Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Watching out for predators”)

This is a true story that a lot of young women need to hear. This young woman was lured into false promises of doing a modeling photo shoot and it turned out to be her worst nightmare. For those of you who have not heard this story before here is the link:

The most important thing to know is that just because something “sounds great” it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is. For every “opportunity” out there people need to do “investigative homework.” You can find reviews on “just about everything” when you Google search it online. If that doesn’t bring results then you need to ask to see samples of the agency’s work. If necessary, you may even need to speak to former models who have worked with this agency. Also, if you are going to visit someone for the very first time you need to leave that person’s name, address and any other pertinent details with someone you trust “just in case” something doesn’t go right. The sad part about this incident is that this will make it more difficult for honest photographers to be trusted by models. I do photo shoots all the time and I “invite everyone” to check out my credentials. I provide samples and I take a lot of pictures. The reason I do a lot of model photography is that my name is “very well known and trusted.” Whenever my daughter models for other photographers I ask her to leave me the details of the person (or people) that she is going to work with. I ask her if she has worked with these people before or if they are new. There are some really bad people out here who will prey on others if given the chance. Whether it is modeling, dancing, or anything else that “sounds like a great opportunity” you need use your investigative skills before going anywhere. This particular story had a good ending but there are many other cases that didn’t. Use your head and make sure you don’t become the next statistic. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


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The Miracles (“I’m just a love machine” and “Ooh, baby, baby”) in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Would this be right or wrong?”)

I know of a female who has plans to go out on a date with some new guy for the very first time (This is a true story). This lady has already said that she will suggest they go to the most best 5 star restaurant she can find so that she can order the most expensive items on the menu. The question that comes to mind is “Why?” Is this an attempt to “test” the man’s money or his resolve to do the best for her? Is she wrong or right to do so? I guess a lot would depend on what her agenda is. If she feels that she is “worth” the most expensive places to eat, then she may just be “right.” However, if this is the case then why suggest anything at all to him? She can simply wait and see if the man decides on his own to take her to a 5 star place. Men like to please women (especially on the first date) and it “could” be possible that he had plans to take her to this restaurant anyway. When a woman makes this kind of suggestion from the start she could win the battle but in the end she could “lose the war.” A man will take note that a woman has expensive tastes, and I can guarantee that if the relationship builds up then down the line that can come back to haunt her. You only get one “first impression” and if you appear to be a gold digger from the very onset then that could set a bad precedent. Down the road he may feel that he can get anything he wants from her as long as he pays for it first. Is it better for a woman to be with a rich man who barely respects her or is it better to be with a man who is barely living up to his needs but yet will give “everything he has?” Does a relationship that hinges on money have any chance to be genuine and happy? Also, if she suggests that they go to the expensive place should he feel privileged to “expect anything in return that evening?” Sometimes that first impression could ignite the wrong response. Please keep in mind that there are no laws or anything stating that a woman has to accept anything less than what she feels she deserves (and there are also no laws that state that she should owe a man anything for taking her out). If she plans to sleep with him after their very expensive date he will probably “appreciate that a LOT.” However, the novelty on this may wear off as they try to build a long good life together. Everyone is different, and what may work for one is not always guaranteed to work for everyone. Respect goes both ways, and hopefully both can show respect for each other when going out on dates. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


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Billy Paul (“Me and Mrs. Jones”) in concert with Brett Jolly on red bass guitar


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Red Bass Guitar Photo shoot with Ciara”)

Ciara is a young lady who obviously has a bright future. This photo shoot was actually done with 3 people, her, her mother and her sister. Her mother explained that she was not overly excited about modeling but on this particular day she “showed out.” It was a real pleasure to work with her and I hope to have more sessions in the near future with her and her family. I hope you enjoy her pictures. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Should we really care about what other people think?”)

I realize that there are people who are genuine in their desires to help. I also realize there are people out there with ulterior motives when it comes to events in “your” life. When certain people make it a point to involve themselves and take over in your business then it may be time to make a proper assessment. There are some questions you may need to ask yourself. First, what is their real purpose for putting themselves so heavily into your life? Are they doing so because they sincerely care or are they simply trying to control and manipulate you? Some people are unhappy and only want others to be unhappy with them. You need to know if your “friend” is truly your “friend.” Next, are they really that knowledgeable about your situation that they are considered “experts” on all you do? These kinds of people are usually listed as “know-it-alls” and it is often amazing how accurate they are when it comes to them being “inaccurate.” Next, since they consider themselves to be such great experts, are their own lives so great that you would consider them the perfect role models to emulate? I often find that the people who try to govern your life the most are the ones who usually have “terrible circumstances of their own.” I do understand that most people love to engage in human judgment. They will quickly judge your situation without even knowing one third of your story. They will fill you with doubt and confusion whenever they can, simply because they can. The trick comes in “recognizing” these people for who and what they are. When you ask yourself these questions you may come up with a better assessment as to what they are really about. Don’t get me wrong… there are people who are genuine in their concerns for the welfare of others. Those people we all may need to listen to. However, for the ones who interject themselves into your business simply for the sake of “pushing your buttons” you may need to separate yourself from them. When you start to worry so much about what other people think you are only adding more to your stress levels. When certain people “leave your life” it can be ¬†more of a blessing than a curse. Rid yourself of a lot of negativity and “don’t look back.” No matter what you do people are going to talk about you. Stop worrying about the things you cannot control and start smiling again. You deserve better, but only if you believe it for yourself… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Jean Carn in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

Jean Carne


Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Pacing yourself”)

As a musician (one who is getting older) I have found that my schedule often leaves me much more tired than I used to be. I have gigs that I have to be there for and other responsibilities that I have to tend to (and lately I have been really exhausted). Now whenever I get a break I try to sit down more so that I don’t overextend myself. The weekends are usually the toughest for me, mainly because each Sunday morning I have to be in church for 2 long services “starting at 7:45 am.” Most times when I have a late night gig on Saturday I get in late (the last 2 Saturdays I actually got home around 4 am). When you do that and then have to be in church real early it can take a huge toll on you. Now I am doing more gigs during the week and that is leaving me fatigued as well. I have no regrets, though. This is what I wanted to do and this is where I wanted to be. However, it is paramount that I now pace myself so that I don’t fall apart in the process. Also I find that as I get older “I now get tired sooner.” Lately I have had nights where I felt like falling asleep earlier, whether I had a gig or not. I want to stick around so I will try to pace myself more when it comes to all responsibilities. To be honest, I think everyone should. While it is great to be successful, that can sometimes come with a price. If you want to live a long life, then try to stress less and alter your activities more to incorporate most rest. I played last night, I play tonight and I play tomorrow. In fact, I think I am playing most (if not all of this week). I will try to get more rest today and live happy. Hopefully everyone will follow that same formula. Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


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Brett Jolly with actress Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly

Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“What actually makes someone a great musician?”)

The other day I watched a music group perform at a showcase. The bass player for the group was some young guy who seemed to have an attitude of his own perceived greatness. The group gave him a bass solo and he was awesome with it. As soon as he got the opportunity to solo his confidence seemed to explode. You could tell that soloing was “his element.” However, for the rest of the set he seemed to fumble around with finding the correct notes to play in the song. He would often attempt to “slide” into the right notes so that it wouldn’t seem as though he didn’t know what he was playing. With my ear I could tell easily. When I talked to him he had a “snub-like attitude” as though he was on a level much higher than me. I didn’t even bother telling him who I was or any of the things I have done. My question today is for all the “music cats” out there. “What defines a great musician?” Is a great musician someone who takes awesome solos or is he one that simply knows (and can play) the tunes? Is it the sound of his equipment or is it his professionalism when it comes to being prepared and showing up on time? Here in Philadelphia I know of “many great bass players” who will take fantastic bass solos. I personally do not take many solos (for most of the songs I play there is hardly any call for them) but because I know “a lot of songs” I work a whole lot. Most groups can hire me and I will play their entire set “without any rehearsal” but yet there are still groups out there who would prefer someone who takes awesome solos but has to work harder just to learn the songs. It feels as though some people actually believe that a musician who can solo greatly must be better than those who do not. If you were to hire a band, would you want the band to be composed of great players who are getting together for the very first time or regular guys with less talent but who have chemistry together and discipline? I’m sure someone will probably say that a great musician is one who will have “all the attributes previously mentioned.” I am fine with that, but if that is the case then how would you rank those attributes in accordance to importance? Would you take someone who can solo well over someone who actually knows the song? Would you take someone with conceit over someone who just loves to play with other musicians? Would you want someone who is loud? Musicians are ¬†different lot. There are some really weird ones out there with different morals about the music. There is probably no real correct answer to this question, but the question still stands. “What makes someone a great musician?” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


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Singer Life Jennings in the studio with brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly

Lyfe Jennings and Brett