I have actually heard many stories like this. A woman needs a man to help her out with some things. It could be something like moving big furniture or car trouble. If the woman is fairly attractive, most men will jump at the opportunity to help. However, I have heard stories where if a man helps a lady out a lot then he develops some form of expectation from her. Would he be right in doing so? Should a woman depend heavily on a man to do stuff for free? I think most good guys are willing to do a good deed for a woman, at least maybe a few times. However, when it becomes a major task involving a lot of time and effort, then some men formulate a feeling of attachment. If a woman doesn’t want this type of advancement from a man, then what can she do to thwart it? One possible solution might be to “pay” the man for his services. That way he shouldn’t feel as though he is doing a lot of work for nothing. Also she could cook him dinner, even though some men might look at that as a “lead on”. I know of a situation where a guy was helping a woman with writing her songs. He did a lot of music for her but he eventually got nothing in return. When he finished he came on to her, only to get rebuffed by her, because she didn’t see him that way. Was he wrong for expecting something from her, or was she wrong for not offering something for his services? Men and women have to interact. It is the nature of humans to do so. Men and women often see things differently. I am not making this up. No one likes to feel used. Women have the right to be self sufficient and independent. However, that doesn’t mean that they can “continually use a man for free” whenever he is needed. The best way to avoid a feeling of attachment from a man is to make sure you don’t put yourself in a position where you need him a lot. If that can’t work, then “pay him.” Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Jill Scott in concert with Brett Jolly behind her on bass guitar