Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Should Steve Harvey be vilified for meeting with Donald Trump?”)

The one thing I do know about the next “transition of power” here in the United States is that there seems to be a lot of animosity over it. I actually hate to do stories on politics because so many people have so many diverse opinions on the matter. From what I have already read, the approval ratings for this President elect are currently at an all time low. Accusations about a “stolen election” and about people that have been victimized, discriminated against and insulted have already “tainted” a lot of people’s views in regards to our next president. Obviously Donald Trump has a lot of people to win over. If he wants to bolster his position in the minority community then now would be an opportune time. This brings me to today’s Daily Thought topic. Trump reached out to comedian/talkshow host/radio personality Steve Harvey. Harvey is one of the most popular minority representatives currently in existence today. The problem is that after meeting with Trump Harvey received a “sea of backlash” from people who disapproved. Here is the actual story:

http://thehill.com/blogs/in-the-know/314551-steve-harvey-defends-meeting-with-trump

Personally, I cannot say that I am a devout Steve Harvey fan. When he talks about how people should handle relationships I keep thinking about the 3 marriages he had and the accusations of extra affairs. Yes, I do know that no one is perfect, and I am not trying to promote nor denounce him. I cannot vilify him for meeting up with Trump, because in order to make things better some form on communication is needed somewhere. If Trump reached out to him then that means that Trump is “at least interested” in mending fences with the Black community. Should Harvey have received the treatment he got? In my opinion… “No.” Was he the right choice for Trump to reach out to? Time will tell on that development. However, I do believe it would have brought about a whole different demeanor from people if he had chosen to reach out to Oprah instead. That is just my opinion. Trump has not even taken office yet and things already appear to be in a state of turmoil (at least on the surface). The one thing that will not help any of us is to “attack each other.” People have a right to disagree with Harvey’s visit. People don’t have the right to judge the intentions of his heart behind the visit. Whether we like it or not, we are going to have to give our next president the chance to make good. I would rather judge him on the things he does as opposed to the things “we think he is going to do.” In order for that to happen he has to “at least take office first.” As for Mr. Harvey, I will not condemn his visit (at least until the results of that meeting come to fruition). “If” it brings about significant positive change, then “we all should applaud it.” We have no choice but to “wait and see.”  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Beyonces’ “Lemonade…” Real life story?)

The stories have been put out there for all to check out. Now it appears as though the saga is now displayed the the music and video of Beyonce’s newest musical project simply entitled “Lemonade.” Here is a video update on her new release:

I have always said that “Music is expression.” As great as a certain beat might be sometimes it’s the “message in the music” that makes the song the biggest hit. From the video of Beyonce’s sister fighting her husband Jay-Z in an elevator to the published reports of his infidelity speculation has run rampant over what people think “really” happened between Jay and another woman. Now it is quite interesting that Beyonce appears to be telling the world through her music her thoughts and feelings. In that regard I “admire” this, because true artists will “paint a story” through their crafts. However, part of me is sincerely skeptical about it, because we all know how this industry can be. If Beyonce is indeed portraying her true life story of infidelity in this project, the “only thing in my mind that cheapens the strength of this episode is the fact that she is “still with him.” Even if there are divorce papers out there, who does she come home to after each show? Who is she still seen in public with? Is it quite possible that Beyonce is only telling this story in order to get people to buy her material? Consider the fact that her husband now wants to tell his side of the story and respond with his new musical project. If you really want the public to know, then just “hold a press conference and talk.” If you prefer to sell your music and make money off of it, then “come up with a story that you want your public to hear and have them believe that this is your truth.” Games sell, and that formula applies to the music industry as well. I can’t tell you for sure if “Lemonade” is “fact or fiction.” I can, however, advise people to “listen with your minds instead of just your ear.” Even though I have not heard “any” cuts from her new project yet, the whole purpose of putting your project out there is to “sell it.” As long as Beyonce accomplishes that, then this project will be a success. Hopefully at some point I can actually get to hear her tunes and then come back with my own assessment. Until then, I hope you follow your heart and your mind when it comes to anything you wish to purchase. There is always “another story beyond the surface.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Is it right for ex spouses to get so much of a star’s money?”)

There was a hit television series out entitled “Empire,” and I have to admit that I am probably one of the “very few” who have not been able to watch an episode yet (I am usually playing on those nights). However, I have heard from people who practically “live and die” by the show. Since I don’t know a whole lot about it, I can at least talk about an article that I recently read in regards to it. My understanding is that the actor Terrance Howard is the star of the show. My other understanding is that his ex wife Michelle Howard, was awarded 21% of his earnings over 62 grand beyond her regular $5,800 she is due from  him each month. For those of you who would like the particulars, just check out this story link:

http://www.tmz.com/2015/03/30/terrence-howard-ex-wife-empire-salary-divorce-money-spousal-support/

The question that might be on some minds today is, “Should it be right for her to take such a huge chunk of his money like that?” Well, legally, the answer to that question is “yes.” The court saw fit to examine his wages and made the appropriate adjustments to his movie career income. Actors, like musicians, usually have income that varies from gig to gig. Some gigs (or shows) may be bigger than others, and therefore the amount of income earned may be higher as well. I have no idea of the details that Terrence Howard went through with his divorce, but if a judge saw in his wife’s favor to grant her a significant portion of his earnings, then he needs to be happy with whatever money he is “allowed” to retain. A LOT of prominent  people have to give up huge portions of their salaries to ex wives. I think i remember a situation where Paul McCartney had to fork over “hefty sums” to his ex wife with their divorce settlement. Is there a moral to this? Unfortunately, that might be “several” morals to these types of situations. The first one is an old classic song by the late great Johnny Taylor. The song is simply entitled “It’s cheaper to keep her.” Google it! The next moral is to just “do right” by your lover. Usually a judge will award higher amounts in situations of impropriety. Finally, if you are going to “tie the knot” then make sure you “know that knot well” before you do. There are people (men and women) who will have the intentions of “using you” if they feel they can get away with it. In other words, their sole intention is to “get your money.” Just because you love someone tremendously doesn’t mean that they will love you back the same way. Before going to that next level I think it is advisable to just “make sure.” By the way, I am not saying that this is the situation with this case. I am sure Terrence Howard is happy to be getting major roles and getting paid for them. I am sure he would be happier if he got to “keep more of the money he makes.” In the end “something is always better than nothing.” As long as Mr. Howard’s popularity lasts, then he “and his ex wife” should be “getting paid.” I just hope that when his career (and his money) goes on the decline that the same percentages will be properly allocated for his sake.  Either way, I wish the best for the show, and thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today. As always, i wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make it a great one.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The killing of 2 NY policemen… How tragic was this?”)

This is a truly sad story to hear, but for those of you who don’t know this story yet, 2 New York police officers were ambushed and shot by a crazed vigilante “allegedly” over the deaths of unarmed Black men. The officers, who had families, were picked “at random” and targeted because of the “They got us, so let’s get them” mentality. Now police departments all over are on alert because they don’t know when the “next crazed individual” may want to confront and massacre them. If you are unfamiliar with the full story,  you are more than welcome to check it out at the link below:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/12/22/police-departments-on-high-alert_n_6364524.html

Now the police are going to want to know if this man had been “provoked” into committing this action from some protest or “call to arms.” I can understand that logic to a certain extent but I think it would be more beneficial to focus on the overall picture here. First, this man “obviously” had some mental issues. There are reports that he shot his own girl friend and had attempted to take his own life before. How is it that an “individual as sick as this” was able to even “obtain” a gun? I have said several times before there needs to be stronger gun laws and background checks and we need to ensure that guns are not so easily obtainable (we also need to hold people accountable for the guns they purchase). While it is true that many people can “lie about their circumstances,” rarely will you find that a mentally troubled individual will be able to “easily” hide his or her misguided intentions. Crazy people will often say and do crazy things. This guy actually posted on social media pages and even got 200 likes… Also, I hope that people will not derive the wrong message from this. Others may feel inspired to “imitate” this man’s legacy, but that will not solve anything. There should be “no hatred” for police… Yes, some of them do need better training, but that should “not” be a reflection on “all” policemen and we need to realize that. Finally, we should not allow our anger to overshadow our “common sense.” The LAST thing we need now is a more “stressed out” police department. We also don’t need a more stressed out public in “fear” of being targeted either. At this point, it is no longer “their problem… It is OUR problem…” I hope that the public can make changes through “non violent” means. I’m also hoping that authorities can find a better way to apprehend unarmed Black people without having to “shoot and kill them.”  I realize that some people will take offense to this statement but hopefully the truth will set us “all” free… I believe it is time for a “new awareness” to take place, and if we can manage to check our emotions we all might be able to make significant strides for the betterment of “all.” We REALLY need to change the “gun laws…” How many more incidents like this can we bear without taking action? Malls, schools and the public in general are no longer safe for any of us. If someone posts something “troubling” on the internet, then the last thing we need to do is “ignore it.” By reporting it you may end up saving the lives of people very close to you. I thank you for reading my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make it a great one.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “What most aspiring singers should know”)

A little while ago, I played for a singer who performed a rather popular song. That is usually no big news, because  many singers love to sing songs that the public already knows, but what should you do when a singer is “literally off key?” This particular singer was an accomplished vocalist, but she couldn’t find the pitch of the song and was  no where  close to being in tune. During my career, I have encountered “many” performers who were “way off” the key of the song. For those who have not had a lot of experience in singing, they often “blame the band” for changing their key or for playing it wrong. The truth of the matter is that even the greatest of singers can have difficulty hearing themselves if the sound is not adequate. Most professional concerts will have “monitors” onstage so that the artists can hear themselves singing. A monitor is usually a little wooden box looking thing that transmits the sound back to the performers onstage. They are used “only” for the performers to hear themselves. Depending on the professionalism of the sound man (and the quality of your sound check) that problem “should” be rectified if all went well. However, “things happen” and there is no guarantee that you will be able to hear yourself when performing a show. So if a singer is off key, how should he or she handle it? You may have seen this a couple of times at professional concerts, but when a vocalist wants to hear their vocals a certain way, they will look out towards the sound man (or to the monitor technician) and ask for more volume or more reverb (or anything related to how they hear). A sound man is “extremely” important because he controls what the audience “actually hears.” You could be the most awesome performer on the planet, but if your sound man is not on top of his game then your entire show could be ruined. EVERY professional artist should have a good relationship with his or her sound man. Singer Anita Baker used to fire sound men left and right, because she would have bigger expectations for what she felt they were supposed to provide. Her reputation for dealing with sound men has not been very good. The sound men cannot make magic, and  they can’t make you a better singer. However, if your relationship with your sound man is a great one then it will help to enhance your show. The voice is a delicate instrument. It can go out on you if you scream and holler too much. Vocal training can help you “learn” the strengths and weaknesses of your voice, and help you to give strong performances without going hoarse in the process. When someone sings off key it is important to let him or her know (in a nice way, please) that the singing was a little off pitch. If the singer thinks that he or she is singing the song great then the next audience may not be as “lenient.”  Most times when  you are singing a song, if your notes don’t “feel” right to you then chances are they’re “NOT” right. Small things such as your closeness to the microphone, the softness of your tone and other things can be adjusted to give you better control over your singing. Criticism can be  helpful as long as you are not too sensitive to it. We ALL have to learn as we grow. If you are a vocalist, then I hope you find this information  helpful.  Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and I wish the absolute best to you and yours.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Too early for marriage talk?)

Mr. Jolly, I recently met this man a few weeks ago, and while he  seems nice he keeps telling me that he is looking for a wife. While there is nothing wrong with feeling that way I think it is way too soon to even think about marriage. He keeps telling me this as though he is guaranteed to marry me. I still don’t know him that well yet. I have never met his family, been to his place of employment or even seen where he lives yet. Should I be concerned over his repeated statements?

I honesty think you should. I would think that any man who talks about marriage so early in a relationship is only doing so to “entice you.” It is quite possible that he is only telling you “what he thinks you want to hear.” How can anyone even “consider” marrying someone they hardly know? In fact, this is a question that you might want to consider “asking him.” While marriage is a great institution, the fact is that the focus should “not” be on “getting married” but rather on getting married “to the one you love.” If he says he is intent on getting married to “just about anyone” then he should NOT be the one for you. If he says he is intent on marrying you without first getting to know you then that is also alarming. I would “strongly” suggest that you get to know “HIM” WELL before proceeding to ANY kind of “next level” with  him. It is possible that his whole situation could be a ruse. In the meantime, you may not want to take this guy “seriously” until he steps up his game (and I do mean “game”). Let him say whatever he wants. It is what he “does” that will tell the “true” story. Good luck to you, and please welcome this great tribute from the Phantom Poet:

This man keeps telling me that there is an empty space in his life
He keeps reiterating to me that he wants to find a wife
He keeps repeating this message as if he wants to show me
But the truth of the matter is that he really doesn’t know me
I am starting to wonder just what kind of drugs he must be on
Because he doesn’t know that I know his wife from the hair salon
She already told me that their marriage is not on the skids
In fact, at this juncture they actually have two and a half kids
She told me that her and her husband are happy in their situation
I then let her know that I secretly “videotaped” his and my conversation
She said that she thought he was cheating but she just wasn’t sure “how”
She then told me that he REALLY will be “looking for a wife” now
She invited him home to meet “this new friend I found”
After he saw that it was “me” she started “slapping him around”
She hit him so hard that at one point the whole house shook
I never realized that this little woman could have such a devastating “right hook”
He tried to tell her that he didn’t cheat yet, and she screamed out “You’re lying”
She then told him that she was whipping him down because he was “trying”
He was trying his best to explain and say a whole lot more
But if is difficult to say much when you’re unconscious on the floor
She thanked me for letting her know, and then I was on my merry way
And I felt good knowing that I put a cheater in his place, on this great day…

“One down, many more to go”… The Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Sister taking advantage of her man)

I have a wonderful man in my life most of the time but this past week has been very difficult for me. See, he has a sister who is always asking him for things especially money… and unfortunately, rarely is appreciative of what he does for her. As a result he is often left feeling used and frustrated with her. Most recently he was supposed to make a large purchase and the day before this purchase she calls him up to borrow all of the money he had to make the large purchase. Of course begrudgingly he gave it to her. She happily took the money and is off living her life happily as usual and of course he is disgusted and has been in a bad mood ever since. He claims that she never helps him when he is in need so he is often frustrated when she asks for money. However he never stops giving it to her. As a result… as his girlfriend I feel the effects of his poor decisions. He is moody with me, short, and isolates himself. I suffer because my man who is usually wonderful now is quiet, removed, and often doesn’t want to talk or spend any time with me when he is in this space. I’m so irritated I feel like giving he and she a piece of mind. How long is too long to wait for this moodiness to subside? What should I do?
 
Do like most women would like to do when it comes to the financial part of your relationship. When he earns his money, make him give it to you so that you can “invest” it for your future together. In fact, you can even give him a steady “allowance” from it so that he can have some spending money of his own, but make sure to keep a certain percentage for future “emergencies.” That way whenever his sister asks him for money she will have to go through YOU to get it (and I’m sure you will LOVE that). This will alleviate your man from having to tell her “No” (because now, YOU will be the one in control of the money and that will put him in a position where he will no longer HAVE to say no to her). Your man is a goodhearted person, but unfortunately there are many devils out there waiting to “take advantage” of goodhearted people like him, and it sounds as though his sister is one of them. If he is as “bummed out” as you say he is, then he would probably WELCOME any excuse to NOT give her money. This is where you can come in. Just take over the finances so that you can invest in some “future upcoming event” of your own choosing, and then when his sister hits him up for money he can let her know that she now has to go through “you” to get it. When his sister realizes that she cannot control you like she does him, then hopefully she will find some new sucker to fleece. It sounds as though you and your man have a great relationship, but when you let others control your happiness then it is no longer just the “two” of you, but also anyone else who has that kind of power over you. Eliminate the third wheel, and stop her from messing up your life together. In the end, your man should appreciate your willingness to help him out by taking the heat off of him, and subsequently the both of you might be able to regain your happiness. On the other side, your man has to stop taking things out on you whenever he cannot control his own family dealings. He needs to “man up” and put his “foot down” and stop having attitudes against you for his own deficiencies when it comes to his finances. In essence, he needs “balls”… Let him know that you are not responsible for his family and that you should not have to suffer the brunt every time he gives in to the demands of his sister. He needs to know just how much he is hurting you with his actions and the best way for him to find out is to just TELL him. Maybe if you stand up to him, then he will find the courage to stand up to his sister. Communication is always vital in any relationship… Here is the Phantom Poet to offer and whole other twist to this saga:
 
When it comes to his sister, my man is always lending her money
But that ain’t helping us pay any of the bills around here, “Honey.”
The only reason that she borrows from you is because she knows she can
If she weren’t so ugly then by now she would have found herself a man
I realize that when it comes to families “blood is thicker than water”
But your parents should be “horse whipped” for spoiling their money grubbing daughter
It seems like every time she borrows money she has no intentions to return it
If she needs money she should don a hooker outfit, walk the streets and “earn it”
If she prostituted herself she’d have trouble and I see from where that might stem
Because she is so ugly that for sex she might have to pay “them”
Now whenever she borrows money from him I get multiple attitudes in store
I’d like to whack the BOTH of them upside the head with a sturdy two by four
I have a certain way to address her the next time over here she decides to roam
I’ll open the door, smile and say, “Hi, Don’t just stand there, honey… Go home!”
Maybe when it comes to your money, we could lock it in a safe or a vault
But please don’t cop any attitudes with me, because this really isn’t my fault
You need to know that as far as your finances go
There are times when you need to tell your sister “No.”
Because YOU are the one who lends her the money, you see
So there’s really no reason at all for you to have any attitude towards me
If you need me to provide extra incentive, well, you know I most certainly can
From now on I ain’t having sex with no broke behind man
So if you give her any more money, you’ll be losing more than you realize
And then from you I will undoubtedly withhold my most WORTHY prize
So hopefully with this message you will start to comprehend
When it comes to saving money, you’d better think… before you lend…
 
“A penny saved collects interest”… The Phantom Poet

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