Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: How are we “expected” to cope with death?_

What is supposed to be the proper conduct when you experience the loss of a loved one? Recently a pro football star by the name of Adrian Peterson lost his 2 year old son who was on life support. The boy was physically abused by the boyfriend of his mother, and that man is now in custody. A lot of people would have had problems coping with a loss of that magnitude and many would not have even “thought” about going out to play a football game afterwards. Mr. Peterson said he had no apprehensions about NOT playing the game he loved so much, and now some people are blasting him over that decision. The Vikings, who Peterson plays for, went on to lose that game, and Peterson had one of his lowest performances. Should he have stayed home? I often find that people are different when it comes to a tragic loss. Some people can handle it well, while others experience turmoil inside. While playing may not have been the best option, sitting around and pondering what happened just might have been even worse. To lose a child should be tragic for anyone, but we also need to keep in mind that there were “other alleged” factors in this story as well. For one, Peterson never met the child until the boy was on life support. The reasoning behind that was because Peterson never knew that the child was even his until a recent DNA report revealed that the other suspected man was “not” his father. That being said, it is obvious that Peterson never had much of a chance to even “bond” with this child. A relationship between a parent and a child becomes much stronger when there is interaction between the two. Through most of this child’s life Peterson was never there, so the child never got to know who his father really was. As for Peterson’s decision to play football, it might be easy to judge a man in accordance to your own standards. However, until we walk a mile in a another man’s shoes we can never “fully” understand his experiences. If Peterson felt remorse, anguish or depression resulting from the loss of his son, then maybe he felt the need to “hit somebody” or “get hit by somebody” to let off aggravation. As I said, we all are different in how we handle our own tragedies. Considering the circumstances, I don’t know if it would be the proper thing to do to “blast” Peterson for his decision to play. Depending on what I was feeling at that time, I might have even opted for the same decision. The game is over, and hopefully everyone can move on from it at this point. Life may not always be fair, but it is still “life.”At some point, we “all” have to “pick up the pieces” that are left… and “move on…” Please have a great day today.

The late Gerald Levert and Brett Jolly in concert


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: When your time is due)

Dear Brett,





Subject: When your time is due





It is 10:30 P.M and I am returning home from a retirement party, which was fabulous. I was even moved to sing and roast the retiree.  I hope that when I retire there will be similar joy and enthusiasm. It struck me that unfortunately we sometimes wait until those we work with are retiring to let them know how important they are to us. It makes me sad to think that there are many I work with, struggle with, gnash teeth with daily but only I only let them know how I feel when they are about to leave. We don’t always acknowledge how important they are in our lives or how much they mean until they are sick or they leave us. 

In a bookstore, I noticed a book by Richard Carlson entitled An Hour to Live, An Hour to Love, which was dedicated to his wife. He asked these questions: If you had only an hour to live, whom would you call?  What would you say?  What are you waiting for? The   author, who also wrote Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, sadly did suddenly die three years after writing this manuscript.    It hit me that there are people in my life who should know how important they are to me. I would like to say to the gentleman I care so very dearly about, that he has been an immense blessing and positive influence in my life. I would encourage everybody to speak up, and say something, even if it is to only one person.  I would appreciate your opinion on why we behave this way.





There is an old saying that you never miss someone (or something) until it’s gone. Perfect examples would be last week’s paycheck, old gas prices, SUV’s (Well, maybe NOT that one), the Bill Clinton era, real hair, and your girl’s monthly cycle. This principle applies to people as well. We often take others for granted and never realize their true value until they have left from our lives. This is when reality hits us in the face with the concept that we never had it so good. Many men experience that when a good woman leaves their lives. That is why I think it is a good practice for couples to periodically spend moments away from each other, even if just for a small amount of time. Sometimes you have to MISS the person in your life so that you won’t end up taking that person for granted. It could make all the difference in your long-term relationship. Now let’s address your other question. If I had an hour to live, the first people I would call would be my children, starting with my daughter Jazzmin. I would tell her that even after death my love for her would always linger on. I would let her know that I am not afraid and to keep me in her heart whenever she needs to speak to me. I witnessed what my mother went through during her last days and I tried my best to relate to her situation. Of course, no matter how much you prepare yourself, no one is fully ready for death. It is because of this logic that I count each day as a new one whenever I awake in the morning. Every day is a second chance for me, and I want to bring in as many positive forces as I can to my existence. Life is truly special, and the people you associate yourself with are the ones that give your life extra meaning. You are right. We should give honor to those deserved people while they are still here. I hope that no one has to encounter this type of circumstance, but if it ever does happen, I hope you handle it properly. This was a good topic for today, and I hope that everyone reading this can relate to it. Thank you for sending it, and have a great weekend, courtesy of the Phantom Poet:





If I had an hour to live, just whom would I call?


I’d call the cable company and say “Forget about my bill, y’all”


It wouldn’t make much sense to extend my endurance


And I’d tell my family to call the people for my life insurance


I’d contact all my friends, and give them as much love as I can muster


There might be a problem with me returning overdue videos to Blockbuster


I’d review my life and fantasize as to how much I love it


I’d call the IRS and tell them to “Shove it”


I don’t think I’d try to go out and try to commit any type of crime


Even though I’ve always wanted to find my old English teacher and slap her behind


By the time the cops find me, I will have done what I long desired


And if they don’t beat me first, by then I will have expired


I would contact all funeral directors and all appropriate undertakers


And let them know that I will soon be gone (just like the Lakers)


I’d lay face down naked on a Xerox machine, and press the button to “enlarge it”


I would go to Target and purchase everything I can, and then I’d say, “Charge it”


I’d try my best to go through the store and buy everything I see


And if anyone had a problem with that, then I would just say, “Sue me”


If I had an hour to live, I am just not sure of what I would do


Except let you know that my final words are “I love you”





“My attendance was ALWAYS great in English class”… The Phantom Poet


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Anthony Hamilton and Brett Jolly performing in concert