Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Did you know that OJ Simpson was set free?”)

In case you missed it, the legendary OJ Simpson was released from jail after 9 years. They snuck him out at night so that no one would be around to see it. He has promised to lay low and stay out of the spotlight. Some people think that he got away with murder. They might be right, but if so he isn’t the only one… He was in jail for armed robbery (he tried to reclaim his own merchandise) and he did 9 years of a 33 year jail sentence in a Las Vegas prison. OJ was one of those athletes who went from the very top to the very bottom. If he had only kept a low profile after his murder trial he probably would not have been in a Vegas prison. However, OJ’s biggest problem was that he was not very smart. His arrogance made him think that he didn’t have a bulls eye target on his back. He did, and when he went to pick up his belongings he gave the people exactly what they were looking for…. another chance to lock him up. There are people out there who just need to stay out of the spotlight. George Zimmerman is one of them. If he doesn’t keep his mouth closed and lay low they will find a way to put him in prison too. OJ may never get back the positive image he had, but at this point in his life he doesn’t need to. He has money, he has family and he has a reason to keep out of public view. If he wants to stay out of prison then hopefully this time he will do the “smart thing.” Right now it doesn’t matter whether he was found innocent or guilty. He is still one of the most hated men in the United States. Time will tell that story. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“New Years Resolutions”)

Well, it is officially a new year and I have already heard some people say that they want to make changes in their lives for this upcoming year. I think it is admirable for people to have New Year resolutions. I think it would be more admirable if people actually lived up to the resolutions they make. To make a resolution usually means that you want to improve on something that relates to your own behavior. To me that is always a great thing to do (if you can really do it). According to published reports, the top resolutions that people make are as follows:

Lose weight, getting organized, spend less, save more, enjoy life to the fullest, staying fit and healthy, learn something exciting, quit smoking, help others in their dreams, fall in love, spend more time with family

These reports also state that the percentage of people who actually are successful in achieving their New Year resolutions amount to only 8%. That is a fairly low number. I think in order to accomplish what you want in life you have to plan it rather than just say it. Breaking any type of bad habit is not easy for most (especially those in their later years). This year I didn’t make a resolution for myself, but that is because I am constantly looking for ways to improve myself anyway. I often set up goals for myself, and while I do realize that my planning needs to be even better I am slowly getting to where I want to go. Sometimes it isn’t “reaching your destination” that gives you fulfillment but rather “the journey on the way to that destination.” Just “knowing” that you are taking the necessary steps to improve can make a big difference in your life. My main goal is to simply “expand musically” and that encompasses a lot of details which would be difficult for me to go into now. I am not satisfied to just “stay where I am” and as long as I live I intend to “grow.” For others who make resolutions I only hope that you have already taken the proper steps to get there (after all, today is already January 3rd). If you have not put anything into place yet then this may be a long and challenging year for you. Above all it would be awesome if you could give your life “purpose.” Each goal in life starts with the dream, and each journey to that goal starts with the “very first step.” You may be  able to fool others, but you can’t fool yourself. Make a plan and stay dedicated to it, and you may discover your own self generated happiness within. These are some of the things that can make life “special.” Hopefully you can see this concept. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the absolute best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Music and drugs… Is it really a good mix?”)

Drugs and music… Do they really mix well? For the record, I “do not” (nor have I ever) gotten high or intoxicated, so from a personal standpoint there is probably not much I can inject from experience. However, I HAVE worked for people who have been visibly “buzzed, blitzed or blasted” onstage… From my understanding a LOT of people equate most musicians with drug usage. In fact, there have been “many”times where people have come up to me inviting me to go “get high” with them. Of course, I declined each and every time (really, I did). Let’s look at some examples of some of the most famous music legends and their bad habits. Janis Joplin died a long time ago and I don’t know much about her career to know just how much of an effect drugs had on her but normally if you die from a heroin overdose then that means she probably did too much. I do remember the career of Marvin Gaye, and I remember seeing him perform on television where his eyes were “red as beets” and his mood was “overly mellow” during his performance. Getting high might have made the biggest different in how Marvin “wrote” his songs though. He wrote some “great” music and I would not be surprised if he did a lot of it while under the influence of something. I am not sure of how much drugs played in his actual onstage performance…. Amy Winehouse was someone who probably “benefitted” from the songs she wrote during the process of “being high.” Her music (and her lyrics, which often reflected her life) were “great” from the “written standpoint.” I never saw a live show of hers, but I’m sure she was probably drugged out on a couple of those. The late Phylis Hyman had some “really horrible shows” while she was drugged out onstage. I heard there were times when she cursed out everyone due to the state of her condition. Jimi Hendrix was a “phenomenal musician” who was so great that he probably contributed greatly to making “getting high” a popular pastime. Jimi could really play and his music was incredible. However, could he have been able to do just as well “without” drugs in his system? Whitney Houston was a prime example of how adversely drugs could have an impact on you. During the latter years of her career she went to some of her “lowest levels” of singing mainly because she was high onstage. Her voice deteriorated so badly that I saw a clip of the audience actually “booing her.” I remember years ago playing behind a classic singer by the name of Eddie Money. He had a hit song out entitled “Baby hold on to me.” He was a real nice guy during rehearsal and sound check. However, when it came time for the actual show he “appeared” to be “very inebriated.” Even under these conditions, he still managed to sing the songs though. I just don’t know if drinking helped him sing them better or just made him feel more relaxed (if he was, in fact drunk). One of the “greatest examples of a songwriter/performer whose performances and writing were “enhanced heavily by drug usage was Sylvester Stone. He was the leader of “Sly and the Family Stone.” He was a big advocate for getting high, and the success of his music “soared” from it. There are others (like the late Rick James) who also benefitted from drug usage until he died from a drug overdose. The question here is whether or not these artists could have done just as well “without” getting high. Writing music under the influence of some type of “enhanced euphoria” might have made the difference in a lot of tunes that became “hits.” However, getting high did not always guarantee the same results of success for everyone. Some artists shows were great while others faltered. I would hate to think that it should be a “prerequisite” for all musician songwriters to be under the influence when it comes to their music. With “so many” artists having their lives and their careers cut short due to overdoses of drugs it makes their careers such a travesty. Was it really necessary for them to jeopardize their lives for the sake of their music? Hopefully the stigma that is often associated with musicians fades with the newer generation. Hopefully some new star will learn from the unfortunate experiences of others. Otherwise we can pretty much guarantee the same end results. “Life… and music can be appreciated much, much better while sane and in your right mind.” My name is Brett Jolly, and I endorse this message… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Dwele: I’m cheating”)

I had the opportunity years ago to play for this new age artist by the name of Dwele. He had a tune that I really liked and we did an outside gig down at Penn’s Landing here in Philadelphia. We rehearsed at my house and I had the chance to talk to him about his career. He had mentioned that for “one” of his songs some of the press had “vilified him.” The song that he mentioned was his hit song “I’m cheating.” The tune/video can be seen here:

He told me that a lot of people hated him for promoting “cheating on his girlfriend” but he said that many of those people didn’t understand where he was really coming from. He said that the “real concept of the song was that he felt he was cheating on his girlfriend WITH his girlfriend.” In other words, with wigs, makeup and all kinds of things that women wear to alter their looks he actually “felt” like he was cheating on his girlfriend WITH his own girlfriend. That was a concept I could understand, because “MANY” women have the right to change or alter their looks. Should a man feel ashamed for thinking that way about his own girlfriend? “Variety is the spice of life, and if you can feel the aura of variety while still being true to yours then I see nothing wrong with that. Some women have “multiple personalities” (as do some men). However, as long as none of them have mass murder tendencies then you should be cool (smile).  If your woman seems to be “new” every day then enjoy it. Just make sure that whatever you do remember her name (smile). Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: I want my husband to quit playing basketball)

Dear Mr. Jolly. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and everything is good. However, he likes to play basketball with his friends and I think that he needs to give the silly  game up. He often gets hurt playing and it takes away from time that could be spent with me. He says that it is a “man thing” and that he loves the sport, but at this stage of his life shouldn’t he be loving me more? Am I supposed to just sit around waiting for him to come home all the time while he is working himself up? He tells me that I am commanding a lot of attention but I am his wife, so I am supposed to command his attention. I feel he needs to start winding this basketball thing down so that he and I can do more things together. I feel that I am worth it. We are not going to be young forever so why should he waste his time on such a silly activity? I would love to know what you feel about this. Thank you.

Men (uh, “young” men) usually have this energy that needs to be burned off. While spending the day with you might work out great for you, it sounds like he needs this activity to keep him grounded. I can actually understand where he is coming from. I used to wake up at 6:00 am each morning just to go out and play basketball, and I would be there all day until my mother had to literally come to the court in the evening and bring me home. For me, basketball was my release… It sounds as though this might be the same case with your husband. When I was on the court, I was doing what I loved and it kept me from getting into trouble with gangs and other things. If you try to stifle your husband’s physical release of basketball you may find that he just might compensate for that loss by engaging in some “other” activity that you might not like. Right now, you know where he is most of the time, and you know what he is doing. You don’t have to worry about him cheating around town and if his temperament is good at home you can “probably” attribute that to the steam that he lets off with playing basketball. When I was younger, every time I felt “frustrated or stressed” I would take to the courts and take it out on the man who had to “guard” me. I think that activity helped to make me the relatively “calm” man that I am today (well, in MOST cases.. smile). Trust me when I say that your man will not be playing ball for ALL of his life. Be careful what you ask for, for  you just might not “like it.”  It is one thing for a wife to be encouraging. It is another for a wife to be controlling. I think it would be advisable to let your husband “be himself” and play ball. As long as he comes home to you and still loves you the way a good husband is supposed to then there should be nothing wrong with it. Of course, you can always go to the court with him and watch him play as well. Men love to show off for the women they love. Your presence just might make him “play better.” Think carefully before trying to make him give up the very game that he loves. If your relationship is going strong you just might have “basketball” to thank for that. Thank you for submitting a topic and I wish you the very best today.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Trying to make it in today’s music industry)

Dear Mr. Jolly. I am a singer who would like to go big time like Beyonce or Lady Gaga. I have recorded in the studio before but I didn’t like the outcome of the song. Since I have very little experience I was wondering if there was anything you could tell me to help me make it big time. I am eager and I think I am ready. Please tell me what I need to know and do. Thank you.

The first thing you need is a “package.” In other words, you would need music samples, videos, photos and possibly your own web page. Most new artists need a great deal of promotion just to get to that “next” level, and having these few items is a great start. Hiring an experienced agent/manager helps, but you need to make sure that this agent will have “time” for you (A lot of agents focus most of their efforts on their “already proven” money makers, while their other clients can sometimes become “tax write-offs”). Getting radio play would be a great plus but don’t “count on it.” The radio industry has changed a LOT over the past couple of years. With the new internet radio stations on the rise, regular radio stations (and all the commercials that come with them) seem to be losing their edge. Stations like Pandora and Satellite radio are rising fast in popularity. Most regular radio stations play the “same” artists throughout the country. You are guaranteed to hear artists like Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift, Bruno Mars, Kanye West, Rihanna and the regular cast. These radio stations will NOT play any new artists unless there is a “strong” financial backing behind them. You could try taking your CD down to your local radio station yourself, but if it is a ClearChannel or Radioone station, then chances are you will NOT get your music played (at least not for “free”). This is because the labels pay the stations “big” money to play only “their” artists, but that money is “also” to make sure that they “don’t” play “other” artists. Even if you slide them a little bit of cash, they will more than likely take your money and then play your song “once” around the 3:00 am to 4:00 am hour but then later on return the CD back to you and tell you that it is not “strong” enough to get played on their station. Of course, you need to keep in mind that a lot of the regular artists that they play now also have songs produced in “poor” quality. The only difference between their product and yours is the “money” factor. That’s why we are all getting “worn out” from hearing so much of Beyonce, Jay-Z, and the cast of regulars. They have strong financial backing behind them, and “that” is what gets your music played. More and more new artists are starting to recognize this (and refusing to deal with this), and that is also why these radio stations are starting to struggle financially now. No one wants to invest 5 figures with “no guarantee” that your song will remain in rotation. Even if the station takes your song off the air, you will NOT get your money back. Thus, the quality of music we hear has gotten worse and the artists of today are sorely lacking in talent when comparing them to the legends of the past. There are no more Luther Van Dross’s out there. No one has the electricity that Michael Jackson displayed onstage. I don’t want to discourage you, but it is important that you at least know what you are up against. If the industry was based on just talent alone, then everyone could have an equal chance. However, until a change takes place you might want to “forget” about radio play. However, if you have a nice tune, and you can make a “great video” with it, then you can have it broadcast throughout the world for “free.” Youtube is “global” and it has already helped many artists get “out there” where regular radio could not. Be creative, think from a business perspective, and “find” a way to market yourself. If you are successful, you might be able to get a “distribution deal” with an independent label (This is MUCH better than signing with a label directly) and that would be a great plus to “launching” your career. Good luck to you and please feel free to check back with me if you have any other questions. I have just been informed that the Phantom Poet would like to make his own contribution to this debate:

There are hidden factors to know about this music industry but I don’t intend to spoil it
But you really need to know the main reason why it is “headed down the toilet”
If you are wondering why you are having difficulty getting your music played
Well, it is NOT based on  your talent, but rather on the amount of money “PAID”
You might have a really great tune, and it might even be the very best
But when you take it to the radio station, they could really care less
The quality of music on radio is so bad these days that I hate to even listen
Even the DJ’s on the air cannot play the songs they like without “permission”
Beyonce and Jay-Z are played all the time, and this is the reason “why”
They don’t necessarily have the best music,  but the best that money can “buy”
The music industry suffers in the meantime, because when it comes to great music they are “bereft”
As Beyonce has put it, some of this new music should go in the trash can “To the left, to the left”
There is PLENTY of “great talent” out here, sometimes it seems so absurd
When it comes to public radio, most times this talent will never get heard
The stations make money off the advertisers, but for good music we keep waiting
But the radio stations can’t make any money without a good audience rating
So if you don’t like the quality of the music on the radio, there’s no need to scoff
Let the radio station know exactly how you feel by turning your radio OFF!
Then you can write your local station and let them know with the message you send
That you will gladly come back to listening when they start playing good music again
Then maybe they will start to get their act together, and the music can change at the next glance
And maybe THEN some of the great undiscovered talent out here can “finally” get a “chance”

“Sometimes change is needed… but only if we recognize it”… The Phantom Poet

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “He went back to his old girlfriend”)

Dear Phantom Poet. A boulder has been dropped on my life. This man that I have totally adored, spoiled and fell deeply in love with has dropped such a boulder on me I don’t know how to recover?  We dated for 2 years and had serious talks about marriage. Down to when we wanted to get married, who we would want in the wedding, where we were going to get married, I mean the whole shabang.  He went away on a business trip and came back and told me that he was going back to his old girlfriend.  I felt like throwing up right in his face, this has left me so depressed with the feeling that I can never trust anyone again. I don’t want to be single all my life, how did I ever miss this coming?
 
You are upset, and understandably so, but it is important to make sure you keep the “right” focus. You don’t need to focus on “not” being single all of your life. Your goal should instead be to find love with the “RIGHT” man for you. It is important that you at least think this way; otherwise, you will only be looking to fill a void… There is someone out there for you but I hope you don’t try to fill the spot up with “temps” in the meantime just because you feel “lonely.” Also, I have news for you. If this man decided to go back to his old girlfriend then that means that they’ve been “talking all along” behind your back. In fact, when he went away on his “business trip” I will gladly wager that she was with him. The easiest thing to do is continue pondering what happened, but that kind of thinking will never help you to “move forward.” If he can do this to you, then rest assured he can do this to her, and this is the type of aggravation you don’t need. Be glad that you found out about him BEFORE the both of you walked down the aisle. Also, I promise you that at some point he will try to reach out to you again (probably with stories about how he and his new girl are having problems and how much he misses you). EVERY dog comes back to his feeding area, and this one will be no different. I just hope that you take the initiative to reject him when he does. You deserve better and now you have the opportunity to achieve it. Get yourself busy, get dressed up, “get your hair did” and go out. NEVER stay home alone to contemplate what happened in a failed relationship. That kind of energy should be channeled in a much more positive direction. Above all, be prepared to start over with a positive spin. After all, you’re pretty, intelligent and men “want” you. Once you realize this, then you will forget all about “what’s his name.” Let’s let the Phantom Poet put this in the proper perspective:
 
You can lock him up in a basement and control him with chains and whips
But this woman needed to watch out when her man went on business trips
Because even though they had the best of times when they were home
It was a whole different world when he traveled out alone
Yes, the man that she openly wanted, loved and adored
Went back to his old girlfriend, and this can’t be ignored
He cheated, he lied, and he sneaked around in order to get her
But this should be a happy moment for you (because you can definitely do “better”)
For you to blame his behavior on a business trip is entirely too wrong
Because if he went back to his “ex”, that means they were talking all along
And before you allow your imagination to get too far off track
You need to realize that this was always happening behind your back
For him to do that was wrong, and love can sometimes be unfair
But it is quite possible that you could have missed the warning signs there
What you don’t seem to realize is that this is a special moment to savor
Because in reality girlfriend went and did you a big favor
Since he cheated on you, then he’ll cheat on her and so much more
And that is the “exact” reason why he left her before
Before you take that walk down the aisle, and say that little oath
If she is willing to take him back, then more power to them both
He was a true dog, and the warning signs were probably there before
You can find a “better” type of animal from going into the “pet” store
Just imagine how bad you would have felt if his child you had carried
So be glad that you found out about him NOW BEFORE you got married
So this isn’t a loss for you, in fact you are actually winning
And this isn’t the “end” for you, but rather the “beginning”
So you need to feel positive while you are reading my rhyme
And note that this funky, greasy, earthworm wasn’t deserving of your time
It won’t be long before he misses you and tries to come back for another taste
When he does, I just hope you do the right thing, and slam the door in his face…
 
“Of course, you could slam the door on other areas, too” The Phantom Poet

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