Very recently I lost a good high school friend. Her name was Millie, and she was a really good woman with a really good heart. We would talk from time to time and I remember her telling me about how distraught she was over her own family members dying all around her. It just seemed that it was never ending for her and she often sounded “so” depressed over it. I remember telling her that life is “never guaranteed” and while “losses hurt” we can’t let them stop us from living out our own lives. Years ago I played for her wedding, only to find out that a couple years after that her own husband passed away. Since then I got calls from her expressing grief over other family members who were suffering from bad health issues or dying around her. Naturally, she didn’t seem happy. I understand fully that it is extremely difficult to try to force yourself to be happy during times of tragedy. I also fully realize the impact that a tragedy can have on someone’s life. However, once you grieve over it, it is imperative to get it “out of your system and move on with your own life.” Our health is not just affected by our physical status, but our mental status as well. People can actually become “so depressed” that they often “will themselves to die.” The one good thing about this particular situation was that when her son called me, he said that she just died “peacefully in her sleep.” That was comforting to know that she didn’t suffer, but it is still a tragic loss. If we live long enough, we all will encounter tragic losses in our lives. No one can tell you how to grieve over them, but whatever you do it is important to at some point “move on.” Sitting around moping will not bring back the dead. I told Millie this several times and now she is gone. Her son said that it is believed that she had a stroke in her sleep. Could severe depression cause that to happen? Studies have show that it “can.” The only thing worse than a tragedy is “two” tragedies. When you suffer a loss of that magnitude, please find anything else to focus on so that your mind and heart doesn’t overly reflect and then kill you later on. “Your” life has value to someone too… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought today, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Jean Carne and Brett Jolly in concert