I have heard several people talk about finding love and how difficult it is. Most cite stories about starting relationships only to find out that their trust has been shattered by some unexpected incident. While there is no fool proof way to find and establish love I think that the most important way to “start” is to first “love yourself.” You see, if you cannot love who you are then how can you expect anyone else to love you for who you are? If you respect yourself then your partner should have “no other choice but to respect you as well.” I have heard stories about how people take advantage of other people. There are many out there who will take someone’s kindness for weakness and then manipulate or try to control you. That doesn’t mean that you need to change your ways and become “mean spirited.” It just means that you need to start realizing your “own self value” and be patient while waiting for the one who is “just right for you.” The most important thing in a relationship is to stop thinking that you will “change someone” as opposed to just “seeing that person for who he or she is.” A squirrel is a squirrel, and no matter how hard you try you will “never teach that squirrel to sing.” You will only succeed in annoying the squirrel… The same can (and should) be said about relationships. If your partner has the desire to change on his or her own, then that’s fine. However, if you think you can just make someone into what you want him or her to be, then by all means good luck to you. As long as you love and respect yourself first, then I think you can find happiness with someone else who will see just how much you love yourself. Don’t let your negativity reflect who you are… You “both” deserve better…. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Comedian Chris Tucker, brother Bill Jolly and Brett Jolly in concert