Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (Is it better to be with someone you can barely tolerate or be alone?)

We all know that no one is perfect. The probability of finding someone who will be the “perfect fit” for you is somewhere between slim and none. Even the best of couples have disagreements from time to time. With this being said, is it better to stay with someone you know you will have issues with or simply stay by yourself? I know of people who “absolutely HAVE” to be with someone, no matter what. For most of these people it doesn’t even matter who they are with, as long as they have “somebody” there. Is that the way a relationship should be? Should you take on any person in your life just because you refuse to be alone? What do you do when you realize that this person is not right for you? Do you just ignore the things you know they will do? I believe that “people are people.” It is best to accept a person for “who and what they are” as opposed to trying to make them into “what you want them to be.” Some people are infatuated with the concept of “getting married,” while the main objective should be “getting married to the person who is best suited to be with you.” There is a difference. If you expect perfection out of anyone chances are you won’t get it. Part of the joy of a good relationship is when you can overcome obstacles together. Some couples are equipped for that, while others are not. When you can still love a person’s faults then you stand a chance of having a great relationship. Of course, not ALL faults are “lovable.” You need to choose what you can and what you can’t deal with. Love can sometimes be so complicated, but can we live without it? Most people already know if they are a challenge relationship-wise. Your task (should you choose to accept it) is to determine if this person is a good fit for you. This union may self-destruct in 5 seconds (or maybe even less). Sorry, that line was taken from the movie “Mission Impossible.” Be who you are, but most importantly, know your person for who they are. It aight make for a great and happy union…. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Brett Jolly and actress Gabrielle Union

Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly