I understand that parents will always feel the way they do when it comes to protecting their children. A lot of parents still want to remain in control and dictate to their kids how they should behave. The problem is that most parents never revert back to when they were younger and their parents tried to dictate to them. Your kids do not want to have their lives controlled by parents. They want (and some deserve) the right to be able to make the same mistakes. What most parents fail to consider is the fact that as kids get older they “need” the ability to make some decisions on their own in order to be prepared for the world. Parents need to become more of an advisor to their kids rather than a controller. I fully understand that some kids still “need” you to control their lives, but “most” kids will revolt against you at some point when you try to control them too much. You can gain the love and respect of your kids by simply stating what you feel instead of directly telling them what to do. I call it the “open gate” theory. When child is in the back yard and the gate is locked a parent can tell that child to never go beyond that gate. At some point the child’s intuition and curiosity will peak and that child will “want” to see what is beyond that gate. However, when you leave that gate open and just tell the child that evil things can happen once you go outside that gate, the child will be more apt to stay put. Control can work for you and against you under different circumstances. I would like for my kids to be able to come talk to me about anything, and for the most part they know they can. I have a great relationship with my children and that is because I no longer try to control everything they do. For most parents the key is knowing “when” to make this transition. If you can make this change as a parent then your kids will appreciate and respect you more. My parents did it with me, and I feel as though I am a better person because of it. Hopefully you will feel that way too. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Brett Jolly and Robin Roberts from Good Morning America