up, and for me that is more than enough justification to at least “start the day with a smile.” If you try it then it might just work for you as well. “Life is what you make it…. so make it happy.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly with actress Gabrielle Union

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Things some men need to know”)

During my lifetime I have talked to “many” people about many different things. I have heard from women and men alike on what they feel is important in a relationship. I am not trying to come off as Doctor Phil, but I thought I would put some things out here today that I think deserve consideration. Here are “things that some men need to know:”

  1. When it comes to starting a relationship with a woman, you need to use “more than just your eyes” when getting to know her. It’s great when a woman “looks awesome,” but there is more to her than just “her looks.” Take time to find out about those “other” things.
  2. Remember that most women have fathers who care about their daughters. You yourself may have a daughter that you want to make sure doesn’t get taken advantage of. If you want that for your own daughter, then you should apply that same concept when it comes to your own relationship.
  3. Please remember that good looking women “get hit on all the time” with all kinds of different lines. If you want to be viewed as “different” from other men, then at least make sure your approach is different. How can you expect a woman to notice you if you are behaving like ALL the other men who approach her?
  4. When it comes to forming a relationship that lasts a long time, please remember that the woman you start out with will not be the same woman you end up with. “Everyone changes” as they go through life, so if you expect her to remain the same way forever then that is not realistic thinking. By the way, “you” will change too.
  5. You need to remember that “no one” is perfect. She will have faults just like you will have faults. Her mistakes are no worse than yours.
  6. Know when to cut an argument or debate off. If the both of you are tired and frustrated, then chances are neither one of you is listening to the other. Even though it might make her angry for the evening, end the discussion and tell her that you’ll finish it the next day after when you both are calmer.
  7. Make sure that no matter how angry you get, try to end the evening with a smile. Differences are made to be resolved, and just knowing that you are not going to bed angry can make the biggest world of difference.
  8. Know that “a good woman is not necessarily a subservient woman.” No man needs a “yes woman.” If a woman beats up on you (not physically), it’s only because she wants you to be the man she “knows” you can be. Remember that behind “every great man there is a woman who helped make him that way.”
  9. There is absolutely “nothing wrong” with taking a break sometime. No, I am not talking about leaving and going away for days without contact. What I am saying is that sometimes “absence can make the heart grow fonder.” If you do something with your male friends, at least check in on your woman from time to time to help her feel more secure about it.
  10. Never EVER get so angry that you strike or hit a woman, no matter how much you feel she may be trying to push you there. Always remember that if you are extremely angry at that moment, she should “never” be able to “out-run you. Remember that a really good woman isn’t based on her money, her dress or her great sexual prowess. A woman is great when she has a “great heart.” Get to know the heart of your woman and let her know that you do care. If she can deal with your imperfections then maybe you should try dealing with hers. I gladly welcome any responses whether you agree of disagree. Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Actress Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Is it worth it to dye your hair?”)

For the record, today’s daily thought has nothing to do with those younger women who like “variety.” They have every right to change hair colors, makeup and even hair styles to differentiate their looks and they will get “no complaint” from me whatsoever. The other day I had a talk with someone in reference to people who get older and decide to “dye” the color of their hair to eliminate or hide greying. I know that from my personal viewpoint I never had a problem with a woman coloring over the natural tone of her hair. However, I have seen some men go through it and wondered if it seemed as natural for us. My barber (yes, I still go to one… thank you) decided to touch my mustache up with hair dye the other day. I had never done this before, so I asked him whether or not I should continue to use it. He said that for my line of work I should and that there was nothing wrong with it. He said that most people who get older in life have an image to maintain and now I am at the stage where I should start considering it.  When I looked at it afterwards I no longer felt like myself, but he did say that it would take some getting used to at first. I spoke to all my close friends (including my family) and asked them to give me their real personal opinion. They said that it wasn’t that noticeable and that I should try it. Well, the jury is still out but I am leaning in that direction. A lot of the big name celebrities that I played for did the “hair dye” thing and I just happened to notice because when you play “behind them” you can often see where the color lines change in the back of their heads (and no, I will not mention their names here). As for women, they can always get away with it and look more natural than most men do. As we all get older we do have options. I have no problem with growing old naturally but I will listen if someone makes a valid suggestion. Each year I ask my daughter if I can still get away with wearing one of those muscle shirts and so far she has said that it still works for me. She will, however, let me know when the summer comes when it is time to start “hiding things.” Life is precious… life if valuable… Life is to be enjoyed at any age. Live your life as though you “feel 20.” You earned that right… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly with actress Gabrielle Union

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