One thing I have noticed is that many people are quick to point out the flaws in others while failing to detect “their own” imperfections. While it is important to see others for who (and what) they are can we have the same unbiased views when looking at that person in the mirror? I am not talking about “physically” because I’m sure we all know what we look like (well, at least most people), but can we admit our own faults? If someone described you with their own words (without letting you know that they are talking about you) would you be able to recognize yourself? In our endeavors to grow we need to know what we are growing “from.” In other words, how can you improve if you don’t know the areas where you are deficient? There is a simple test that one can do to determine your own self awareness. Just take a piece of paper and divide it into 2 columns. On one side jot down all the positive values you “think” you have and on the other side list all the “negatives.” Make sure to review your answers once you are finished, and then give the paper to someone else who knows you well enough to see if they “agree” with what you have written (and allow him or her to make any changes). The most important part of this is to be “truthful no matter how much it hurts.” If you have a paper with only a positive column then “obviously you don’t know yourself very well.” It is also important to remain calm and not express any anger in case someone disagrees with your choices (of course, those who think they are perfect will struggle mightily with this one). The objective here is to increase your own awareness of how others see you. If you cannot take the heat of criticism then that is another fault you should have listed in the negative column. If you can do this with all your friends (without a fight getting started) then you might have the means to enhance your own self improvement. I have some friends who are arrogant (but at least they KNOW and admit they are arrogant). I have other friends who think they are way better than what they are (in their own eyes, but not in everyone else’s). The trick here is to increase your own awareness of who and what you think you are. Once you can see what others see in you, then maybe you can attempt to make any changes you feel are needed. You might be amazed at just how much you “really don’t know yourself.” If you get angry at the end results then maybe you really “don’t” know yourself as well as you thought you did. Find out without cutting someone… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
The Emotions (You got the best of my love and Boogie Wonderland) with Brett Jolly in concert