Recently I heard a true story about a man from a church who had a girlfriend. He had been seen in the church with his girlfriend on several occasions, but one day this man saw “another” woman that he liked and decided to reach out to her (and he even told her that he had a crush on her). While trying to talk to this “new” woman he opened up to her about some of the issues he was having with his “present” woman. He wanted this woman to think he was a caring and honest soul. The truth of the matter is that he was a “con man” trying to be a player. If this man truly loved his woman then he wouldn’t reach out to “another form of temptation” to fix his situation. If he needed someone to hear his story all he needed to do was reach out to his pastor (or some other guy in the church). Of course he never did any of this. His second mistake was to “let this new woman know” that he had a crush on her. That “automatically” makes his story “tainted” and one sided when he talked about his present woman. Then it was found out that he had actually dated “two other women” in the church. It is not known whether or not he dated them while involved with his present woman. The main focus of this story is not so much about the man but rather the “situation.” When someone you don’t know comes up to you and wants to open up about his (or her) relationship problems you need to look for the “red flag…” The very FIRST thing you need to ask yourself is “Why is he reaching out to me?” The second question you need to ask yourself is “Do I really want to be caught up in the middle of this drama?” Once the girlfriend hears about him “secretly” talking to you then you automatically “know” she is going to have issues with it (Wouldn’t you?). Unless you “personally talk” to his girlfriend then you don’t know if this man is “lying or not.” The third question you need to ask is “What do you think he ultimately expects from me?” This question is real important because he is obviously seeking a certain outcome. He could try to convince you that he wants help in how to mend his relationship. Don’t be surprised if his relationship ultimately “deteriorates” and then he tries to move on to “you.” The fact that he is already having conversations with you puts him in the perfect position to “move right from one to the other (which was really his goal in the first place).” There are many people with “ulterior motives” in this world. They will try to convince you that they are safe and harmless while “setting you up for the kill.” If you don’t recognize them then you are only setting yourself up to be “victimized by them.” The good think about this situation is that the women eventually realized that this man was nothing but trouble. Hopefully the next ones he reaches out to will come to that same conclusion. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Facetime: Elton Jolly
Olivia Newton John, Brett Jolly and her musical director Amy Skyy