I realize that there are people who are genuine in their desires to help. I also realize there are people out there with ulterior motives when it comes to events in “your” life. When certain people make it a point to involve themselves and take over in your business then it may be time to make a proper assessment. There are some questions you may need to ask yourself. First, what is their real purpose for putting themselves so heavily into your life? Are they doing so because they sincerely care or are they simply trying to control and manipulate you? Some people are unhappy and only want others to be unhappy with them. You need to know if your “friend” is truly your “friend.” Next, are they really that knowledgeable about your situation that they are considered “experts” on all you do? These kinds of people are usually listed as “know-it-alls” and it is often amazing how accurate they are when it comes to them being “inaccurate.” Next, since they consider themselves to be such great experts, are their own lives so great that you would consider them the perfect role models to emulate? I often find that the people who try to govern your life the most are the ones who usually have “terrible circumstances of their own.” I do understand that most people love to engage in human judgment. They will quickly judge your situation without even knowing one third of your story. They will fill you with doubt and confusion whenever they can, simply because they can. The trick comes in “recognizing” these people for who and what they are. When you ask yourself these questions you may come up with a better assessment as to what they are really about. Don’t get me wrong… there are people who are genuine in their concerns for the welfare of others. Those people we all may need to listen to. However, for the ones who interject themselves into your business simply for the sake of “pushing your buttons” you may need to separate yourself from them. When you start to worry so much about what other people think you are only adding more to your stress levels. When certain people “leave your life” it can be more of a blessing than a curse. Rid yourself of a lot of negativity and “don’t look back.” No matter what you do people are going to talk about you. Stop worrying about the things you cannot control and start smiling again. You deserve better, but only if you believe it for yourself… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Jean Carn in concert with Brett Jolly on bass guitar