Yesterday I mentioned the importance of good communication. Of course, good communication goes really well with ‘confidence.’ If you don’t believe in yourself then how can you expect others to do so? Please note that there is a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance goes a lot further then conceit. Confidence is the belief in yourself that you can get the job done. People don’t just see confidence. They ‘feel’ it. A person who has confidence won’t focus so much on all the bad things that they feel could ‘possibly happen.’ They think positively with very little (if no) doubt. I often get called to perform with bands that I don’t normally play with. I rarely ever ask them about their set lists because I am ‘confident” I can play everything if asked to. Some bands have special arrangements, key changes and modified parts. If I don’t know what’s going on then most times I will just pick it up ‘on the spot.’ I am filling in this weekend for a group. When I am asked to perform, I have several objectives in mind. I want to make sure that the band members don’t look back at me whenever a mistake is made. I also want to see smiles on their faces from me playing stuff correctly. Lastly, I want to get paid and go home. I don’t come in saying a lot, because too much information confuses me. There have been times when I came to a group and certain members had no faith in me. The didn’t think I would be able to handle their tunes. After I finish the guys usually have a huge change of heart. I love that feeling. Confidence goes a long way if you utilize it correctly. Believe in yourself, especially when others doubt you. You will not only make a difference in their views, but in your own as well. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Comedian Kris Tucker, brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly