Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Do you dream small?”)

I have found that many people often limit themselves when it comes to goals, desires and personal achievement. I have discovered that many set reasonably obtainable goals in life, but rarely do people strive for the unreachable. When I hear someone say that he or she wants a job I wonder why they don’t want to start their own company instead. When I hear someone say that he or she wants to get married one day, I wonder why their goal isn’t instead “to spend the rest of my life happily married to my eternal soul mate.” The concept of just getting married “sounds like” someone just wants to get married to the first person available. When I hear people complain about a bad politician I wonder why they themselves don’t run for office. ” Many of us are satisfied with the “small things” in life. Once we reach our small plateau then we are content with it, but should that be satisfactory? Why just reach for the sky when there is a whole universe beyond that? What you get out of life depends largely on what you invest into it. That’s why I think it is always advantageous to “Dream big.” You don’t have to settle for second or third best of anything, especially when you have the potential to accomplish so much more. You need to remember that great people were only ordinary people like yourself who dared to dream great things. When you say to yourself (or anyone else) the words “I can’t” then you are in essence stopping yourself from accomplishing something monumental. Some tasks may seem way out of our reach. When you think about it, man was not meant to physically fly like a bird, but we accomplished flight through the invention of the air plane. Many do not have the stamina to walk hundreds of miles, but then someone dreamed about inventing a car and now we can accomplish what was once thought impossible. We can reach people around the world because someone dreamed about inventing the internet. Is there anything that you wish you had done but never got around to it? Well, now you can go beyond your own limits (but only if you believe you can). The first thing is to “think it into existence.” The greatest satisfaction usually comes from overcoming the “greatest of odds.” The bigger the obstacle the greater the feeling you will get from conquering it. When you “dream big” your vision goes much further. Tell me, what do you see today? Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Is the system designed to control us?”)

I had an interesting conversation with someone the other day. This guy told me that no matter how hard he tried he felt as though he was going nowhere. He felt he worked really hard but recently got laid off from his job. He had been laid off from other jobs as well (and according to him it was not his fault but rather the conditions of the company). He felt as though the cards were stacked against him and life wasn’t fair. I told him that there was a very good possibility that he was “right.” When you think about it, most of us work hard to make money, but unless you are self employed the money you make usually comes from “other” sources. That means that “other people” (or other agencies) already have the money, and they are the ones responsible for dishing it out to those who “supposedly earn it.” They probably get their money from other sources as well. This leads me to believe that “someone at the front of this equation” has to have “all the money.” The biggest problem with this is that no matter how hard you work for the agency you are employed under, the  amount of money you will make can NOT exceed that of your employer. In other words, if you are getting paid by someone then the  limit on the amount of money you can make depends on the amount of money your employer “has.” That makes sense, right? The BEST most of us can do is work hard to make sure our “bosses” get richer (and then “hope” that they break us off with some of the profits they make). That tells me that the system that many of us are in is “designed” to only allow you to get so far. We have been taught and trained to believe that if you “follow the system” then your chances for greater achievement are much higher, but is that really true? A LOT of people have graduated from college, and yet studies have shown that only 27 percent of college grads actually have “jobs related to their majors.” What about all that money that was spent? It went into “the system.” It is quite possible that “everything” you encounter each day is designed to control you. When the news station tells you that you are about to get 10 inches of snow you usually prepare for it by rushing to the stores to stock up. However, how many times has the weatherman been wrong? Who determines the programs you watch on television? Who determines the playlist of songs you hear on the radio? Whenever you “see or hear” a commercial it is usually an attempt to “increase your desire to buy a product or service.” Media is very powerful because many of us get our information from it. However, how can we be sure of it’s validity?  What if we actually are being “misled?” Just about everything is part of “the system.”  When you work “within the system” you are governed by “the rules of that system.” When your opportunity depends on people other than yourself then you are in a position where you are “not” in control. This weekend I invite you to “doubt EVERYTHING” you see and hear on TV and radio (and newspapers). Only give credit to what “you yourself can verify to be true.” Anyone can tell you that 1 plus 1 equals 2, but how many can actually prove it? When your opportunity for success depends strictly on you, then you own the rules and you are in control. I hope you remember that when you are trying to become rich while “working for someone else.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (” The trial of the former America’s Dad”)

For many years Bill Cosby was the “perfect role model” for America. He was not only a positive figure for Black America, but for all people of all races. He had a hit show about an African American family called the Huxtable’s on the Cosby show a few years back. He didn’t have to portray any Black people in a negative limelight (like a lot of movies and shows do). He actually made success happen promoting “positive images.” While a LOT of celebrity Black figures have been brought down during recent years with allegations (Tiger Woods, OJ Simpson, Kobe Bryant) Bill Cosby managed to remain the epitome of righteousness… “until now…” Currently Mr. Cosby is slated to go to trial after this year on charges that he drugged a woman and assaulted her. The court is currently considering whether or not to allow testimony from other women who also claimed Cosby assaulted them as key witnesses against him. All of a sudden, Bill Cosby’s reputation doesn’t seem so perfect now. He is now legally blind (and I think he is 79 years old) and the accusations against him are very old (However, that doesn’t mean that they are false). I don’t know the validity of the charges against him so I cannot speak on whether he is innocent or guilty. I do know that everyone is “supposed to be innocent until proven guilty” in a trial (but I don’t know if that concept is always exercised like it is supposed to be). From what I have heard of the case so far, the story of his accuser seems to be somewhat shaky (plus the time that has elapsed since the time of the alleged infraction until now may come into play as well). I didn’t think much about this case until I recently saw “pictures” of the women who are coming forth to make accusations against Cosby, and this is where I throw up the “caution” flag. From what I saw, most (or all) of his accusers are White (Caucasian) women. While I do not condone assault of ANY kind against ANY woman, I can’t help but fear that this case may blow up into another “Trial of the Century” just like that of OJ Simpson, but for all the “wrong” reasons. You see, whether or not we want to admit it, “race sells…” Even if you try to ignore it, chances are the “races” of these women may come into play when it comes to popularity opinion against Cosby. Whether he is guilty or not, it still needs to be proven in court. Once that “race card” starts getting played it automatically “taints” the perception of the observer. Bill Cosby needs a fair trial (EVERYONE does). If the pictures of these women get posted for everyone to see then Cosby may be “doomed” before the trial even starts.  If he is guilty then he needs to go to jail. Let’s just hope that “visual perception” doesn’t “condemn” him before this trial even begins. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The art of being humble”)

The other day I played at the Trocadero here in Philadelphia. It was a tribute dedicated to the music of Jimi Hendrix. For those of you who are familiar with the legend of Jimi I was actually supposed to play the part of his bass player in the “Band of Gypsies” segment whose name was Billy Cox. They dressed me up in a hat and 60’s-ish garment so that I could look the part. There were other musicians there to play the parts of the other band members and it seemed like a great event to me. However, once I got there the other bass player and I met up in the green room. We said hello and he immediately talked about himself (for about 25 minutes nonstop). He mentioned that he had met with legendary bassist Stanley Clarke and he talked about how he played for 9 years with someone who I think was a “relative” of the Allman brothers. For some reason it felt as though he wanted to impress me with his accomplishments. He even tried to tell me how to correctly play my songs. For the record, I don’t consider myself to be cocky or even conceited. I like to respect everyone’s ability and I wish everyone the best. However, in my view this man went overboard. I “calmly” waited for him to finish up about all his exploits, and then he finally managed to ask me about my career. I started off slowly by telling him that I was the bass player for Teddy Pendergrass, and then I went through in a couple more names of people that I had performed with, including Paul Shafer, Janet Jackson, Billy Paul, Aretha Franklin, Bonnie Raitt, Dionne Warwick, The Whispers, Ashford and Simpson, Tom Petty, Eddie Money, Lalah Hathaway, The Stylistics, Delfonics, Harold Melvin’s Bluenoses, Jill Scott, Bon Jovi, Chaka Khan and Usher. I couldn’t remember all the rest of the people I performed with at that time, but I did invite him to check out my website which has most of them listed (with pictures). I told him that I appreciated him telling me how to play, but I had perfect pitch, which means I can hear bass notes perfectly and what he told me wasn’t exactly correct. I said all of this to him politely and courteously and after I finished his tone came down tremendously. As I said, I do not like to appear arrogant or self centered. However, this man should have checked my credentials before he decided to impress and unload on me. Needless to say he was “much more quiet” after that. For the record, I love people who are confident and dedicated. I am that same way myself. I just don’t feel that I need to blow my own horn. If I am good enough, then people will tell me about it rather than me tell them. As for the gig, it went really well. There was a moment when they spotlighted me onstage and let me venture off into my own solo.  I truly enjoyed the event, and for some reason I could find the other guy after my part was finished (smile).  The lesson here? “Be humble, because you never know when you might be bragging to someone whose career is much bigger than yours.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Conspiracy theories”)

Dave Chappelle was an incredibly funny man. His comedy shows were racially charged but they were “very real.” At the height of his success Dave left “everything” behind and went on a  long hiatus (from which he has never returned). Why would someone do that at the peak of their career? We need to remember that just about all of our entertainment is controlled by people who either sponsor it or have the ties and power to market it. In other words, there are always people “behind the scenes” that we hardly ever get to see who are responsible for the success. They control what you hear on the radio and they control what you see in the movies (and they get a large portion of the profits made). These people are powerful and the only reason why there have been no documentaries on them is because these people “own the networks.” As fast as they can put you on top they can also blacklist and destroy you. Just ask comedienne and actress Monique. When you start something that begins to gain a lot of popularity you can rest assured you will be getting a visit from these people, because they want a cut of your profits. Frank Sinatra was owned for years by these people and so was Michael Jackson. Dave Chappelle was a rising star who should be where Keven Hart is today, but when faced with losing control of his show Dave simply opted to leave it all behind. Naturally, this is “only a conspiracy theory” and it would be difficult to verify a lot of these stories. Below is just one conspiracy theory about Dave Chappelle (and no, I cannot verify its authenticity at all) but some of it bears attention. Here is the link:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8xme-seshQ

When artists who are real popular stop getting played on the radio people tend to ask why they stopped putting  music out. The artist rarely ever stops wanting to record, but the industry around him or her just chooses to fund and promote someone else.  When it gets to the point where your music or your show is no longer your own (because the powers that be are trying to control it) then your creativity is greatly impeded. Please remember that ALL of this is about “money.” As long as you are useful and making enough money then the “powers that be” will continue to push your career. However, once your novelty has worn out they will have no problem putting in “new blood.” There are all kinds of stories about Dave Chappelle, and I’m sure that not all of them are true. However, this business of entertainment is a ruthless one, and they are powerful enough to make anyone disappear from the limelight. Hey, even Michael Jackson’s last few albums were hardly promoted and did not sell well. That was because Michael was considered expendable and  no longer profitable. Everyone who is famous has his or her own story, and the best way to get the truth is to go directly to the source. Until then, conspiracy theories are all we have to explain “what happened.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The past 50 years: Is life now better or worse?”)

Just how much has life improved for us over the past 50 years? Do you think people are living better off or worse now? Do you feel “safer?” Has new technology helped or hindered us? Has racism disappeared or is it more prevalent than ever? Certain inventions were supposed to have improved our life conditions. The invention of the internet has brought us all closer together (even though the use of email has pretty much doomed the postal industry… Are there any mail boxes still left around?). Cell phones are now popular with so many other functions and you can’t seem to find a pay phone anywhere. When you call a company and get their automated voice system do you view that as a plus or a negative? For me personally I keep waiting for the automated voice to give me the option of “pressing 4 if you want to blow up this whole damn voicemail system.” The invention of DNA testing has helped courts to make more fairer conclusions during trial (and has also let a lot of innocent people who were already incarcerated released from jail). A lot of these newly freed inmates have been isolated from society so long that they are not equipped to survive and function in it. What would be fair to them? We “allegedly” landed on the moon back in the 60’s and have not been back since. So what was the purpose of going there in the first place? During the 60’s the main source of music entertainment on television was the “Ed Sullivan” show. Now there is so much variety that most people can’t single out one main source to choose from. In the political arena I thought that having a Black (or African American) President would finally signify the ” end to all forms of racism.” If anything the election of Barack Obama seems to have brought it out “even more.” Heroes like Elvis and John  Wayne are now replaced by Kanye and Donald Trump. The concept of war doesn’t seem to have changed much. It seems as though this planet will never have a day where there is no fighting going on anywhere. Should that be considered progress? I realize that as long as no human being is perfect no system “created” by a  human being will be perfect either. With progress often comes “termination of the old way.” New technology means people have to be “trained all over again.” We have to keep going in order to find ways to make our lives better. Have we succeeded? You can give your own answer to that one. As we evolve we change, and as long as the desired destination is the betterment of all mankind then I guess this is the best that we can hope for. Let’s hope that the next 50 years will take us even further and leave us feeling more secure. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Insecurities: Do they rule you?)

Just imagine this scenario: Two people are hanging from a cliff. There is a 10,000 foot drop below them. The men are hanging on for dear life. One of them is saying, “I got to make it.. I’m going to make it.” The other one is saying, “I’m going to die.. I’m going to die…” Tell me which one would “you” bet on? I am saying this because whether or not you realize it, you’re own insecurities will cause your own downfall. When you worry about all the bad things that can happen, you actually bring “all those negative energies from out the air to your “thoughts” and that is when you actually “make” bad things happen. It works in reverse, too. Let me give you and example: Once (this is a true story) I was performing in Atlantic City (a popular ocean vacation resort where many go to gamble). During the break I went over to the area where the gamblers were to watch. None of them seemed happy, and it appeared as though everyone was losing money. There was a big crowd at the roulette wheel table (and no  one seemed to be winning there either). Then I noticed a gentlemen coming up who was dressed immaculately. He was “absolutely clean” and actually sported “TWO” women, one on each arm. This guy was “wreaking” with confidence. Well, this man pulled up to the table, and placed a “LOT” of chips on the “Long Shot” number (This is the number that has the LEAST odds of hitting, but it also pays the highest dividend). People were mesmerized at the amount of chips he placed on the table. Once the wheel went spinning it stopped slowly, and lo and behold it finally stopped on that long shot number. The crowd was in awe as the man “collected his massive earnings” and then walked away with his two women. I am saying this because “we are what we think.” If you truly value yourself, then you won’t worry about others. People with bad insecurities will often “dream” about the things they fear most. An insecure person will get upset at the “possible  thought” that something could go wrong. They are the ones who will try to monitor their mates at all possible times. They will try to check all your activity through Facebook. They will drive by your house to make sure you are home. They will take one small assumption and blow it up into a huge avalanche (whether it is true or not). What can be done about insecure people? First, these people need assurance (however, there is still no guarantee with this). Next, these people need to have confidence within themselves. Their lack of confidence stems from  how they often never feel “good enough.” Think about it: A confident individual won’t worry about others because he or she “already knows” that they are a “great catch.” Finally, insecure people usually are people who have “way too much time on their hands.” They get bored easily, and when they do their minds start to wander and ponder about all the bad things that “could” possibly happen. These people need activity so that they can focus on something else. When it comes to relationships, insecure people often will cause their own demise. If we don’t think we’re good enough, then how can we expect others to value us as being good enough? I suggest that anyone with any insecurities “find something fun to do.” It could be a hobby, or it could be reading a Bible or “anything that makes you feel positive.” Stay away from activities of monitoring what others do. What good does it really do you? Work on yourself and “BECOME” the person that you “want to be.” When you start to believe in  yourself, your insecurities will start to wane, and you will become “much happier just living your life stress free.” For those people who have been insecure for a long time, this will be easier said than done. Bad habits are difficult to break for most people if they have been at it for a long time. However, everything starts with the “first step.” Get off social media until you realize that your life is great “without it.” Stop worrying about others and stop trying to monitor and control their activity. Believe in “you” and once you do then others will “follow.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Would you like to write a song?”)

Most people think that you have to go to music school and get a degree in order to be a songwriter. Others think that you have to be some great singer or musician to write a song. Some think that you actually have to read and write music. That doesn’t have to be the case. There have been hit songwriters who could not play or read (or sing). In fact, the only qualification a songwriter really needs is to be able to “live and think from the heart.” If you allow it, your life can “be” your song. Your personal experiences can be expressed through your music, and if others can relate to you (and the music and vocalist are a perfect fit) then you could very well be “sitting on a hit.” Amy Winehouse was a perfect example of someone who told her life story through her music. You can feel her pain through her lyrics and the life story of her soul was “expression at it’s highest level.” Marvin Gaye was someone else who would write about whatever he felt. These people were true artists. Smokey Robinson had a favorite guitar player who helped him write a lot of his hit tunes. Of course, all of these people could sing, but there are others who wrote songs that could NOT sing. The only reason you have not heard of them is because of the fact that they actually “could not sing” (in other words, they allowed others to sing their songs for them). So, how does one who wants to be a songwriter actually become one? Simple: By conferring with a musician/producer and working jointly on a project together. If you have a thought, expression, title or concept in your head that you would like to express through song, just contact me by email at Brettjolly@aol.com. I will gladly discuss all the details with you and talk about the best way to record/produce your song efficiently. You don’t even have to be here for that to happen. We can do it all online. During this time of year I start getting customers for my “Melodgrams” (Personal messages produced, written and vocalized to music). Consultation is free (but the cost of recording one “isn’t). You may be surprised at how simple it can be. For those who do not know about me, please feel free to check out my web site at WWW.Brettjolly.com. Don’t let excuses stop you from reaching your potential. You may surprise yourself with your own capabilities. We all can get by “with a little help from our friends.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“The joy in writing music”)

Most people who know me will tell you that I enjoy just about all facets of music. I love to play it, sing it, perform it live, and I love to “write it.” When it comes to writing music, that usually takes up a lot more time, but the feeling I get from a song that I have created is “priceless.” The other day my brother Bill Jolly wrote a song for some man who was opening up for Will Downing in Delaware. When Bill went to the show, the man performed his song and my brother said it felt awesome just to hear  someone else do your music. I had the same feeling years ago when students at Gladwynne Elementary school sang a version of my song “Bridges to Peace.” I have been so busy with so many other projects that I neglected my song writing. I am now feeling the urge to get back into it. Most times you should only write songs when the inspiration hits you, otherwise it might not have the same sound of feel that you intended. I got motivated to write again when I actually found out that my old tunes can actually be found and played on Spotify. Spotify is the new radio media (along with others like Pandora) that will soon probably put conventional radio stations out of business. I was amazed to find out that my songs have been requested and played on it. Once when i was in Canada, I did a search on my name and found out that some phone company actually had a “Brett Jolly Ringtone.” Since then I have not been able to find that company, but I was really surprised when I first discovered this. Songwriting is an escape for me, and I just started writing this new song that is beginning to feel good to me. At this point I may even create a whole new CD project again. For those of you who have music in your hearts and minds, you may feel as though you don’t have the proper training to write songs. That is far from the truth. You don’t need to be able to read or graph any charts to make music (I don’t read music at all). You don’t need to be an accomplished  musician to write music (some of the biggest hits in history have simple patterns that just about anyone can play). You only need the “inspiration” to set things in place. If you have a musical concept, I can actually “write your music for you” and email it back to  you. Then all you would have to do is just “record your vocals to the track.” If you have Skype then I might just be able to record your vocals online. Then all it takes would be some mixing and mastering, and then you have a “song.” It is a lot more simple than it sounds, and the end results will surprise you. For any particular details just contact me at Brettjolly@aol.com. I am anxious and raring to go today, so I am looking forward to working on my tune. Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought today. As always, i wish you the very best that life has to offer. Please make the most of it.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Would you dare to be great?”)

Many of us are “content” with where we are in life. If you have a job making a decent enough income and you are doing it legally, then you might be completely satisfied with where you are now. You might even believe that you are now “too old” to think of reaching out for higher levels. I am a firm believer that as long as you live you should “continue to grow.” The true quality of life comes from “your own efforts to give value” to your life. A lot of people are influenced by the words of others. They may tell you that you are “too old” or “too set in your ways” to achieve another milestone in your life. Their words should have no effect on you unless you “allow” them to. When you think of it, how many people reading this believe they have “not yet” reached their full potential yet? For those of you who believe it, how many of you are actually “doing something” about it? I feel there is nothing wrong with “daring to be great.” The worst that could happen is that you would fail. At this stage of my own life I have already done a LOT musically. I have played for many big name artists from Chaka Khan to Usher. I have traveled to great places and seen some of the most beautiful sites in the world (and met up with so many new and interesting people). I could easily say “I’m through now” and just continue to play music”locally.” However, I feel that there is much more that I can still accomplish. I won’t know what I can do until I at least “apply myself.” The first step for me starts with the “vision.” I have to be able to “see it” if I want to “live it.” Once I see it, each destination in life “starts” with the “very first step.” I am not trying to sound like a preacher or some motivational speaker this morning, but if you believe that there is much more that you can accomplish in life, then I hope you feel compelled to “grasp your opportunity.” We should always set goals for ourselves and continue to reach them until the day we solve “all world hunger.” However, if you have not made it to that stage yet, then keep reaching for your own personal dreams until you actually do. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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