Brett Jolly’s Daily Thought (“Rape by deception… Can it really be enforced?”)

I came across a topic online that at first thought seemed to be just crazy to me, but then after reading it all the way through it turned out to be legitimate interesting topic. A New Jersey lawmaker wants to make “rape by deception” illegal.  In other words, if you meet up with someone who either lies of misrepresents his or her circumstances then this lawmaker would want that to be a crime if you end up having sex. Here is the link:

I believed this first came about as a result of a lady named Mischele Lewis who met her boyfriend on an online dating site. The boyfriend convinced her that he was some form of British intelligence agent (when he was really a serial bigamist and scam artist) and duped her into giving him $5,000.00 for a security clearance. He was later tried and convicted. The issue here is not so much the money as it is the issue: “Can there really be such a thing as rape by fraud?” Yes, sex needs to be consensual, and of course, if someone lied about who and what he or she in order to obtain sex then that should “not” be considered consent. I found this to be interesting so of course I went even further. The legal definition of rape is “A criminal offense defined in most states as forcible sexual relations with a person against that person’s will.” The problem I have with this definition evolves around the word “forcible.” If there is no force, then can it still be considered rape? Also, if the person “willingly” engaged in sexual relations, then can those intentions be reversed later based on newer information? My first thought was “What would be the limitations on this?” Truth be told, if they uphold this bill then just about “everyone” is going to jail. Just think about it for a second. If you met a woman who wears a wig or false teeth and eventually have sex with her without knowing, does that mean that the woman has created a crime? What about a man who spends a lot of money on a date trying to make her think that he is rich when he is really struggling financially? Should he be charged with a crime if the two of them have sex? At some point just about everyone “misrepresents something,” whether it’s a weave in your hair or saying “I love you” to someone when you really don’t. If the case of Mischele Lewis i think the man absolutely needed to go to jail, but for some reason I have problems thinking of it as rape. It will be interesting to see if this bill even has a chance to pass without some “major” alterations to it. Yes, people should be truthful and upfront about their circumstances at the very beginning of any relationship, but when trying to make a good impression on someone how much of a thin line is it between exaggeration and lying? We all want to impress but to what extent will we go? I plan to keep my eye on this case just to see what they come up with. Thank you for checking out my Daily Thought, and as always I wish you the very best that life has to offer.


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Brett Jolly and television personality Robin Roberts

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