By now most people are already familiarized with Facebook and all the attributes of it. I have been on it for years and right now I am on my “second” Facebook page (the first one filled up with the 5,000 friend limit, so I had to create another one). When it comes to friend requests I have found that a lot of people won’t accept just anyone. They will take a look at “their” friends list first, or check out their profiles to determine why they would want to be friends. I have to be honest and just say that a lot of the friends that I accepted I just don’t know. I don’t have time to research each one thoroughly so in most instances I just accept anyone. However, recently I have learned that if the person is a provocatively dressed female wearing much of nothing with no friends of mine listed then I will often “hesitate or refrain” from accepting that person without checking the profile first. I do not tolerate pornography on my page, and after only one “bad posting” you will be banished to the “land of the deleted.” The funny thing is that I will often have people come up to me at my gigs and they swear that I should know who they are just because they are friends of mine on Facebook. I always go along with it and fake the funk until they ask me if I know what their names are. Then I am busted (smile). However I still accept people for the most part. My biggest problem is that I cannot keep up with the list of friend requests that I often get, and if one day I do manage to accept them all I may seriously have to start “yet another Facebook page.” This is not a bad thing, because at least it lets me know that I have some popularity. My daughter was really impressed when the actor Will Smith actually “sent me” a friend request (He used to live around my way back in the day and would often watch me perform for block parties). I have had people second guess me because of the amount of friends I have. I am not sure if I understand that one. Having a lot of Facebook friends shouldn’t have any reflection on your character, but some people view it that way. For the most part I don’t take Facebook too seriously. I know of people who “live” by it and can’t go without it. To me life is way too precious to get caught up in “Facebook drama.” Above all, I am happy that people love to check out my page. There is usually a lot of activity on it (and most of it will come from other people’s postings, not mine). I don’t mind. Everyone who has a Facebook page has his or her own rules for how to govern their page. As long as my page causes me “no stress” then all is well with me. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Patti Labelle (with Brett Jolly on bass) singing “You are my friend” in concert