Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (When you call your partner by the wrong name)

I had an interesting conversation yesterday. This woman and her man have always seemed like a great couple together. They have been together for a quite a while now (not exactly sure of how long). She is divorced from some other man who has since remarried. She is glad to be away from him and I think she likes being with the new man she is now with. However, in front of a lot of people she referred to her man, but made a mistake by calling him the name of her first husband. She felt really bad about it and decided to talk to me about it. I am probably different when it comes to a lot of things. I don’t judge people by the deed, but rather by the “intent behind the deed.” Everyone makes mistakes, but it is your thought process behind those mistakes that determine your actual purpose. I told her that obviously she didn’t mean to call her man the wrong name. She actually can’t stand her previous husband, and wants nothing to do with him. By that same token, I told her that the most fragile part of “any man is his ego.” It is embarrassing and humiliating to be called by someone else’s name. Her new man is a very good guy. He will do everything he can for the woman he loves. I told her that the very first thing she needed to do was be apologetic. Then I told her that in time she needed to make this all up to him. Finally I told her to make sure she remember his name from now on. If she does these things the right way then in time everything will correct itself. Just imagine if your lover had referred to you by the wrong name? How would you feel about that? It is tougher for men because of the egos we have. Time will tell of they can move past this. You can’t change the mistakes you made in the past, so there really is no use focusing on them. Own up to your own faults, and just try to improve like everyone else. In the long run, you will continue to grow and you will have less mishaps like this one. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


The Stylistics in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar