Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (How should we react when someone criticizes us?)

People have different opinions of things, and sometimes people may have different opinions of you. You may have been on the receiving end of this, but how do you react when someone “criticizes” you? Do you take defense immediately (declaring yourself to be right) or do you actually “listen” to what they have to say? Since no one human being is perfect then that should mean that we “all” have flaws. ¬†Would you be ashamed to even admit that someone else could be right about you? I do know that I will debate you in a hot second over a lot of things, but I also know that if you ¬†prove to me that I am wrong then I will readily admit to it (some people may disagree with this, but I sincerely mean it). Yes, I am confrontational, and I will pull out facts to you in a hot second to prove my own point. No mater what, though, I will eventually think about what you have said and if I think you are right about me then I will let you know (it might be a little later though). What about you? Do you believe in the concept of “my way or the highway?” Think about the alternative for a minute. Would you want to be in the presence of someone who “only” agrees with you no matter what? That would make him or her a “yes” person. If someone is your “true friend” then they would have no problems telling you about the things you need to correct (as long as they say it in a nice way). The biggest problem I have with people like this is when someone is long winded. They may have a LOT that they want to say but if they take too long then I may forget the original point they said that they have totally wrong. In a lot of circumstances that one wrong point could be the crucial base of their “entire discussion,” and that point should be addressed before they go much further with it. Then there are the people who really have no clue, but voice their opinions anyway. These people talk for the sake of talking and once you start listening it becomes apparent. You should never think that you are always right, because no one really is. You should view helpful criticism in a positive light by at least giving it some thought. Finally, you should stand up for yourself if you believe what you are doing is right. Everybody is entitled to his or her own opinions, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are “right.” It is considered respectful to listen to people. If you formulate your opinion “before” hearing criticism then that means that you have already made up your mind and refuse to listen. You can’t grow if you can’t take in information. Don’t let your pride get in the way of your growth. We “all” can learn something… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

Billy Davis and Marilyn McCoo from the Fish Dimension in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar

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