Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (The “Metoo movement…” Is there a way to be fairer to both sides?

This is what I know so far about the “Metoo Movement.”  Several high profile men have so far been “accused” of some form of sexual harassment. The only one that I know of that has actually gone to jail is Bill Cosby. Why the trials for all the others have not taken place yet I do not know.  Are there problems with the movement? Absolutely. It puts “both” men and women in public display with matters that should probably be held confidentially. For instance, when some women air their grievances the notoriety that could come from it may cause more harm than good. When some men hear about the accusations many may abstain from dealing with a particular woman based solely on her claims. That would be unfair to the woman. When a man gets accused (and it is made public) then his career is automatically “blemished” (whether he is guilty or not). Sexual harassment cases are usually difficult to prove, and that can be a big problem as well. Here is an article on it:

Is there  a remedy? One suggestion is to make any court accusations “private.” That way, the women and the men can both be protected during the trial. When a matter is held privately then it should lessen that chances of falsely accusing someone to ruin a career (at least until proven guilty). Should men be allowed to get away with sexually harassing women? Of course not, but one of the big problems here is the actual “definition” of harassment. For instance, if a man compliments a woman on the tightness of the jeans she is wearing, it could be considered harassment simply based on the “way” he says it. One woman’s compliment can easily be another woman’s harassment. Many men love to hug women, but what if a woman “does not want” to be hugged? Should that be considered harassment as well? It would help dramatically to “know” the rules and limitations of gender socialization. I honestly don’t think all men do (and the same might be said for women). Until the rules and regulations for gender socialization are determined then there might be “a lot more accusations to come.” It is important for women to be able to trust men (and for men to trust women). Hopefully we can find a way to cross that bridge… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Smokey Robinson and Patti Labelle with Brett Jolly on bass guitar