Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: “Halloween”)

Today is officially listed in United States tradition as “Halloween,” a time when people (usually  young kids) dress up in costume and go to doors soliciting candy and other treats from neighboring households. I have noticed that each year around this time it seems as though “less and less” children seem to be taking part in it. I am not sure as to why this tradition seems to be evaporating but I have heard different stories from parents who used to participate. One story involves the initial origin of Halloween. It has been proclaimed to be something that somehow “supports the devil” and has a negative side to it. In fact, it is believed that the concept of wearing costumes was done to either mimic or appease the evil spirits. When it came to “trick-or-treating” the underlying concept was that if no treats were offered then a “trick” was supposed to be played on the homeowner. As Halloween evolved over the years it has incorporated less of a sinister mentality, while still holding down the principle of “fun” for the kids. However, there  had been incidents where homeowners had “tainted” the candy with some kind of toxic or poison that would do harm to the kids, and that may be the reason why Halloween doesn’t seem the same anymore. I don’t know how this year will turn out, but if you are one of those who celebrate this tradition, I sincerely hope that you have a safe time, and by all means, be careful.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: A moment with Bonnie Raitt)

I have been asked to share another experience with one of the celebrities I have performed onstage with, so today I figured I would give you a short story about Bonnie Raitt. A lady with a tremendously “beautiful” spirit, I had performed with her a couple of times on different occasions. On one of those occasions we had the chance to talk about some of the things she had done. She mentioned that a lot of times when she played duets with the legendary blues singer John Lee Hooker that he would “rarely” tune his guitar. He just preferred to pull it out and play, and she would just do her best to not let it bother her. Even when his guitar was not tuned properly, he still managed to make it sound great. Then she revealed to me something that actually shocked me. She informed me that she does “NOT” like to have her picture taken. I told her that she is so famous that how could she possibly “avoid” having her pictures taken, and she just responded by saying it is something that she just doesn’t like. If someone puts up a camera to her she has no problem at all telling him or her to put it away. She told me that she really loved the band that I was playing with (My brother, Bill Jolly, was the musical director of it) and that she loved performing onstage with us. When talking to her, she just comes off like someone real and genuine, and not a lot of celebrities give you that aura. I guess my biggest surprise came when my birthday came around. I received this card in the mail from a PO Box and I had no idea who sent it or where it even came from. When I opened the contents I was pleasantly surprised to find out that Bonnie Raitt sent me a happy birthday card. That was real special to me (even though I don’t think I can find the card around my home right now). By the way, if there are any of you who reside in the New York City area, my brother, Bill Jolly, is the director of a play that is worth attending. The play is entitled “Lady Day” and it reflects the life and times of the legendary singer Billie Holiday. If you are living in or residing anywhere around the New York City area I hope you take the opportunity to check it out. Thank you and please have a great day today.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (My recent experience for Hillary Clinton)

Today I wanted to share with you a recent experience I just had. This past Tuesday I had the honor to play for a function for Hillary Rodham Clinton. For those of you who have no idea who this woman is, she is the wife of former President Bill Clinton and part of Present Obama’s team on National Security, and she is “very much” in line to be the “next” President of the United States (and first female President). For this event she was being honored with a “medal of liberty” here in Philadelphia and I was asked to perform with 2 choirs (a little girls choir from Princeton and a choir from Bright Hope Baptist church here in Philadelphia).  The song we had to perform was R. Kelly’s “I believe I can fly.” We actually performed the song at 7:00 pm but from 2:00 until about 6:00 pm we rehearsed this song “until my arms were about to fall off.” In all my musical years I don’t think I have EVER practiced one particular song “so” much. This ceremony was done “outside” at 6th and Arch streets in Philadelphia and yet no one could attend this event without prior invitation. The deep part for me about this presentation was dealing with the Secret Service. These guys are “extremely” thorough when it comes to protecting big political figures. They camp out “everywhere” and they take their jobs VERY “seriously.” I remember years ago performing for the Republican National Convention and having to deal with them. They had the entire group come in ONE bus, and then had us exit the bus while they had “specially trained dogs” enter to sniff out any “bombs.” They then had circular mirrors placed on long poles so that they could search “underneath” the bus as well. They had previously checked “everyone’s” social security number and they made sure to keep us all “in one area” until they were ready for us. For this particular event I “told” them that I had another gig to go to right after we finished, so I needed to leave “immediately.” They told me that they had to “escort” me out of the building for security sake. Personally, I wasn’t excited at all about Mrs. Clinton being there. I had already sat one person from her a few weeks ago when she and her husband attended the funeral for William H. Gray. In fact, when she sat in the front section she very nearly “stepped on my foot.” After I FINALLY managed to leave the building I had my suit on and my guitar in my hands walking towards my car. People were walking by looking at the heavy entourage of cars with heavily tinted windows and police escorts and wondering what was the big deal. They looked at me and I just told them that Hillary Clinton was in there receiving and award. Promptly one of the CIA people said “Go ahead and just make our job more difficult for us. You don’t have to let the entire world know.” I immediately let this woman know that first off, this ceremony was being “televised live.” If there is ANYONE alerting the world that Mrs. Clinton is here you can blame “ABC news.” Second, I informed the agent that “You are bringing your own attention to this area by the HUGE amount of security that you guys have posted “all around” here. Finally, I told the agent that I was headed to another destination and if you feel that national security was “threatened” by the two people I told by random chance then this job might be a little too “stressful” for you. I then smiled and said “I am sorry, and you won’t have to worry about me telling anyone else while I am on my way to my next gig. However, there WILL be a television set there, and I fear that the people watching might deduce for themselves that she is here.” I think I got a rather sarcastic look from the agent at that point, but it made no difference because I was leaving anyway. When I arrived at my next gig I told the band that the one song we will NOT play tonight is “I believe I can fly.” If that happens, then I am going to “seriously hurt someone.” I hope you don’t mind, but I just wanted to share this story with you today. I thank you for checking it out and I hope no one was offended by my portrayal of the secret service. If anything, I actually got a good laugh from it. Thank you again and have a great day.

 

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Blues singer Bonnie Raitt and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: He may have lied)

Mr. Jolly, I just recently met up with a really nice man and we have been dating for 2 weeks. Everything seemed great until I heard from someone who knew his past. It appears that he was married 3 times before and he has 8 children. He never mentioned this to me at all when I asked him about his past. Should I bust his bubble and tell him what I know and if it is true, should I leave him? That is an awful lot of marriages and kids. Can you tell me how I should handle this?

Wow….8 kids? He should be walking with a “limp” by now… Sorry, that was bad to say… In this instance it is quite possible that he either lied to you or the person who told you about his circumstances was in error. Unless you know “for sure” you should not confront him in an accusatory way yet. It would be wise to “do  your homework” first to make “absolutely sure” the information you got is factual. If you find out that your friend was right, then you may need to have some form of “sit down” with your man. The problem is that if he can lie to you about “one” thing, then he can certainly lie to you about “every” thing… I can’t imagine how anyone could possibly expect to hide 8 kids. I always try not to judge people by their pasts. I believe that most of us have made mistakes that we wish we could error correct. In this instance, his crime was not in his marriages or the number of kids he has. His crime is the fact that he “lied” to you. It is quite possible that he might “still be” involved relationship-wise with one (or ALL) of his “baby mommas.” If he is lying to you then he could be lying to everyone else as well. It is important to “find out” before you “lower the boom” on him. You would be surprised the amount of information you can find on people if you just Google their names online. Sometimes you can find out occupations, family members or even wives or husbands. When you start in a new relationship it is important to tell the truth, because when you lie you will have to “continue” to lie even more in order to protect the lie you originally told. If you can’t trust him in the beginning, then you definitely can’t trust him in the end. You deserve to know the truth, even if you can’t get it from “him.” Let your “fingers do the walking” (remember that ad from a long time ago?) and type away on your keyboard until you find the results you seek. Once everything is “confirmed” then you can have a “coming out” party with your new man. Good luck to you and we wish you the best. Here he comes from the side exit, so please welcome the Phantom Poet:

It can be so refreshing when you start new relationships in your lives
but what do you do when you find he had 8 kids and 3 wives?
I wouldn’t be so active right now trying to look for any proof
If this buzzard had only done the right thing and told the truth
I can even check online to see how recently he has been to court
Because NO one can hide when it comes to owing for child support
Because if he has a plan to lie to me then I certainly intend to foil it
And if he is sprouting kids like that then he can’t even use my toilet
The chances that he might be the right man for me seem to be “slimming”
Because every time he enters my house the fish automatically “stop swimming”
A lie is a lie and it doesn’t matter how you want to tell it
And to build on a lie is wrong, so I won’t let you compel it
But now that I know the truth, I forgive you… without any doubt
“Hey, guess what? I lied.” Now please get the hell OUT!
I know the deal now, and there is no longer any need to rap
Because “a bird in the hand is worth a pound of bird CRAP!”
You have 30 seconds to leave because when it comes to ammunition I am not bereft
and since I am now loading up this gun, you now have exactly 19 seconds left
At least I was gracious enough to give you the utmost warning
And if I happen to clip you, I’m sure your wives will thank me “in the morning”

“Wow, he can duck and dodge REAL well”… the Phantom Poet

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: How to tell if he is lying?)

Hey Phantom Poet, I have a friend who is interested in this guy but not sure if he has someone or not.  She likes him a lot and he’s a pretty good catch, that’s why she is not sure of his status.  How does one know if he is telling the truth or hiding something?  Can you give me some signs to look out for? She really likes this guy and wants to be sure before going to the next step.
 
Uh huh! YOU got a friend too? I have heard this before. It is amazing how all these people now have “FRIENDS” that have problems (smile). Well, let’s see if we can’t help your “FRIEND” out…First, you can find out a lot from the things he “doesn’t” say and “how” he doesn’t say them. If he does not want to introduce you to his family or friends then chances are there is a reason behind that. If he doesn’t want you to know where he lives or where he works then there is likely a reason behind that as well. A man can tell you anything, but is he willing to “show” you EVERYTHING? If he is sporting someone else then he will take evasive measures to keep you hidden from his personal world. Also, when you say that he is a “good catch” in what way do you mean that? Does he have lots of money or is he just a good all around guy? Remember, one woman’s “treasure” can be another woman’s “trash…” There are a lot of chances for men (AND women) to cheat and the best way to find out is to just get to know him. All relationships involve learning the other partner. It is also important to know what his responsibilities are. I have heard women say that they need a man who is available 24 hours a day, but chances are the only men who will fit that description are “park bums.” A successful man will have to work somewhere, and if you plan on knowing him then you will need to know his job AND his responsibilities. Time will tell, for no one can hide a secret lover for long without it getting found out at SOME point. Please make sure to let your “friend” know that… And while you are at it, let your friend check out this “dope lyric” from the Phantom Poet:
 
When it comes to secret lovers, how can you find out?
By getting to know your lover and then erasing all doubt
I am looking for any evidence, and I want to be as sure as I can be
Because I’m having my man checked out by the FBI, CIA AND KGB
But if he has another woman out there, I really want to know
I want to find out if he is a womanizer or just a flat out male ho
I need to be one with my man, because that is how my love relates
And I need to know if he’s got 7 different wives in (7 different states)
Has he been telling me the truth or has he in essence lied?
Is his life uncomplicated, or does he have something to hide?
When a woman wants a relationship with a man, she doesn’t need any drama
She doesn’t want to get confronted one day by 2 or 3-baby momma
When we walk downtown together, I want to be sure of his status
I don’t need angry scorned women staring straight at us
My man told me he was single, but somehow I doubt he’s all mine
Maybe it’s because of that woman we just passed holding up a sign
She seemed to be pretty angry towards him and she had an attitude of sort
On her sign it had my man’s name and it said, “Pay Child Support”
I don’t want to get involved in other people’s affairs, but I wonder if this is true
Then we passed 3 more women with signs all saying, “Me, too”
I asked him about these women and he said that he really isn’t sorry
He said, “Those kids ain’t mine at least until after we appear on Maury”
Maybe my man is a playa, and maybe it’s time for this relationship to end
Oops, I’m sorry… This story isn’t about me… “Ahem! It was about my “FRIEND”
 
“Yeah… Right!” The Phantom Poet

 

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Legendary blues singer Bonnie Raitt and Brett Jolly performing onstage

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: My musical beginnings)

Today I wanted to talk about my favorite subject, and that is “music.” It’s kind of interesting how I even got into it because when I was younger I wanted to be an artist and a basketball player. In fact, I used to wake up each morning between 5:00 and 6:00 am to go out to the basketball courts to play. Some days I would stay out there all day until my mother came to get me and took me home. During that time, music was only an “afterthought” for me. I had started playing piano at the age of 4. My parents bought home a piano and the very next morning I was playing “Stand by me” on it (This was a popular classic by Ben. E. King). My mother came downstairs and seemed surprised that I figured the song out without any training, and she subsequently decided that she would enroll me in “piano lessons.” Well, I “hated” piano lessons, because my teacher wanted me to be able to “read” sheet music and I was “horrible” at it. Instead of practicing, I preferred to go play basketball or draw. Well, one day my piano teacher gave me the assignment of learning “Home on the Range,” a popular old time song. I “never” practiced it at all, but when I came back to my lessons I “miraculously” played it “flawlessly.” My teacher congratulated me for finally  “doing” my homework but I had to admit that I never did it. That was when it was first discovered that I had something called “perfect pitch.” Perfect pitch is the ability to “hear” notes and determine what those notes are without the aid of finding it on an instrument. For me, it was a “defining” moment in the development of my music career. As I grew older I realized that other people had perfect pitch but to “different” degrees. Even now, there are friends of mine who have it but still can’t hear music as well as I can. To make a long story short, as the years went by the more I played basketball the better I got at “music.” When I was a senior in high school, I played a preseason game where I went up in the air for a play and landed awkwardly. My knee buckled, and my career was ended. I tore the anterior cruciate ligament in my left knee and needed surgery. I was devastated, and during that time I couldn’t understand how God would let my basketball career end like this after a lifetime of hard work. It took me a long while, but now I realized that God didn’t give me what I wanted, but He sure gave me what I “needed.” The world of basketball was not meant for me, but the world of music would be my true calling. Today I have played for some of the biggest names in music (just go to my web site WWW.Brettjolly.com and see the pictures for yourself), and I also write, produce and record music as well. I love what I do, and just recently I (along with my good friend Chris Odom) started a “jam session” here in Philadelphia that features singers, musicians, comedians, models and ALL types of entertainers. We are going into the third week of it, but so far the responses to it have been “overwhelming.” I am the emcee of the event, and we play just about everything (and of course, I mess with just about everybody). Even though I still feel I have a good ways to go, I am happy with the direction my life has turned. I now realize that the true quality of life depends heavily on what you “invest” into it. While my parents spoiled us with everything from baseball and basketball equipment to art supplies and musical instruments, we utilized it all for our own betterment. I am not putting myself high on any pedestal but I hope to reach my “fullest” potential in the very near future. In the meantime, I figured I would share this story with you today to see if “anyone” can relate to it. It’s “not” where we come from, but rather where we are “headed” that determines the true value of life. I only hope that you feel your existence is every bit as fulfilling as “mine” feels. Thank you and have a great day, and here is the Phantom Poet with his follow up:

When I first started playing piano I never figured that I would go that far
But today I am having an awesome time playing on my bass guitar
I first started playing an instrument at the very young age of 4
And to this day I still cannot read sheet music or a music score
When it came to music lessons, I could never pass a single class
Yet today I have played for Usher, Bonnie Raitt, and even Teddy Pendergrass
I figured that I was going to be an athletic star in the field of basketball
That’s when God looked down on me and said, “No, not at all”
My life went through a big change and even though at that time I felt distressed
He made sure that my change of direction in my career would be for the best
Now even though I still love basketball, I realize to this day
That I don’t need to take the chance of hurting my fingers in any way
I still have more to accomplish, so hopefully before my life is through
I will show you that I love “jamming” (and I hope you like jamming too)
So here is a page in the life of Brett Jolly, and in ending this much I will say
Thank you so much for listening, and I hope you all have a truly “inspiring” day

“Let’s hear it for that raucous rascal, the Phantom Poet”

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Bonnie Raitt and Brett Jolly in concert.

 

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Topic: Fetish and Fantasy)

MY GIRLFRIENDS AND I WERE DISCUSSING A SHOW ON TV WHERE A MAN HAD A FANTASY OF WEARING WOMEN’S UNDERWEAR AND WAS CAUGHT BY HIS WIFE IN HER PANTIES AND BRA. SHE DECIDED TO ALLOW HIM TO BE HIMSELF AND THAT HELPED THEIR RELATIONSHIP. THE QUESTION IS IF A WOMAN ALLOWS HER MAN TO LIVE OUT HIS FETISH OR FANTASY WILL THAT REALLY HELP THEIR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE SHE MAY HAVE ONE THAT HE MIGHT NOT AGREE TO

When you think about it, we ALL have fantasies. Some can be a little more “adventurous” than others, but when it comes to love (or just the art of sex) a little variety can sometimes go a long way. The biggest problem is that everyone is “different.” What works for one individual might just be “too risque” for someone else. An old friend of mine used to manage one of those West Coast video places, and she once told me that she could not stock enough of those “Big Sexy Woman” videos because they were constantly being rented out. Fetish videos were also in popular demand. In order to spice up a love life, some couples will engage in role playing to add some sizzle to their romance. To me, a man wearing a woman’s bra and panties might be just a little “extreme” but who am I to judge this couple? When two people are “made for each other” it is not just about looks and personality. It is about how they think together, how they live together and how they love together… In this instance the woman was “open” enough to incorporate her man’s fetish into her relationship and it resulted in a happy ending. The only problem here is that the woman had to actually “catch” the man in the act of raiding her underwear. This promotes deceit (on the man’s part) and she should not have found out this way. If the man had been open to her from the very beginning then this would have been the optimal situation (because even though this particular situation worked out, she will now consider things like “What ELSE is he possibly hiding from me?”). If the woman has a fantasy that she likes, there is absolutely “nothing” wrong with introducing it in a relationship to her man. The worst that can happen is that he will say that it is “too” wild for him. That doesn’t mean that he is saying “no.” It just means that he may have to warm up to trying it out one day. She may have to help him learn to “accept” it. When it comes to love compatibility, there are 3 words that come to mind: “Trial and Error.” You never know how far your lover is willing to go until you at least “introduce” it. I only say that you need to keep this “one” concept in mind: Whatever goes ON in the bedroom, needs to STAY in the bedroom… If you don’t want to be judged by others, then  don’t TELL others about what you are doing. YOUR fantasy can make a big difference in your longevity. Dare to be “you”…. Here is the Phantom Poet… “exposed”….

When it comes to love and trying to reach your “sexual” peak
Some people can’t do that unless they first become a “freak”
A woman comes home and finds herself in “shock and awe”
All because she finds her husband raiding her panties and bra
She could have been disgusted or she could even have burst into laughter
But she chose to accept it, and now they are living happily ever after
Because we ALL have fantasies, and some of them are more freakier than others
And how you handle them determines whether you are wild and crazy lovers
While some couples are conventional and just do normal lovemaking in bed
Others have to around the block twice,  hop on one leg and hold their ankles above the head
There is diversity in love and sex, and while some of us have problems accepting this as being true
You never know WHAT you are capable of doing until someone brings out the “freak” in you
So for some of you who have “conventional” morals, well, those morals you may need to sacrifice
“Would you like to know what we can with some duct tape, peanut butter, eggs and ice?”
You can try to experiment when it comes to lovemaking and be surprised at what you might find
I will try my best to be “open” to most things, but do NOT think you can sneak anything in “from behind”
I have no problem with you wanting to be different but I will NOT give in to “everything” that is proposed
Because for me some things are always “sacred” and that back area will ALWAYS be “closed”
I want you to “get yours” and I know that for your sexual appetite you need to have fun
But I will let you know now that if you break out a whip… I’m breaking out my “gun”…
You can explore your sexual adversity if you like, because variety can make our love strong
Just note that if THIS love is going to last, then we will not put “anything” where it “don’t” belong…

“Borders are CLOSED here, Jack!”… The Phantom Poet

 

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Famous blues singer Bonnie Raitt and Brett Jolly in concert

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