This past weekend I played in Atlantic City. I played there a lot this past summer and I have met some interesting people. This past weekend I came across a bunch of women (4 to be exact) who were there mainly to help one of their own. A lady by the name of Angel needed to get out to forget about the recent death of her sister. She was only 33 when she died. For some reason these women came up to me to tell me how much they enjoyed the band. That happens a lot, but for this moment Angel mentioned to me that she had just lost her sister and she was trying to cope with that. I simply told her that everyone has an expiration date and that her sister made the most of her life here. I asked her what her sister would want if she could speak to her right now. She said that her sister would want her to enjoy the rest of her life. I told her that in memory and dedication to her sister that is exactly what she ought to do. She then informed me that she loved her sister so much that she can’t enjoy life that easily. I told her that the first thing she needed to do was put the word “can’t” out of her vocabulary. Every time we say the word “can’t” we automatically limit ourselves to any accomplishments. I told her that her life is by no means over and that she needed to have fun for herself as well as her sister. The best way to pay homage to her sister was to enjoy the rest of her life without her. I told her what I thought she needed to hear. She started crying and I told her to let it all out and get back to living life. I told her that she had good friends who care about her and that she needed to listen to them. Her friends heard the conversation and started giving me high fives. Two of them thanked me afterwards and told me that I said exactly what she needed to hear. We all go through different moments in our lives. Some of those moments can be tragic. That is when we need each other to help out. I was glad to be there for this woman. I told her that with all the people that were in attendance there was a reason why she ended up talking to me. Her and her friends agreed. They said that at some point they would come back to see me, and they hope I remember them. Under most circumstances I probably would not, but with her story I think I will. This was one of those special memories that I should never forget. I wish Angel and her friends the best, and I hope what I said made a difference. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Jean Carn in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
Colin Kaepernick is an ex- quarterback who has been out of the NFL for 3 years. The main reason he has been out of the league allegedly doesn’t have anything to do with his talents, but rather his “beliefs.” Kaepernick was one of the first 2 players to kneel for the Nation Anthem in protest of police officers killing unarmed Black men. While his position on this should have “nothing to do” with football, he still exercised his right to make a public statement. Nike, the sports paraphernalia company, just recently put out an advertisement featuring Kaepernick with a slogan saying. “Believe it something, even if it means sacrificing everything. Just do it.” I “absolutely LOVE” this advertising ploy. It takes a man who has been vilified for his beliefs and now makes him more popular than ever. Many people have sworn off Nike after that ad was launched because they vowed to never support Kaepernick, but who is actually “winning” this public opinion battle? According to headlines, the Nike ad has been doing “VERY” well, especially with the younger generation (which, by the way, is the generation they should be targeting). President Trump views kneeling during the National Anthem as disrespectful to all those who sacrificed for our country. I have not heard anyone say they used kneeling as a way to disrespect our flag or National Anthem. Here is a recent article showing the strength of the Nike ad:
Freedom of Speech is supposed to be our constitutional right. As long as you are speaking out about something positive, doing great things and not disrespecting our values then you should have the right to speak out. I won’t be buying any Nike shoes, but that is only because my playing days are over. However, I highly respect Nike for taking this stance. They have essentially “risked everything” to put their support behind this man and right now it looks as though they made the right choice. While kneeling during the playing of the anthem may seem highly controversial, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is disrespectful to our country’s values. I am waiting to see if this ad will help to bring on a change of public opinion. The league has blacklisted Kaepernick (and he is now suing the league for that) because the owners have all colluded to keep him from playing football in the NFL. If the ad plays out right, then Kaepernick could prove to be more popular than Muhammed Ali in support of his beliefs. I will be paying “very close attention” to this one. Whether you agree or disagree with Colin Kaepernick we all have to admit that his platform is now “gaining steam.” He may never don a NFL uniform again, but he may also become the popular man in sports without ever playing another down. To me, that has more merit. Let’s see how this plays out. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Billy Paul (“Me and Mrs. Jones”) in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
We have so much fun at our Wednesday night event. People dance at our event and it is often crowded. We are at the Crab Tavern in Darby, Pennsylvania from 8:00 pm to 12 midnight. We take requests with a live band and everyone enjoys us. We think you will too. Here is a small segment taken from last night. Of course, I am the one with the red and black shirt on playing guitar in the front.
Why would anyone even want to read Bobby Brown’s new book “Every little step?” Because the true value of a book lays in the message you can get from it. Bobby Brown is one of the few people that has more fame NOT related to his talent. He has been maligned in so many ways for things that may not even have been true. By his own admission he has not led a perfect life, but most people judged him by his imperfections. The thing I like most about Bobby now is his “age.” Just watching him on television makes me think that he has a lot more maturity to him and that makes this book more believable to me. He looks and acts like he is older now. Here is a recent television interview with him:
I met Bobby years ago. I was performing for a show doing a tribute to New Edition (Usher was the lead vocalist that we played for). The whole group was sitting there and Bobby sat off to the side with Whitney Houston. He cradled his arms around her legs (while he was also intently looking at the legs of all the other women in attendance). When we got the chance to meet he told me that we were jamming onstage and that once he got a “few more brews” in him he would come onstage to jam with me. I told him I looked forward to that (and of course, that moment never happened). Bobby is someone who was used to being attacked. People disrespected him, joked about him (even called him Mr. Whitney Houston) and he became the butt of a lot of jokes. Now the world is getting to hear his side of the story, including his relationship with Whitney and his daughter Bobbi. I think this book would be interesting to a lot of people mainly because of the disparity between what people though happened and what really did happen. Bobby has the right to put the book out and as long as it is truthful then it should be worth it. Some people may never give him any respect. Considering what he has been through that is understandable. However, it is not where a person comes from that gives him credibility. It is where he is headed that gives him true value. I have not seen the movie nor read his book, but I have seen the television interviews. I hope this book blows the cover off the lid on the industry and Bobby’s real life story. Others have rebounded from drug usage and formed a great image (Charley Wilson is one prime example). I believe that Bobby can do it too. I think he just needs the chance to be heard. I wish him much success. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Vintage picture of Johnny Gil, Brett Jolly and Bobby Brown
I can honestly say that I “did not” watch a lot of the funeral services for Aretha Franklin. No, I wasn’t invited either (and if I had been, I am sure I would have turned it down). Events where you are supposed to be paying your respects often turn out to be a show of a different kind. At some point people end up promoting themselves instead of paying homage. Even though I did not see it, there were several things wrong with Ariana Grande performing for the event. First, from what I saw, her outfit might not have been the most “funeral worthy” thing to wear. The dress was particularly short and of course she got a lot of attention from male admirers. On top of that, Bill Clinton was said to be staring intensely at her because of the outfit. If she wears an outfit like that, Bill Clinton can’t help but be the man that he is. Am I blaming Ariana? No, a woman shouldn’t be faulted for what she wears (but she could have worn something less inflammatory) to the event. Then, bishop Charles Ellis became the focus of attention when he put his arm around Grande and appeared to be very close to touching her breast. I saw the pictures and while he was “mighty close” I “don’t think he went over the edge to being disrespectful.” I am probably different in a lot of ways. I don’t judge the deeds that people do, but rather the “intent behind the deeds” when it comes to certain events. Even though people are talking negatively about the Bishop, I don’t feel at all that he “purposely meant to disrespect” Grande in that matter. No matter how many times I look at the picture I just don’t see it. Yes, he could have touched her differently, and yes, she could have covered up more for this event. Her outfit had nothing to do with his embrace of her (but if she had worn something more conservative then I don’t believe people would have made such a big deal out of all of this. For those of you who need more information, here it is:
Don’t get me wrong, sexual harassment of any kind is inappropriate. However, it is also imperative that we are all “knowledgable” about what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sexual matters. I can’t blame someone for doing wrong if there are no known rules and parameters in place for proper behavior. I don’t know if what the pastor did was wrong or not. However, I just don’t feel as though he intentionally tried to disrespect her. While Bill Clinton probably did glare at Ariana Grande, I can’t see any laws or morals that he violated. Finally, I can’t really blame Ariana for wearing the dress that she wore. Somewhere among all this calamity there was a funeral for Aretha Franklin. Hopefully people got to witness that. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Aretha Franklin in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar
Today is an official holiday in the United States. Today is Labor Day. I would like to take this moment to wish you all a happy and joyous Labor Day Holiday:)
Adrienne is a really nice artist. She comes to sing periodically at my Wednesday night event (The Grand Slam Jam on Wednesday nights at the Crab Tavern in Darby, Pa, from 8 to 12 midnight). If you are ever in the area on a Wednesday night I think you would really love this event. If you get there early enough, you just might find a seat. People love what we are doing and it is so awesome seeing people out to support live music. There is no cover charge, the food is really good and the live band is “excellent.” The bass guitar player might be a little suspect, though (smile). Hope to see you come through one night, and thank you for checking out my Daily Thought. As always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.