Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“My personal experiences with the Stylistics”)

I remember during my younger years when I was just coming into my own playing the bass guitar. After injuring my knee (and forsaking my dream of wanting to be a professional basketball player) I began devoting more of my time into becoming a better musician. I remember doing my first big time gig at a place in Atlantic City (I believe) called Club Harlem. I was playing with my own band, but I was surprised to see that the headliners for this event were the Stylistics. At that time, this was big for me. To see these guys live and open up for them was like a dream come true. I learned a lot from that experience. Years later my career had evolved tremendously, and one day I got to perform for a big event here in Philadelphia where I actually got to “play for” the Stylistics. Russel Thompkins, the lead singer, was the nicest guy. I actually got goosebumps when I heard his voice come through loud and clear in my monitor. Because the tone of his voice was so unique I just got a special feeling about doing this gig. Now we roll time forward many MORE years, and I am doing a PBS special at the Borgata in Atlantic City. I am performing behind a LONG list of celebrities and Russel (along with his NEW Stylistics) was the very next to the last group to perform. I am so used to playing for them now that there were no longer any goosebumps. In fact, I had a whole new attitude about doing the gig. You see, this gig was my biggest paying single gig, but I still earned every bit of the money they paid me. Even though I was making thousands of dollars in one night, I had to be there from 9:00 am to about 11:00 pm that night playing behind different celebrities. While I always loved Russell and the Stylistics, on this particular night it was tough because I was “extremely tired” towards the end of the night and most of the Stylistics songs were “slow and ballad like.” It was so tough just staying awake through it, and I was so glad when the last song was finally done. If you know anything about the Stylistics, Russel has actually abandoned the group to start his own (He calls them the NEW Stylistics). The other guys are still performing as the “regular” Stylistics, but they have a new lead singer (Eban) who sounds very much like a younger Russell. Both groups are great and if you ever get the chance to see them then by all means do. It was my pleasure to play for them, and hopefully one day I will get yet another opportunity to do o again. I hope you don’t mind me sharing my story with you today. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Stylistics and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Some ideas to feel secure in a relationship”)

Relationships are somewhat like roller coasters. You will often find that you have as many “ups” as you have “downs.” Even the “best” of couples will have “disagreements” from time to time. I have seen many couples “fight” over things that I didn’t think were even worth the battle. While I have never considered myself to be an expert on the game of “love and happiness” I still think there are certain things that a couple should keep in mind to keep things cool. For one, unless you have experienced something to “shatter” your security, I think couples should have faith in each other. That means that you should never “expect the worst” each and every time your lover is not within your sight or able to contact you for a small period of time (naturally if you have not heard from your lover in a day or two, that is a VERY extreme reason to have doubt). If your lover has been good then he or she should at least be given the “benefit of the doubt.” Also, if you are one of those who expect consistent accountability from your mate, there needs to be definition as to how “far” that accountability is expected to go. For instance, it is one thing to ask how your day was. It is another to immediately demand that your lover divulge each an every thing that he or she is doing (or has done). For people who don’t like to be controlled or constantly interrogated, that can be a major turn off. It is also important to be understanding of your lover’s responsibilities. If your lover has a new job (or some other new obligation) then you should not have the same expectations when it comes to “availability and accountability.” I have seen couples get upset when they can’t reach their mates and they actually KNOW they are at work. One of the WORST things people can do in a relationship is allow “others” into it. When you confide in an outsider’s opinion (especially when that outsider has either ulterior motives or just highly opinionated) it is no longer about the “two” of you. That means you are trying to please a third party who in most cases shouldn’t even be involved in your relationship to begin with. Finally, fights will happen. If you can, try to limit your fights to times when both people are not emotional, stressed or exhausted. A lot of times when couples try to debate a point when under these conditions they rarely hear each other or comprehend what the other is saying. There is nothing wrong with waiting until “cooler heads” prevail. Last night I witnessed a couple arguing over things that to me sounded meaningless, but that didn’t stop them from going at it. It is okay to agree to disagree, and then pick up after rest the next day. I hope the couple from last night finds a way to mend fences, because we all do need each other to survive. This is only my opinion, and I have no problems if anyone else disagrees. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always, i wish the very best that life has to offer you today.

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Aretha Franklin and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Your one wild and precious life”)

Over the weekend I saw a sign off the side of the road that managed to gain my attention. The sign was a simple one with a very simple message, and that message was “What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Now, if you think about this “subliminally” (which I am always prone to do), then you can probably find “hidden” messages within these words. The fact that the word “wild” was used seemed to implicate (to me) that everyone should find a way to “have fun” with your one life. Roller coasters are wild. Surf boarding is wild. Anything that seems “adventurous yet fun” might be considered wild. Do you feel as though you are having a wild fun life right now? Are you at the stage where you would even consider having one right now? The fact that the word “one” preceded the word “wild” meant to me that you only have “one life” with which to make it enjoyable. The hidden meaning for me here was to have as much fun as I can with my “one opportunity.” If you knew your life was going to end tomorrow, would you be upset at not being able to do some of the things you always wanted to do? If you are like most people, the answer to that question would be “yes.” Well, since you are still alive now and able to read this, then you still have the chance to do something “awesome.” The word “precious” also has meaning, because if you are going to enjoy a fun life then it should have “value.” I am not trying to tell anyone how to live, because just about everyone is different. However, if your life doesn’t feel fulfilling to you then I suggest you make changes. When you’re dead, you’re dead, and everything you saved up won’t matter anymore, so enjoy what you have while you are “still able to enjoy it.” That doesn’t mean that you have to go out and do something illegal. That just means that you might want to go out and make the best of this one life you have. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought and as always I wish you the very “best” that life has to offer.

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Berry Gordy, comedian Chris Tucker, Kool and the Gang and Brett Jolly

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Red bass guitar photo shoot with Penny”)

Penny is a young lady who was quite eager to do her photo shoot with the red bass. She has a strong family that is very supportive of her and even though we only had a small amount of time to work with, we managed to get some really nice shots. Hopefully we will get to finish doing more in the very near future. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Sharing my own experience of being on a train derailment 30 years ago”)

Recently Philadelphia made national news because of a deadly train derailment here that took the lives of 7 people. The scene had to have been horrific, and I feel so sorry for the families of those loved ones who perished in the accident. To check out the story, here is the link to it:

http://news.yahoo.com/amtrak-train-philadelphia-wreck-moving-twice-speed-limit-000531369.html;_ylt=A0LEVrYHjFRV9yQAnlEnnIlQ;_ylu=X3oDMTByMjB0aG5zBGNvbG8DYmYxBHBvcwMxBHZ0aWQDBHNlYwNzYw–

It is one thing to hear about a tragedy like this on the news, but it is another thing to actually live through one. You see, 30 years ago, I, personally, was on a train that derailed between Raleigh and Vance in North Carolina, so I can fully relate to this. The circumstances also feel “very familiar,” because in my situation the train was “also” traveling in excess of 100 miles per hour. The only difference here was that my train was going that fast though a torrential rain. On my train (which was the Amtrak Silver Star) the very first thing to happen was that the “lights on the train went out.” Immediately after that, the ride became “extremely rough and bumpy” and the train began “tilting from side to side” like in one of those old “Star Trek” series. Seats uprooted, luggage started falling from the overhead luggage racks and people were “propelled” from their seats. I was in the very first seat by the door, and the woman behind me was propelled toward the front door. I pushed her down from behind so that she would not fall into the doorway while my seat uprooted and began to pin my own left leg lightly against the front wall. After about 30 seconds it was all over, and the train was tilted to the right. It was pitch black outside, and the people on the train wanted to leave because they felt that the train could possibly explode. I told them to look outside the window and tell me what they see. They frantically said “We can’t see anything outside, because it is too dark.” I told them “Exactly! You know what’s in here but you DON’T know what’s outside. Are you SURE you want to take that risk and go outside now?” The rest of the compartment remained quiet after that, but “everyone” stayed put until rescue units arrived. They put us in an armory for half the night (with a whole bunch of television crews on hand to film us) and then the other half of the night we were put in hotels. I wanted to contact my family (but there were no cell phones back then) so I had to wait until I could find a pay phone. When I finally got to one, my home phone was busy, because my family had heard about the derailment on the news and my mother was calling all the hospitals in North Carolina to see if I was there. There was relief once I finally got through. By the way, Amtrak sent “buses” to pick us up the very next day to take us the rest of the way to our destinations. I wrote Amtrak to see if they could compensate me “anything” (including complimentary tickets for a future ride) but they refused to do so because according to them “They only guarantee that you arrive at your destination.” Since in their minds they felt they accomplished that, then there was no need to compensate anyone for the inconvenience. I could have fought it in court, but since I wasn’t really hurt (except for a bruise on my leg) I decided to leave it alone. I would love to know whether they plan on treating this case scenario the same. Anyway, I hope you don’t mind me sharing my experience from 30 years ago with you today. I am blessed to be alive, and I know it… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always, I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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The Stylistics and Brett Jolly in concert

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“One of my favorite songs”)

I realize that as a professional musician my tastes in music will often vary from  what is popular or well known. I like to find music that hasn’t been promoted that much but yet has what I feel is great musical quality. This particular artist is somewhat well known, and yet NOT that well known. People have heard his name but not many people will recognize  his face. Even on his album cover his shadow is all they show. This song is not even his biggest hit, but for some reason I really love this. This tune is by far my favorite from him (even though he has quite a few others that I like as well). For today’s Daily Thought, I would like to present one of my favorite tunes from a man by the name of Bobby Caldwell. I hope you like it, and the name of the tune is “Jamaica.” Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Cheating in sports and the integrity of the game”)

Superbowl MVP quarterback Tom Brady was just suspended by the league for 4 games due to deflated footballs that made it easier to throw and catch during bad weather. For those of you who would like to check out the story here is the link:

http://www.aol.com/article/2015/05/12/nfl-suspends-brady-for-four-games-hits-patriots-hard-for-defla/21182236/

Years ago in baseball, Barry Bonds ended his career by hitting more home runs that anyone else in history, but yet that feat was tainted by allegations of steroid use. What is up with cheating in sports, and what does it do to the integrity of the games? Just months ago, Tom Brady was labeled as one of the greatest quarterbacks of all time. His legacy was infallible in the eyes of many. How does he go from such a high ranking (and a Superbowl championship) to being suspended for 4 games? If, in fact, the footballs were deflated, then I can’t see how Brady could NOT have known about it. I have thrown footballs in my life, and I can surely tell the difference between a football full of air and one that is not. The question then becomes “Were the footballs truly deflated?” The joy of winning a championship is in knowing that on “equal terms” you beat a team to win it all. In other words, the greatest satisfaction you can get in sports is when you overcome the greatest of obstacles to do it. A Superbowl championship team shouldn’t feel that great if they had to beat a bunch of elementary school kids to win it. The game where the cheating occurred was against the Denver Broncos in the playoffs, where the Patriots won the game 45 to 7. With a score like that, I can’t say for sure that the game was close enough whereby it would have made a difference if the balls had not been tampered with. Deflated balls would have given them an advantage, but I just don’t know if it would have given them THAT much of an advantage. Cheating in sports lessons the value and integrity of the game. However, in this case the Patriots are “still” the champions. In baseball, Barry Bonds is “still” the home run king. Should their accomplishments now be overlooked or have “asterisks” by their names? These accomplishments are already “well chronicled” in history. How can the sport “un-do” that? With this being said, should Tom Brady still be considered one of the greatest quarterbacks of all time? Should Barry Bonds be considered the “greatest home run hitter EVER?” I don’t know how you feel, but I like to acknowledge “legitimate winners.” I may not be able to take anything away from them, but that doesn’t mean they will win my respect either. Integrity means a LOT to me… Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always, i wish you the very best that life has to offer.

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Actress Gabrielle Union and Brett jolly

Gabrielle Union and Brett Jolly