A friend of mine called me and told me that her friend had an acquaintance who had a fetish for “feet.” The man actually paid her money just so he could come by occasionally and suck on her toes. She accepted the money and doesn’t know much about the man beyond that. As perverted as that may sound to some, many of us have different fetishes of our own. A friend of mine once told me one day that she wore a halter top at some exquisite event one night when some strange man decided to lick her exposed back. Needless to say, she chewed him out “royally.” People are different. People’s wants and desires are different. I don’t know if “everybody” has an abnormal fetish (but a lot of people do). If you like to be licked in your ear, that might be considered a fetish to some. If you want your partner to wash up before engaging in sex then that could be considered a fetish as well. The definition of fetish is ” A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” You may have your own fetish and not even realize it. An old friend of mine used to manage one of those videos stores years back. She said that one of her hottest videos for sale was the “x-rated fat girls” videos. She said that men rented those videos out a lot. If you have a fetish, should it be considered sick or abnormal? That would probably depend. Pedophiles have desires for little kids, and that might be considered an abnormal fetish. However, we all are born the way we are, and as long as you don’t unlawfully violate anyone or break the law then you shouldn’t be in trouble. In other words, “refrain” from engaging in child pornography. Some men are “breast men” while others like thighs, weight or whatever. Some women like tall men, rich men, or men of high status. In other words, each of us has our own likes when it comes to the attributes of others. While it seems like most people don’t feel comfortable discussing fetishes that hasn’t stopped any of us from wanting to “engage” in them. Be who you are, but don’t break any laws. As bad as your fetish might be, there is still probably someone out there for you. One of my male friends “absolutely loved” looking at women’s feet. He wouldn’t even hold his head up when talking to a woman with open toe shoes. We are all expected to have control over our sexual desires. That is about the best that can be expected of anyone. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
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