What is supposed to be the proper conduct when you experience the loss of a loved one? Recently a pro football star by the name of Adrian Peterson lost his 2 year old son who was on life support. The boy was physically abused by the boyfriend of his mother, and that man is now in custody. A lot of people would have had problems coping with a loss of that magnitude and many would not have even “thought” about going out to play a football game afterwards. Mr. Peterson said he had no apprehensions about NOT playing the game he loved so much, and now some people are blasting him over that decision. The Vikings, who Peterson plays for, went on to lose that game, and Peterson had one of his lowest performances. Should he have stayed home? I often find that people are different when it comes to a tragic loss. Some people can handle it well, while others experience turmoil inside. While playing may not have been the best option, sitting around and pondering what happened just might have been even worse. To lose a child should be tragic for anyone, but we also need to keep in mind that there were “other alleged” factors in this story as well. For one, Peterson never met the child until the boy was on life support. The reasoning behind that was because Peterson never knew that the child was even his until a recent DNA report revealed that the other suspected man was “not” his father. That being said, it is obvious that Peterson never had much of a chance to even “bond” with this child. A relationship between a parent and a child becomes much stronger when there is interaction between the two. Through most of this child’s life Peterson was never there, so the child never got to know who his father really was. As for Peterson’s decision to play football, it might be easy to judge a man in accordance to your own standards. However, until we walk a mile in a another man’s shoes we can never “fully” understand his experiences. If Peterson felt remorse, anguish or depression resulting from the loss of his son, then maybe he felt the need to “hit somebody” or “get hit by somebody” to let off aggravation. As I said, we all are different in how we handle our own tragedies. Considering the circumstances, I don’t know if it would be the proper thing to do to “blast” Peterson for his decision to play. Depending on what I was feeling at that time, I might have even opted for the same decision. The game is over, and hopefully everyone can move on from it at this point. Life may not always be fair, but it is still “life.”At some point, we “all” have to “pick up the pieces” that are left… and “move on…” Please have a great day today.
The late Gerald Levert and Brett Jolly in concert