The other day we touched on lying and why so many people do so. Today we would like to take a look at the truth and why so many people have problems accepting it. A lot of people will tell you that they actually want to hear the truth (and they will say that they can handle it as well) when the “real truth” is that in most circumstances they really can’t. Why is this so? A popular saying is, “The truth is always offensive to those guilty of the infraction.” If you tell someone the truth and they take it in a negative way, does that make you wrong for telling it? When you sugar coat something (instead of being extremely blunt or direct) you may be lying to some small degree just to make sure that person doesn’t end up feeling bad or offended, but would that be misleading? Very few people like to be scolded, reprimanded or even reminded of negative things that they might do (or have done). When they do these things you can choose to ignore the behavior but that never helps anyone. None of us are perfect and we all have flaws of some kind that we need to work on. Not everyone can own up to the flaws they have, however, and not everyone can accept constructive criticism either. So how do you handle telling someone the truth? Do you need to choose your words more carefully if you feel they will get their feelings hurt? If you do have to choose your words carefully then will you be in violation of telling the whole truth “as it is?” There are some people who are “brutally direct” and they will say (what they believe to be) the exact whole truth no matter whose feelings may get hurt in the process. Should these people be considered “bad or good?” I think the answer to that question is in whether or not you can handle the truth… I have found that most people say they cannot tolerate liars, but if they cannot tolerate the truth either then what else is left? It might make a difference in “the way you tell the truth” but if you are not direct with it then can it still be considered the FULL truth? If someone told you a constructive criticism about yourself right now could you accept it without getting your feelings hurt? Right… now please tell me the “truth…” If you think you are not at fault for anything then you are living a lie, because no one of us is perfect. Once you learn who and what you truly are, then you should have less of a difficult time when someone tells you the truth about you… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Legendary blues singer Bonnie Raitt in concert with Brett Jolly on bass