Today, March 27, is my son’s birthday. As with all my family, I plan to do things for him to help him celebrate his special day. I don’t do this because I feel his behavior has been so great recently or because I feel he is perfect. I do so “simply because he is my son.” Don’t get me wrong, he is not a bad son at all. In fact, his intentions are usually great and admirable. Compared to other boys he would be considered a breath of fresh air. The issue with this birthday is that he didn’t plan it very well, and it is going to “cost me.” He had friends coming in from out of town (who have no place to stay, so naturally they have to be put in a hotel). He wants to go with about 6 of his friends to some special place for games (so of course I have to rent a van for them, and even drive them there). The more things he plans the more they involve me forking out money (even if he doesn’t consult with me first). Please keep in mind that when it was my birthday he brought me “2 Tahitian Treat sodas.” Does anyone get the picture here? I am writing about this today because family should not be expected to be perfect. Sometimes family can turn out to be entirely wrong. You may not always agree with family but it helps to at least continue to try. I know of people who will shut down from family for their own personal reasons. I can’t tell you what to do but if you know your family will be there for you when you hit rock bottom then it might behoove you to consider doing the same for them. This is not about wrong or right. This is about family. You should be able to depend on family when you cannot depend on anyone else. To me, that makes a huge difference. My mother’s birthday was 2 days ago on March 25. She died from ovarian cancer in 2004. She would confront dangerous gangs to protect me and my brother. The very next day I was probably getting on her nerves. It didn’t matter. She was my mom. Family should go beyond all rational logic. If you feel stressed out by family, there is no need to shut down or shut them out. Communication is important in all aspects. Talk to them just like you feel they should talk to you whenever necessary. It just might make the biggest difference in your life as well as theirs… Thank you so much for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Singer/songwriter Bunny Sigler in concert with Brett Jolly on bass