Father’s day is an annual tradition here in the US, and many of us paid homage to fathers. Just like the mothers, fathers should also be acknowledged for their contributions to raising children. However, what of those males who are not actively involved in their children’s lives? Should they also be acknowledged? To me the answer is simple: “Hell no!” Bringing a child into this world doesn’t make you a father. It makes you a donor. Being a father doesn’t just start with or end with birth. While the love of a mother is precious the strength of a father is so necessary for a child to proper in life. Many mothers have had to play the role of father due to absence in their child’s life and I think those women deserve to celebrate “Father’s day” as well. So why would any father “not” want to participate in his child’s life? I could think of a couple of things: “pressure, insecurity, abusive traits, common sense, lack of love and more.” None of these are acceptable. When a father lacks love for his child it is never a reflection on the child. It is a reflection on the parent. I personally know of a man who has 19 kids (most with different women). He claims to love his kids (and it is possible that he does love them) but he has put them in situations where he cannot provide anything for them. What can you say to a man who has 19 kids with no steady income and no means to provide? “Not much.” Father’s day should be about those who will contribute lovingly to the children they brought into the world. If you don’t love your child then there is something “seriously wrong with you.” We all know this world is not perfect. There are people who don’t understand what life truly entails. They think of themselves and nothing more. Your child needs you. Excuses don’t cut it. To all the fathers who express awesome love for their children (and to all those mothers out there who play both roles so well in raising their children) I hope you all had a prosperous and well deserved “Father’s day.” For the rest of you “it isn’t too late.” It’s not about where you come from, but where you are headed that determines true value. Make up for lost time, and find a way to hug your child today. I thanked my own father (Elton Jolly) for all he has done for me. He stepped up. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Actress Holly Robinson-Peete and Brett Jolly